liking them

When you say you "actually like them", what does that really mean? Is that when you've gotten to know them well enough to understand how they approach relationships and communication? When you've seen…

Projecting insecurities — Hi everyone, I’ve just realised something that I’ve been doing which I think is both an outcome of my low self esteem and also a way for me to find excuses to end relationships when otherwise I have n…

22F/21M – BF still watching twerk videos after I’ve brought it up multiple times — I (22F) have been with my boyfriend (21M) since high school. We’ve been living together for about 2–3 years now. I’m currently a full-time student planning to go to law school and also working in leas…

30F do I have a crush on my 33M brother in law?? — I’ve been married for 10 years now and have 1 beautiful baby girl. I’m very much in love with my husband but there’s been something on my mind for the past few years. Me and my husband’s younger broth…

I feel like if it’s only been a week and you haven’t gotten physical and you’re not feeling it, it’s best to just leave. Running from a strong connection is different from running from someone you don…

Thanks for that insight! >he would ask me “how are you doing?” In the morning. I didn’t know why at the time, but that question used to really annoy me. I can resonate with this. While usually I app…

Honestly I feel the exact same way as you do. The number of times when I’ve been getting to know a guy and couldn’t care less if they lost interest or not, then once I start liking them I become obses…

This might be very similar to yours, but openly expressing interest. I've never had a man be anything less than thrilled when I've been open about liking them, being attracted to them, or wanting to …

i dont like taylor swift and so i just didn't listen to her lol. you don't have to like and share everything your partner likes. if you can't be playful about the things you disagree on, then yeah it …

I'm sort of losing my drive over dating tbh. It's I think for me challenging, almost hurts me, that I meet guys I actually think are great but their intent towards me isn't that they want to actually …

Congratulations on finding a healthy relationship. Mine did give me an apology for hurting me which I believe is genuine but won’t go on to say why it happened or why there was no attempt to work thin…

I'm a 1.5th Gen East Asian American and a Gen Z, Idk if your definition of boy would fit for teenager? Or just kid under age 12? I came to US around 13 so already a teenager, I went to a middle class…

Casual sex requires a super rare mix of enough physical chemistry but absolutely not liking them enough to want to hang out with them. It’s just not often you run into that and in my experience, event…

As a woman, finding a man who does all those things is rare as well though. I could flip the genders in your first paragraph and it would still be true, so the fact it's rare is kinda moot to the issu…

Thanks Yh I’ve been meaning to do heart chakra work. I maybe should’ve phrased my post better because the focus has become the shop incident when it was very minor and I reacted very positively to i…

Counterpoint: if you’re wanting a LTR, those take time and effort to build. If you just go off “chemistry” you’ll be selecting more for a flash in the pan than a lasting relationship. If everything el…

I had to change a lot of things to stop reaching out (and like any addiction I cannot guarantee I'll never relapse) but one was reframing my thinking. It goes like this: if this person doesn't want to…

The insecurity doesn't lie in disliking them - everyone is entitled to their opinions - but rather in the bashing, belittling, and his bogus claim meant to beat her down emotionally.

I found CBT to be too cerebral for a condition that often causes people to retreat from their emotions and into their mind. Like, if I could have thought my way out of trauma I would have done it long…

I like this person. I’d like to like this person forever. This person makes liking them forever really easy even when life is hard.

I was a livestock tech for the most part and had been teching since the age of 15 as a volunteer and until my early 30's. My tolerance for dogs dwindled down as I got older. I had also been attacked 3…

Sorry man. There’s a lot of hurt out there. There’s some women so used to shitty dudes or low self esteem or whatever baggage that if you have some modicum of charm and treat them with common decency…

I have Tinder and Hinge. Hinge I’ve not gotten a single match from me liking them, but I’ve gotten like 2 matches from those who liked me first, one of which I went on a date with. Tinder I have tons …

Confused by post. Don’t you have to like them too before it’s a match? Why are you liking them?

Thank you for clarifying. I'm not licensed in anything, so this is all conjecture. I think people become dependent on external validation for myriad reasons. I would assume it's included in the desc…

I always called the first “date” a meet and greet because that’s what it is. Also, it sounds like you didn’t really much click with this woman anyway so why is it rejection? Someone once told me it’s …

Could just be you not liking someone like that but liking them as a person, or has this happened before/you notice a pattern going back? If it’s just this one guy it’s probably nothing to worry about …

40F here. I was on BC for most of my adult life (irregular periods). Last year I decided I didn't want to be on it anymore for a few reasons. I told my partner, "we're using condoms now because i do N…

ding ding ding! the whole not liking them thing is the most obvious BS to try to placate their SO ever! It's crazy how often that does seem to work though I mean come on the co worker is creepy so …