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So many good comments here, and your original post and comments show your wisdom and maturity. I'm learning just by reading your example. The first thing that came to my mind is structure. Create st…
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…
I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …
Should I buy a vending machine business? — They're selling the business/route for 30k, it includes 10 vending machines. Five of them are not owned and being leased from Coke. They say they make about $1800 revenue and $900 profit per week on a…
Starting over — Heya, I don’t want this to be a negative thread— looking for some positivity and hope maybe? I (34F) am recently out of a one year relationship. It was my first secure relationship in my entire adult…
Any podcasts and/or books on toxic workplace from avoidant perspective? — Most things people keep recommending include gray rocking, which I'm already prone to. I'm cordial and actually fairly social, but there to work. The person that I'm having issues with expects me to…
A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…
My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…
My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…
Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…
F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…
Does anyone else feel like they're "performing" being okay in therapy instead of actually being honest? — I've been seeing my therapist for about 8 months now and I genuinely like her, she's warm and seems to actually care. But I keep noticing that when I'm in session I tend to present everything in a way…
Unexpected gift of healing — The unexpected and awesome gift of healing from codependency (or rather the trauma that underpins it) is the gift of time. I have so much more time for myself now when I: * don’t get involved in th…
My wishes come true — I've no idea how this works but lately I've found that when I wish really really hard for something, it will come true. It works for really important things in my life, that I wish for with my whole…
What if manifestation is actually people waking up inside a simulation? — I’ve been thinking about something and I’m curious if anyone else has had this thought. I came up with a theory that reality might be a simulation or something similar to a “matrix.” If that’s true, …
OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL. — I don't know which tag this would come under but I just have to say this because the amount of 'im gonna give up' , 'its not working' ' what am I doing wrong' posts am seeing is insaneee. First of all…
My biological mother sexually abused me in such weird sadistic ways throughout my childhood and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this — For context I am a 20 year old girl I was raised by my two lesbian parents they got a sperm donor and had me and my twin sister. Starting since I’m assuming a toddler up until about 13 my biological m…
Me (32F) leaving my husband (39M), MIL (70F) became distant. How do I approach her? — I (32F) recently made the decision to separate from my husband (39M) of 9 years after a long period of ongoing marital issues. Now that it’s clear that the separation is actually happening, things hav…
I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…
My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. — So I'm a little bit confused about this. A couple of days ago, my wife came to me asking the question that has been asked many times during our marriage. "Do you still love me? And why do you love me?…
things that have worked for me as a sensitive person — 1- mental diet is more important than anything else. I know people say this all the time, but what really made it click for me was realizing I can be gentle with it. I found that framing it as “old st…
The true meaning why you were told to never bottle up your emotions — I remember years ago I was very young and in primary school… I would always see on posters around me. “Don’t bottle up your emotions.” And of I went on YouTube at the time or I heard from fam…
How to stop the myths. (Please read) — Abstract- Sorry for the long post, but I hope you read it all! This post is to explain how these myths are spread and how to stop the spread. Dream myths have been known to stop people from lucid dre…
I Want to Make Something CLEAR. Manifesting is easy. — Manifesting is easy. It really is. The bridge of incidents and how long it lasts is actually UP TO YOU. And how long it takes for you to manifest something is also UP TO YOU. What do I mean? I mean e…
I didn't have a discipline problem. I was repeating decisions i had already made. — I kept trying to fix my life by fixing my habits. Wake up earlier. Be more consistent. Stop procrastinating. It worked… for a few days. Then I slipped back. Not because I lacked discipline. B…
I (34m) have been with my partner (34f) for 8 years. I have supported us financially for 8 years but want her to contribute and I'm made to feel like the bad guy — She had just quit her job when we met and dated for a few months before she moved in and I agreed to support us until she was able to find work. She has had a part time job here and there over the yea…
How to FEEL like you have your desires — it’s really simple but these coaches and influencers are teaching it in a way to keep you hooked and invested in them. the amount of money you have now? wow you’re so lucky you have that! some people…
I want to waste time — I dont know anyone in my life who would understand this, so i wanted to share here to see if anyone has felt this before. Yes, i have asian parents. Scary, but justified - we are immigrants. They wo…
Are my mom and sister codependent? — ​ I really need some outside perspective because this situation is driving me crazy. I moved closer to my family recently, and ever since then, my relationship with my sister has gone downhil…
My [28F] husband [37M] wants me to deliver bad news to his mother. How do I get out of doing this without hurting feelings? TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ mention of miscarriage. — UPDATE: I did talk to him, and I took the advice of not being gentle about it. It’s his mom, and he told her the “good news”, so he can break the bad news. At first he was upset with me, but he got ov…
Chinese American restaurants question why Chinese cuisine can't get the chef's table treatment — ... in an industry where diners rarely question high prices of French haute cuisine or Japanese omakase, Chinese restaurateurs often contend with resistance in getting customers to pay fine-dining t…
Religion — I am truly baffled with how half of the world still believes in monotheistic belief systems. When I first done my astral level trip on l~s~d a several years back, I was mind blown with the data and in…
This makes me sad — There are teachings in the ‘manifestation’ world that say something along the lines of: “When you start to practice manifestation, your life will go to shit and the universe is going to test you wit…
It has been two years since I broke up, and here we are, folks. — It's a strange day/event to commemorate, yet it's undeniably a significant one. I feel like it's important to pay a token of respect to the journey I took. So here we are. 1. Before diving deep into …
7 years later, hurts like it was yesterday — So I'm going to go right ahead and start with saying I completely realise how ridiculous and borderline cruel to my current partner (B) but I need to talk about this. I was with a girl around 9 year…
My 18M bf broke up with me 17F because he got an A in maths — hi, im 17F and I'm dating 18M, we met in grade school and became high school sweethearts. It's been 4 years and we have been going on really strong, although he lives 30 mins away and goes to a differ…
Rebound? — Recently, I have become closer to one of my friends. He's cute, and I think he's into me, but I suspect that he is using me as a rebound for his ex. I think he broke up with his gf of a year (maybe …
7 months later — It’s been almost 7 months since the breakup, and I’m still learning how to live with the ups and downs. Some days feel light. I don’t think about him much, I go about my day normally, and it almost f…
Has anyone reached out to their nex’s exes for the truth? — I’ve been thinking a lot about how my ex framed all of his former partners as mean, crazy, narcissistic, or toxic, and now that I’m out of the relationship, I’m questioning how much of that was ever t…
I’m asking for justice because I deserve it — Manifested a job right here on this channel. Believe it or not everything came true. Word to word. No kidding. I’m so grateful. 7 months later: I am crying. I love my job my peers my bosses. But, I …
how do you stop replaying interactions and analysing micro expressions and things nobody would actually even look into that much if they were not anxious? — I have noticed my desire to seek control and gain it through ways that are not helpful or true. It’s been really affecting my day to day life and my rejection sensitivity feels like it’s constantly on…
One day I’ll vanish & never speak to them again. — I’m so over being treated like shit, like an outsider, like everything’s my fault within my dysfunctional ass family. My mom sits around high as fuck off prescriptions all the time shit talking me &…
I think I need to leave my marriage — I’ve been going back and forth on whether to post this, but I need to get it out somewhere. I think my marriage is over. There wasn’t one major event that caused it. No cheating. No physical abuse. …
It’s Been A Year… So Here’s My Last Post — Well, tonight makes it official. It has been a full year since I was dumped. Whoever said you lose track of time when you’re having fun is a liar. You REALLY lose track of time when you’re miserable a…
A year and I’m still stuck… — We knew each other for a year, dated and lived together for three. I wasn’t perfect but I didn’t pretend to be either. I was always told what I did wrong and it would also be told to other people. Yo…
We need to address the truth that the majority here cant afford therapy — Yes its true. Not only is therapy super expensive(around 50€ an hour where Im from), but also most of the available therapists have no experience with cptsd and there are even less that have experienc…
I am fucked totally (17y Male) — Originally i wanted to post this on r/selfimprovement but couldn't due to having a New account. (read the full story to understand the whole issue please) TL;dr :- The person is struggling with sever…
I don't really know what to do, and I would appreciate some feedback. My husband [M28] cheated on me [M29] a few years ago, didn't confess till now when I caught him after he got an STD test that came back positive. Don't really have insight. — Basically the title says it, my husband cheated on me a few years ago, didn't disclose, maybe I have an STD from it. There's been other indicators of infidelity, like how he's talked to others, but he…
Seeing energy — My brother once told me about sensing spiritual energy from people. He said that if you look at the side of their arm or even at their clothes and focus, you can see—I'm not exactly sure how to explai…
I don’t know how to understand what’s happening in my family (mom vs sister & husband) — This is a long read, but I’d really appreciate any insights or thoughts. I feel pretty alone in all of this. I’m trying to figure out how to even classify what’s going on in my family, because it fee…
Letting go of someone early due to practical reasons, but it hurts. — TL;DR - Decided to end things due to practical reasons, but it doesn't feel okay. Around three months ago, I (28/m) met this woman (43/f) at a local pub. During this time, I was spending my days in …
This is so true. Thank you.
"Your silence will eat them up." I hope that's true. I know her crazy family talked her into leaving. She came over, we went to dinner, said she wanted to break up. Go to my place and hook up twice …
Yeah it's why I hate seeing all that "let them miss you" bullshit. It's not always true. It's just giving me all this horrible false hope.
Exactly. It’s also not true. They aren’t thinking about you. They don’t care what you’re doing and don’t want to know which is why they broke up with you in the first place.
Apologies, I know this is an old post but I just read it for the first time today and felt the need to reply. Yes, what you're saying is absolutely true. However, at least for me, this is the motiva…
https://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?showgif&lang=e&gif=astro_2gw_jared_mcknight.75112.31364.png&res=100 This is the best I can do. As you can tell I’m not very good at this. Would you mind looking at…
Ur observations are very true. Unconditional love is very under appreciated & not very popular this day & age.
It’s hard moving on when you’re still so in love w/ them. I can’t get him out of my head. Idk how to move on and thinking about it hurts more bc I never wanted it to end to begin with. I lost my soul …
Definitely true. My parents in law have been together for 40 years, married for 32. They started dating when she was 16 and he was 24! Something that's literally illegal in most places now and situati…
True. About 7 weeks almost NC. I can feel it leaving. Sure I still feel down sometimes. But I haven’t felt as deep anymore. I’m loving and picking myself first now. I can feel the detachment. It isn’t…
Yes! Agree. It's just like affirmations are just as effective, but they rarely give me "that" feeling. It took alot of time get in my head that emotions was a reaction to a present true thought. And…
I don’t accept that argument because manifestation gurus say that the mind doesn’t know the difference between imagined scenes and real events. When you provide proof that that’s clearly untrue, all o…
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …
Uh oh…better get to affirming and visualizing before your man runs away! Imagine not being able to enjoy your time with your partner because you always need to check your thoughts and assumptions? Wha…
>I’m disgruntled about people who are told they can bring people back from the dead, get evicted from their homes, people who get their cars repossessed, people who spend the rest of their lives for t…
>“I read a comment here that comes to mind, but unfortunately, I don’t remember who wrote it: Those who do not believe in the law are the living proof that it works—exactly according to their own assu…
That was indeed sassy but very true. Thank you for sharing
I think the idea that you can sniff out red flags like a bloodhound after a bad relationship is largely untrue. People lie. They present perfectly to you in the beginning. The insight you gain from a …
Still new but posting this comment both to help you and hopefully get feedback from the mods that I’m understanding things properly. You are not trying to trick yourself in the 3D. Your only job is …
God that is so true. My wife is DA and that rings so true
$300k, $600k, or 10m doesn't really matter. Each successful person finds some sort of opportunity and pursues it. Then they create a system that helps them pursue it because you can't do it by yours…
* selling and marketing IS the hard part not building So true. Marketing and selling is where the real challenge kicks in, at times it feels like you are screaming into a void.
Thank you, that’s very true. Definitely shows I still have some work to do on myself, but I made my decision to cut things with him and move on!
The first question is, why does the drugs trigger you? What are you imagining or feeling when they talk about it. Logically, it's just part of their past. If it was something that could happen again o…
That is a great point, very true. I think you're looking for the answer as a whole, not just "therapy." And you can try this question as a follow up (sort of along the lines of what you said): "What…
I love what you write at the end. It s so true. We're here spending time and losing sleep over stuff they do they themselves dont even know why they did this/said that. Who cares!
I am confused: why are you getting downvoted? I thought your comment is valuable, or at least it rings true.
True. We can all have struggles from trauma but if we're aware of them and actually trying to work on it, that is amazing but using trauma as a reason to not even try is complete BS. and as an anxiou…
I've never heard someone say this - I'm new to attachment theory - but it's so true. For me, sex is how I connect with my husband. It's not sex for sex, it's sex for feeling safe and attached. And unf…
Mostly because the information isn't necessarily what the person needs or may even be harmful or untrue. From all accounts people say it "tells them exactly what they need" and doesn't challenge them,…
This is hundred percent true. One of the most amazing things a client (he’s a healing FA) told me that I was his longest running relationship and that itself made him believe how he could form longer …
Love this comment. I’ve found it to be so true. For a regular ex I was with for nearly a decade and we had a fairly normal/stable/secure attachment to each other, maybe a little bit dependent on each …
Accurate in my experience too, sadly. A moat refilled with molten lava…nice, very poetic. And also true.
Orrrrrrrr.... In the early thaw of spring, when frost still clung stubbornly to the edges of the earth, the apology remained unsent. It lingered like a letter never mailed. Its seal unbroken, its tru…
Well, where do I start? I guess for me the foundation was based on 3 pillars. 1st was of course Mindfulness as ability to comprehend that neither thoughts or feelings are our true self, which is in fa…
Indeed, this is a great reply. The answers people get online are rarely precise. What is more, I bet plenty of people lie to themselves to protect their self image or because they genuinely believe th…
Happy to see this comment. It’s true.
my answer will sound counterintuitive. The way to manifest something in is to feel like you already have it. So lets say you have bills piling up. I would suggest you don't focus on bills piling up. I…
Hi! Yeah! Now that should just feel like a truth to you that you are in a wonderful relationship. Let go of the fear and doubt and let in peace. Trust all that you want is on the way or your already. …
It’s rlly true. They never full shut doors on exes in their lives cause they realize their pattern and they’re going to miss them sometime soon and want a chance to get back together. It’s pretty funn…
Well, it might have been a big step for him like you described, and at the same time, it can be laughably little and waste of time to someone who is secure/wants to find a secure relationship. Both ca…
>Achieving a secure attachment means getting to a point in your healing where you will not engage or stay in a relationship with someone who pulls that sort of crap on you. This is not true. Secure a…
That is very true. I think when you go from insecure to secure you can spot it in others quickly. While secure people that always were secure might be blind to insecure people. If that makes sense. A…
As someone who is a few days on the other side of the “I need space” deactivation, withdrawal whatever you want to call it. This will only end with an ugly break up (past week) I wish I had been stro…
So true. I was a secure and became anxious after being with an avoidant for 24 years. I became secure again and after 14 years of being broke up, he love bombed me, we got back together. It was great …
This is definitely not true. You can still get attracted to them. Especially avoidants tend to be very charming, successful and if the person is smart or you share a lot of common interests, until the…
Practicing not doing avoidant behavior is the way to get out of being an FA, at least that has worked for me and now I'm mostly secure. Overcompensating can stifle that process because you're suppress…
One thing that helped me is actively trying to date multiple people at a time because it meant there was a lot less pressure on the one, and I had less to lose. I also think that what people say about…
I feel you completely but that’s because the guy I was dating was genuinely not very good looking. We had so much in common, could talk for hours, but I genuinely couldn’t utter the words “you look go…
No ita not stupid. I have done with and the people have shown up as soon as the next day. I have seen people I wanted to meet come into my house and I had never met them prior. I have seen some crazy …