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How do you actually stick to “just the facts” when your ex is being emotional or hostile?

It's a life skill that takes practice to develop. I wish I had learned it sooner because maybe I wouldn't be going through divorce. I was taught to fight every battle when I was little. It was so stre…

r/Divorcecomment4/6/2026
Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote)

Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote) — **Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups** These are a few things I have come to learn while doing "startups," maybe it will help some entrepreneurs in their startup travels.…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
Triggered over broken promises

Yes, but also learn to pick your battles if your significant other feels “criticized” more often than not, they’ll be unhappy. Even if your intention is not to criticize. Learned that from my last rel…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/23/2025
“Do you speak English” Asian American incident

It just reinforces the idea that we will never belong. I don’t get upset about it anymore. Not worth the energy. That was what living in China taught me. I don’t belong there either, and there are a …

r/AsianAmericancomment3/13/2026
How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog?

Look there are good years and bad years to a marriage … My husband and I have been together for 40 years … It’s a lot of work I get it .. you do manage things better then he does so take the lead he …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
Me 19m and my gf 20f ass stinks during sex can someone give me some advice?

Seriously. There's no reason to end a good relationship over something so fixable. If OP did break up with her, what would he do if he got into a new relationship & *when* they have an issue? Break up…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/23/2026
Does my Mars in Taurus hold back the other Mars ruled areas of my chart (Aries stellium/Scorpio moon) ?

My father is an aries stellium ruled by a libra mars and while i can tell now that the libra is there, he is wildly successful. I am an aries sun ruled by taurus that is also conjunct jupiter and satu…

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/28/2026
Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing

This has got to be rage bait, the way this has upset me. I’ve spent far too long reading the comments on that and your initial, and I don’t know if I’m more upset at the time spent or the responses yo…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
Are you a fighter, flighter, freezer, or fawner?

Fight. Unfortunately, this just causes people to believe I am belligerent. I don't want to fight, but the way a lot of people act, especially those with power in a situation, instantly switches me. I …

r/CPTSDcomment4/1/2026
Feel like I, M29, am dumbing myself down for gf F23…

You express, "It makes me feel frustrated to make a plan, and then have it be changed behind my back. Next time, can you let me know if you change your mind and want to do something else." Then, step…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
My fiancé (38M) and my (33F) different mental states when we wake up is causing friction?

This isn’t something you can change, so it’s time to accept it and adapt. No one is perfect, and you have to pick your battles. This isn’t worth creating conflict over because it isn’t something he ca…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
After 14 Years together and 10 years of marriage, today is the worst day of my life

Listen , 1st and foremost get an STD test, 2nd talk to a lawyer ASAP. I know everyone says to kick him out but legally you may not be able to do that so instead of fighting over something you can't …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/7/2026
You are replaceable

Fighting is nice, but if they treat you like shit whenever they’re in a terrible mood then you gotta pick your battles too

r/BreakUpscomment4/7/2026
22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf

You cant have your cake and eat it too. Welcome to adult relationships. You can have a relationship with someone who enjoys eating nice meals with you, or you can have a relationship with your boyfrie…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
My mom doesn't get asexuality...

Your mom isn’t really reacting to *you* as much as she’s reacting to her own discomfort around anything related to sex or labels. That’s why she keeps contradicting herself. Honestly, keep it simple w…

r/relationshipscomment4/9/2026
Spouse wants to take kids on a trip

I'm only offering this as a counterpoint, so please don't downvote me because it might not be the best answer, just a consideration. He already told the kids about the trip? Are they excited about i…

r/Divorcecomment4/10/2026
I (24M) prefer functionality, my girlfriend (23F) prefers aesthetics. How do we come to a decision?

Omg...pick your battles. People with not enough drama in their lives stirring it up over nothing. If this is your biggest problem consider yourself lucky and adjust your attitude.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026