Nonviolent Communication

I had to accept my capacity for cruelty in order to hold myself accountable for choosing better behaviors moving forward. I can't change the past. I can make better choices in the present and future…

Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup. — I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known about the anxious-avoidant trap for some time…

Text of original post by u/f1rstpancake: I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known abou…

> I think this is an anxious trait so I want to know if this also happens to you? Why am I reacting like this? Is it justified or is it my insecurity talking? How do you communicate, instead of pullin…

You should check out the book Nonviolent Communication!! There are free PDFs online if you want to try before you buy. I'm moving from AA -> Secure and it has been super helpful. The basic idea is: …

Lol I hear ya. I found using NonViolent Communication techniques helpful

This convo can go really well and bring you back in to leaning in to each other or the opposite. I'd say prepare a quick paragraph of what you wanna say and tell AI to reword it using the principles o…

Definitely helped to have a trauma informed therapist specializing in attachment but here are some specifics I worked on before too. 1. Learning how to regulate my nervous system after a deactivation…

Therapy helped! Learning the patterns and that feelings won't literally kill me, helped me. Plus the book "nonviolent communication" gave me a framework in which to operate. Also explains that no on…

From a feeling perspective recall what felt like the top few gifts they gave you. It’s more likely an experience or feeling than a physical item. What did they give you that really resonated? Remember…

I think you should look into Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B Rosenthal. You can read the book if you need it, but you can also just look up the basic tenets online. It breaks down how to comm…

Hey! You’re in a really tough situation. I wanted to throw two things for consideration: 1. You wrote “But the only time I step away or ask for a break is when things are getting tense and we’re clea…

A good book is NonViolent Communication. It talks about how to identify what your real needs are and communicate them effectively. The rest requires self awareness to be able to notice when things a…