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Here is the Law of Attraction answer: Have you seen the Abraham Hicks Emotional Guidance Scale: Joy / Ecstasy Happiness / Satisfaction Optimism Hope Boredom Pessimism Frustration Ang…

First Day at my Internship — After 218 applications, 25 interviews, 6 Final Round Interviews, and 4 Final Offers I finally landed a UX internship and today’s my first day! On top of that I graduate from college next week! Maybe a…

I’ve been acquired!!! — Call it selling it out or whatever but when another company came calling with that deal and that check, all my hard work, all my team’s hard work, all the long nights finally paid off. Knowing that …

Starting over — Heya, I don’t want this to be a negative thread— looking for some positivity and hope maybe? I (34F) am recently out of a one year relationship. It was my first secure relationship in my entire adult…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…

A lot can change, if you allow it to. — It’s my time to give back to this community. Just to put a perspective to things, I don’t mean to boast. I am not very talented, just stubborn and a hard worker. If I can transform my scenario, so c…

Hard Work or Good / Bad Luck — I have seen hundreds of horoscope in past 3 years. One thing I have noticed. Most of the the successful people use to say they got successful in life just because of their hard work. Same successful …

I don't know the difference between what's real or not anymore — I don't really know where to start other than this experience was over the weekend, and it made me see things in a different way. On Saturday night, I took a gummy, I dabble in it to help with my anxi…

I burned out so badly I couldn't get out of bed for two weeks and the recovery taught me everything about my limits — Last year I hit a wall that I didn't see coming. I thought I was fine. I was working sixty hour weeks, maintaining an active social life, going to the gym, keeping up with everything. I felt like I wa…

Fear of being judged — Today I've messed up a tiny bit, catastrophizing a bit. I've just finished renovating my room with my parents. I love them and I've expressed that multiple times, and often times I feel it's reciproc…

I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …

Tips for staying motivated after disappointment? — Diagnosed ADHD, currently on medication. I have a YouTube channel (promise this is relevant, not advertisement). I spent years deciding whether I wanted to start one and ultimately said yes, I do. I …

How did yall tell your parents you’re moving in with a partner (pre-marital) that was received well? — Looking for some strategies. My parents are Catholic and semi-traditional Korean immigrants. I think they can be pretty liberal, but when it comes to me (daughter), they can be fickle. I have a prett…

I dont know where im heading to in my career and education 19M — https://preview.redd.it/7s56fvztnlsg1.png?width=646&format=png&auto=webp&s=d328fdd1512750c6789de4149c7ded46ab3ea59c Someone please help me out, im unsure what i want to do and im constantly strugglin…

self concept! — i’ve started working on self concept the past month and i wanted to share some things i’ve manifested recently! most of these are things i manifested “accidentally” 😊 1 - midterm questions! twice! …

Looking for advice — Me (31f) and my boyfriend (32m) have now been together for 3 years. We moved in about a year ago and took on quite a big project with a house on some acreage. I have a remote job that I work (just a c…

There are so many things I want to do, but I'm just wayyyyyy too lazy :( — I want to: * have good cardio * be physically strong * have physical skills like the handstand or muscle up * be very mobile and be able to do the splits or forward fold * train jiu jitsu * be w…

Find myself or Find her Again? — I was 16M when I met her and got into the relationship she was 19 at that point but her schooling was equivalent to me because she missed some of the years due to her parents separation. our bond was …

After exam manifestation help!! — So my exams got over on the 15th of march, and regardless of how my exam went, I’m just repeatedly affirming like “ I already have a 98% in my class 12 finals, my mom is really happy with my results, …

Acting like nothing happened after they sabotaged you — When I was about to escape their grasp, they did everything in their power to harass me and sabotage me, I ended up faling back into depression and all my hard work and opportunities were lost. I spen…

What is my (35M) role in my parents (69F)(80M) dispute about chickens — I bought a large property with my elderly parents. I have a house in the back half of the lot and they live up in the front house. Since we have a few acres I thought it would be fun to get a few chic…

Dear parents, why are you even here — For context, my parents immigrated from their home country of China to a western country, Canada. But I’m pretty sure they hate it here. They constantly complain about how everything is worse here, ho…

How to stop thinking I’m better than everyone! — I have a REALLY bad habit of always thinking I’m better than others. For example when I start a new hobby I think to my self “if I start this then I’ll be better then this person” and I hate this way …

I’ve put down my thoughts as to the reasons why I (m53) want to ask my wife (f52) for a divorce. — We’ve been married for 23 years. We’ve got 3 kids: 22, 19 and 12. We own our home, halfway through a 30 yr mortgage, with a low apr. Wife was majority earner, but recently lost her job. I’m inte…

My peculiar version of ladder experiment + how I manifest effortlessly — This is gonna be long, but worth the read. I've been consciously manifesting for years with lots of successes but recently fell off my mental diet a bit (bc I'm human, ayo 😂) so was recommitting to…

HELP! Divorce with 2 kids — Currently going through divorce with 2 kids (UK BASED) I M37 and F36 are divorcing, we have the date now for court reading etc and our home has sold. We both have solicitors but she is being very ha…

My (M25) girlfriend (F25) works too much and it’s taking a toll on our relationship — Our relationship is overall pretty good but I am starting to get frustrated with our relationship sexually and just in general. It used to be great, for the first year. Now in year 3 it’s like I am da…

I’m starting to feel like my boyfriend has no time for me anymore. ( 24F , 26M ) — My bf and I have been together for a little over 1 year . (24F) & (26M) He’s been running his own business himself over the last 6ish months. I live further away, about an hour & 15 minutes. My livin…

I F26 Regret Dumping My Ideal Man M23 — A few months ago I, F26, ended things with the man I’d been seeing M23. We were together less than 3 months, but I genuinely REALLY liked him and I‘m pretty confident the feeling was mutual. He was in…

What kind of therapy is best? — What kind of therapy is best for changing yourself and your life? I’ve done CBT, ACT, DBT. I hate it all. It hasn’t been useful for me at all, basically just therapists telling me to accept the way I…

I (20F) can’t tell if I’ve fallen out of love with my bf (20M) or if it’s just the end of the honeymoon phase — I have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months. He is my first boyfriend and (basically) first everything so I have no frame of reference to tell me whether what I am feeling is normal. We were f…

I got into my dream university — Hii guys i just wanted to share my success story because im just shaking and can’t believe it right now🥹 I wasn’t exactly a “perfect A” student so my competition was tough because it was a top unive…

I need some advice and I need a good one, I don't want to say that I'm a special case but based on every person I have ever met, I don't think what I'm going through is normal. I can vent about so many things but i'm probably gonna go nowhere with what I'll say. — I have come to the conclusion that I can't change, and that I keep getting reminded of that, that I can't get long-term friends, that I'm probably will be laughed at by 95% of everyone behind my back,…

Trying to focus on me - but co parenting is getting to me — so I (35f) asked for a divorce about 3 and a half years ago - he (m52) was a deadbeat, and I felt like a single parent funding his laziness. I honestly feel like I'm still funding his laziness - slim …

My money bowl experience — First of all, English is my second language so I'm sorry in advance for any mistakes. I made my money bowl in December 2025. I was kind of expecting to receive money out of nowhere, like some type of…

I wrote a goodbye letter today. I am not there yet, but I fear I am getting closer everyday. — I would like to start this off by saying that I am sorry for my actions. They were somewhat selfish in the sense that I am not the one that has to live with the pain and suffering that my actions have…

a follow up to a letter to my ex (aka, it gets better) — literally a month ago i wrote out all my feelings for my ex on this sub. i just needed to write it out and vent. the point of it was that i still loved him, and i missed him terribly. it's really cra…

I accidentally conjured a “Jellyfish” Egregore + Encounter with “Devine Feminine” — What did I experience? What Egregor did I conjure mistakenly? Has anyone else experienced anything similar? Please share your thoughts. 🙏….. I have been experiencing orbs over the past year at nigh…

Bothersome comment (24 F) (23 M). Would anyone else feel this way? — A little contex, I’m 24 female and my boyfriend is 23. we’ve been together for 1 year and 2 months now. it’s been amazing so far. a little context is that I have body image issues and he knows that an…

Did I mess up my hard work? — In January, I started the O-method along with journaling and the necessary meditations to manifest a person. It was working! This person ended up in my class, started parking next to me, can’t stop lo…

Feeling lost — My (35M) partner (32F) asked me for a divorce two nights ago. I felt completely blindsided by it. We’ve been in couples counseling for around 6 months working on some long standing issues with communi…

How to deal with 31F and 35M big wealth disparity — I (31 F) have been dating my (35 M) partner for 8 years now. Ever since we started dating there has been a huge income disparity. At the beginning I was still at university relying on my parents finan…

Am I not doing enough? — I (26F) am expected to be like a housewife to my boyfriend (26M). To start, we aren’t married or anywhere close to it. We’ve been together for almost 3 years and moved in together last summer so we’re…

Jupiter Retro and Saturn Retro both placed in same 2nd house — Hi, I want to know your experience with this placement in your birth chart. Here’s my experience: I’m 25 years old and struggling to get a job. I lack communication skills and I am unable to express …

How do I rebuild my confidence and start believing I can be a traditional wife someday after leaving a really toxic relationship? — I am an 18 year old girl and I have officially decided I want to be better. I just got out of a relationship with an older ex boyfriend who constantly tore down my self esteem and I am actively trying…

I feel lost — I’m 16 years old and I feel like I am depressed right now I feel like I’m not great at saving money and I want to have money but I don’t know where to start I work two jobs right now at a banquet hall…

Anxiety about starting therapy — I have been considering finding a therpist for a really long time now (mostly for my anxiety, amongst other things), but I am very anxious about opening up. I have been an intensely secretive person m…

I dont see the point of living anymore — Im not a young teenager anymore Im a 21 adult male, I escaped my abusive parents 8 months ago and close to turning 22 Im a virgin despite being tall and thats because I was abused by my family…

Can an "Awakened" path coexist with a partner in "Survival Mode"? 2 years ended, and I need perspective. — **The Context:** I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years with a man I deeply care about. I’ll be honest: I don’t know much about the "Awakened" world or high-frequency living. I'm posting here because…

Can an "Awakened" path coexist with a partner in "Survival Mode"? 2 years ended, and I need perspective. — **The Context:** I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years with a man I deeply care about. I’ll be honest: I don’t know much about the "Awakened" world or high-frequency living. I'm posting here because…

Yeah. Like I wrote in another comment here - NOONE OR NOTHING will give you proof enough, YOU have to try it yourself. And not the clowny way the people in that sub is whining about or Oprah Winfreys …

You obviously did it wrong. And now you mad as fuck trying to shit on people who got it right. It’s okay, we get it since many of us been there for a brief moment too. But instead of actually learning…

Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…

You can. It's hard work, but you can. LMK if you want know where to start.

It’s been a year (yesterday) since my ex cruelly and coldly discarded me by text (after 18 months of dating… and lots of life experiences).. “I can’t see you anymore, I wish you well”.. It was massive…

It was difficult untill last summer when I joined a men’s group, and got some feedback to my story… at the same time I was deeply committed to learning about avoidant’s and how they manage (or more to…

This is interesting.  I think maybe for a DA who is doing the work to change and heal, you finally open up and once you are open you have a lot to unpack.  My guess is that you've repressed a lot of e…

Exactly. OP is the one (yet another man) who hates women bc mommy didn't love him. This whole post is projection deluxe. Yet refuses to actually work on that (when so many of us do this SUPER painf…

I feel so seen. I had to take breaks from dating due to that built up resentment but also from sensitivity to rejection that I projected onto my worthiness. I’ve mostly dated FA in the past I felt l…

It's simple, but hard work sometimes. 1) you find a small businesses owner 2) you talk them into letting you do a statement analysis 3) you run their statement through an AI tool that finds the sa…

Congratulations! You did that hard work of putting in the time, and now you get to reap the benefits. So important to have a supportive spouse. I also have 2 young kids and it’s keeping me from jumpin…

I'm so happy to hear you've grown as much as you have. Putting the work in is hard work, and you are doing that. Thank you for sharing your journey. My ex is 45 now, we met when he was 38 (I was 35)…

u/TTMI2 It’s really a shame to see sooo many cut throat answers here that leave little room for personal development and growth. These responses are missing a very important point; *attachment styles…

There’s an app called Attached: Attachment Healing that has done more for me than therapy or reading, though both of those are also important. The responsive journaling and personalized guided meditat…

If I didn’t think it was worth it I wouldn’t be pursuing. He shows up in every way supportive, very loving, affectionate, shows pda, disciplined, hard working. if the flaw of me having to learn how to…

I’ll be honest with you it’s not easy but it’s really about creating space between the trigger and the reaction, I’ve been this way before so scared of losing someone or so scared of negative things t…

I dated a ln avoidant who wanted nothing more than to have children. It became an excellent reason to discard people. No one was ever good enough to be the mother of his future children. He’s now 46 a…

I was going to say this too. I thought I was fully healed and now in a relationship and the triggers have resurfaced. Honestly, I feel like I’ve healed more in the last 2 months being in a relationshi…

I can tell you my experience. I have been in a close to 7 year relationship with a BPD ex girlfriend, quit that one more than a year ago, if you know the dynamics you know that's a huge slap in the fa…

First of all, massive congrats on the weight loss and the journey you’re on there. It’s hard work, but it seems you’re killing it. The confidence you get from seeing your body change feels amazing. …

I’ll be in these threads a lot given my current life. He left me after 3.5 years. It’s been a few days since the breakup and I hit one of our shared goals that was going to help us work on starting …

I use whole sign houses so this will all line up. Scorpio rising at 12°01’ conjunct Mars at 9°20’ and Pluto at 11°16’. I mention this because my chart ruler in both traditional and modern astrology i…

I'm afraid I can't help much with those feelings. Those are things you should explore best with a professional. Aka, a therapist. The reason I can't help is because if someone without the training tri…

Lots of venting (as I started writing this I just spiralled into journaling I guess) I am only venting as obviously I am doing things wrong. On Sunday, the guy I was / am seeing and I had a call for…

Having good Saturn aspects. Saturn rules over authority, structures, punishment, and law. With good Saturn aspects you’ll be favored by elders and spared in encounters with authority figures (police, …

Same thing happened to me. Grandparents left millions to my mom and her brothers. Her brothers are smart and hard working and their kids will be fine. My mother blew through it all (and all the mone…

My mother divorced my father, who was an alcoholic when me and my sister were little. Being with someone who is an alcoholic and does little to no effort in managing a family led my mother to cut ties…

Just like when people born into wealth end up wealthy it's because of their great attitude and hard work, right?

you articulated it so perfectly. i have felt this so much. honestly, it’s the root of my depression ^^ is knowing this reality / fact about myself. the fact that i even have to spend time healing. i…

Great response. When we got married, all we thought we needed was love. Being married is hard work, a lot of communication and choosing each other each and every day. No marriage is blissful every s…

I succeeded in accomplishing my wildest dream that I never thought possible. It took years and years of hard work. Reaching that peak was the beginning of the end for me. I thought I would feel relie…

I think there’s a strong tendency for some people to mischaracterize how forgiveness works. As I understand it, forgiveness is a protection against becoming bitter. It never excuses the abuse or the a…

Unfortunately, if you're not willing to put in the hard work so you can get into some recovery, I can't imagine any situation where you're going to have a successful relationship. You're situation i…

Yes - first date goes great, second date kind of boring and feels like hard work. Then I start to wonder if the first date was all that good or maybe I was just drunk? I’ve been single since 2018 lo…

I dated a boy who couldnt tell me he loved me, when i was your age, and he was your bfs age. I told him i loved him at the year mark and he also danced around the topic for days, giving soooo many exc…

I can speculate. They are surrounded with Asians on a daily basis, so they no longer think of "Asians" as a monolith, and are willing to see (and measure) us as individuals. Or, conversely, they m…

I'm 41F and I have definitely had a lot of thoughts lately about "how my life turned out" and how things are so far from how I ever wanted them to be. Not like 41 is ancient, but a couple of years ago…

In our house, we take it in turns cooking and the deal is that whoever cooks, the other does the dishes. This keeps things fair and changes it up a bit. He really needs to understand you’re cohabiting…

I mean, I think two things can be true. People who do get specialized tutoring do have a higher chance of getting in (I have a friend who does 1:1 tutoring, and four of her students just got into spec…

Tbh I went there a lot of the kids were upper middle class compared to my elementary/middle school. Majority of the white, black and Latino people lived in households earning more than $250k. It says …

Edit-editing because I saw your age. You are young. I went through two years of terrible emotional pain because my husband found God and fell out of love with me (despite me also being a Christian, bu…

It's not inferior to any other hobby but i have found gamers to be several undesirable things: bad at convo, avoidant, bad at hygiene, not great at holding down a job, not tidy, not educated, not heal…

Boundaries are terribly hard work. Being out there in the world is terribly difficult. We are constantly having to negotiate boundaries and limits Obviously in this current climate it is even more …

After I finally told my ex to leave, stay away from me, having to pack up his things, box after box of them, take them to a mutually agreed upon place . All of his stuff was scattered all over the en…

I’m doing it right now. It’s a lot of bullshit and worrying about their parenting choices. They only care about themselves and do whatever is best for themselves. They are also incredibly permissive b…

I really recommend couples' counseling (we started doing it 9 months ago, we've been married 16 years). It's super easy with telehealth to find a good fit and it's been hard work but made a huge diffe…

I'm an aries venus and taurus ascendant and I feel influence from both. I feel like they're both hard working signs, and can get angry easily. Taurus being lazy feels like a stereotype to me. Aries pa…

Perhaps imagining the state you want. The clearer your visualization, the more likely it will happen. And meditation. Hard work out also takes your mind off things.

This, my friend is called a trauma bond. When we feel the need for validation from someone who either no longer loves us or didn’t treat us right. It is by far, the hardest lesson I’ve had to learn …

Don’t marry her. Do talk to her. Read The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays. Read this subreddit, r/AsOneAfterInfidelity, and r/supportforbetrayed . These subreddits will give you a good range of vie…