four horsemen

The 4 ways couples fight, and only one of them actually works — So I went down a rabbit hole reading Gottman's research a while back (the guy who can watch a couple argue for 15 minutes and predict divorce with like 93% accuracy) and the thing that stuck with me w…

Op, WHYYY would you put up with a boyfriend who mocks you? Just want to leave this here. The Four Horsemen are four negative communication patterns identified by John Gottman that predict relation…

It’s over. He ignored you when you were happiest on that date - this is a classic symptom of a bad relationship. See « gottmans four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse » - ditch him. Find someon…

Ugh.. I hear ya. I won't even considered someone who's not a fully licensed informed trauma therapist. My wife and I went to a few associates when searching for couples councilors and it was either a)…

Look up the Gottman’s four horsemen, and have a little read. I think it will resonate with you.

I reiterate that you seem very unhappy in this marriage and you don’t need anyone else’s permission to leave. It’s hard for me to understand why you want to stay married to someone who you describe t…

I think the general understanding within the poly community is that it is difficult to transition from a closed relationship to an open relationship normally.  I edited my last post, this topic is a…