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I use the term "meditation," but I’ve never been formally taught. I’ve been practicing on my own since I was a child, following a book called "The Rainbow Journey" by Brenda Davies. My approach might …

Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…

Is there a UX role in existence that doesn't involve so much documentation? — So I come from a background in design. I was a bit of a generalist before—branding, logos, layouts, art direction—and while that was fun, it started to feel fragile. Like I was always one trend away f…

UX jobs that don’t involve screens? — I’ve been in my current role for four years. I have a great team and great pay, but I’m bored and it’s becoming a drag to do anything in Figma. I’m pretty extroverted and working hybrid as a single pe…

Website — Hey I’m developing a web/app for brand scalers and brands called Lynxscal. It’s supposed to help brand scalers find brands to run ads for easier by using ai. It has other features too like a leader bo…

wanted something like Duolingo but for code… so I made a prototype — You know how Duolingo keeps you practicing with streaks and tiny daily bits? I kept wondering why there's nothing like that for coding. So I threw together a small tool where you can do bite-sized …

The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…

If my nervous system is used to interpreting intensity as chemistry, then...am I just supposed to settle for love where I don't feel any "fuzzy" feelings? Like is love supposed to be boring? Then how do I even know the difference if a relationship is boring but good vs. boring but bad?? — Like I really don't want to be stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop again, and I get that secure love seems more boring to someone with an anxious attachment, but then...like...are all romantic feelings …

Can I get some assurance from reformed people pleasers 🥲? — And some advice? Not necessarily on "what to do" because I know how to set boundaries in theory. It's managing the guilt and fear of fallout that I struggle with and I do because all my life any time …

I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…

No one understands the effects of being trapped inside for years with an Nparent. — As flair said, its a vent. So please excuse my weird formatting. I'd also really love to know if Im not alone on some of these things. 1. Not being given the support or permission to learn how to …

how do I stop being codependent with my bestfriend? — I think I might be dealing with codependency and I want to work on it before it damages my friendship. I have a bestfriend who I’m extremely close with. We’ve built a really deep emotional bond and …

Heart chakra help — Hello all, I hope everyone is well. I am suffering from a closed heart chakra, I consciously think I am good there but I am not. I hold pain there. It began in 2023, I got a snippet of some trauma i…

Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone. — Hey everyone, I’m Lucy (F, late 20s) and I’ve been with my husband, Rick (M, late 20s) for about 8 years, married for 2. I know he cares about me and our family, and I see that he loves us. But latel…

Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…

First “bad” trip taught me a lot - sharing my experience to help others — I’m 28m, good job, good relationships, physically fit, happy overall. Experienced tripper with several high-dose mushroom trips under my belt. Always had positive experiences. Took 4g mushrooms today…

Why DONT some exes come back? (Not including toxic or abusive relationships) — I have seen a lot about exes coming back, and that it doesn’t matter how good you were to them which is definitely true, and that if they come back they do. but why don’t they come back? Why do they…

Daydreaming — I've thought for a while now that maybe I daydreams a bit much. But I recently heard it was a codependent thing, used for escapism and caused by trauma. So I started paying attention. I daydream when …

Am I (26f) throwing away my relationship with my (30m) boyfriend? — ​ I 26/F have been with my BF 30/M for almost 4 years (june). I have been unhappy for at least 2 of these years. we have talked it out multiple times, he usually cries and becomes very upset w…

Does my chart suggest or explain my commitment issues? — I do pretty alright in friendships, however in romantic relationships I have a tendency of breaking up around month 3. This is almost always due to me becoming ‘bored’ of my partner, feeling that we d…

Easiest way to Lucid Dream — I’ll keep this short and simple. Stay awake all day. No naps. Do whatever you normally do all day. Do not think about sleep until you are at the point where you’re struggling to keep your eyes open, …

I (23F) was too nervous to finish a threesome and now my boyfriend (27M) seems to hate me — My boyfriend (27M) and I (23F) have been together for three years. I thought everything was fine, but about a month ago, he said he was a little bored and that we needed new stimulation. He said we sh…

My second OBE was just... Magical!! — I got up in the middle of the night and went back to sleep. I tried to fall back into sleep but instead I shuffled, twisted and turned about. I was awake, with my eyes closed trying to sleep. So to ma…

Life is a trip — One of my biggest takeaways from my most recent trips is that people worry too much, I worry too much. During the comedown, I went to work because I felt bored just staying in my room, unable to sleep…

What do i do with my hair? — Had the same hairstyle for like years now. Legit have no clue on what to do cuz i’m getting very bored of how I look. I’m not really a fan of and side parts or extremely short hair so don’t recommend…

I feel addicted to my best friend(?) — i’m not sure if this is the right place but i gotta put this somewhere. for context ive known him for 7 years now he’s the only friend thats stuck around longer than 2 years about 8 years ago i star…

She Came Back — She came back. Not in the traditional, melodramatic sense. Not after begging and pleading, or compromising, or settling. And not because she was bored, or guilty, or having a weak moment. She …

April 2026 Astrology: Key Dates, Weekly Forecast and Mundane Astrology World Events — April is one of the most active months we’ve seen. Not one planet is in retrograde. Aries fire and cardinal energy sets the stage for initiation, assertion and spontaneous energy. There is a bit of na…

Faster task completion with revision — I had a task to do yesterday and the deadline was arriving and it is a boring task and I was less motivated to do it. I just applied revision yesterday, like imagined I have already completed the task…

How do you guys spend time by ur self and enjoy it? Without drgs or technology — I really struggle to spend time by myself self. I don’t like just sitting on tt or playing videos games because it just feels like wasted time almost. I’ve basically stopped smoking weed and I find …

Anxiety about my past getting brought up — I'm trying to get my foot into the entertainment business, but when I turned 18 (2 years ago) I got crazy trying to ease my anxieties about my Internet safety and decided to be as unsafe as I could wi…

am i childish for not being able tolet go? — its a little complicated we didnt just date and break up, i mean we kinda did but there was a lot before that. im gonna start from the beginning. i will skip a bit of unimportant stuff just keep in m…

Thinking about my ex constantly — ​ I haven't stopped thinking about my ex since we've broken up. I've been with my ex from the end of February to half of August last year. Since then, she's been on my mind almost non-stop. I …

Just Deactivated all of my Social Media Platforms. Super bored. — Hi friend, Yesterday, I deactivated all of my social platforms (except Reddit of course). The reason why I did this is because being on social media has taken a massive toll on my mental health. Th…

My boyfriend [27M] pulls me down [24F] — Me \[24F\]and my boyfriend \[M27\] are togehter for four years now. I do love him but I feel like he did not grow up, since we met. He failed his studies, works 10 hours per week at an oldtimer shop …

I manifested money without putting in any effort. — Hey y’all, hope you’re all thriving. I’m not sure how to feel about this, but all I can say is: “Thank you, Universe.” I’ll keep it short. One day I was really bored, just scrolling through reels fi…

I manifested money without putting in any effort. — Hey y’all, hope you’re all thriving. I’m not sure how to feel about this, but all I can say is: “Thank you, Universe.” I’ll keep it short. One day I was really bored, just scrolling through reels fi…

Don't go Outward — I don't usually make these posts, however, I felt compelled to talk about something I've noticed from lurking on this community and a community that criticizes Neville and his work. Now, as many of …

HOLY SHIT I THINK I ACCIDENTALLY SHIFTED OR SOMETHING — I was interested on shifting a while ago but i didn't really know how shit work so i left it alone. Today, when i was trying to read something to make an essay i started to get sleepy and i thought i …

I (34F) have to move from WA to CA for my dream job and my boyfriend (42M) would have to quit his job to move with me — I (34F) am a successful product designer living in Seattle WA. I own my home. I make Good Money. My bf (42M) has never had an issue with me outearning him and is celebratory of my success. I was laid …

Rebranding — Hey guys! I’d like to ask for some advice when it comes to growth, especially in school… I can say I’m doing better than how I was last year but at the same time I absolutely feel like I haven’t imp…

Sibling abuse is not the same as sibling rivalry. — My older sister was extremely abusive to me growing up. It was like she didn’t see me as a person, just a punching bag to take out her feelings on or an obstacle preventing her from being the most imp…

Ramblings of a lunatic (me) — This is gonna be extremely long so I don’t blame you if you don’t want to read it but I’ve been writing about it for a while and struggled with meaning and found this Reddit and thought I’d seek out s…

how do you “heal” from a breakup? — im going through my first heartbreak at the ripe age of 22, and i dont know what “healing” looks like. i ended up quitting a job that i hated because it genuinely felt like it was mentally breaking me…

19f feelings of cheating and disillusionment — I got out of a pretty serious relationship in Jan 2025 which affected a lot of relationships i had. I had cheated on that partner and then later in a very emotionally tense scenario got with one of hi…

Focus 10 experience (I guess) — I found out about the tapes about a month or two ago. I started with Wave 1 and kept practicing Focus 10 on my own from time to time without listening to the tapes. The most I could ever do was get my…

19M realized my father is a creep and I am so angry I can hardly function — I always heard that in psychology, the brain can actually block out memories. I thought it would never be me, but if it was then I wouldn’t know because I couldn’t remember it anyway. Apparently it di…

30F Chinese-Australian: Nashville (Job Offer) vs. NYC (The Dream)? — Hi everyone, I’m a 30F professional currently in Sydney. Should I move to Nashville with a relocation package and job security, or keep fighting for a job in NYC from Sydney? I’m an Australian citiz…

I feel like I have no personality but I don't know how to fix it. — To preface this, I'm very online. I know it. But I tried a "digital detox", stayed off my phone for two months, and it didn't change anything. All it did was made me bored. I don't really have any ho…

What are some cool things I can learn to do which are fun and helpful? — 19M and so far thought of learning to use canva and playing guitar guitar. I am just trying to think of things that might help me meet new people and stuff to help fill my time when I’m bored.

Reflection on Giving Up Instagram & Tiktok For Lent. — Wasn't sure where to post this, just wanted to share what I observed in myself, and my habits. For some who may not know Lent is a period in the Catholic religion's. It reflects Jesus' 40 days of …

Now THIS is the kind of conversation we need to be having. As a fearful avoidant who leans both anxious and dismissive avoidant I have to say I love this sub but I’m getting tired of the victimhood co…

I think typically the people we get along best with, will feel boring. Conflict is where excitement stems from. When things are easy and flow naturally, there is no conflict, and thus no excitement. Y…

I listened to “attached” on audio book, it was great. What really helped was learning what “activating” and “deactivating” strategies were. I often used a lot of activating strategies, so now that I’m…

All the nice words he said are just that: words. And excuses. When two people are away and didn't really have much time to really create a strong bond, anything can happen. First, once you saw he's le…

Sorry for what you’re going through, but I’ll be brutally honest. As a bad boy, I believe he bullshitted you to get what he wanted, then disappeared. After physical interactions, people tend to either…

Someone had mentioned here that they do a "Do nothing day" every week. Try that. Our minds need boredom and nowadays there's too much overstimulation (thanks social media!) that we don't let ourselve…

He is bored.

As FA myself I can say I’ve done this so many times. There so many girls out there who were the “One who got away.” Were they actually? Probably not, it’s just people like us have a strong tendency to…

I have done some self-work and I might not be the most severe example of an AP, but I find that in a secure relationship I can become secure myself. I had an 8 year relationship with I believe a secur…

I think it might also a problem with the way you sound about it like too aloof and casual. Like, at this point, you might not be able to trust anything about yourself as it pertains to relationships …

Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…

I think Fearful Avoidant - I know someone has a great counter argument in the above comments - but it’s a complete myth that fearful avoidants don’t crave intimacy The crucial part of fearful avoida…

It's likely to be your abandonment wound having a flare up. Something about them, perhaps their mannerisms or even lack of fighting makes you feel uneasy. This is likely to trigger the wound Lack of …

I'm leaning towards secure now, but was mostly anxious attachment with some very strong avoidant tendencies as well. All of my exes were avoidant. 2-3. You're missing a key component of avoidance, wh…

I struggled with the same issue, and what helped is to realize that not everything is personal. I think that's a part of anxious attachment (or at the very least, something that worsens it): making na…

In a nutshell, the calm bored me. (context: I had no concept of attachment styles or even my own trauma at the time) For one of them I was still unfortunately obsessed with my previous ex so I le…

After Tom Brady won his first superbowl, he didn't retire and go home. He won several more times. The desire didn't go away. He didn't get bored with winning. So if you get bored with your desire, j…

> The sub doesn't let me post That's weird. There are auto-rules that limit TOP-LEVEL comments for posts tagged as "Seeking Personal Stoic Guidance". You have to be tagged as a "Contributor". I do…

I spent a whole year recovering from a breakup. I focused on healing and my anxiety. Very confident in dating. I go on multiple first dates. I’m having a good time. I feel in my own skin for the fir…

I just have a few questions: 1. If you go out on a date with someone and it goes well, you have fun, and you find out the next day that they aren't interested in continuing seeing you -- was the date…

Although your story is different to an avoidant, doesn’t matter DA/FA, unless your constantly throwing up boundary walls at random and make them chase you they’ll stick to the avoidant (unofficial) ha…

I can tell you my experience. I have been in a close to 7 year relationship with a BPD ex girlfriend, quit that one more than a year ago, if you know the dynamics you know that's a huge slap in the fa…

This might sound quite bad, and I don't want to risk anyone here thinking they are "boring". I've dated people who are more like me, anxiously attached, and that's anything but boring. It starts ver…

Oh my god, I totally relate to this! One of the saddest aspects of my own avoidant tendencies is that, in some ways, I’m even more uncomfortable with intense positive emotions than negative ones. It’s…

When I see others who i think are being too happy I either judge them too or sadly envy them, depending on my mood. Either way, I know it's a me problem. >Anything other than vaguely bored and dissat…

That’s good for handling it with the person. Then there’s the fantasy part…if it were me (and it totally was at one time) I’d be asking myself why the fantasy is necessary in the first place. If it’s …

Yes... these past few months I've done a lot of research on codependency, limerence, attachments... I also came to the conclusion that if I want a friendship with my friend, it has to come from accept…

I’m a fearful avoidant and this guy doesn’t really sound avoidant, not sure what his intentions are. I’m a woman. I usually am in my perfect love bubble for about a month or so and at that point there…

Mine is triggered in phases. Overall avoidance is just deactivation. It feels like a complete disinterest, boredom, I am greatly distracted by other things. Avoidance with my SO will feel like guilt…

Well, you don’t have to have a text intensive relationship to begin with, but if you’re texting someone daily and intensively for a long time, that’s what you signed up for. If you want your privacy t…

I used to only feel intensity and the push/pull of chaos as chemistry. Like Spiritual Twist said, I had to heal my own wounds and nervous system to be attracted to peace. If you haven't read it, I HI…

Hi there, I’m F16 and I have attachment isuess. In childhood I didn't receive enough love from my parents ( abusive, emotionally unavailable father and a toxic mother, and I don’t intend to repair tho…

I'm an FA also and just wanted to say, dating didn't work for me, either. This'll sound weird and probably cocky but it felt like shooting fish in a bucket. I think I've often been attracted to unavai…

I'm dismissive avoidant and a huge introvert, but the feelings you describe don't resonate with anything I experience, which suggests to me that this might be a separate type of problem from attachmen…

ahhh i appreciate this insight, especially the point about sticking through the boredom for a while. that's something i'm not good with. you're probably right that healthy love is not as intoxicating

Texting too much takes away the mystique. Like, I run out of things. If you don’t have enough of a rapport to have usual subjects, eventually you’re just cycling the same stuff. You get a rapport thro…

Yeah - my therapist and I talk about intellectual intimacy a lot and it makes a lot of sense why I don’t feel like I can connect with people I would otherwise consider friends. I just went on a trip w…

This isn’t directed specifically at you.  I really find women who pepper with questions and/or wait for me to ask them questions profoundly uninteresting.  You’re a grown person! Tell me about the t…

The stumbling block is when they do act bored as soon as you talk though, or they cut you off with their own thing. It feels like you're against a timer to say your piece, and it's so tiring and frust…

Interesting you're running into the issue of being bored of being questioned, while I have the opposite problem of being bored of not being questioned. Happy medium eh. And yeah I agree it's not a goo…

This honestly sounds like fearful-avoidant attachment. Your nervous system is wired to find comfort in chaos, the confusion between anxiety and chemistry creates this push pull dynamic that your bra…

Would love some opinions.... Been seeing this guy very casually for the past few months (we're both guys). I do genuinely enjoy spending time with him, and he's VERY spontaneous. I'm just not 100% su…

I’m on a few apps casually but I don’t rely on them. They’re moreso for just killing time when I’m bored and when I do get matches they’re usually duds that don’t actually message back or we chat for …

I haven’t been on a date in so long, not from lack of trying, and it’s getting to me a bit, I feel frustrated and h*rny, and I really just want to meet the person I’m destined to be with. I love being…

I (27M) met my fiance (22F) about 5 months ago through family. After speaking to her virtually for 2 months and then meeting her in person about 2 months ago, we got engaged. Now in the beginning of t…

Thank you so much for sharing it.  I am literally crying and feeling so torn. I know that it is not because he is a bad person or because he is not interested, he is just like that, I guess. It really…

I think you like his calm, aloof personality in some moments as you wrote, but it is getting in a way of one of your needs: that of connection. And it's quite evident why you are feeling lonely. You w…

I feel you. The way you describe the way I felt about my ex boyfriend. He was kind, sweet, and a nice person. He did not hurt me. He was introverted. He enjoyed his boredom and silence. We were out fo…

I actually left someone a few months ago like this. We dated for 3 months and he was so sweet and kind and we would always be close physically etc. However he was not a talk active person at all. I …

How important is a mental connection for you? Just curious because I’ve realized that it’s truly meaningful to me in a relationship. The feeling of having stimulating conversations and connecting thro…