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that's great that you're moving back with your parents, I'm sure they'll help :) I feel the same, sometimes I wonder why they're living their best life without me. But I do think we can't really kn…
Resources for learning basics of design — hey hey! I'm a product manager who used to be a data scientist so I've got some experience inthe 'business' and 'science' corners of the product triangle but I'm keen to learn more about the design s…
Announcement Regarding Community Safety — Dear SEO Members, We are reaching out to address a serious issue that affects the safety and well-being of our moderation team and our community as a whole. It has come to our attention that the CEO …
Update on Our Journey to Export Pistachio Butter – Small Wins & Hard Lessons — Hey everyone, A few weeks ago I posted here about our family business in Gaziantep, Turkey — we produce high-quality pistachio butter and are looking to expand internationally. Just wanted to give a…
Looking for Educational Resources — I have been getting into SEO recently and I consider myself a beginner. I have a basic understanding of keywords, and some front end SEO. Still working on backlinks. Where are your most recommended le…
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …
Are you still using GBP posts as part of your local strategy? Curious how you approach content & competitor insights — I’ve been working on a side project around automating GBP content and understanding local competitor activity. I'm not here to promote anything, just to validate if the idea has legs. Curious how oth…
Dreaming of Full Time Freelance Consulting in SaaS B2B (I will not promote) — Hi r/startups, I’m in the process of developing a consulting service designed specifically for startups, from Pre-Seed all the way to Series B. The idea is to offer a practical, hands-on partner for …
What is k8s in bare metal? — Newbie understanding: If I'm not mistaken, k8s in bare metal means deploying/managing a k8s cluster in a single-node server. Otherwords, control plane and node components are in a single server. Howe…
New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…
Getting into digital marketing — Hello everyone, I have some questions about how to build a proper portfolio for getting an entry level position in digital marketing. I graduated with a behavioral science degree and my first job is i…
Things to do with my non technical cofounder "i will not promote" — Hi all i will not promote So i have a startup / side business im working on, I bought a friend in as a cofounder as he's generally useful in going out making connections, someone to help with site …
Etsy integration that allows products not listed on my Shopify store? — Hi all, I'm trying to get started with Etsy integration with my Shopify store... Would like some suggestions on which app to use. I've looked around myself and maybe I'm misunderstanding how this who…
Helm & Argo CD on EKS: Seeking Repo-Based YAML Lab Ideas and Training Recommendations — I am having difficulties untangling the connection between helm and argo cd when it comes to understanding their interconnection. I have a ready eks cluster for testing and i would like to make some l…
Understanding StructuredClone: The Modern Way to Deep Copy In JavaScript
How do you inspect what actually changed in container images? (My Git-based approach) — Hey everyone, When working with CI images or debugging build issues, I often need to understand *exactly* what changed in a container layer - not just which files were added or removed, but what was …
Strange WordPress Login Activity – Need Help Understanding — I've set up a new website, and **I'm the only one who has the login credentials**. However, I'm seeing **many login attempts recorded**, and I'm not sure who is trying to log in or why. I had installe…
Rejected in the final interview after a month long process — This is honestly just a rant post, because I feel completely deflated at this point. I’ve been actively looking for a job for over a year now, moved to Spain three months ago to start a new life, and…
Help each other grow - What’s a “must know” thing, that’s going to be vital to know over the next few years — I’ve been in the industry or in education for ~10 years. In that time I’ve seen “it” things come & become a must have mentioned nearly everywhere (yes Kubernetes, I’m looking at you); while others hav…
Understanding Memberships - Memberpress & WC — Hi. I bought memberpress and i need to integrate it with WooCommerce. However, i am having trouble understanding how to use them together. I lack the top view of things, the perspective i guess. * …
Duolingo leader throws shade at r/UXDesign — You all might remember this thread a few months ago, [debating Duolingo renaming UX to “Product Experience.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/UXDesign/comments/1j3hvkw/duolingo_renames_ux/) The VP Mig announ…
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them? — I (F, 32, originally AP, now definitely more secure) have just gone through a very confusing dating experience. 3 months ago I started seeing this man (34 met on Hinge). He started off very interested…
Some guidance would be appreciated. Should I focus on a Linux certification first like RHCSA/LFCS first or the Kubernetes CKA. More details below. — Hi everyone. So recently i finished my a devops certification from a bootcamp and have since been spending time working on my own portfolio project. my project consists of: \- a frontend and backend…
Sales tax question? — I am setting up my website for my craft business. I am using Square. I have a question on how to set up sales tax. It is my understanding that I have to add each states sales tax percentage to the web…
Would you find cash flow planning helpful? — Just coming up with different service packages for clients and want to know if annual cash flow planning and modeling would be an appealing offering to add on for existing clients. Would you like it …
What are your pain points? — I have been in the business world for many years, usually putting out fires for the businesses I have worked for. Over the last few years, I transitioned into Functional Business Consulting and foun…
As a new user, you need to comment on other posts before making your own post — To reduce spam, this subreddit has settings for minimum karma requirements for posting. If you‘re new here, please take a moment to engage with the community by commenting on a few posts first. Thi…
Think I found a secure woman, and almost immediately self-sabotaged. — In my social club, there’s a woman who had consistently shown signs that she was into me. I was direct and asked her out. She said she was interested but couldn’t date for a few months because her j…
Why is PSP a conscious mind method? Since we're doing it in alpha, isn't it a subconscious mind method? — In my understanding, PSP is a subconscious mind method, since we are doing it in alpha/sleepy drowsy state. But at the bottom of [training task 3](https://www.reddit.com/r/JosephMurphy/s/DP5PadUKql),…
Reflections of my healing journey (avoidant) — I’m grateful I decided to work on myself I still consider myself a constant work in progress (I’m neurodivergent,communication and misunderstanding has always been an issue) I used a lot of self h…
Is this Deactivation? Seeking insights from FAs. Please help me understand this — We're together for 6 months, a lot of push/pull in the beginning, but by the 4th month everything was finally going fine between us. He even called me his girlfriend nd promised to heal and everything…
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…
The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…
I need some FA to give me insights on this situation — Break up with a FA need some insights Hi guys, i really need some insights as someone whos desire is to be a safe space for a FA girl. Breakup context: I (M, 23) was in a 2-year relationship with my…
Detachment or deactivation? — Me (23M) and my ex (22F) broke up one month ago because she was feeling overwhelmed by some arguments we had due to changes in our lives (new place to live, new work). She's FA. I was secure for almos…
I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…
We should keep in mind that its a spectrum.. — I realized something in my relationship and it is not much shared in this way so maybe it helps someone else I am anxious and my fiancee is avoidant. He is very introverted and trying to deal with hi…
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …
Is deactivation the real her? — When my FA and I started dating, she said, “I’m afraid you won’t like me when you get to know the real me.” She was sweet, caring, thoughtful, and made a real effort to be part of my life. We were i…
Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…
The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…
I have been feeling a capacity for love I never knew existed and I'm a bit scared of it. — I'm a dismissive avoidant now leaning secure after 1.5 years of therapy. I've made huge progress and communicate much better in my romantic relationship and with my roommates. I have 2 toddler nieces…
Is it just me or is "date secure people" a bad idea? — To be specific, people who were born into families that fostered secure attachment. Not earned secures. I think the latter is exactly what I need but there's no stat on how much of the population is e…
Curious about “episodic engagement” — anyone relate? — Hi everyone, I recently learned about this idea called “Episodic Engagement” in avoidant attachment, and it blew my mind. I discovered this after running some thoughts by ChatGPT, and this is the gis…
What qualities to look for in a therapist — Previously, I had been working with a somatic therapist for 6 years (on trauma healing, not specifically attachment related) and a few months ago they closed their practice for personal reasons on *ve…
Asking for input from those who are avoidant — (Forgot to add user flair.) Last paragraph has the question. But for context, I have someone in my life who has acknowledged they are avoidant. When I started looking into attachment styles I found t…
"Love bombing" and anxious attachment — At tonight's Anxious Attachment Healing Group meeting, we read the following reading: **1. “Love bombing” and anxious attachment** “Love bombing” is a pattern of excessive, intense affection and at…
Feeling friendless — Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But for some reason I feel like I can’t mainta…
A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…
Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…
I actually like Neville for his psychological interpretations of the bible. Joseph Murphy is amazing too because his books are easy to understand and very practical. I do find most of Nevilles teachin…
Knowing that there's a physical reason for the confusion and lack of awareness makes it easier to accept. One feels like an outsider; the people around you seem to know how to be with each other. An…
>“A good start”, LOL. ​ Ah. A chortle. Clearly, not much money in your bank. Must be because you know the law. lol ​ >I’m not reading POSM anytime soon. I already have a formula that…
This was so helpful to me. I’d be interested to learn more about the potential effects of a parent who was always physically present, but whose emotional availability varied to extremes for the first …
It just depends on what kind of beings you want to meet. Duality still exists in the Astral. Just like in physical life you can find good and bad teachers. And yes, dimensions above the Astral are gen…
We can go to all sorts of different dimensions during OBEs, it all depends on your level of consciousness. I recommend these 2 videos to start understanding the complexity of them: https://youtu.be/H…
I've asked two different entities, and they gave me partly conflicting answers. The self-proclaimed deity said most humans and all animals go to an enormous astral...warehouse waiting room thingy. Th…
I understand. Just a week before my wife left me she said “I’m so glad we are such a strong couple that if we needed counseling we would go to couples therapy” however what she really meant was “ plea…
To me, right now, this is so simple but so profound. In my own journey I’m struggling for understanding, for rationale, for healing and resolution, and ultimately closure with a partner who is unwilli…
Hi! So one thing I can tell you from lots of therapy and recently spending time around her is I realized I had been only remembering her good qualities and putting her on a pedestal in my mind. When w…
It's so easy to resent and want to blame your parents, but don't you think the way you where raised where how your grandparents raised them? Finding compassion, and understanding that your parents did…
I think its more about your relationship to it, like personally and privately. Before you bring your caregiver into the conversation. If you hurt your child by ignoring their feelings when they were c…
Ze's saying within 5 years of a serious betrayal, like cheating, not within 5 years of marriage. Your statiatics are for marriages in general (this is a good demonstration of why it's generally a good…
I understand your POV. But I have decided that it is a necessary rule after months of observation. Thanks for understanding!
Everyone, respond to this thread here. It is an important one and will test your fundamental understanding and practice of the LOB - which is something you need to do from time to time to avoid believ…
It’s so funny how you act like you are an expert at this, but your profile tells a complete other story. A quick look at your profile shows someone who constantly asks for reassurance, needs help unde…
exactly, I have strong scientific understanding, so I know all the sort of science reasons are usually bullshit, and fool those with less science background, yet I also have experienced that it works,…
Maybe. In my understanding reprogramming the SM is changing oneself, as you reprogram you internally do change. In my experience many things changed when I did change my state that came from my SM rep…
>Maybe. In my understanding reprogramming the SM is changing oneself, as you reprogram you internally do change. In my experience many things changed when I did change my state that came from my SM re…
If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…
>So the formula that always works is: Getting to know yourself well + analyzing and understanding where your issues come from + realizing your weaknesses and what you need to change in your life + sta…
>The objective of LOB or LOA is to build lasting faith, not just temporary faith, over the long term to effect change subconsciously in the face of obstacles in life no matter what negatives are in th…
Thanks for all of the above. I can relate in that I may on occasion turn inward a bit when I’m super tapped out socially or like physically don’t have the reserves left, but I socially exhaust a lot l…
>I have had conversations with my partner over time about attachment styles, and they eventually determined that the descriptions of Avoidant Attachment sounds awfully familiar to them. They have star…
Yea I know. I'm not understanding your first comment, is what I was trying to say. Why did you bring up the whole partner thing?
I've been in therapy for over a year for various reasons, and for me the first thing I needed to work on was my self image. Understanding and accepting myself, building confidence and a stronger sense…
"Your feelings are your responsibility" as gross misunderstanding equating to "you should not have an emotional response or request based on my behavior"
My intention is not to victim blame! I am sorry it came across that way. Understanding you were a victim of abuse if powerful, but I believe there are ways I can set myself up as not to attract abuser…
Google and watch YouTube videos about this. It's a deeper understanding and probably important you fully understand. Life changing is what it is!
But why is it then relevant for non anxious folks to tell anxious folks stuff? That happens here all the time. I mean genuinely it’s really fascinating to see the dynamics of these types play out in…
I didn’t like the book attached bc he basically denigrates avoidants & says the only way forward is to be jn relationships w secure people- which js statistically not possible & ignores the vast treas…
To me, the book doesn’t so much denigrate avoidants as it highlight their challenges in relationships, to help anxious types recognize patterns and seek stability—often with secure partners as an idea…
'Anxious attachment people can and often do cross boundaries to soothe their anxiety, disregarding their partners very real very understandable need for personal space (regardless of if they are avoid…
Well said. People can definitely overthink attachment theory—arguing about DA this or AA that—when really it should be a framework for understanding how to give and receive love more fully, not a way …
What have you done to resolve your fear of commitment, your emotional unavailability and the inferiority complex? Why are you searching for excitement from a partner? What does that mean to you? Is i…
I was literally just discussing this with my therapist yesterday. The balancing act of navigating knowing two truths can exist at the same time is hard af. But it does help so much processing emotions…
I agree! But in the depths of a break up when thoughts can be all consuming and you can't see the end of the road, understanding you can hold 2 opposing views and give yourself the grace around that, …
It was difficult untill last summer when I joined a men’s group, and got some feedback to my story… at the same time I was deeply committed to learning about avoidant’s and how they manage (or more to…
What would you make of an avoidant who, when unable to fully avoid, resorted to behaviors that can really only be described as hurtful? So deeply so that they nearly certainly must come from a place o…
People say they don’t hate, but from my understanding some of them fault-find in order to deactivate? Sure it’s not as strong as ‘hate’ by any means, but it seems pretty… negative?
I know this is difficult to do, but my advice, as an anxious who's moving towards secure, would be to stop texting and calling. It's only been a few days and you know that he was having phone problems…
Yes, absolutely. I believe that we all have the capability to devolve into the worst versions of ourselves when under extreme stress, which the SA definitely qualified for me, and on my more understa…
Still new but posting this comment both to help you and hopefully get feedback from the mods that I’m understanding things properly. You are not trying to trick yourself in the 3D. Your only job is …
As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise. I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…
I really appreciate your creative blend of attachment theory and parts work. BeeDee as "Invisible-Avoidant" reminds me of a part of myself that likes to go full hermit. I believe outcomes matter more …
Your partner sounds Fearful avoidant, is he aware of his attachment style? I think all you can do is let him know in as blame-free way as possible that you notice a pattern in his behaviour that con…
Stop stepping into a mummy role. You can’t help your partner, he’s a grown ass 40 year old man who needs to step up and help himself. There are tons of free resources available as well as therapy and …
I just finished reading “Attached”, and it gave me such a better understanding of attachment styles and myself. One of the ways my anxious attachment style has been manifesting post-break up with an a…
Agreed. I also dated a guy like this and things got progressively worse and worse- no amount of ‘*understanding*’ would have fixed it because ultimately he wasn’t fit to be in a relationship. On refle…