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Losing friends after doing the work in therapy

Wow that's awful. Your best friend sounds very codependent. Once I read this, everything made sense: [https://coda.org/default/assets/File/Foundational%20Documents/Patterns%20Characteristics%202011.pd…

r/CPTSDcomment4/5/2026
Self-help group for anxious attachment?

[Coda.org](https://coda.org) Find your local meeting! Hope this helps🫶

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/14/2025
19 F how do i be less codependent and seeking of external validation

I have a 17yo. And the things we don’t teach our youngers is mind blowing. 1. Learn to digest emotions. Especially the ones that (in your mind) make you a not **nice person** or not a **cool girl…

r/Codependencycomment3/9/2026
I (34F) found out my ex-husband (40M) cheated on me again, after we were supposed to be working things out.

Just gonna leave this here. https://coda.org/find-a-meeting/online-meetings/

r/Codependencycomment3/15/2026
Are you easily get upset or resentful

Well that’s a control pattern. And then an inability to deal straight with people- that could be denial or compliance pattern. Read here about recovery. https://coda.org/default/assets/File/Patte…

r/Codependencycomment3/23/2026
Coda Slogans

https://coda.org/wp-content/uploads/Patterns-of-Recovery.pdf

r/Codependencycomment3/23/2026
What is the difference between being too clingy/attached and being neglected?

What helped me learn what is and isn’t a healthy behavior is the document found at this link. It’s from codependents anonymous and it breaks down any/every codependent behavior and compares it to the …

r/Codependencycomment3/26/2026
Is CODA right for me?

In my experience interdependence is when you feel secure with yourself and dont need other people to get your own needs met. When you can easily accept "no" and recognise what is your responsibility a…

r/Codependencycomment3/30/2026
How honest are securely attached people?

Sounds like you held space and that has to be enough. It’s a lovely blessing. If a friend needed something more it’s for her to ask. You created a safe space. I cannot express how difficult it…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/31/2026
I am (M19) codependent on my girlfriend (F18) and I need to get better

Get to a CoDA meeting. And learn the healthy patterns. https://coda.org/wp-content/uploads/Patterns-of-Recovery.pdf You didn’t really mention what you need to work on.

r/Codependencycomment3/31/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
I have lived in codependency my whole life — parents, sister, now husband. I don't know how to make myself matter.

Start with coda.org. Get the workbook. Start it while you attend weekly meetings. Work the steps. Go to as many meetings per week that you want. Repeat for the rest of your life. The answers will come…

r/Codependencycomment4/4/2026
r/Codependencycomment4/6/2026
Another relationship lost to codependency

"Why is it so hard to stay whole in relationships and not love so deeply that it turns into control?" The answer only lies inside a [coda.org](http://coda.org) meeting, workbook, and your heart. Time …

r/Codependencycomment4/8/2026
I’m starting to realize something that’s hard to accept.

Limerence is when we only see the good in people. https://coda.org/default/assets/File/Patterns%20of%20Recovery.pdf

r/Codependencycomment4/12/2026