happiness

I am no professional in anyway but I can relate to the feeling of forgetting everything else and just rock like its ur last day. Its very good you have a psycologist and have been to a Gyno to check f…

Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…

The way we use ‘UX design’ today doesn’t feel right anymore. — It’s starting to feel vague, like saying we’re “designing happiness. But happiness isn’t designed directly. It’s the outcome of doing a lot of things right: clarity, trust, usefulness. UX used to p…

Afraid of the "how" — Hi to all. I have been studying the law and this sub since many years, then left, then (1-2 months ago) came back. I had my fair share of watching coaches, reading the content proposed here (and more)…

Not spiralling for not talking to my bf for days now!! — Felt a lil happy so decided to share here. Few months back, if I was in the same situation as now I know that i would have been spiralling and spam calling him. I'm happy it's not the same now. Tho ye…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Maintaining this piece of positivity — Alright gang, I hope everyone is well. I’m getting a lot better with my attachment. I’m so proud of myself for times recently when I’ve had a thought about wanting to play into games or behave in cert…

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

Lack will dissolve when you realise: Manifestation starts from irony, and feeling it real starts from memory. — I said it. This post is for people whose brains are very logic driven. Those who think: “I need to see proof before I believe something.” i have something for you. Let's go. We all know the key: The…

Does anyone else just not tell their mother anything — I have too much trauma to write here but in short I stopped telling my mum anything from about the age of 16 (now 31) because I learnt the hard way that anytime I was brave enough to share my true tho…

Reflecting — I was sitting in my car at a shopping center today. Couple after couple passed in front of me holding hands, laughing, and leaning into each other like everything in the world was good. Part of me wi…

Opened up to my wife about how I feel about our relationship and she just said "That's your problem" - am I crazy? — We're both in our mid 40s, been together for 20+ years and we have two kids who are both teenagers and I've been thinking about divorce for quite a while now as I feel like I just don't get anything b…

33f. Divorcing, plenty of love, no infidelity, almost 20 years, just incompatible. — I’m heartbroken. Husband and I have been together for the best part of 20 years. Met when we were teens. Truly love one another, deeply. We’ve had a pretty dead bedroom for most of our time together. …

My therapist said… — My therapist thinks that Jelly cats keep me in a child like state and make me immature. I am an adult and they bring me so much joy and happiness so I don’t understand.

Do you ever think about the people who never found out about their partner cheating? — I found out my husband had been cheating with sex workers when I was 36 weeks pregnant. Dday 3 and a half months ago. He told me he never intended for me to find out, and that he planned on taking i…

It Was Always About You — I thought I would share an experience I had a while ago that really changed my understanding of Neville’s teachings and manifestation in general. **How it started** In 2022 I was very into occultism…

Morning routine with a narc — \- He found me singing in the shower and said “good to see you woke up on the right side of the bed today” (obviously triggered by my happiness) \- Me making us breakfast(remember this). Him, still m…

Did anyone else find an odd sense of peace when COVID hit and we all had to self isolate? — Small confession: when the pandemic hit and we all had to self isolate, I found an odd sense of.. happiness? You wouldn't believe - (well maybe you guys would) how hard it is to explain my symptoms …

APs always strike at the moment your dopamine peaks. — 17M here. Has anyone observed that when they're arriving at the climax of their enjoyment, like playing sports, listening to music, or any other leisure, when they were younger, their AP stormed in an…

Energy Exchange: How We Give, Take, and Protect Our Vital Force — Energy exchange is, essentially, communication. The energy a person generates is given outward. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from outside. …

My cheater soon the be ex husband got cheated on. — Wanted to post this so you could have a laugh today. 😂 My soon to be ex husband got cheated on by the trash affair partner he had during his deployment. She too was cheating on her husband when cheat…

Marriage fixed and halted. 10 years of relationship. What is my (30F) future? — My 30F marriage was fixed for end if April with my boyfriend of 10 years. Everything was going smooth but a clash between parents regarding ritual turned ugly and now both families are not Agreeing f…

How do people become emotionally immature? — I was raised by and surrounded by emotionally immature adults my whole life, while living in a toxic and abusive household created mainly by my father’s abuse towards my mother, and her compliance and…

2 monts into breakup. Here's what I'd tell my younger self. — 1. **Zero Contact.** Unfollow her, and if necessary, unfollow people in her inner circle. I unfollowed her **close group of friends** and her sister. I have absolutely nothing against them; I just don…

Why The Universe "Punishes" Excitement — I think it's actually quite simple. When you feel excited for something, what usually happens is the anticipation of getting that thing is usually a better feeling than actually having that thing. So …

I stopped chasing happiness and started building contentment instead and it made all the difference — For years I was obsessed with being happy. Every self-help book promised that if I just did this one thing, happiness would follow. Gratitude journals, affirmations, visualization, cold plunges. I tri…

I finally stopped chasing him… and everything changed — I don’t know if anyone else has felt this… but I just need to get it out somewhere. I used to be the one who always texted first. Always waited for his replies. Always made excuses for why he was d…

My mom cheated. She refuses to understand why we are upset at her — # Trigger warning for suicidal content My mom cheated. Looking back, I’m not entirely sure I’m surprised that she did, but I was still so shocked when I got the news. For most of my adult life, my …

"You'll find someone eventually" — I'm just having a rotten night, and I just need to put my frustration into words. I hate when people say "you'll find someone eventually." Or "you deserve someone." Or "It will happen when you least …

Boyfriend (22M) keeps saying he’d die without me (20F) or commit suicide as a joke, and sometimes it doesn’t feel like one — I’ve (20F) been speaking to someone online for around two and a half years. I know this sounds ridiculous to many, but within the past few months we got very attached to one another. We’ve never met i…

Mom yells and makes me feel bad about my figure collecting hobby — I am from a desi family and always wanted to have figures when I was a child/teen but couldn’t because I didn’t have money and my parents wouldn’t allow me to use their money to buy. So now as an adul…

Are my "corrective emotional experiences" all fake? I've developed a deep attachment to my therapist, but I feel so lost. — I'd love to hear your thoughts or see if anyone has had similar experiences. As my therapy goes deeper, I find myself becoming more and more attached to my therapist. I feel like the baby monkey cling…

A letter I wrote to myself. — Background. 20 years together. 16 married. She cheated multiple times. Found out about the first ones three years ago. Tried to forgive. She did it again. I left. Letter I wrote to myself …

My [28F] husband [37M] wants me to deliver bad news to his mother. How do I get out of doing this without hurting feelings? TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ mention of miscarriage. — UPDATE: I did talk to him, and I took the advice of not being gentle about it. It’s his mom, and he told her the “good news”, so he can break the bad news. At first he was upset with me, but he got ov…

I’m confused about what “happiness” really means — Lately I’ve been thinking about what happiness actually means. I realized that I don’t really know if I’m doing things because I’m happy, or because I’m trying to become happy. Sometimes I feel like…

I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. — \*\*\*UPDATE\*\*\* After a long 3 days my results came back and they were all negative. I, of course, told my boyfriend and he was relived much like I was. He was supportive of me and he apologized …

Stoic reflection. Happiness isn't about getting what you want, but wanting what you have. — I’ve been reflecting lately on how much of our suffering comes from chasing external validation, the dream of being loved, admired, or deemed normal by society. We often treat happiness like a trophy …

Husband says I “lack empathy” for not excusing his parents’ behavior — Excuse the long post, I am confused My husband (25M) and I (25F) have been together for 9 years. He had a really rough childhood. His dad was physically and emotionally abusive and he says he would …

I (M31) lost the best person I'll ever meet (F26) — tw: depression, suicidal thoughts and self harm I was trapped in a horrible relationship I felt I could not get out of. I posted about that here recently. tldr: 6 years of constant crises in which I …

WHY IS THIS ALWAYS HAPPENING — 7 months ago, my ex-girlfriend dumped me. The breakup was very calm, and I chased her a bit at first, but then I went straight into no contact when she disrespected me that she wanted to just be frien…

Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…

We broke up and it’s my fault — Hello! My partner and I split up and it was all my fault. I regret every bit of it but accept all responsibility. i totally deserved to get dumped and i’ve accepted that we won’t get back together. …

I have to tell my babies that Mommas gotta leave for four months. — My kids father (28m) and I (27f) have finally broken up for good. I have finally come clean and told him I am not in love with him anymore. This has been after years of ar guing, breaking up and getti…

My horrible mushroom trip by Jimmy Burnt — It all started during an environmental school excusion/protest. I had packed my lunch that day, drank my water, dressed well and expected nothing to happen. To preface I live in Sydney and lived aro…

I broke up with my ex, but now I’m the one stuck and hurting — I have been with my ex for 7 years we were high-school sweet heart we started dating in 2017. we graduated high-school together nad college. we did everything together had got our first apartment. in…

Why It's Critical You Work On Yourself - For Yourself - After a Breakup — Hey all. So - it happened. After eight months and seven of no contact, I ran into my ex in person. As a reminder, I ended things with my ex after a year and a half or so because we could not co-regu…

It’s Been A Year… So Here’s My Last Post — Well, tonight makes it official. It has been a full year since I was dumped. Whoever said you lose track of time when you’re having fun is a liar. You REALLY lose track of time when you’re miserable a…

I was never happy to see her. — I did not realize that wasn't normal until I had my own children. My youngest wrote, "I'm happy to see her when she wakes me up in the morning" for a Mothers Day project for me. I just read it over an…

Seeking guidance for an authentic spiritual path in Varanasi - India — Hey everyone, I’m 27, from Bangalore, and I’ve reached a point where a lot of what fills everyday life feels hollow to me. The cycles of happiness and sadness tied to daily human activity increasingl…

Just broke up with partner because we were becoming codependent — Hello, I (26F) broke up with my girlfriend (25F) earlier this week. I’m really struggling because I did really care for her and we cared about each other, but ultimately, I could see our relationship …

You are right. Saying they left because of our flaws isn’t completely right, they left too because of their flaws. The most important thing is to recognize our own flaws for the purpose of self-accept…

Forgive yourself. Forgive her. Treat yourself and your 6 y/o to therapy. You deserve happiness.

What if I ruined the chance of possibly not getting back together due to me being an emotional abuser??For example, she broke up with me because of unhappiness, goal of finishing her college degree, a…

I’ve read few posts that are as “loser”-ish as this one. I’ve yet to study either in depth, but for anyone to not only BELIEVE that they are better than a very large group of people (all of whom are v…

Hi I started with JM and I was convinced to switch to NG Then I was guided back to POSM I can say that some techniques of NG helped But most of all, POSM seems clearer than ever after my detour in…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

What does that look like??? Find a new hobby. Anything. Try learning to knit. Learn to build robots. Take a class in 17th century blacksmithing. Join a woodworkers guild. Join an improve troupe. Volu…

You need to be specific to what you want we all want lots of money but nobody knows how much ‘lots’ is, write it down what type of car you want what color, leather interior or cloth? What make and mod…

Could I use this same technique and repeat “Love”throughout the day or even “happiness”?

I would imagine so, but it’s not about doing it throughout the day but rather doing it when you wake up and before sleep, maybe occasionally during the day if you need to get yourself in the right hea…

I never said they tried, but who wants to find out that someone else emotional regulation depends on your constant presence. Again I’m talking about anxious attachment because secure people are secu…

I am unsure why. It's quite a common topic in psychology. And yeah, even better that you're doing it during a difficult period, as well as observing yourself doing it. A breakup is still a loss, an…

There is a lot of middle ground before you hire an employee. You could contract out for a personal assistant. They work for themselves and usually have several clients. You could contract with an over…

Congratulations 🎉 & thank you for appreciating your wife! Many years of success & happiness for you & yours!

Dude, if this feels good to you and you’re happy the way things are going, let no one tell you otherwise. It’s your story and no one’s in it but you. Generalized information can’t predict the future, …

What bothers me the most is how OP's relationship progress is being dismissed. It doesn't seem to be enough that they reached a functional state and OP is happy at the moment, getting his needs met. …

Of course. What's your native language? That could help me explain it better, but harmony or harmonious means when everyone in a group is getting along - well, when they are not *showing* **visible** …

Yeah same as you I wish I knew about this earlier. I probably wouldnt have tolerated so much. But at the same time, I think this whole experience taught me alot. It all appears so clear to me now.  …

I'm am an exceptionally cynical person but that's by nature, and what I have noticed is that most cynical people are embittered and jaded romantics who have been let down too often and proceed to then…

God I feel this. My brains always on OT watching out, monitoring the threats of other's psychology against my happiness and goals. I'm currently getting trauma therapy and where I see this heading is …

Is feeling deep peace during my visualization powerful enough? Or do I need to cultivate that more outwardly joyous, excited, "dancing and laughing" kind of happiness for my manifestation to work?

From my perspectives, doing the internal work is about being happy and comfortable with what you have and who you are. Happiness is no longer outsourced. Learn to value peace more than companionship. …

My fa ex posted this as WhatsApp status for me after 3 months I didn’t reply I know an apology won't change anything, but I still carry the weight of my mistakes every single day. I lost someone who g…

I'm going to challenge you for a moment. Imagine your life without him and how you'd find happiness. Imagine what it would be like being with a partner that can truly show up for you. What that would…

Hey, possibly so, but that doesn't mean that it's not great that you've actually thought about how you act and react in relationships. You \*can\* rewire your brain. Anyone can. It just depends on ho…

I don’t know if I agree with that last bit totally, but thank you for the kind words. I’ll always believe in the possibility of enlightenment, or at least the peaceful equanimity of solitude. But I do…

My two cents! 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in the alpha state. If you’re really in alpha, you will struggle to even…

Hey, thanks for the reply. I'll do my best to answer as precisely as possible > 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in th…

I know. I know this all too well, especially feeling as though you’re sending everyone “over the edge”. I wish I had some magical potion in the form of words to help. But I’m just here on the same ri…

This is lovely to read, congratulations on your progress and a solid relationship! Avoidants get a lot of hate on Reddit and it always makes me really sad to read. As someone who tends towards the a…

Text of original post by u/Ok_Marionberry_9086: Felt a lil happy so decided to share here. Few months back, if I was in the same situation as now I know that i would have been spiralling and spam call…

I feel you First of all yes it’s SO hard to not act on it but in my opinion really well done for that. In my opinion it seems we get triggered by the “change of behaviour”, as in: - we texted oft…

I'm leaning towards secure now, but was mostly anxious attachment with some very strong avoidant tendencies as well. All of my exes were avoidant. 2-3. You're missing a key component of avoidance, wh…

Do you have health insurance? A lot of therapists accept health insurance. Mine was only $15 a visit with mine. There's also income based/sliding scale community clinics that offer affordable or even …

I've got my fingers crossed for you! It really is tough to pour into someone when you get little to nothing in return. I don't know about you but I don't give my partner my love and affection just to …

I can relate to you, I think people don't talk often enough about how dark and suffering it feels to be at the other end of the spectrum. People tend to only discuss the aftermath of how you should pi…

Relationships are about compromising and giving each other space to do other things.  I used to tell my boyfriend we're not a science experiment gone wrong attached at the hip I am my own person,you a…

I found an engagement ring in his office and fucked everything up. I've been with my boyfriend for 2ish years now, he's definitely avoidant but secure leaning. Since the beginning, we have had the sa…

In other words you are putting others above yourself. You don’t listen to the inner voice that tries to protect you. You put yourself down. Think others are better than you. This is all self abandonme…

I would say it is common for anxious people to be preoccupied by word choices to seek out if there is danger or not. Bottom line the future is never guaranteed…ever. He could be run over by a truck …

True happiness requires connection... and that means opening yourself up to vulnerability. Of course there are risks, and with risk comes the potential for both joy and hurt. To fully experience the…

I appreciate this perspective. I lost a previous partner to suicide, though he and I were together 1.5yrs and he was clearly devolving with mental health and addiction trouble. But I can tell you, I h…

Text of original post by u/Alarmed-Most-2410: Alright gang, I hope everyone is well. I’m getting a lot better with my attachment. I’m so proud of myself for times recently when I’ve had a thought abou…

Dating can be discouraging and take a long time, but I'm sure the right people are out there. Work on yourself in the meantime and live life to the fullest. Happiness attracts.

Okay I don't know if this is going to be controversial or something but here are my two cents: * *Yes*, building secure attachment means - allowing yourself to have preferences, and not engaging in r…

I reflected on my future because I finally realized I don't want to spend the rest of my life in a distant marriage. Before that, for many years I guess I lived in some sort of fantasy world where the…

I relate with so much of what you have written. For me, it's very similar in that it feels like an ever-present sense of calm or okayness. I think that there are two main feelings that I often have …

I would not want you as a parent. I grew up with an emotional unavailable single mother and it f*ck me up. Thank goodness I have the money and resources today go get the therapy, meds, and my own purs…

Make sure you’re getting enough sunlight (vitamin d) and out in nature and eating balanced. Apparently ashwaganda can also help, a natural alternative. But I am not a doctor. Try to do things you enjo…

I completely feel your pain and emotional longing for any sense of safety and security. Oddly enough I was showing my DA bf this post this am purely for the hope that he would recognize and provide so…