moving on

Brother. I sat here and read every word of this. I want you to know something. That moment where you read your old journals and started bawling? That wasn't weakness. That was your body finally letti…

Too Long on First Mission And Moving On — Hello Everyone I know I'll probably be banned for this so let me explain my story. I have been on my first mission for the last 8 months using the index training guide fully and it has been a massive …

I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…

Overtraining and being effective — Wanted to share about a recent breakthrough I had in being effective and getting things done. Like many of you, I believe that being physically fit is a huge part of operating at peak efficiency. Whe…

learning to trust with new potential partners — What do you think are some healthy ways to slowly trust someone again in a romantic context so if things go wrong it doesn't feel like moving on is like an impossible task emotionally? I don’t mean t…

FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …

Movie List: Chinese movies where the antagonist(s) are racist/imperialist White/Westerners and get their asses kicked — I thought I would make a list of some Chinese movies(mostly martial art action films) where the main antagonist is a racist and/or imperialist white. These movies are all fun and feel good, and while …

Ex confronted me, then broke down. — About a month ago, my ex broke up with me because she said she was "confused." I immediately went No Contact. didn’t beg, didn’t text, just started focusing on myself and moving on. Last night, we bo…

My last message to her — My last message.. I am not moving on. I am not letting you go. I stopped texting, not because I stopped caring, but because I got tired of hurting. If you text me, I will reply. I still check my p…

why do I feel bad for someone who emotionally cheated on me? — why do I constantly feel bad for someone who hurt me numerous times? I just had a recent partner of 4 years emotionally cheat on me and for some reason all I feel is bad for THEM. we are no longer tog…

Leaving them unblocked only hurts you — Though I started to see my narc ex for what he was and began detaching a few month ago, I still left him unblocked. I hoped he would message me either to apologize or give me 'proof' he was a narc. I …

My husband [M31] let slip in a compliment that he thinks his ex was prettier than me [F28] and I can't stop thinking about it. How do I let it go? — EDIT: I have made an update to this post for everyone, see here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/1rwh3g2/update\_my\_husband\_m31\_let\_slip\_in\_a\_compliment/](https://www.r…

Don’t you fear being too isolated? — I recently got rejected by a girl that I really liked. We started off as very good friends and unfortunately I caught feelings for her. So right now, I’m grieving the fact that I lost a really close f…

Pulling the trigger but terrified, Male 48 — I'm a male, 48 years old. Married for 24 years to a woman two years older than me. I'm sure my story isn't unique, but here it is anyway. On the outside, we look like a great couple. We have a teena…

Anyone else unable to find others attractive (in a romantic sense) after a breakup? — Maybe this sounds ridiculous, but it's been almost a year and a half since my last breakup (which has mostly been no contact) and I'm still unable to find other women romantically attractive. Even whe…

My ex-husband is engaged, 5 months after our divorce. — My ex-husband is now engaged to the girl he began dating a few weeks after our divorce was final. We had been separated/divorced (we said we were divorced as soon as we decided - at that point it was …

It’s okay to walk away from someone you do not vibe with — I feel like so many times I have invested time in people i wasn’t compatible with because I didn’t want to be “ too picky”, but I’m 44 now and I have learned a lot. 1. You will never change a person a…

Welp… that’s it. It’s officially over. — We had been together for almost 7 years. I begged and pleaded, but she said she’s done. She came by to pick up the last of her things, and I tried one last time to explain myself, but after almost tw…

Watching Life Pass Me By — I know this has probably been written about many times, but I need to get this off my chest. I’m a 34-year-old man, and I’m struggling with depression. I’ve been reading about the law of attraction, …

Leaving this subreddit and what I learned — It’s over and i think I’ve come to terms with my break up . After three months of being on here and almost six months since the ending of my last relationship , I’ve used this forum to pour out my fee…

Should I (29F) stop waiting and move on from my boyfriend (30M) of 5 years? — I (29F) have been dating my boyfriend (30M) for almost 6 years now and I think I have been very patient with him. I know not everyone likes this concept but a year and a half ago I told my boyfriend t…

34 M, marraige collapse, business collapse & false cases..Will this improve? — I got married in Dec 2024 after months of red flags that I ignored. Even before marriage, her behavior felt distant and inconsistent, but I trusted the process. Within a month of marriage, things sta…

Well I'm no longer am allowed to miss you. — We dated for about 2.5 years and he got a new partner all of the sudden, I don't feel upset and I don't feel happy I feel shockingly at peace, like it was just what I needed to move on with my life, I…

Moving on and getting my things — Summary: My ex came back into my life and wanted to try to become gf and bf again. I’m a 22F and he’s a 22M. We tried to rebuild an last week before he moved on I wanted space from him because how he …

Girlfriend asked for a 3 week breakup after a fight. I ended it when she asked for more time — I'm 43M, gf is 37F. I'm a doctor, she's a lawyer. I make good money, she's kind of just starting her career. I never skimp out on her... Fancy dinners, nice gifts etc etc. I was planning to give her a…

Should I Take My Ex Out For Her Birthday? — So my ex girlfriend 20f and I 21M broke up about 4 months ago due to emotional boundaries being crossed with her male friend and I was so stressed and anxious about it that I did not think it was heal…

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I broke up with my ex, but now I’m the one stuck and hurting — I have been with my ex for 7 years we were high-school sweet heart we started dating in 2017. we graduated high-school together nad college. we did everything together had got our first apartment. in…

my heart is so broken — there’s something wrong with me its been eight months but it still hurts so much sometimes. how he can choose to not talk to me everyday. it hurts me so much to not know him and miss him, how i am not…

Plateauing moving on — hi everyone. I (30f) got out of a long term (6 years) relationship with what i thought was my life partner (30m). I moved across the country for him last fall (we were long distance) and it was really…

“Time will heal” I finally get it now, I’m not completely there yet, but definitely closer — Time will heal. There will be ups and downs. It’ll be a roller coaster. Never really believed in that, I thought it meant “just suffer, it’s part of it and you can’t avoid it.” And it’s true, you ha…

Breakup due to her grief + life circumstances…how do I make sense of this? — My ex (25F) of almost 3 years broke up with me (28M) about a month ago. The last few months were long distance, and this was a serious relationship — we had met each other’s families and were quite i…

Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. — I (32M) was in a relationship with my ex (34M) for about 2.5 years. We genuinely loved each other. At one point, I moved countries to be with him. It also worked out career-wise for me, so it felt lik…

The point of no return — Girlfriend of 9 years ended things with me a few weeks ago, but we were still doing okay. Doors weren't closed, and we didn't end on something shattering. We were still communicating, just a little bi…

breakup with someone who didn’t communicated issues — My ex (20M) and I (20F) broke up at the beginning of March after almost a year together, and I’m having a hard time moving on. It felt like a really special connection to me. He made me feel genuinel…

How to get over irreversible, life altering mistakes? — Check out my previous post about not going to the prestigious engineering school I was accepted to in high school for details, but I am having so much trouble moving on. I need to accept my life is no…

Breaking up after 8 years — I'm just not sure why I am here. I don't want people to judge me or those i am going to write about. I have been in a relationship for last 8 years. There is no major issues and we were fine. But dur…

Why it's just 1 person but feel like 2 completely different people. — The person I think who she were: \- Care for other people \- Humble \- Loved by many people, chased by many men, but still chose me (who is nothing special, ugly, and broken inside before meetin…

Tips on moving on using law of attraction — Reposting this bcus I am in OOP's place and need some advice 🙏

Feeling lost, depressed, and lonely. — It’s been almost 5 weeks since my husband of almost 16 years blindsighted me and told me he’s done and leaving me. We have 3 kids and a perfect life, or so I thought. We just built our dream/forever h…

I cheated. Not looking for excuses, how do I grow from this? — I'm admitting it on very first sentence that I cheated, and I'm not looking for ways justify my infidelity or going to act as a victim. What I did was wrong. But I want to know how do I grow from th…

Having a hard time moving on — She was my everything at one point even though our relationship wasn't the best as we had a rocky one from the start. It's been 2 years since we broke up, but in that time we eventually started talkin…

Still stuck on her… and I don’t know if I should stop — I once loved a girl deeply. We broke up, but after some time we started talking again, and she told me she still loved me. That messed with my head more than the breakup itself. We stopped talking ag…

HELP ME UNDERSTAND — Hi everyone, I've been reading a lot about the subject and i'm also in therapy since 3 months. I'm already non in the relationship with this woman but i sort of need to make clarity and hear other…

i need advice for moving on asap — so my bf and i were together for a year and some change and like the last half of it was long distance because we go to different colleges. we were only like 3 hours apart and i came home for all brea…

I don’t know if I’ll ever get over my ex — I feel a little silly writing about this but I recently broke up with my long distance boyfriend. I broke up with him because at the time I thought it was the right thing to do. I was dealing with men…

34 M, marriage collapse, career collapse, false cases, ongoing divorce. Will I ever get relief? — I got married in Dec 2024 after months of red flags that I ignored. Even before marriage, her behavior felt distant and inconsistent, but I trusted the process. Within a month of marriage, things sta…

I finally did it — It took a few weeks but I finally did it. We've been nc since the breakup (about a month now). But we still kept eachother added on a multitude of apps. Never interacted, but for some reason we never …

Focus 10 experience (I guess) — I found out about the tapes about a month or two ago. I started with Wave 1 and kept practicing Focus 10 on my own from time to time without listening to the tapes. The most I could ever do was get my…

Preach! I used to always skip these posts about not getting my ex back, but now I’m happy to be moving on, it’s much healthier and I don’t feel like shit everyday. The more you accept that you don’t w…

I’m trying to do this currently. I still love her the same but i’m moving on with my life.

Yeah, I feel so much at peace now that I decided I am moving on and not looking back. Fuck him.

I’m definitely trying moving on. He didn’t want me so fuck that! I know I’m a great person who deserves more!

Yes!! it took me 8 months to completely cut the cord with all the BS after we broke up because he wanted to linger on but he was moving on with other girls while he had me like stupid hanging on. And …

In my experience, No Contact is for you first and foremost as a human being to heal and be a better version of you. If (and I mean IF) your ex contacts you, consider it icing on the cake. And hearing …

Im struggling so hard with moving on, even though it wasnt my fault that we broke up. It feels awful

It’s hard moving on when you’re still so in love w/ them. I can’t get him out of my head. Idk how to move on and thinking about it hurts more bc I never wanted it to end to begin with. I lost my soul …

Or don't. If you reach out and they shoot you down, then moving on gets easier. While you're pretending not to care, you're still holding out hope and hope stops you from moving on. Leave it all on t…

No contact is NOT about getting the ex back! It’s about truly moving on, breaking free mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It’s about freeing yourself and truly letting go. It’s not meant to be a …

Yes it's few. Can take months, but a change or at the very least some thoughts of thinking from the desire will be noticed within 2 - 3 weeks, IF you are doing the technique correctly. And they may ev…

Yeah I've seen a lot of increase in those posts too. I don't think is the subreddit to tell everyone else that NC led you to get back with your ex, first of all is giving everybody false hopes or unre…

Going into a new relationship isn’t moving on, it’s just to distract. Avoidants are great at hiding their anxiety, they charm well. But unhealed, it’s just gonna be surface situationships all the time

Thanks for such valuable advice. It meant a lot. I'm in sp situation. And when other person is envolved things get tricky... I'm doing my best to visualize. Sometimes it felt like it can happen. Wh…

These push-pull dynamics can be really tough. There's actually a whole cycle that happens, and understanding how it works is probably the only surefire way to ultimately get grounded enough to ride th…

Maybe it’s worthwhile just fixing the app now to get it in a better working state with what you have, before moving onto a new cloud provider? If the code can’t handle it in your current provider, c…

I would start small like charity shops and flipping the items or vinted and depop and taking better pictures and flipping the items for more, then you move onto trying to get the one time drop things …

Got it. I only need serious invested connections. Six months was it. Her silence told me everything 🙂 but lack of even acknowledgment was maddening. As she seemed avoidant, initiated another interact…

I agree with this, but also want to point out some DAs don’t actually communicate a boundary. I had two ex’s who were DA and I can lean anxious. Both were very inconsistent in communicating “I need sp…

I did a course with PDS a few years ago to help get over a break up. It was something like overcoming grief. In the course she discusses something called the Golden Shadow, traits in another person th…

I'm not suggesting that sub is 100% bad (nothing is all bad or all good). But it's absolutely an echo-chamber that frequently becomes toxic and dehumanizing, conflates every negative behavioral trait …

I'm so sorry to hear that, but I'm glad you're moving on with your life

Having less of a support system has probably all played in this entire cycle. I'm at that age in life where friends are moving onto other life stages (kids etc when I don't want kids), other cities, a…

The avoidant(not sure which type of avoidant) I was dating of 3 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago through text. We had our flaws of course and there were times where she felt unwanted or unseen (I ta…

We haven’t spoken a word to each other in two weeks, living in the same house. lol I’m letting him live his life, while I rebuild mine. Whatever happens, happens. But I can tell you this: I’m don…

I'm feeling some shame for staying in an on again off again situationship for a year (me AA, him FA). I've worked a lot on myself during this time, understanding how I was showing up in the relations…

I'm really glad to read this post! I don't know what you've been through, but it sounds like you've grown a lot. Congrats on your new relationship! As a little tip: Sometimes I find myself being more…

He might be regretting it? [Disclaimer: I’m not at all an expert this is all just my opinion and experience as a former anxious] In my experience, avoidants work in the formula of “feelings minus fe…

1) There is no advice that would make this “break” easier or healthier for you. You are abandoning yourself being in this relationship at all. So aside from standing up for yourself and your own needs…

It’s scary how they all sound exactly the same 5-12 months after it’s over and you’re moving on.

Even if you ended on a good note, you should never entertain the idea of having a person who hurt you back in your life. It’s okay that you reached out probably because you told yourself you eventuall…

This is silly to me because practically you will eventually be “no contact” with an ex, theirs no healthy way to maintain close contact with your ex’s indefinitely. No contact is the most practical wa…

Hi I'm a (29) Gay M and I feel the same but my ex(59) M is moving on with a (19)M he brought into our relationship as a way to try to spice things up and knowing full well the guy was way more into h…

Yeah I guess that's an interesting perspective, thank you. I guess I can see how fear of rejection would show up. I do think part of him feels that the right person would just know and things would ju…

I’m sure there is a trauma bond and maybe some codependency going on. Sadly there is not much anyone can do to get her to do the right thing for herself. I would say to be there for her as much as you…

Text of original post by u/san7io: What do you think are some healthy ways to slowly trust someone again in a romantic context so if things go wrong it doesn't feel like moving on is like an impossibl…

Good fair question. I've been seeing my therapist for four years (not weekly; long stretches on between given whatever season of life I was in). I had not always behaved how I acted in this post. You'…

I know what you’re going through - growing up religious and moving on from that is so ground breaking, because it affects every aspect of your life. Especially friendships. Female friendships can be…

nothing new, but dating feels so bleak and I feel so empty. I wish so much about myself was different. just feeling hopeless recently as all the people in my life are moving on.

Mmmmhhhh... it's a tricky one. I feel like you can move pretty early if your destination is a place you'd like to live in anyway and could see yourself staying there if you break up. If you're moving…

Thanks, and sorry it happened to you too. I am moving on.

Crying so hard tonight when I thought I was moving on. But the reality of it being over feels real and heavy. He's gone, and possibly more than one way. Like not with us anymore. Ever get your heart…

> And maybe even wanting to keep communication open in the future if i feel like we could ever be platonic. You know this is going to keep you from healing and moving on, right? I know the feeling of…

Thanks for your response. You’re absolutely right and I hate how desperate I am right now for him to stay. Maybe reading a letter to him about how great I am and what he should’ve been will make me fe…

Hmm yeah. Well, at least it wasn't "ew no never speak to me again" haha. Anyways, moving on!

Oh absolutely! At first I thought he was ghosting me and I was SO devastated by that. When he finally sent it I just felt relief. And of course now I’m sad gal central but it really was truly the best…

Thank you for your words :) I will take a bit more time and see if he continues in this way. If he does I’ll bring it up. I’m not expecting him to change his mind or anything - I do respect his decisi…

hello hi it's me, your resident broken hearted little bean. v day sucked ass. his birthday is tomorrow and i don't know what to do with all the gifts i made and bought for him. feels wrong to toss 'em…

Nah I'd be irritated and feel disrespected too. A text to confirm whether or not plans are going ahead just seems like basic courtesy to me - I find it hard to believe she didn't use her phone at all …

These are the reasons: \- you are letting him set the pace/intensity of the interactions when you're the one that wants more and he doesn't. It sounds like you're settling for scraps of affection/wha…