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That stood out to me too. Most relationships have some element of difficulty at some point, I'm sure, but if literally *every* relationship you've ever been in is not just hard sometimes but "pretty h…

Does this SEO strategy make sense ? — Hello experts ! Recently, I came across an SEO expert (have some good proof) that talked about the seo strategy that she used, but I'm not sure if I understand it correctly. The strategy goes as fol…

Am I insane for wanting to open a brick and mortar comic/collectibles shop in this climate? — I've been reading this sub for a while now as I mentally hype myself up to take the plunge and quick my 9-5 to open my own comic and collectibles shop. I've been in the gaming industry for over a dec…

54M – Going through a separation and just looking for people who understand — I’m a 54 year old guy currently going through a separation and I’m having a harder time with it than I expected. Some moments I feel okay, other moments it hits pretty hard. I’m not looking for anyth…

I [27f] feel like I have to ask for a lot from my boyfriend [29m] of 2.5 years — When we first met, as kind and fun as he was, I noticed he seemed to be a bit thoughtless with certain things, like on our third date when I got in bed to go to sleep he started playing video games in…

I (36M) feel like I ruined a 3.5 year relationship and don’t know how to move forward — I (36M) feel like I ruined a 3.5 year relationship and don’t know how to move forward I’m 36 and feel like I completely blew up my life and I’m struggling to move forward. I was in a 3.5 year relati…

inappropriate relationship with my therapist — okay so. i started seeing a therapist in december when i was 17 (im 18 as of january, and he was 50+) and a lot of the therapy we were doing was about my sex trauma, and he thought i had a sex addicti…

Our couples therapist said something jaw-dropping last session--is this a red flag? — Context: my spouse and I started couples therapy about 10-12 weeks ago. We were in crisis and on the brink of divorce. Things have been getting a lot better, and we have both been trying hard. But w…

I (M29) want to break up with her (F35), but I’m afraid that neither of us will find can do any better. — I’m going to sound blunt and sober in the following paragraphs, but that’s only because I need direct advice, not Redditors’ moralizing. I’ve been with this girl for almost 2 years. I do love her an…

insane ADHD hacks that have worked for me (original) — guys I’ve done it all!! I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 15 and noticed it in my inability to focus in classrooms but I could always get stuff done (medicated) at home. However, when I got to coll…

Has anyone experienced getting physically 'stuck' by real-world jewellery or objects during astral projection? — TL;DR: During an AP, I pushed my hands through a door - my ring finger (with my sterling silver wedding ring) got stuck and wouldn’t come back out, even when I pulled really hard. Has anyone had anyth…

I (19F) hate playing games with my bf (21M) — We recently started playing it takes two which i heard tests many relationships and i feel as if mine is being tested too lol… we play a few chapters each day and every time we play it, it ends up wit…

my gf (24F) wants me (25M) to go into our first home purchase but won't define her financial contribution, wants shared ownership and is thinking about breaking up with me because I don't have a "provider" mentality — So we went to see a 4 bedroom house a couple days ago. Looked like a great first buy option, her mom would help us qualify and we'd pay it off. Mostly me. We were so excited about going into the hom…

M 38, f 35, fears of cheating and complicated sex — Tl;dr: I have severe OCD and can detach from sex easily. Sometimes all that helps is thinking about someone else and it’s eating me alive as I love my partner. Hi all. I’m sorry if this is too graphi…

Just silence — I’m trying really hard not to reach out, but the urge is hitting pretty hard today. I had something pretty intense with someone for a few months. We both caught real feelings for each other, said it,…

Is my (23F) ex (38F) the only person I’ll ever love? — TW: Grooming and underage stuff I met my ex when I was 16 and she was 32. Clearly, the situation was pretty fucked from the start. She was a person who had a position of power over me, and I was a pr…

Is my (33/F) relationship with my partner (35/M) over? — Hi, I could really use some outside perspective here. I don’t have many friends I feel comfortable speaking to about this, and I need to know if I’m overreacting and if anyone else has been through si…

How do I get myself to do stuff? — This might sound really stupid but I have a bit more to say so I'm sorry. there are some things in my life that I find myself impossible to do, just tasks like starting a specific piece of schoolwork …

did i block memories of csa or not as a 7 years old? — hi,so before i start,i'm a 17 years old girl,and i'm going to discuss topics that include sexual behaviors at childhood that were harmful i think,and other things. so when i was 4,i remember waking …

Watching my brothers speech broke me — Full disclosure - I’ve never really typed all this up before, so my apologies if this is long, formatted poorly and rambling. Bit of context - I’m the oldest of five boys. I’m just about 8 years ol…

I [27M] clicked way better with a [24F] girl's sister [22F] than with her. 3 dates in, I can't stop thinking about the sister. What do I even do? — Hi all! 13 days ago I \[27M\] matched with a girl \[24F\] on an app. We have went on 3 dates now. At first we seemed to click pretty well with what we want in a relationship. In the beginning we rea…

Do you feel like its much harder to start healing while in a relationship as opposed to being out of it? Diving into a serious relationship very fast, I realized I have a lot of issues with avoidance…

That’s pretty invalidating. Sure, a person can always choose what they want to do (unless they’re being literally abused), but it’s pretty hard act autonomously when you know another person will have …

Sounds like you didn’t have a licensing agreement with her. Pretty hard to get paid when you deliver a product with no contract for payment. Bummer lesson to have to learn.

About a year ago, we got new seasonal hires at my job. One of them ended up being this woman. I usually chitchat with new hires if they have questions regarding the job and that’s about it. I would ch…

Well avoidants aren't immune from the oxytocin their brain releases when you meet a suitable primate. I say this as an avoidant primate. If the avoidant in question has been single for a few years tha…

I (30m) hit the dating pretty hard over the last six months or so. I live in a major American metro. I have gone on 15 or so first dates in this period (and some seconds or thirds). It’s always bee…

The guy I’m seeing never compliments me either. One time I told him he was handsome and he responded: “and you are… handsy” 🤣 We both laughed pretty hard at that. But he has let me know on several …

It does sound like you went pretty hard at it over the last year or so. I think you should be gentle with yourself and be proud of how much you put yourself out there! But I totally support a social m…

It's pretty hard to connect with someone who "doesn't say much" due to anxiety. Have you ever done any counselling and/or considered meds for it? 

Worries me that they say "every great relationship is usually pretty hard." That's just not a true statement. Sure, honeymoon phase doesn't last forever, but.... if all your relationships are hard, th…

It's pretty hard to keep your private life private in your social circles though. Bringing multiple dates around and not being open about being poly puts other people in an awkward don't ask don't tel…

Oh for sure, 100% of my situationships have been with guys that pursued me pretty hard, men will work incredibly hard for sex even if they don't really like you as a person/aren't that attracted to yo…

I'll tell you this: it gets exponentially harder to find a partner if you want to share common ground in something that's rare. It's already hard to find someone you're genuinely attracted to out of…

There’s a man who ghosted me a year ago who keeps being recommended to me on tik tok, and has gone semi viral in the UK to the point where my own BROTHER just shared one of his videos with me complete…

That's pretty hard to do if they've already gone out and told everybody you have serious problems and they're a victim. Mine did that after I found out she had been cheating for the previous 10 years.

Some people (not saying OP, I don't know her) grew up very attractive. Some people make their looks (and the attention/opportunities that being attractive conveys) a HUGE part of their identity. Typ…

It was just an emotional affair. Having said that you should get tested for STD’s and tell her you fully expect her to to test and share her results with you. Her testing makes sure you stay health…

I forget how many stages in a marriage there are, but this is typical of how relationships start failing, and you have to recreate them. Build a different relationship; quite natural and par for the c…

I can add some of my experience to this topic. I was love bombed and my narc ex took me to the shops to purchase my engagement ring. He paid for it $7000 and did a lot of research on diamonds. He was …

Probably depends on region. I'm in a liberal part of the country and it's pretty hard to find a conservative person based on pure math, the opposite is the problem if you live in a small town or rural…

That's kind of how things went in my house before the divorce... It became a cycle of my needs didn't matter to her... And I responded the same. There was some trust issues resulting from some cheati…

Someone with 1 leg has a right to feel pretty hard done by. The fact some people have no legs doesn't invalidate that.

Thanks for the explanation. Sounds like you were enjoying the “new you” during this time. Mania/hypomania is often experienced as pleasurable to the person experiencing it (often not so pleasurable to…

I speak fluent Narcese for cancer now and can translate it well :-)  "She has an aggressive cancer" Actual medical translation:  "She had a stage zero melanoma that has been completely and succe…

My brother's schizophrenia started blowing up pretty hard when he was about this age. Genetic factor schizophrenia starts to show up in late teens to early twenties. He tried to hide it and tried to c…

I live pretty far away in a big city so it would be pretty hard for them to find me, also my ex is i sane and stalking me so I’ve done a lot of work to keep myself safe. But I’m prepared for them to d…

The way she torched our marriage.. I think she has fallen pretty hard for him. I don’t see it ending any time soon. But who knows. Maybe you’re right

Having a "small dating pool" isn't inherently a bad thing. Sure, it makes it harder to find someone, but it also means (at least in this case) that you're automatically filtering out people who won't …

Mingling accounts is for after marriage. Not before. Before I married my wife we had a shared account that paid for "joint" items. We each put exactly the same amount into that account. It basic…

1. Capricorn Rising 2. 18° Pisces 3. Saturn rules my 1st and 2nd houses 4. Sextile 1H Capricorn Venus, square 12H Sagittarius Sun & Jupiter 5. I was homeschooled, so my early education was very isolat…

Classic black and white Reddit in the comment section equating it to much more extreme situations with no understanding of reality. Is this abuse? Not sure. But it sure is violence. Does young pe…

I'm sorry man, yeah pretty hard situation. But now, as I understand, she's still asking for reconciliation?

Literally cried today for the same reason. It’s so complicated. My ex and I try pretty hard to be on good terms. It’s not easy. Today, I almost told him that if I ever date, I’d probably end up carin…

Yeah, I don’t think this is casual misogyny actually, because this is pretty hardcore and obvious misogyny. But casual misogyny is often more insidious, I do agree. The thing is, OP is actually luck…

Four months ago, I got discarded/ghosted out of nowhere by someone who turned out to be unhealthy for me. I had been seeing her for about 4 months, and at the time it hit me pretty hard. Today her pr…

Agreed. OP seems to be working pretty hard to understand and accept an approach to relationships that they're unfamiliar with. And if you're dating background is mostly conventional, it's hard to imag…

I’m so sorry this happened to you. You’re not alone and this isn’t your fault. I remember walking in the rain in the 4th grade i walked to school and back. I remember seeing a man in his truck with tw…

Result of decades of Asian American culture being defined by Joy Luck Club and the like Also if you’re talking about 1.5 (immigrated as kids) and 2nd generation Asian Americans being much more chill,…

I am not vegan, but would love to date a vegan bc I have dietary problems. I would be a little concerned though that they are not acceptable of my eating preferences as I know many vegans are pretty h…

Yeah this is obviously the danger of having younger partners and children late in life. Lots of men won't commit until their late 30s/early 40s and get pretty lucky if they find someone to have kids w…

I was in your position - Bottom line to be successful you must date. You cannot just find someone to replace what you lost. Doing that will open you up for manipulation and or further disappointment…

I can vouch as someone who dated and since separated with a DA recently. Just go no contact it’ll help you mentally in the long run. Unfortunately for me my experience was pretty hard on me. Not sayin…

I rarely, if ever, instigate conflict. Even if I have unmet needs, I'd have to identify those first, and I avoid those internal processes pretty hard. If conflict comes to me, I generally shut down.…

This is really cool. I'm on a similar journey myself, but also still crushing pretty hard on the past guy even though I don't get much from him these days even though. I can tell I'm the more emotiona…

"Added value they never had" The problem is when they sincerely did have value, being the only one to get your jokes and the one that helps you cope with visiting your parents... Then the honeymoo…

So, I definitely don't think engaging with exhibitionism or voyeurism remotely counts as "opening up the relationship". However, it's also a pretty hard-line if you ask me, if one person doesn't want …

My parents always commented on how “obedient” I was and “never wanted any trouble.” I look back at that as an adult and realise it was because I was afraid of them and they controlled me. My mom rarel…

Two things I would do differently if I were starting the Gateway Tapes now (which, in the end, I did after stopping for almost a year): 1. I would first learn self-hypnosis, because I think part of t…

She’s pushing for recovery. Giving birth put a pretty hard damper on that. Basically just trying to survive the first two months with a new born was enough on its own. Now that we are further out from…