push away

Mind or spirit? Mind... not brain. Subconscious is very interesting just by reading Carl Jung studies... it's collective and universal with its symbolism, it goes even further than culture. So, I'd …

a song about longing for something that never was - disorganized attachment style edition (cathartic release) — Lyrics: I’m standing at a wishing well, One coin trembling in my hand, A promise pressed against my palm, A truth I barely understand. They told me I was unworthy, Long before I learned my name,…

My mom hates me but begs for my attention — I’m new to Reddit so please bear with me. I 24F was raised by my narcissistic and alcoholic mother and father. Growing up, both of my parents were very abusive. My father was physically and my mom was…

My mom hates me but begs for my attention — I’m new to Reddit so please bear with me. I 24F was raised by my narcissistic and alcoholic mother and father. Growing up, both of my parents were very abusive. My father was physically and my mom was…

I never said they tried, but who wants to find out that someone else emotional regulation depends on your constant presence. Again I’m talking about anxious attachment because secure people are secu…

My point is that it’s entirely dependent on the avoidant to be willing to do the work. If they’re not ready, it doesn’t matter how “safe” the other person is. The most secure, safe person will trigger…

I am a FA and I have someone in my life that brings out my avoidance. I used to push away when they would even want a hug but now I don’t fight against it and I give hugs when they need it. It helps a…

Well, but that is indeed the thing: you cannot have a healthy fulfilling relationship without becoming secure! Not as a DA/FA and not as an AA. Extreme anxious will either push away even a secure pers…

I'm a FA femdom and you sound pretty boilerplate FA to me. Classic. I once heard a therapist describe FA as "basically anxious attachment but so far on the spectrum that they circle around and do beha…

Well the anxiety is not about him. Not truly. What is really being triggered? Issues with self worth? Where does that stem from? Likely childhood? It does sound like you are projecting your feelings o…

Insecure attachment + insecure attachment = insecurity. Two anxiously attached people do not make a healthy relationship. Most often one of them will flip to the avoidant side. Because having their in…

I think it's really significant and helpful that you can notice and tolerate your desire to be able to connect more and be consistent. Finding ways to titrate towards this desire (to take small steps …

Ended up having very strong mutual feelings for a newly married women I work with. Nothing physical happened but she clearly had an emotional affair with me. It took a few months but I pushed her away…

> Mind me asking what you meant when you deactivate for 11 years? I was unaware at the time, I'd never even heard of attachment theory. However, I came out of deactivation when I worked on healing my…

Has it worked for you yet? Most people push away their manifestations because of extra effort! If you start by saying "It's already mine!" and then proceed to try to get it, your subconscious mind sto…

Okay so just keep saying it and sorta push away the doubt and keep saying no it’s mine

Funnily enough for a few years, i would say no. I have smoked since i was 19, and i am 52 now. i had CPTSD and then PTSD from an abusive relationship, diagnosed by three different doctors. I had to st…

Interesting. Hmm I will say, lucid dreaming and Monroe’s work has opened me up to viewing some things as plausible that I would immediately discount as fake or made up in the past. One of those things…

Okay I'm not saying the guy isn't a bad person but I'll play devils advocate and say the guy has absolutely not idea how to deal with death and has chosen to push away from the pain instead of being t…

Sound awkward i know but i don't tell ppl that i love them after 3 months i think love is something grows overtime. She is talking about ppl whome she had with them long relationships for years and no…

Dude, I get your point, but you have to understand it’s completely normal to want to believe in something like karma right after something like this happens to you. Sure, after a few years you can loo…

I started dating late; I am much older than you, and I still struggle and forming deep connections. Like you, I tended to panick and push away whenever women expressed interests in me. I did eventua…

That message really sounds like he's going through some serious mental health crisis right now. When someone blocks you everywhere but still says they love you, it usually means they're trying to prot…

Yeah, it does seem like this. I don’t know, what you feel like saving from this. You don’t want to be with somebody who claims they love you, but push away your love.

your boyfriend is being way too harsh here. she literally grabbed your face and kissed you without consent - that's not you breaking trust, that's someone crossing a line you had no way to predict. yo…

Sometimes people need to push away because they are being affected in some way. They might need space or they have been hurt in the relationship. People seem to think that breaking up with someone is …

Personal experience + studying a lot about attachment theory. I myself had avoidant tendencies when I was younger. Didn't feel worthy of love. Would chase inconsistent love and push away consistent, …

It has helped a ton. I also keep my word about eventually giving quality time so it is balanced and a healthy amount of trust. This is especially important w my boyfriend and close friends. If I conti…

chronic pain can really mess with someone's head and make them push away people they care about, but that doesn't mean you should stick around waiting for him to figure it out.

That “hyper power” of sensitivity also make up threats where there are none, make cptsd survivors avoid good people and push away loved ones, leads to black/ white thinking and dissociation that disto…

Your Pisces ascendant has Venus retrograde in Taurus creating karmic patterns where women mirror your own avoidance. You attract then push away. This repeats until you stop chasing validation. Venus d…