book
beautiful life
Evidence
Citations (51)
I don't understand how you can't have *any* expectations of your partner? If we're in a long term committed relationship, I expect my partner won't lie to me, won't cheat, won't break my trust, won't …
Decidedly Single? — Have any of you found that it’s just better to be single and to not get romantically involved with anyone? I (34f) recently ended things with the last guy I was talking to for over a year and with wh…
ex still views story a year later — i broke up with my ex boyfriend a year and a half ago. we’ve been no contact, not following each other for five months. we were together for four and a half years before that. the breakup was really…
Feeling lost, depressed, and lonely. — It’s been almost 5 weeks since my husband of almost 16 years blindsighted me and told me he’s done and leaving me. We have 3 kids and a perfect life, or so I thought. We just built our dream/forever h…
My ex is getting remarried tomorrow — My ex is getting remarried tomorrow. Today he sent me a text “I’ll never understand your choices” and “I would have always fought for my family”. He says this because I’m the one who initiated the d…
The letter I will never send. — # I'm not looking for sympathy, I just need to get this out there. I’ve spent countless hours sitting, pacing the house, going for late night walks and drives, pondering my thoughts, feeling stuck, …
How do you deal with being the only one who was hurt and knows the truth ? How do you deal with the flock of flying monkeys ? — I'd like to share a story. Unfortunately, I'm still dealing with the narcissistic person and the flying monkeys. I feel like I'm trapped in a spider web and that the pain is going to stick with me for…
My (27F) boyfriend (27M) doesn’t seem sure about marriage, what to do? — Please don’t be horrible to me, I just want to hear other peoples opinions. My boyfriend (27M) and I (27F) have been together coming up three years. We live together, and our relationship is happy d…
Reconnected with an old flame and I feel like I'm losing my mind — TL;DR: No names or dates here are real. I (40M) just need to get this out because I can’t keep it bottled up anymore. Just a lengthy rant more than anything. Welcome any advice if you have it. Severa…
You sound like me when I was perfectly rationalizing everything, trying to get over the loss of the relationship over my ex-fiancee who I thought was my soulmate too. I was telling myself that no, we …
He seems to be failing quickly at this point. Now that he's alienated most everyone who gives a shit, he'll likely drink himself to death. He'll be 84 this summer. In the past year, he's survived a tr…
Aside from the narc, I have a beautiful life and amazing blended family with my husband. It took me decades to learn to love myself. I flipped my shit a few weeks ago on the phone with my dad. I scr…
That’s how long I was with my narcissist, and by that point, I remember saying that I was just the “shell of a human being” I to didn’t recognize the person I had become. Even after being apart I fe…
Nah ... I get what OP means. I'm in a very happy and healthy 7 year relationship. We have 1 child and another on the way, brought a house together and are in general very happy, supportive and barle…
Imagine being with someone with the same values as you tho - you’d be a power couple! You sound very practical and level headed, he does not - I’d break up. (Using his crypto as back up is a red flag…
proud of you for actually moving through this. proud of you for not running away anymore. proud of you for standing up and not lying to yourself anymore. proud of you for taking the jump into the chao…
You gotta make a whole new routine. It sounds overwhelming I know. But really it's exciting- your life is going to now be exactly what YOU want. Decorate your place more. Make new traditions. Try new …
I agree with this! I tried so hard to manifest a big move to California after my divorce. I even manifested photographing a wedding in Malibu, which then allowed me to go look at apartments, and real…
I also want to point out that if you decided after you cut your mom off that your #1 focus in life was making new friends, I think we both know you would be able to make that happen. So it’s not like …
Thank you for sharing your story!! I was gobsmacked a bit at the date because 4/3/22 is the date I got sober! I’m about to celebrate four years on the third (obviously lol) but there must’ve been some…
They absolutely intervened on my path to self destruction. I’ve shared it quite often, but I was an alcoholic and drug addict hell bent on death. I’m not sure if they just simply intervened out of ben…
There is no negativity. It’s a fact/law of the universe that you can’t make someone love you. Believe and feel it all you want. Play the stories in your head. I have a strong relationship with my high…
I’m feeling lower about dating than I ever have before. As a 37 year old woman who has had very little relationship experience, the grief I carry is overwhelming. I admire women who have chosen to lea…
"You will never be anything else but a useless piece of sh. I regregt to ever becoma a parent." "I am just crying because you will never ever have a beautiful life."
Go for nursing and then move to Australia or Canada. There are pathways to citizenship for filipina nurses. You can escape her home and live a beautiful life.
For as long as I can remember I felt like you because I was also parentified in childhood, was sa’d by a family member, and witnessed DV. I got pregnant and had to face my future as a mother. I was ho…
I’m so so sorry you are going through this. We didn’t have kids but I did catch my husband having an affair with a direct report 2 years ago. I was blindsided, told his boss and our relationship blew …
Yes I should have been taken by protective services. My parents were brutal and extremely violent. My father killed more than one of my pets and my mother would scream in my face with spittle foaming …
You're correct. It is an abuse tactic meant as a form of punishment in attempts to control future behavior. I bet this guy does other insidious, abusive things. OP- it's okay that in your reflectin…
Hi friend. Please don't give up, there is a beautiful life waiting for you when you get out. Most of what you are experiencing in terms of depression and axiety is likely related to the abuse you are …
i am in this exact situation. i met her through a dating app and after messaging for around 2 weeks, we had our first date. it felt perfect. before meeting her, i was in the best place mentally that i…
Take the trip or carry that guilt to your grave, because I promise you, you will. Long after this man is gone from your life you will relive this regret over and over. You will apologize to your daugh…
Last summer, and yes I want her back. Sometimes I'm not sure if that would be good. But I want a life with her, I love her, I love who she is. I still feel we can grow together and have a beautiful li…
I’m sorry you’re going through this life altering situation. After 12 years, being her husband is one of the biggest part of your identity. She is not respecting you or your family. You are not firs…
Great response. Our lives are inseparable from the world, so as we become kinder and more open with ourselves the more we can do that for the people around us and create a beautiful life. That’s my un…
This is beautiful to hear. I’m so happy for you. Luckily, I have great and thoughtful kids. I’m hoping it’s not too late and we will find the same beautiful life you did. I’m so happy for you! Thank …
Getting married made me really see my parents for who they are. Seeing how my family treated me surrounding this major life event versus the chosen family I’ve made with my husband, his family, and ou…
I could relate 😭 A loooong time ago, my ex ghosted me and I discovered he quickly got married to this prettier, thinner girl. I'm guessing we're about the same age. It wasn't until I was completely o…
I’m glad you have finally decided you’re worth more than that scumbag! The STD, incurable or otherwise, ought to have been it. That or the cheating. Or the abuse. The final straw being him texting for…
I’ve read a few comments, and all I’m seeing is that the advice is spot on but the wording comes across really harsh. I’m going to try to be as gentle as possible… One of the hardest lessons I’ve lea…
Thirding this, I'm very intentional about dating to marry but the foundations have to be perfect in a way that makes me want to add to a beautiful life with someone.
The only way out is revenge and the only revenge is success. Living a beautiful life, making enough money to be safe, and seeing the world. The goal is not to forgive them but to nothing them. To make…
Okay so my ex would do this everytime I was practicing for my driving exam, or during midterms and finals. Everytime I was more busy with something going on in my life and investing time, energy and e…
Some people keep long-term affairs no matter what's going on in their lives. It doesn't matter if you're celebrating a huge anniversary, starting IVF, or just building a really beautiful life togethe…
It hurts to read that you were in the same situation as me and now you are no contact with your mom. I feel my mom and I becoming more and more distant each time we talk and when I try to talk about h…
I completely understand. The break up I had took everything from me. I had a beautiful life with him, a home for me and my children, and my health was under control. I was working at therapy, and goi…
I'm so sorry. Huge internet hug. There is a miracle in our bodies that this can be healed. Trauma sucks and no one deserves it. I'm going to give you the map of healing. You have to become the pers…
I went and told his corpse f-you, you tried to break me and I have a beautiful life, I’m glad you’re dead. It was good for me to go to the cemetery also, in Judaism you literally throw shovels of dirt…
Yup. I had a shitty life growing up and my ex’s were bums too. So when life finally gives you a good man thank the universe and take care of yourself and build a beautiful life with this man. You both…
I'm so sorry this happened to you both. The situation from a legal standpoint on child support she most likely would not recieve and support for the previous 7 years he didn't know about. Your husband…
Hey! My dad adopted me after my mom married him. My bio dad was in jail, which was in the basement of the courthouse. At seven years old, I sat as the judge announced, “The father was given the option…