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>I have a theory that all dating frustration stems from trying to date out of your league. That's the stupidest fucking thing I've ever read on here. And that's saying a *lot*. The only thing believ…
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…
We Fired a Developer But Not Because He Was Bad, But Because He Wasn't Right. Only 2 Legit Reasons to Fire Anyone. (i will not promote) — After building a small team and running a startup for a while, We’ve come to a hard conclusion: There are only two legitimate reasons to fire someone. 1. They are not the right fit for the company.…
How to approach colleagues ‘improving’ my copy with unedited Chat GPT? — Hi all, I’m a new and junior member of a very small team, we are overstretched and have far too much on the go at any given time, which inevitably leads to shortcuts being taken. I’m no stranger t…
Anxiety only triggered in romantic relationship, how to manage it? — Hi everyone, I’m a 26M and fairly new to relationships. I’ve noticed my anxious attachment only really shows up in my romantic relationship, not with friends, family, or colleagues. With them I feel …
PSA: Posts to RBN must be about your parent(s) and/or primary caregiver(s). — Folks, For a while now, we've been getting a steadily increasing amount of posts that we consider to be off-topic. As our subreddit name suggests, submissions must be centred around your parent(s) or…
Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …
When did you finally realise, your life would never be ‘normal’? — I am 47M I grew up in an EXTREMELY dysfunctional household, with every type of abuse you can imagine, and death of a parent at 12. I’ve had to fend for myself since that age, whilst being used and a…
What are your social lives like? — Recently I saw a few comments here like “I have weekly activities scheduled every day of the week” and “this guy could only meet me one a month because of social obligations” and… I know I’m more of a…
As an East Asian, I feel discriminated by colleagues — I feel I have experienced a lot of discrimination in the workplace due to my race, but I feel like it's also getting worse as the years go by. Actually, so many things, like the propensity for cancel…
People Pleasers Make the Worst Partners — I'm a Codepedent in Recovery. My partner is also a Codependent (Severe) and he's refusing healing and is a Chronic People pleaser. Being in a relationship with a people pleaser is exhausting. You sl…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
Energy Exchange: How We Give, Take, and Protect Our Vital Force — Energy exchange is, essentially, communication. The energy a person generates is given outward. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from outside. …
Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…
Best days are worse than the worst days — I haven’t talked to this person in 6 months. I found out that I got into a Masters program, probably the biggest accomplishment in my life so far. And I should be so happy, but for some reason I feel …
Sometimes i just wish people could understand the psychological damage these evil people cause — You work with this individual who's always smiling, happy, flirty and chatty. Wow it must be tiring keeping this mask on all the time. I just wish people could really understand how love bombing work…
34 M, marraige collapse, business collapse & false cases..Will this improve? — I got married in Dec 2024 after months of red flags that I ignored. Even before marriage, her behavior felt distant and inconsistent, but I trusted the process. Within a month of marriage, things sta…
“THE EARTH - A LIVING CREATURE!” This is the message of a brief video created from NASA satellite imagery. — I was a contact team coordinator for the CE-5 Initiative in Los Angeles from 1992 to 1998. “She is alive. She is awake and She loves us.” is the message that I received during of a kind of channel…
34 M, marriage collapse, career collapse, false cases, ongoing divorce. Will I ever get relief? — I got married in Dec 2024 after months of red flags that I ignored. Even before marriage, her behavior felt distant and inconsistent, but I trusted the process. Within a month of marriage, things sta…
Child of Parents in IDEK What Marriage — I need help on finding out where I stand in this messed up situation. My parents & I were living in the Gulf for most of our lives and he got laid off when I was 9 years old. He tried for other jobs …
Parents failed to realize I had ADHD — Part of me doesn’t fully blame them because I realize it was out of pure ignorance. Part of me does blame them cuz why couldn’t you have been a little more observant and educated?! I started strugglin…
Do you believe in dating leagues? — I have a theory that all dating frustration stems from trying to date out of your league. What you can attract and keep is what's in your league. I'm 42 and single due to very high standards for b…
Research survey participation request - Framework for Implementation of ESG in Energy Sector — Hello, Hope you are doing well. I am currently conducting doctoral research on the "Framework for Implementation of ESG in the Energy Sector". If your background and expertise in this space, your i…
Beginning the process of escaping my controlling parents. I’ve never felt more isolated in my life. — I’ve posted here months ago up until now: no updates because there weren’t any to note. I guess this is more of a vent than anything, but it would be nice to hear if anyone has felt similarly while le…
AIO I (19F) want to break up with my bf (19M). — I 19 F and my boyfriend 19M have been together for a year now. I feel as if I am at the age where I should be going out and exploring. I’ve thought about this a few times & have just not come to the c…
My body is doing things I've never experienced before — I've had anxiety for a long time but it was always the kind I could manage. Mild stuff, nothing that really got in the way of my life. I'd almost describe it as silly anxiety looking back just backgro…
Losing Hope and Motivation — Hi there, Like many I’m sure agree, the state of the world feels like it’s crushing down more and more each day. Basic necessities are getting more expensive, I see friends and colleagues laid-off le…
Normal Life? — People with history of severe sexual abuse, do we ever have a chance at a normal life? I mean those who were abused by both their parents and extended family members in every way one could imagine. I …
Torn between staying with my mom (51 F) or taking a trip with my estranged father (54 M) on holiday. Now I (18 F) need some advices. — Hello everyone, I need some advices. My parents are separated/divorced and don't have a good relationship. I’m torn between two choices for an upcoming holiday. On one hand, I really want to stay ho…
It's been 3 months and I'm still struggling, her name is a trigger, the little profile pic on her WhatsApp is a trigger, Music, TV series movies, we used to interact with is still a trigger. — She left me going on 3 months now. Which is okay, completely stand my that, you wanna be done? Be done. What my issue is, it took her literal hours to move on. Joined tinder and hinge, told me she k…
it's my birthday and my family and my workplace haven't remembered — sometimes it's very hard to feel like it 'isn't us' when you watch other colleagues get birthday cards and a shout out in meetings and I get nothing. I expect silence from my family as I estranged m…
How do you deal with being the only one who was hurt and knows the truth ? How do you deal with the flock of flying monkeys ? — I'd like to share a story. Unfortunately, I'm still dealing with the narcissistic person and the flying monkeys. I feel like I'm trapped in a spider web and that the pain is going to stick with me for…
Help, I’m losing my mind — So something really strange has been happening to me for the past few years, and this week just pushed me over the edge. Earlier this week, I randomly saw my ex’s brother’s car. It’s the first time I…
I am self-loathing, deeply jealous of my partner, and it’s affecting my life and relationship. How can I be better? — Hi all. I (F22) have hated myself, very deeply, for most of my life. I’m not really sure what catalyzed it or when it started. I have a good family and have always had a decent time making friends, bu…
I'm scared of my own father — My parents divorced when I was 17 (about 9 years ago) and my dad cut me off financially since then to "punish" my mom because he wasn't ok with the divorce. He didn't do that to my other siblings, onl…
Why does everyone—I mean EVERYONE—use me as a therapist? — Every boss I’ve ever had. First dates. Friends. I just left an appointment with one of my mental health practitioners, who told ME, at the end of our session that I could “bill \[her\] for the therap…
Where are the real f...ing stories?! — Share your mindblowing stuff. But let me speak first. I manifested a job from a state of lack, fear and despair, having almost $0 to my name. This job reflected my inner state perfectly, like 1:1 - c…
Relying on the narcissists' money while you are depressed from their abuse is the last circle of hell — tldr; if you can, be independent in any way without relying on the narcs. If your health isn't good, try to work in doable amounts but relying on them financially is really horrible. I've been unemp…
I gossip way too much about people I don't like — Generally I can't really sit with the discomfort of a person, perhaps for deeper reasons, and I need to externalise that by confiding in others. For example, the guy at my work is absolutely miserable…
I struggle to leave people behind event hough I've never been dumped. ( always dumper ) — This is just me reflecting and sharing btw, perhaps writing in a space where people could find some use in it. If you don't then feel free to ignore. I (30M) tend to stay on good terms with people fr…
Ex kong iniscammed ako ng 120k — The time that I am asking for the money to repay, I cannot reach her so instead, I contact her sister’s niece and nephews aunt and uncles, but then again they refuse to respond on my approach. So that…
How can I (25F) get my boyfriend (23M) to stop sufferingmaxxing? — Hey everyone, I know the title is a little weird but hear me out. my boyfriend (m23) really hates spending money on himself, and then complains about it. It makes no sense, he earns six figures, ha…
How do I W21 get more comfortable with my male colleagues M26 - M30? — I will preface this by saying that I am actively looking for a therapist to help me with this issue, but it's very difficult to get a spot where I live. I had issues with men at my university during …
I’m making my escape — I am in the process of breaking free from a dysfunctional family system and additionally breaking free from a dysfunctional family business that I have unilaterally stabilized again and again for the …
Oh, this is a cool topic, there is nothing cooler than the fucking time that is chasing us. I was just in the middle of my first mission related to a new job. At that time I was already quite burnt…
Hey, Your future employer knows that you are fresh out of university, they know your work experience and should have set their expectations accordingly. Breathe, take your time relax and learn. That…
I've been in these scenarios a good few times in a good few ways. And I have some hostile opinions on it as well as some good ones. So scenarios. Indian CTO or VP is hired, and almost immediately, …
Before our “conflict,” things were okay and like I said he is warm to others except me. It’s hard not to take that personally when after 7 years of friendship, he suddenly goes cold on me; especially …
Text of original post by u/Dralexus: Hi everyone, I’m a 26M and fairly new to relationships. I’ve noticed my anxious attachment only really shows up in my romantic relationship, not with friends, fam…
No, I don’t think that. Already had fwb with colleagues before, and that didn’t end very well. And it was also why I was a bit hesitant going in to this in the beginning 🙈
What about exercise, should I do more? I am currently in a relatively sedentary job (radiologist). It's mentally tiring but fulfilling. A lot of my colleagues really work out seriously, they have rou…
Genuine question, can you actually pinpoint why you're feeling that way and where it originally came from? A lot of our attachment issues are largely independent from our partners, even though they c…
Stuck around birth family for three days, came away with loads of goodies of course but at the expense of my sanity. Holidays are superficial commericalized bull, people are stupid, unhealed careg…
How common are these boundaires and are they a little strict or have I just been with very nonchalant men thus far? (Dating for a few months and we’re in our 30s) -doesn’t want me to get tipsy with g…
>no opposite sex 1-1 hangouts- I am ok with this and don’t want my partner hanging out w women 1-1 either excepting colleagues for a quick day time coffee or long standing platonic female friends if i…
I don’t think men and women are different this way. Men have their things they do too. What you’re describing is more of an introvert vs. extrovert thing. Many many women including myself have never…
Ok, so I really want to meet someone but I feel completely lost. I'm not attractive enough for dating apps (I'd say I'm a 5/10). I live in a city where there's literally NOTHING to do. I work from hom…
Give me some advice!! Alright so I never have multiple dated or long term dated. Everytime I have been into a relationship was unexpectedly. First relationship colleagues to girlfriend to fiance. …
Maybe, but I wouldn't assume she's interested just yet. I've had 1:1 lunch and/or coffee with colleagues regularly (when there is no business for us to talk about) and it's generally not romantic. Al…
Based on my experiences, I’d say you maybe went about it wrong. You certainly joined the wrong sport, if nothing else- rather than writing the idea off (and saying people with different experiences do…
Yep, definitely seems that vast majority of women are taken, either in a romantic, happily married relationship or they are single and not looking because all their social needs are met through friend…
whole heartedly agree with this. I’ve been going to the same climbing gym for almost 5 years now and people recognize me when I go. I’m part of the community and have been invited to bonfires, potluck…
I go to the gym in our office building and people say hi but otherwise don't really make conversation either. Even the people I already know from outside, we'd excahnge a few word between sets but gen…
Being an over-thinker and not being able to let things go easily has fucked my mental, summer day and joy since Thursday. Last night I baked 2 batches of scones for my boyfriend’s farewell morning t…
I think you are underestimating the experiences of women here. I can’t think of too many times where I have felt comfortable about someone knowing where I live on date 3. And even then you could get…
I would equate actual singles or intentional pairing events on the same or similar scale of dating apps. It’s a bit performative and likely to have a larger amount of single people looking to date bu…
I recently moved to a new country for work. I met someone through a dating app who is 8 years older than me. In terms of career, I had just graduated and was at the very beginning of my professional j…
Apps don’t work, friends don’t have anyone to set me up with, sports leagues have no singles, I don’t work with many women.
I think one can be honest yet tactful. I wouldn't put close family and friends in one circle and colleagues/acquaintances in a different circle. I do agree that being completely honest with close fami…
Moving to Spain, a few of my ex colleagues told me that it can be slightly racist. Again they lived there for around 8/9 months.
Venting cause idk. 32M just moved to a new city 5 months ago. Never had a serious relationship, last “official girlfriend” was back in high school. So I move here and within a month I meet a girl and…
No not really taking energy out of me. It’s more just anxiety inducing. And no my social anxiety hasn’t really dulled overall. But more so in the last year or so but that’s also because I got less dep…
Omg, yes. I got her a job once at a company where I had established a career. She would try to get me to do her job for her and my colleagues would call me heartless when I would establish boundaries …
>Is this a result of chronically online and/or porn culture? Yes it is, most of them will not even have the gall to ask you that in real life or face to face, the internet emboldens people and gives …
I found a great fwb many years ago when I got off the apps. Just spent a spur of the moment date with him yesterday. Great dude that I would not have ever found online since he's an offline person. T…
ICU is not the only place with beds. That being said my comment was not specific to your case but against the medical profession as a whole. A building with high pressure situations where you work ext…
I am offering my thoughts in hopes that something somewhere might help you see things in a new light. This will be long and I will take no offense if you don't read it. >Unfortunately, I think for th…
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I'm a very busy person. Every Monday I play in a tournament for a game I enjoy at a local brewery. Over the years I've been on bowling and volleyball leagues that are generally either Tuesday or Wedne…
Im introverted, but I make myself socialize cuz you need social interaction regardless and I get really depressed if left to my own devices. I’m pretty busy myself, between work, grad school, advisin…
Yeah I know from experience. It took me meeting that Saturday woman several times at a few different meetups before we made a connection. Many are happening so infrequently and with rotating people th…
Interesting.... I thought the Ivy Leagues made it really hard for Asian to get into them. Like we had a Supreme Court against affirmative action and how that negatively impacted Asians so much that th…
I am mostly at home, I enjoy being by myself. I get exhausted hanging out, but I like to be with friends once or twice a week, and one social activity with colleagues. I want to date more though, only…
I just thought of something else and felt the need to vent. I remember being at work and we were talking about trips we took as kids, and I shared the first trip my family took. Everyone talked abou…
OP, I’m so very sorry. Me and my WH and you & your WW are the same ages, will be married 20 years this May. Like you I had a hard time believing this was my reality when the truth came out, but my hus…
Bald is way better than just a few wispy tufts left for sure!!! Also it’s a very common and very standard thing for men to have as a natural part of ageing Some men I know actually look way more att…
We had certain boundaries, he seemed to agree with them, it turns out he only got better at hiding stuff, things as simple and basic as not flirting with other people. He would hide stuff like going t…
Tell her job, friends, family, his wife and work colleagues than ditch her
Yeah, I gave myself a couple of years after divorcing a narcissist and I had a couple of short-lived things, but I just... can't. I like men fine (I'm bi), but I've developed a kind of Pavlovian avoid…
So sorry to hear that. Some things I would do. 1) Get in the habit of documenting all your interactions with colleagues. Don't know exactly what you do at a medical setting when outcomes can be impa…
Yes, there are a lot of Filipinos on my unit. I am east Asian, so I am not a part of their group. The Filipinos on my unit generally talk all day with each other in their language. Their game is al…
1. Being a feminist - you can attract a weak left leaning man. Most guys even left leaning (that I know of) now are detesting that because they never thought female or male is better. You'll likely fi…
I have a colleague from Hawaii who says the same thing to me and always tell me to go there! He is one of the few who will agree that there is racism present in the workplace. His attitude is so muc…
here are some questions which helped me out with this: what do you need that mental stimulation for? do you link it to attraction, admiration? what is missing for you, depth or curiosity? do you equat…