role model

i think it was as attempt to get the " daddy dont wants me" wound solved . i was physically attracted, never had proper social contact in my life and wasnt able to read between lines. he was always …

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Recommend podcasts / videos about healthy male roles and positive masculinity — Early thirties male and I feel my brain needs some intel on being a better male role model. Emphasis on role model. Things I never learned or observed growing up. Can you recommend a podcast host or …

Calling AM on her bluff, even if it means she becomes homeless — \*\*\*\*Warning this contains Abuse, this is not for everyone if you’re under 18 please do not continue reading this. I’ll try to make it brief. My AM was a single parent of 5 kids. That’s where he…

Jack of all hobbies, master of none? — Kind of a silly topic but ever since I was little I’ve been decent and passionate about so many hobbies. I bake, lift weights, sew, crochet, draw, read, enjoy movies, producing beats, philosophy, lear…

Asian-Americans say they are still seen as foreign, study finds — Survey shows more than half face ‘perpetual foreigner’ bias, with higher stress levels and exclusion across daily life **Like many Asian-Americans**, US-born Tiffany Chin has faced her share of sligh…

Gets mad at me for not being home just so I can be their crutch — I literally can’t stand my APs. I’m 23 years old working part time but I still pay for my bills at home. My dad is in his mid 50s and mom is approaching late 40s. Mind you my dad owns his business doi…

DEA not have a roll model growing up and it's made you the way you are? — \*\*\*Yes I know I put DEA not DAE but I cant change it\*\*\* I was very loved by my parents, but they weren't role models. I didn't have any siblings and wasn't close to extended family. I don't r…

Men without children — This one is for the men who don't have children- maybe because you never wanted them, maybe your past partners didn't or for whatever reason- it just never happened. I (F41) have read enough posts to …

Fuck my family , fuck asian culture , fuck this country, fuck everything. — Im Korean 20 years old and I hate this fucking country and values. People are all savages who live off material goods and see NPCs as stupid robots, functions that should work and do nothing else in …

The importance of Asian male role models — I'm a long time lurker and I'd like to share my perspective as a half Asian millennial guy in the US. Having strong Asian male role models has been key to my development as a person. My dad was Chine…

Why are East Asian men in US/Western media so often portrayed in such a narrow way? — East Asian international male grad student here. I’ve been in the US for a few years and it feels like 9 out of 10 East Asian men I see in American media are portrayed in a certain way. I mean charac…

The fact that someone as terrible and disgusting as me has been allowed to live this long is the world's worst joke. — **(This is a repost of a post I made a while ago, which I am reposting because I'm back in a slump again. There aren't any major changes other than the ending bit.)** 20M. This might be the longest p…

i’m a “bad role model” for my siblings. really? — “you set a bad role model for your siblings by leaving a mess of a room.” oh thanks, i forgot to clean my room because i - balance a job that has me sleeping 4hrs nightly - wake up at 5am daily beca…

What does a good relationship looks like right after honeymoon phase? — I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (36M) for around seven months now. This is the first time I'm in a relationship with an emotionally mature and available person. But we're at a phase of relation…

Helplessly lonely and bitter — Helplessly lonely and bitter Hi reddit! I’ve been around on reddit for a while now with different accounts, now made a throwaway to contact humans in some form and if not ask for help, at least dare…

Having a misogynist father — Title says it all. Classic unavailable, unequipped to become a parent father who was the breadwinner and was allowed to emotionally act out towards me, my mum and sister growing up. Probably gave me s…

I am a genuine disgusting, horrible piece of shit, and I don't know what to do about it. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD (I'm not officially diagnosed) and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years…

Was I destined for divorce? — My soon to be ex wife is fourth generation divorced, including me. Her great grandmother, grandmother, mother and now her, have all been divorced. I am the first in my family, extensively, to be div…

How I tap into more of my Potential each day — I ask myself “What can I do today to tap into more of my Potential?” I also write down a list of empowering beliefs about myself and the world every single day and then ask myself: “If I was this v…

Share your role models thats helping your healing journey atm — Finding good role models when we didnt have ourselves is hard, specifically because we ourselves do not know how it looks. Im personally curious over the years u guys been continuing to learn of yours…

I am in burnout and all I wish is that I had a family who loved me — It would take a lot to tell my whole story but I will try to be concise. I have Complex PTSD, from a extremely difficult childhood. I have a family that I am not close to, even though that is the on…

This is a long one — My ex (30m) and I(32f) broke up about a week ago. We started dating in November 2025. Each of us had left a relationship recently (like less than a month). The beginning of our relationship we click…

Was I ever in Love? Me (28) & He (27) — OK, this is my first Reddit post, so cut me some slack - I'm gonna talk to y'all how I talk to my bestie. And I'm kind of beating a dead horse here, so I'd rather not bother my bestie with this AGAIN.…

DAE have extreme workaholic nparents? — My Ndad is a complete workaholic, to an extreme amount, expecting 20 hour workdays, sleeping at the office and constantly bootlicking corporate. When I was a kid, he was never around, always at work.…

Don't even get me started on how dysfunctional people are with relationship skills these days. Absolutely based on lust, transactions and selfishness. Most younger people have ZERO clue how to love. T…

Idk if this counts but it seems conservatives/maga really want to latch onto her and claim her. I saw posts about how she took her pronouns out of her ig bio and that was to show she was one of them …

Thank you. Ugh - I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. It is crazy to me how little love they reciprocate, guilt free, vs what they manage to receive from people like us. You’re right - I nee…

Love them both!!! ❤️🥰❤️🥰❤️ such amazing role models they are

I'm a therapist and I'd highly recommend healthygamergg's content for this sort of thing. I'll link some relevant videos of his below. [Stop Being a Low Value Man](https://youtu.be/or6A1Pl04ss) …

I’d never take a chance on a financially unstable partner again. I was lucky to leave my marriage without sharing in the unpaid debts of his business (that he lied to me about) or the six-figure tax f…

Assuming you mean in Western cinema (because there are many in non-western cinema, as well as sports and other industries), I'd argue that the following were great representation for Asians: 1. Sung …

Yup, if we trace back, we will realise that this usually happens because of our childhood. Once we find the root cause and start working on it, we will see the effects taking place in our relationship…

She's checked out. Divorce her. No effort in return is grounds. Life is too short. Plus, consider what you're role modeling for your teenagers.

So there's a couple of things to consider. It's usually not just one energy that causes what you're experiencing. It's also usually not just one mechanism that causes what you're experiencing. Human…

I saw you put that it was way too late to realise what your mother was. But it’s never too late to recognise that someone is hurting you regularly and stopping whatever they’re doing to hurt you. You…

Role model up here! Everyone has needs and feelings. They're usually there for a reason. Running from them instead of addressing them won't ever get you far in long-term relationships. 99% of the tim…

It doesn't, but I think that's because the individuals in the documentary seemed unable to articulate those kind of thoughts. If there's a reason for the rise of the red pill type influencers, whether…

so they're lost young men who lack good male role models and end up vulnerable to more extreme and what seems to me, bitter, content?

Further to my other reply. It is normal and expected that children distance themselves from their parents in teen years and the influence parents have over them is greatly reduced. By age 15 most …

I don’t agree that it’s enough. I think we need to surround our kids with positive role models. We need to actively discuss these topics with our children. (Girls too, they need to know what’s ou…

I couldn't agree more with this. Growing up, I used to look at my parents as just that. I saw athletes and other celebrities as role models more than them. My dad would always say that he should be lo…

So sad for the young men out there. Clearly, these men have not been taught how to talk about their feelings with a woman. They are desprerate for strong, kind smart role models. some ideas 1. We…

I didn’t call you a misogynist, I said your talking points were because they are. and you can keep repeating DARVO all you want, the goalpost won’t be moved. back to the point—calling a few feminist…

Never share a bank account again. Never trust someone with your hard earned money. This boy/man is a 🚩thief, 🚩liar, 🚩lazy, and bad role model for your son. Leave without looking back. Find a roomma…

He worked through nothing, you just accepted his cheating and he went on his merry cheating way. No one can be saved, but you can step up for your children and offer them a positive role model by not …

"...but do we honestly think modelling character is enough here..." No I don't think it is because it doesn't get to the heart of the problem the people at risk are experiencing. Me modeling what a …

Yes, people can be saved, but u have to realize YOU ARE THE ONE THAT NEEDS SAVING! If not for yourself do it for your children, to show them that mommy is a strong woman and doesn’t need a man to feel…

From personal experience of once being sucked into it for a few months/years: It is not "absent or abusive father figures", but slightly more than that. "absent male role models". Not all role models …

Ah yes, I think my mom is quite a bit like that, perhaps some level of autism and narcissism - her parents were traumatised by WW2 and kinda never developed past 20 something. She was kinda parentif…

Yes- only to be discarded again because I required truth and honesty about his serial cheating revealed To his children and my own. Real Repair begins with acknowledging all the damage someone like th…

This one, big time. You and your husband are your kids’ first relationship role model and at this point, your husband is teaching them that it’s OK to cheat and you are teaching them that it’s OK to a…

As with nearly all societal problems, they are societal in nature. The nuclear family/highly individualized viewpoint is a modern one, and especially a modern US one. It's not one shared in most of th…

Your fiancé sounds super insecure. Insecure men use controlling behavior, are jealous and possessive. Insecure men will not provide you with a healthy partnership in marriage. You’ll find your opinion…

First it’s little comments about how your body is not what he wants in a woman. Next, it will be something else, and then something else. I think if a man is so hung up on how you look and is willing…

Yes! Then we are met with shame and guilt and they wonder why we have ✨depressions✨. I do think they didn't get treated right as kids so they see it as their right to repeat that to the next generat…

Your strength is legendary; you are a role model for the rest of us. May you feel our immense love constantly and forever on your journey through- as you so beautifully said it- the river of endless b…

This reply by you is the key to understanding your natal KITE aspect pattern. \[Might you be the duckling in childhood that becomes the adult swan who can provide a role model for others … as a surviv…

I’m sorry you had emotionally negligent parents too - growing up with someone like him severely stunted me. I didn’t really have a mom but she wasn’t good either even when she visited annually. The cl…

In my earlier comment to you … I wrote :- “This reply by you (to astrolisha) is the key to understanding your natal KITE aspect pattern. \[Might you be the duckling in childhood that becomes the adul…

most men dont seem to want to be a positive influence on boys. and thats exactly my point. if you take a look at the coments regarding any news about boys being raped or groomed by a teacher, most men…

I am not talking about physical strength. Asians are not the majority in most of America.  There aren't a lot of Asian role models in the US. We are barely 15% of California's population. If we …

Demographics are the first step. East Asian passing people have some of the highest rates of out-marriage. Things like political, media, and corporate leadership is more possible if there is at leas…

If I was a young boy I would want some positive role models, and for someone to call out the bullshit. Living the way these men tell people to live in the manosphere sets you up for loneliness and sha…

You called it a deeper discussion, he called it you just getting emotional. Yuck I can’t imagine what your arguments are like. This is the role model you want for your kids? There is no changing or re…

I was the eldest son - I had to be a role model, and a servant. Constantly eating shit sandwiches of responsibility and not rocking the boat. Couldn’t socialize or learn to date, because that would be…

It’s all personalized to you and whatever you resonate with. So only you can create it for yourself. The generic ones aren’t as powerful. It needs to resonate with you and ideally, be something that y…

Never go along with a "joke" at your expense. If you're hurt or humiliated by your partner it isn't fodder for comedy. Even if it's just the two of you in the room, the intention is for him to get you…

Yes. I was "raised" by a single parent since my mother never immigrated. It was a weird dynamic where my father was "physically there," but he really didn't do much as a parent beyond basic necessitie…

I always over function the heck out of repair with partners. I role model, I support and set up conversations. I hadn’t realised. No more. We’re human, it’s normal to make mistakes. You don’t fix. You…

I don't think absent role models is the issue bc a lot of underprivileged people don't see positive role models of themselves. Almost every single trans person/character I see (which is VERY little) i…

I was the child of a workaholic mother. She threw us elaborate birthday parties, was at every soccer game even though she hated watching soccer, and like you said about yourself, on paper she appeared…

Lots of good comments in here already, but I wanted to add: what hurts me a lot now in adulthood is seeing how unhappy my parents were & still are to this day. Honestly... it is not good as a kid to g…

I'm sorry for your loss and all the pain you've been through. It's been a few years since your wife's death, but it sounds like you still need time to heal and process your grief. There are single…