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How to feel better in dating and more positive?

To be blunt: it's *just* a date, OP. It's not a "casual relationship", because it hasn't even *gotten to casual yet*. Don't spend all your neurons tryna mind-read if this guy is The One. Just *chat*…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/6/2026
Please help

Please help — Hey there! Found this community a few days ago and I seriously need advice on how to push thru the panic/ anxiety. I know I'm an avoidant. All my life I've never wanted people to see me. All my life…

r/AvoidantAttachmentpost2/20/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

Why is casual sex so hard? — It took me 3 years to find a man that I had explosive chemistry for a consistent casual sex partnership/FWB. Start having weekly meetups and then I turned into a crazy person dealing with the highs fr…

r/datingoverfortypost3/12/2026
Scared of Dating.

Scared of Dating. — Since my LTR of 10 years ended about seven years ago I have only had a string of casual relationships. I’m at the point now I don’t want to try again as I’ve put in effort with the casual one’s thinki…

r/datingoverfortypost3/21/2026
3 months into recovery/no-contact and I feel like I am stuck in a lull

3 months into recovery/no-contact and I feel like I am stuck in a lull — I want to preface by saying that I have been no-contact with my abusive/cheating ex for 3 months, haven’t checked their socials for the same amount of time, and have been in therapy for 5 months. Now…

r/Codependencypost4/6/2026
How can I [F35] handle conversations about my friend’s [f41] relationship when I don’t support it?

How can I [F35] handle conversations about my friend’s [f41] relationship when I don’t support it? — Hello everyone, My friend “Lola” \[F40\] has been in an on-and-off casual relationship with someone \[M40\] for over a year. The beginning was very chaotic: constant breakups, misunderstandings, and …

r/relationship_advicepost4/10/2026
I’ve never felt so anxious before

I’ve never felt so anxious before — Long story short, a woman (27F) and I (29M) were in a seven month casual relationship, we both agreed for it to be casual at the start, but she ended up really catching feelings at the seven month mar…

r/ExNoContactpost4/11/2026
What does it mean when a close friend asks you when you will get a divorce?

What does it mean when a close friend asks you when you will get a divorce? — I 28F have been married for 6 years to my husband 30M and have a friend 31F. I was having marital issues and was considering a divorce and my friend knew about it as I really trust her. She always act…

r/relationshipspost4/12/2026
Avoidant partner ended things when feelings got real — should I reach out?

Avoidant partner ended things when feelings got real — should I reach out? — I (29M) was in a 7-month casual relationship with a woman (27F). We both agreed to keep it casual, but around month 7 we both started catching real feelings. That’s when she pulled away and ended thi…

r/ExNoContactpost4/12/2026
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them?

Someone’s gotta be on the other end. He might be pushing, and looks like he usually is, but you’re pulling every time you entertain him. Because most people wouldn’t keep letting him in again, which y…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/7/2025
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them?

Ahah sorry for the confusion 😁 We were dating and I thought he wanted a relationship, as he said that. Then he said he can’t commit and wanted to stay casual and I said that was ok with me, but I wo…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/8/2025
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back

I suspect his last relationship she was more DA so maybe he was more triggered into his anxious but it wasn't a super long term relationship, 2 yrs and they also broke up and got back together through…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/10/2025
Is casual sex compatible with secure attachment?

This is what I was going to say. I was not anywhere near secure when I had casual relationships, but thinking back on my experiences now that I've experienced some earned security, I would say one of …

r/attachment_theorycomment1/10/2026
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I’ve been dating someone just over three months. It kind of was a whirlwind at first, I have children and childcare is tricky so he would come to mine almost every evening once they were asleep to hav…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/3/2026
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I’m sorry but what about this behavior makes it clear that he doesn’t want casual? This is pretty much the definition of a casual relationship. No longer putting in emotional effort but keeping it goi…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/3/2026
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

Hope someone can tell me what i did wrong or misread. I’m in my 30s, Mikaylah is in her early 20s. i transferred to her department last July. At first i wasn’t interested in her as anything more than …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment2/3/2026
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

this didn’t get any traction in the previous thread so i’m hoping this one might get me some advice. i have to go back to work on friday so any help would be appreciated. Hope someone can tell me wh…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment2/4/2026
Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship

A big hug, first of all, and I think you should ask yourself these questions: What do you want in this relationship? Does this person give you the kind of relationship you’re looking for? Why would yo…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment2/10/2026
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I have the fortune of having been in a marriage where my ex refused to celebrate the holiday "on principle" (he wanted me to get him stuff and cook him a nice meal, he just didn't want to reciprocate)…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/15/2026
Do fearful avoidants "split" or "idealise" and then "devalue" when triggered? Or is it more likely to be a sign of something else? (Eg BPD/NPD?)

I know this is an old post but here’s my FA take.. I have idealized romantic partners in the past. Yes. I don’t do it anymore since I’m married now, older and have a lot more awareness of my patterns…

r/attachment_theorycomment2/15/2026
Is casual sex compatible with secure attachment?

Yes as long as it's clearly defined as a "no strings attached" sexual relationship secure attachment can definitely do casual relationships with no commitment. It just needs to be communicated as to w…

r/attachment_theorycomment2/16/2026
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You're just having a casual relationship, run if it's not what you want.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/17/2026
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Safe respectful casual relationships are wonderful. I'm also looking for a long term relationship but I'd take a safe respectful casual relationship with someone I find attractive without a moment's t…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/17/2026
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This might be very similar to yours, but openly expressing interest. I've never had a man be anything less than thrilled when I've been open about liking them, being attracted to them, or wanting to …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/17/2026
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I kinda wanna hear stories of other peoples longest bouts of heartbreak and grieving. I'm not that interested in the relationship or breakup itself, just the confusing and lonely road ahead. It's be…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/19/2026
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So in that 3 years have you managed to date anyone else at least somewhat deliberately and intentionally? I had a casual relationship - which i'd never had and thought it was exactly what i needed. …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/19/2026
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I haven't had the best luck with dating since we broke up. I had that one night stand. There was one girl where things were going well with after a few dates but then she realized she wasn't ready to …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/19/2026
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His best friend eventually did after he found a way to contact me, but I never met his family or friends. Yeah, chaotic and intense are fucking addicting but the lows feel debilitating. Was your heart…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/19/2026
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So far the best I can get is the possibility of something casual with someone who I'm attracted to. Relationship with someone I'm attracted to is very far out of the question for the last 2 years dati…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/22/2026
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I see that Feeld was mentioned in other comments, so I figured I’d share my experience as a woman that was in a very similar place to yours a couple of months ago: - I liked Feeld because the user po…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/22/2026
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

Have you actually sorted out what you even want from the relationship? You said it was casual and you were fine with it. But then later seemed to not be fine with it and that is what led to everything…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment2/23/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 27, 2026

Her lack of morals is appalling. Having sex in the office means that everyone knows exactly what she did. OPs reputation will be tarnished if it comes out that he is sleeping with her. The office inci…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/27/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 27, 2026

Never underestimate stupidity. Gotta love the second the married guy left, she started a casual relationship with another coworker. She didn’t learn a d@mn thing.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/27/2026
Thoughts on dating people who are legally married (but separated)?

specifics can depend on the length of the relationship, but as a guy who dated a recently divorced woman: RUN. especially for a long relationship, doubly so with trauma, there are just too many emoti…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/6/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 08, 2026

I think it depends on your goals. Are you looking for something serious? Not serious? Seems like he has a lot going on. At best, I’d peruse a casual relationship and just have fun!

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/8/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 08, 2026

I live in South Europe so a bit of a culture shock. It seems many men are used to have casual relationships that may progress to more (but I don’t really feel comfortable starting with casual sex) or …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/9/2026
Men having rigid body type preferences

Comments like this make me look at my own dating experiences and think I'm some sort of an outlier. I couldn't even fathom saying such a thing. I've had explicitly casual relationships, but there's us…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/11/2026
Men having rigid body type preferences

I had something similar happen to me. I had started seeing someone last year who had stated that he was looking for an LTR in his profile. He was going out with me and having sex so naturally I though…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/11/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

Original copy of post by u/Adventurous-Ear-5521: It took me 3 years to find a man that I had explosive chemistry for a consistent casual sex partnership/FWB. Start having weekly meetups and then I tu…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

I don’t think a bunch of strangers on Reddit can make a pronouncement about whether you are “absolutely not cut out for casual relationships.“ In this specific case, I’d be more inclined to say that y…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

I completely agree and I think I actually told him that! I want casual but connected. I want continuous connection not days of disconnection between meetups. The stop and go was so difficult for me. I…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

I don’t know what I’m talking about here, but I imagine ”explosive chemistry” might make it harder to stay detached. Also, if you can’t have a sexual relationship with one guy while dating others (wh…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

Casual relationships require you to have strong emotional boundaries and you need to keep busy living a fulfilling life so you don’t constantly think about calling them. Sounds like he revved up that …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

It is perfectly okay and normal to not be the person that can handle a casual relationship. However, you need to end this and move on from this guy

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

It sounds like what you need is a casual relationship instead of just casual sex. It’s just a regular relationship, but without any future talk, and an understanding that it will have an expiry date. …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

This means you're like most women imo. I don't think we're supposed to be "cut out for casual relationships." I feel like this is something we've been told is normal and acceptable, but ends up doing …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

It sounds like it is hard for you not him. Maybe find a therapist to work out your issues regarding casual relationships and if that's even a healthy thing for you. 

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

Whenever I hear people justifying casual relationships, it's so apparent they don't know what healthy/successful ones look like. You can't do casual because it's not fulfilling if you're emotionally h…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 15, 2026

I guess this is less of a romantic relationship question, but does anyone have any advice on how to ask a guy to be FWB/casual relationship? Or gauge interest on that? I know it's pretty straightforwa…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/15/2026
Are My Expectations Too High?

I have active hobbies and eat well so I haven’t had any ED issues yet at 42 and my cardio exercise helps out with endurance/stamina. So I would attribute this (partially) to poor maintenance on their …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
How do you guys manage?

I totally understand your reasoning, but don't want to waste any time if our relationship goals are different. I weed through hundreds of likes on Bumble, narrow down to a few matches that either se…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/19/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 19, 2026

It is very hard for some (many?) men to know exactly what they would prefer between a monogamous, committed relationship involving mutual attraction and regular, good sex **vs** casual relationships w…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/20/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 19, 2026

Hmm.. actually I was clear about looking for a casual relationship. He could have explored that with me, but he was mainly the one taking the initiative to get more involved. I guess it could show th…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/20/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 19, 2026

>or maybe he is just following what he normally does to keep seeing a woman. Indeed, even when offered the opportunity to have a good casual relationship a lot of men would rather something more comm…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/20/2026
Scared of Dating.

Original copy of post by u/AbbreviationsHot1068: Since my LTR of 10 years ended about seven years ago I have only had a string of casual relationships. I’m at the point now I don’t want to try again …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/21/2026
Scared of Dating.

I don't usually like the idea of intentionally waiting to have sex, but you might want to try getting to know someone and telling them that you'd like to spend about three months going on fun dates an…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/21/2026
Does dating get harder the more you actually know yourself?

I came up with a list of compatibility things that I'm going to run by any prospective date, before the first date. I don't do drugs and won't date anybody who does, no alcohol first three dates, I'…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 27, 2026

Sorry about your rough week at work :( Did you tell him about it, and ask for any support? Did you express that you're upset that you don't get to spend more time together? He might think you're fine…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/27/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 28, 2026

Well, I dumped the guy I was hooking up with for the last two months. He was pretty impossible to communicate with, even just to set up plans with. I asked for his definition of casual relationship wa…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/29/2026