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girlfriend (20F) and i (21M) aren't fighting. we're just… fading. and i don't know how to stop it

girlfriend (20F) and i (21M) aren't fighting. we're just… fading. and i don't know how to stop it — me (21M) and my girlfriend (20F), together 1.5 years. no cheating, no blowup, nothing dramatic. just this slow quiet drift that's been happening for the past two months and neither of us knows how to…

r/relationship_advicepost4/8/2026
The dreaded day has finally come

The dreaded day has finally come — I've been low contact with them for years but one of my literal nightmares has come to fruition, dealing with my parent's hoarder house. They're in their 70s, increasing mobility issues, and have fill…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/4/2026
I (28F)chose someone (28M) I knew was unstable and now I don’t know if love is enough.

I (28F)chose someone (28M) I knew was unstable and now I don’t know if love is enough. — I feel like this is one of those situations where I already know what people are going to say but I’m going to share it anyway.  My boyfriend and I have been together off and on for 10 years, since w…

r/relationship_advicepost4/10/2026
My nMom passed away. I handled her final days, funeral, and possessions.

My nMom passed away. I handled her final days, funeral, and possessions. — ​ Growing up, I was always told that I looked exactly like my mother. I was her “spitting image.” I sounded like her, had her mannerisms, her laugh—everything. My younger brother also looked …

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/12/2026
I feel like no one talks about parental co-dependency…

Nobody talks about it because it looks like closeness from the outside and felt like being chosen from the inside. The child who becomes the parent's emotional anchor gets elevated to a special status…

r/Codependencycomment3/10/2026
What are the most infuriating sentences your ex has said to you during or after the breakup?

Personally in my situation no. I communicated the need for change more times than I could count and even broke up and got back together once before, so he had his chances.. If we were to get back to…

r/BreakUpscomment3/12/2026
Husband suddenly wants to end our marriage and says it’s because of sex. We have a toddler. I also discovered he’s been dishonest about where he’s been. Looking for perspective.

Unfortunately, relationships can develop a dynamic where one partner is over-responsible and the other is under-responsible. You’d think the over-responsible one would grow resentful, but it’s the oth…

r/Divorcecomment3/14/2026
Husband suddenly wants to end our marriage and says it’s because of sex. We have a toddler. I also discovered he’s been dishonest about where he’s been. Looking for perspective.

Same thing happened to my marriage. I was the over-responsible one and one day my husband decided he never really was committed to begin with. So he just left. This happens all too often honestly. Wh…

r/Divorcecomment3/15/2026
Are My Expectations Too High?

There are plenty of men that don't have ED issues, and the responsible ones manage it. I'm 57m, and have had some issues in the past, nothing that was long term physical. Mostly headspace and meds. …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
NATAL SATURN SERIES: IN THE 4TH HOUSE

Not a 4th house Saturn native, but I've studied this placement a lot and one thing I notice across charts is how often it correlates with becoming the 'responsible one' in the family way too early. L…

r/astrologycomment3/29/2026
Anyone else disinherited by their parents?

My emotionally volatile & physically abusive father just passed away. He traveled 5 out of 7 days of the week & was a nightmare to me growing up. As an adult, he (didn’t apologize, he was frequently w…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/31/2026
The dreaded day has finally come

I would talk with the nursing facility about his home being unsafe, and maybe they have social workers. Medical professionals always assume you have a safe home and supportive family members unless yo…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/5/2026
Spousal Support

Sorry you are going through this. The divorce process and legal system absolutely sucks and frequently ends up punishing the responsible one. It can feel incredibly unfair.

r/Divorcecomment4/9/2026
Spousal Support

I went through something a bit similar. When my spouse worked, he made more than I did. However, he could not hold a job for more than a few months and spent any money he did bring in on crazy on crap…

r/Divorcecomment4/9/2026
Spousal Support

Similar situation. My ex refused to work anything but entry level jobs for the last 10 years of our marriage and would quit after 1.5-2 years - even when she got a "dream job" she'd talked about for …

r/Divorcecomment4/9/2026
(28F) Seeing a guy (30M) tomorrow and I have a cold sore, would you avoid kissing me?

Uhm. YOU should be the responsible one and tell him that you won’t kiss him or perform oral sex because if this. Man…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
Were they also enmeshed with their family members?

Oh wow this is so eerily similar. Nex's parents divorced, dad moved a new wife and her kids into his house and neglected his own kids for a time, who were living with an indebted mother in council hou…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/11/2026