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Mind or spirit? Mind... not brain. Subconscious is very interesting just by reading Carl Jung studies... it's collective and universal with its symbolism, it goes even further than culture. So, I'd …
Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…
From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…
Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…
The successful are not here — After years of watching YouTube videos about startup / founder stuff and reading blogs, Reddit, and the horrible place that is LinkedIn, I came to realize that 99.9% of advice (especially in the SaaS …
We built a 5-day Traction Sprint to help startups identify and fix growth bottlenecks - AMA — Hey everyone, I'm part of a team of specialists in brand, UX, and operations. We've developed a 5-day Traction Sprint aimed at helping startups pinpoint and address growth bottlenecks. We've worked …
Not spiralling for not talking to my bf for days now!! — Felt a lil happy so decided to share here. Few months back, if I was in the same situation as now I know that i would have been spiralling and spam calling him. I'm happy it's not the same now. Tho ye…
Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this? — Yesterday I first tried shrooms. I did 15g fresh, which you can expect to be about 1.5g dry ± I've tried acid 2 times before, which were very amazing, intense and long experiences. They theached me a…
Any clue what could have happened? — I took a heroic dose of dmt last year. I had every intention to communicate with whatever I may have seen during the experience. I hit my rig until I couldn't anymore, I had been sitting on my brother…
Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…
Catastrophic incident — It's been a while, and again I'm here with a heartbreaking story. Three years ago a little girl (4 year) in my country got the horribele news that she has neuroblastoma stage 4. She fought this il…
I’m still here begging, while he feels nothing — Right now I’m sitting alone in my room, waiting for a single call from him. I’ve been texting and begging him to talk to me, but he just says he’s “busy and shows no empathy at all....I can’t even tel…
4:44 — Well. It's 4:44 and I found myself immediately awake again. I took the advice of another experiencer and I went outside and meditated. It's been ages since I've seen anything in the skies and I saw a …
breakthrough trip & the bigger picture — Hello, it's me again. I know that there are people here who enjoy reading my experiences so thus my posting. Obviously a disclaimer is this experience is under the influence of a psychadelic, but it t…
any advice would be appreciated. Anxiety. — Over the course of my life, I have always been a very anxious person, but when I got with my partner, I feel like I clung too hard and we are entering a new chapter in our lives where space is somethi…
This start pissing me alot? Need second thoughts.. — I’ve never really dealt with depressed people or people with complicated attachment styles before. All my previous relationships were with women who had what you would call a secure attachment style. …
My 71 year old mother escalated to throwing objects at me tonight because I started vacation from work — Quick intro: I'm a 49-year-old man earning \~$225K/year, living with my 71-year-old mother in a house that's fully paid off. I'm planning to move out within the next few weeks. You can see the post hi…
Pushed into open marriage? (Update) — **Update – Thank you all so much** **Original post here:** [**https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/comments/1sarxj5/pushed\_into\_open\_marriage\_sorry\_just\_some/**](https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/co…
How do I set realistic goals for myself? — Realistic is something I always struggled with. Goals I've always had were too big that my ex never supported me for it and would say everything I wanted to achieve was unrealistic and too hard for me…
I told my wife, 26F, that our baby is mine and that I 25F, did not consider her the other parent. But I don't know if that was a good call? — Hi! This is my first post here. I'm here to talk about an issue I do not know how to navigate. I want to start off by saying that my wife and I are WLW, and have been married for 4 years, together for…
A few questions and can someone recommend me a beginner guide or something like that? — Hey everyone! I'm veeeeeeery new here.. I think I never ever shifted in my life, but I want to learn it.. Someone recommended this sub-reddit so I'm here. If anyone has a beginner guide or anything …
My mom basically told me to stop going to therapy — Context: I'm a 26F that finally broke down and called her a narcissist a few weeks ago. I had showed her the presentation my childhood best friend made in 2024 when I was dreading to see her over Chri…
Therapy is not going well, I don't know what to ask for or where to redirect sessions. — I came here seeking advice for a different path to try or how to ask for or seek the right help, even if it's outside of therapy. This post grew and grew as I found myself struggling to describe what …
Fuck — So earlier today, I got it in my head that I was going to leave my ex a voicemail- just letting him know that I'm here if he needs to talk. Everything ended really badly; if you've seen my other pos…
What would you do if you were in my shoes? — I'm in my 30s and live in a rented house in the UK with my dog who is 6. No family no friends (for a long time -- I can't afford them). Sometimes I have work sometimes I don't -- there really, reall…
Mother keeps guilt tripping me regarding my grandmothers' death. — I am a female in my early 20s. I just want to get this off my chest. I lost my grandmother around 2 months ago. We were super close and she meant the world and more to me. I am also a Muslim, which wi…
I know there is way but I'm shattering myself — This not a positive post but I feel this way and I have no one or anyone to share. I just saw a post on LinkedIn a girl named something. She is a gold medalist at iim indore(prestigious college in In…
My narcissistic hoarder mother continues to collect things and animals, and is now refusing to bury her dead cat. Things are getting out of hand, and I need advice on how to move forward </3 — **I am desperate for help and advice of people in similar situations.** *\* This story contains sensetive topics relating to animal abuse and neglect, as well as mental health topics, if you are sens…
My best friend just had a baby with a man who I think is a narcissist pervert. — Hi everyone. Sorry in advance for the lengthy post but I'm not sure who to turn to. I don't want to ask you guys to do any diagnostic over the internet, but I'm curious is any of this rings a bell w…
I got a local internship offer, but still expected to come work at the restaurant. — After a long battle, I've (23M) finally landed a software development/engineering internship that is not too far from our home. I've been working at our family restaurant since I was a junior in high …
So it's been 4 months... — Currently this morning I'm reminiscing on the good times we had. Specially the sex and yeah, it sucks! we aren't together anymore and I'm here thinking about some of our best and most fun times togeth…
I don't even know. — this is gonna be pretty jumbled. sorry in advance i have family, that have such a detachment when it comes to sexual abuse. most of the women in my family have been abused. I was by my adopted sibli…
To manifest in Latin — Hi, last night on TikTok I saw a girl saying how good it is to manifest in Latin, since, so to speak, Latin is the main language when it comes to manifesting. So today I'm here to Ask if anyone here h…
I'm really happy it lifted your spirit a bit. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here ! Have a BANGING DAY ! Smile. Breathe. Give yourself time to sob but in the same time, limit those tears. They…
Omg I relate SO much to what you are saying. When my ex's affair was discovered he was remarkably cruel to me. He wasn't sure he wanted to continue in our marriage and refused to cut things off with h…
Would love to know what self help books you started, bc I think I'm here
Great observation. Ever since I've had a situationship with an avoidant, I came to notice this a lot in songs. I've heard them written seemingly from the perspective of each side... more commonly anx…
Yeah I tend to agree. Trying to pander to avoidants can be damaging. There needs to be give and take. If an avoidant needs some space to think, ok that's great, but agree when they re-engage in a few …
Well, I sadly had experience with avoidant before and I knew some patterns. Unfortunately for me I didn't recognize it fast enough, at the point where, I think, I could discuss it better and maybe bre…
Your story might be my story if he didn’t break up with me (of course, with having a mature conversation). It lasted a month, and we were thrilled until we first met and it became real and fantastic –…
Text of original post by u/Ok_Marionberry_9086: Felt a lil happy so decided to share here. Few months back, if I was in the same situation as now I know that i would have been spiralling and spam call…
How to balance contact with friends and family after a breakup? I'm here after a breakup less than a week ago which left me in shattered. After doing a lot of reading, I concluded I have very much AA…
Me, not so fast. Physical attractiveness matters, but to an extent. I also look for things like proximity (if I'm here in CA and she's somewhere in IL, how is dating going to work?), interests and hob…
Moving in with a partner sounds cute in theory, but how do you not get into the same trap of having it slowly turning into a transaction thing, and where you simply *tolerate* each other? Living in h…
I am not overloaded which is why I'm here for feedback! On Bumble and Tinder, things are fine. But I hate those apps so I'm not active there. I don't get attention from the people I'm looking for.
I feel like the solution to your communication problem could be "Non-violent communication" by Marshall Rosenberg - you'd have clear patterns for saying things in a respectful but honest way. How co…
Sun sign activated like crazy. I began to do what i loved as a child again, became more outspoken and the introvert in me let loose a little and i started to make friends with my real personality and …
I'm permashifting because I miss where I came from and wanna go home. I don't even know how I got here, but I don't like it and i wanna leave (which will inevitably happen), but taking things in strid…
Then first let me ease that fear. If she genuinely cared about you, and especially loved you, they most certainly did not move on quickly. It takes time to work yourself out of love, and it's a misera…
I'm 17 , actually i had a break up a day before yesterday We were on a break for 1 month , he said it's not working out for him and it was 20 days before my boards . I was freaked out and had panic a…
He left last fall, ghosted, emailed me telling me and that he wanted me to move out but my name apparently was never on the paperwork. So I've stayed...had no other option. Divorce still in progress.…
I'm truly happy that I can help in whatever way I might have. Breakups really do make people act like versions of themselves they never see in any other scenario. The emotional burden is so unique, no…
man, I've been feeling the same as of late, it's unreal. today especially. me and her were together for almost 4 years. domestic. marriage talks at some point. it's about to be 3 years since she walke…
It's tough because she's got a touch of the narc to her as well, so I can't tell her anything lol. But I'm here if she needs me.
She's 26 now, she has to make her own choices. I'm here if she needs me.
I'm here if you need to talk, genuinely. Getting sober is HARD and the fact that you did it massive. One thing that really helped me when I was in that same, can't get out of bed phase was having a st…
I definitely take it as an inner child wounding crying for help. I want to run through the catacombs of my memories and follow her cries until they get louder so I can find her, tell her I'm here to g…
Thank you! Yes, I have commented many many times in these subs about my first marriage and my ex-wife's affair. How my children and I survived and over the years have thrived, me in my new marriage to…
I don't know that's why I'm here
I'm here thinking how much did these people get paid?
Bit harsh but point taken. I'm not dismissing it I'm here asking for advice because I'm worried and don't know what to do. You can't force someone to see a doctor if they're laughing in your face and …
OMG you too??? I talked to oak about this when it first happened and it seems I'm here to hear people's stories. It's a beautiful thing to be seen. My compulsion to discuss these experiences transce…
Just curious, is your mother terrible with finances, too? This is the kind of thing someone who was also an abuser of some kind would say to protect the person in the wrong. Or sometimes women in a pa…
I'm so, so, so sorry. I really didn't remember some of my parents' worst points until I had my daughter. I understand. We just must work on trying to keep those thoughts unspoken. Letting them know th…
What do you think would've helped you in terms of your partners behavior? Like going cold as well when given the silent treatment might not be the best since that's not how she knows me and can cause …
I'm here for the follow. I can't even get past the early stages of dating before i get scared and my anxiety takes over, making me pour kerosene on everything and watch it burn.
Yeah I can see that as well. I'd say the main responsibility would lie with her (she initiated the drinking and you could say she then proceeded to go drink on drink with a guy), but you're definitely…
Anxious attachment coach here. This is one of the biggest struggles of an anxious attacher: learning to find emotional availability attractive in actuality, not just in theory. A few things to remembe…
> I’ll cook something homemade, he’ll order takeout. What the hell? I'm from the Man Committee and I'm here to tell you we took a vote and your husband is failing at being a man.
Quite alot over the years, started with philosophy and psychology then lead me into the spiritual, I'll write a quick look... The chimp paradox The 48 laws of power The power of now Then into spirit…
I understand completely, especially as I get older. I get tired of "my parents did this". Yes they did. Sometimes they did the best they could, sometimes they didn't. My parents were crap. Abusive in …
Good question about the nightmare thing. **Short answer:** I don't know. **Long answer:** My nightmares usually seem to be internally created, based on my worries. Bad dreams my subconscious is t…
You sound amazing! And congratulations on winning awards for your art and graduating with honors. Those are definitely things to be extremely proud of and I'm here to celebrate those achievements with…
I'm here to read the stories now because I don't think I'll really ever date again. Being a member of this sub helps me live vicariously through other people. It also reminds me of the hardships of da…
I don't think I share a lot in common with the people here. I'm a never married while most are divorced with kids. Most of the people that post don't follow any dating screening which leads to most…
Can I just pretend this message is from my cancer bf that took off on me without a word, this would make it a tiny bit better. I know op made this to make themselves feel better but I think they ended…
oh absolutely. it's been here for 7,000+ years. and i do understand why you say that about the aztecs, trust me. but i also know the spanish colonizers doled out a lot of misinformation in their writi…
I'm here on a Thursday night tired from a long day of work. I'm 70 and wish I could give you whatever time I have left... why? Because I just read a post from a Good man. To hear the grace in your wri…
Thank you for this, more people need to see and actually LISTEN to this. My (36m) ex (30m) broke up with me almost a month ago, also due to depression. Of course I did the normal thing of Googling eve…
If you want to be closer to your kids and more emotionally available, there are 2 things you need to focus on. First is less work --you need to spend less time, energy and resources on working and bei…
Nah. I'm here for it.
Yes, it is definitely something conditioned from childhood, and something I still need to work through, as well. When you have someone to validate or "mirror" your emotions, it looks like a parent who…
Yep, I have this exact same feeling. I've been in a relationship for 5 years and now single for almost 1.5 years and I can't even imagine myself to date someone else let alone be with someone else aft…