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Firstly, I had the same opinion RE: internalizers & externalizers as Dr. Gibson writes about them, and really had to sit with all of it for a while before I understood why it came off that way. Secon…
What makes an anxious attached person feel loved? — I’m a dismissive avoidant in recovery. That means I have been working on myself. I would consider myself slightly secure but not secure enough to call myself secure Anyway, my boyfriend is anxious…
Question to anxious/avoidant couples — I’m a dismissive avoidant in recovery I’ve been working on myself since October’23 I read a lot of self help books, went to therapy, watched youtube videos on attachment, listened to On Attachment,…
Reflections of my healing journey (avoidant) — I’m grateful I decided to work on myself I still consider myself a constant work in progress (I’m neurodivergent,communication and misunderstanding has always been an issue) I used a lot of self h…
Wanting to fix my life — I want to start my self help journey tomorrow. I am tired of being lazy and having no discipline. My life has been terrible so far I'm doing bad in school, I'm poor, I'm ugly, and I'm bad at socializi…
Self scrying on Ketamine — Are there any others out there who use ketamine alone, lay still and let the open eye visions overwhelm you till you get in touch with your deeper self ? After a couple of lines over time to get to a …
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
Potentially unpopular opinion re: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents — Just finished “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay Gibson after seeing several recommendations for it on subreddits like these. I thought the book had some good info, and I’ll a…
Taking advantage of the neuroplasticity to remove insecurities — Hey, i was wondering, would it be possible to take advantage of the neuroplasticity window while tripping to help with removing life long insecurities? I have always been insecure about my appearance…
It worked !!!! Lol — \>gets broken up with \>Enters huge sad time \>Decides to quit all controlled substances \>Goes to therapy / support groups \>All the self help books \>Starves and works out like a maniac \…
I think I manifested way more than I thought was possible — Okay… so I think I just came to the realization that I manifested ALOT more than I actually knew was possible…. Whether it was positive or negative. For instance. My elementary/ middle school crush…
Trying to help friend who can’t stop drinking and can’t get past MH issues — Hello, so my best friend has had serious mental health issues that have led her to having serious physical health issues in her life and idk where to even start… She has messed up her liver and pancr…
Free self help book and romance novel — FREE FREE FREE I have 2 self help books to get rid of toxic traits and 1 romance novel, the shaving mirror series and the cabin that fit, romance novel. message me with the book you want and an email…
I ignored my self-critic for a full week and boy was it exhausting — A week ago I decided that since behavioural activation therapy, CBT, other therapies, and trying to find ways to be productive or find meaning with others or by myself, and even low pressure advice we…
Self help — just seeking feedback and coaching. I just don't quite get myself anymore. I'm a 28 year old white male, 2 kids and a girlfriend. I don't really have any self control. Everyday I just manufacture idea…
Shadow work — \#shadowwork #innerchild Hey all. I wanted to know if anyone has any suggestions for books or courses on shadow work? I’m trying to work through some of my trauma and have hit a very low point in my…
Best apps for self help?? — Hey everyone. Which apps do you use for your mental health? Habit trackers, mood tracker, journal/diary writing etc. Please comment which ones you use! Thanks ✨🫶🏻
I feel uncomfy that my emotional outlet is chat gpt — (Anyone wanting the gist before reading) TLDR: went to college, have no structure, self destruct, want to get better, idk how honestly. Going to therapy but idk seems pointless, start talking to chat …
Good self help bool recommendations — I posted on here a while ago about counseling not helping much and needing a new therapist. I'm still trying to get in with someone else at my local behavioral health clinic (the only place in town th…
You only attract what is best for you — You attract what is best for you. Let me explain. I was thinking back on things I’ve successfully manifested and one thing— which for the longest time i believed i was NOT able to manifest came to my…
I am hopeful for all of us — ​ I've spent the past 3 years trying to stay away from bad people, read self help books, stay off drugs, engage in good healthy habits, journal, release my anxieties and sadness and love mysel…
How to find self help groups — interested in joining in self help groups, how to join self-help groupa for self improvement. any ideas?
Do I write a email to my NM? — Hi, I’ve been NC with my NM for over 10 years now and it’s taken a lot of counselling, deep inner work and self help to be at the stage I am now, I also now have 3 children and my own family. Recently…
How do I break the loop? — Hi all, I know this isn't the place for actual medical help but I've been on the waiting list for support for 15 months and I'm at the end of my tether. background: U.K. based Male in my late 20's. I…
Self help instagram/tiktoks stress me out — I generally feel fine but sometimes my instagram feed will devolve into pure mental health advice and ironically those posts generally throw me off. I’m unsure why generally speaking I don’t mind …
Please tell me if my wanting to leave my BF [25M] is valid or if I [21F] am being dramatic. — Hello everyone! So I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 years now and I’ve started thinking that maybe we need to break up. This has been on my mind for months now, but I’ve thought that mayb…
Self Help — A good start on the journey is journaling Not just what happened, what you felt, why you felt it, meta emotions Writing down what’s happening can at times take the burden off you and that’s usually …
Honest advice on how I can fix my life — This is more of a rant and I just need some straightforward and honest no bullshit feedback. I graduated with my BS in economics and went ahead and just did my MS in econometrics at the same regular …
Self help for emotionally immature adults? — Hi I just found this sub. Over the past few years I've come to realise that I'm emotionally immature. I realise that my development has been stunted somehow, and that I've never reached adulthood. I r…
How can I (M38) help my wife (F42) relax? — My wife, god love her, is a natural stress ball. She stresses about everything, big or small, and is keenly aware that she is overstressed. She will read all sorts of self help books, does yoga, start…
It’s difficult when there is something you share with the person though, like children. You’re involved to some capacity and you can see how they are doing in all aspects of life - relationships, fina…
>If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, L…
Just chiming in here to say the question in the post is spot on. After running into the same pattern I had to look inward to what patterns I was replicating to draw the same people into my circle and …
Would love to know what self help books you started, bc I think I'm here
I’m a dismissive avoidant in recovery Meaning,I have been working on myself since October’23 Read self help books,exercised,journaled, cried, listened to podcasts and been in therapy since January …
Well, where do I start? I guess for me the foundation was based on 3 pillars. 1st was of course Mindfulness as ability to comprehend that neither thoughts or feelings are our true self, which is in fa…
He's not wrong. I've started a business because of this. After various relationships with avoidant woman its become obvious that as a culture we have caused a mistrust within genders. This is fueled b…
I let him know what I was feeling. I wanted to understand his actions I’m going to take this day to work on myself (study,self help books) I did say I felt I had no reason to trust him so maybe I…
The screaming is likely to be your abandonment wound. Good news is that you can't be abandoned because you're a self sufficient capable adult and only children can be abandoned. The more difficult pa…
I think all of what you said here is very fair. Respectful. Insightful. Respect is key but patience is key too. Those are things that grow, you gotta work towards them. Sometimes one person gets bul…
Thank you so much, this was helpful. I am getting into some self help books and trying to journal but it’s a hard habit for me to get into. I will definitely keep your examples in mind. I also just ca…
have had 5 great dates with a guy i met 3 weeks ago. we have our 6th date on saturday. i usually get a lot of anxiety in early dating/act avoidant but am internally anxious so this is such a nice chan…
It sounds like it's the anxious speaking to me. You didn't do anything wrong, but you're assuming she's ignoring you when her circumstances just might have changed. New job, new life stressors, sudden…
Look up professor Vaknin's Narcissistic personality disorder lectures (the long ones). I discovered through those that my father shares many traits with narcissists, even though you would never guess…
Rant/Advice. My anxious attachment ended a potential relationship in the talking stage itself. It hurts enough now but I'm glad it ended before I invested myself further. Get therapy/self help, fell…
Therapy for sure and also in general putting a lot of time into "self help" kind of stuff and spiritual work (and imo spiritual doesn't have to be religious, just something that helps you tap into emp…
You are still super young, your life is just beginning. It’s never too late for anyone to start, but you’re still essentially at the starting line. 30 is the new 20! As others have said don’t compare …
I think part of the neglect is you are being too hard on yourself. Many people struggle to complete projects, and “discipline” can be helpful but it’s often a way self help gurus shame you. I generall…
Omg, this is literally something that I could’ve written! I’m right there with you, it’s awful because it’s such a blind spot because nobody’s gonna be like « hey all these therapies and « self help »…
Exactly. For me a lot of "self help" or other advise didn't work because it focuses on the present. I still get stuck at times and find a new wound from the past, but it has gotten better!
I have some self help workbook PDFs I could try to send to you (not the most tech savy but I'll try my best!). I got them on etsy a few years ago and some of them are really helpful. I can also give a…
It isn’t perfect but there are some mental health AI chat bots that are free to use to talk about your problems. Some self help books may be helpful and can often be found for free online or through …
This is it here. I know for me i've had fears and anxieties like op mentioned. And when i'm not forced to face the fear head on i tend to just not do it at all. But the times i am forced, i'm surprise…
I think what you’re noticing is trauma awareness. Both, by the people who have the trauma and by others who are able to recognize it. Mental health and trauma weren’t discussed as openly and without…
Mmm, I can really only self-describe haha. But if that's helpful: I use 'overly sensitive' to describe myself in a few ways. 1. I'm autistic and just genuinely find the world over stimulating and too…
Oh, not sure I can boil it down so much. Let's see... I guess something like - The internet and common self help tips made me feel like I'm undisciplined and a failure. What actually helped me reigni…
>The internet and common self help tips made me feel like I'm undisciplined and a failure >What actually helped me reignite movement in my life was learning to treat myself with compassion and kindne…
I’ve read a ton of self help books in the last 30 years - it’s only re that they’re actually getting to the roots of complex and relational trauma. Thank feck! Up until now we were told it’s either …
Yea, I’ll admit I don’t typically go for “self help” books simply bc I don’t jive with the writing style that much, so I may have a warped expectation as a result. Good insight there — and no worries …
For context, i've been divorced 5 years now, two teenagers. It was rough in the first six months, post COVID too. The Sunday nights when they went to their mom's? F'ing tough at first. The big less…
I was a bit disappointed with the book but I took it has a vague guide book or possible reasons to issues the parents had. It was helpful but I was pretty shocked that it wasnt an academic read consid…
I want to start by saying, you’re a beautiful friend, your compassion and empathy are wonderful. And I completely understand that obviously people with BPD or any other mental health issues cannot …
It’s given me so much unresolved trauma aswell that I’m trying to unpack. Journalling the events help alot, sometimes the events seem unreal and this helps in grounding. As well as reading self help b…
She isn't really putting in the effort to find clients right now. That's the frustrating part for me. She wants to work on this business idea that self help/therapy related but still has upfront cost …
No one deserves to walk on eggshells or deal with a partner that is intoxicated nearly 24/7. You deserve so much better. I think you are right that his drinking probably will not stop, and even if you…
Thanks for posting this, it’s good to not feel so alone. My “upbringing” was of a similar vibe. Homeschooled, and although I wasn’t banned from seeing people, my mother made it functionally impossible…
Yes I like myself but I struggle with certain things mainly career-wise (adhd) and I love learning about self help/entrepreneurial/and high frequency stuff. Positive changes and building oneself Curre…
It's not so difficult when the dumper, to avoid shame or hold pride, makes it impossible to get back together by blocking and changing number. I was making changes.but also going through alot at momen…
Oofff the part about boundaries is very true. Beyond that, I'm realizing that i should have some sort of 3 strikes plan for someone who objects to my basic boundaries or tries to get me to soften bas…
You should check out the crappy childhood fairy on YouTube it has a lot of self help videos for complex PTSD I watch it.
Many mental health conditions develop directly from childhood trauma and abusive parents, like * CPTSD * Borderline * Eating disorders * Dissociative Disorders * Substance abuse * Depression, Anxiety…
MCT has good preliminary evidence for this to my understanding, the self help book version is Pia Calleson’s Live More Think Less. Fair warning some of the studies were not the most independent from w…
I wish this worked. I red so many self help books and this is the front of most of them. unfortunately it doesn't work for me
Meditation reveals what is already here. If you're thinking it will lead you somewhere else or you will gain something, you'd probably be better off reading a self help book.
You need to pour into yourself and get hobbies. Build an identity outside of another person. Seek friendships with people who have strong boundaries but can allow you to be vulnerable. And most import…
Ah yes, all my life with my mother. I learned as a kid that the way she does Christmas shopping is to aquire whatever things throughout the year and then a week or less before Christmas, spread them o…
Your mention of self help books reminded me of an immature idea I’ve been mulling over 😆. A few of my siblings are usually with my mom for Xmas. I am tempted to gift all of my siblings a copy of Adul…
I am reading a self help book that literally gave the advice already given in this thread: if they threaten with suicide, treat it like you would a hostage situation: call the authorities. I really r…
it’s going to take a comprehensive approach. i’m right here with you and you’re not going crazy, people who go through trauma and chronic stress/anxiety can have their nervous system start running hot…