date yourself

I know it can be expensive but you mentioned in your original post you have a good career. You also, in your own words, are desperate to date someone. Are you really not able to come up with ~$100 dol…

Dating yourself? And dating friends? — I was broken up with about a month ago. There’s a lot of confusion and sadness, as well as a big identity switch. My relationship was a big part of my identity, so now I feel very lost. I’ve been th…

Would you date yourself? — I was talking with a friend recently and they were bemoaning the lack of conversations they had had on dating apps recently. We got talking about the things they said and what their profile was like a…

This sub is the clubhouse for anxious people who stayed for years with an avoidant. Allow time to heal you, 6 months from now you won't recognize yourself. Your healing begins today. Congratulations f…

Like others said it is fine to not want to participate in small talk. However, the point of the therapist is to give you feedback on your issues and problems w your mentality. He is doing his job when…

Oh! Here's what worked for me: * Practice Mindfulness -- It may not be the same for you, but for me it was meditation (always guided) and breathwork. * Get outside -- for me this is connected to mi…

That's so hard... That's such a long time to be with someone and such a shared history. To validate yourself a bit for your struggles, I do think you're still in the thick of it right now and some rum…

No no no, don't minimize or invalidate yourself like that, you have nothing to feel embarrassed or shameful about. What you're doing is the equivalent of saying you should be ashamed of being hospita…

Wear foam earplugs to help dampen the noise. I have to do that with people because I get headaches or even migraines from the way people cough or talk. Certain pitches and tones hurt my head worse tha…

Trauma exists on a spectrum, as do its symptoms and effects. What you experienced was destabilizing and impacted your ability to feel safe in the world. Neglect by mentally ill caregivers absolutely c…

I was just working on this. I learned that your inner child needs to be validated That's why it stings and you can't let it go even though you really want to. Been there done that. I'm to find out …

Hey, I'm a mom too.  Depressed, burnt out, exhausted. I worry so much that I'm fucking up my kids' lives.  They already have to deal with divorced parents, and now they have a mentally unwell parent o…

Dude the cool shit is I just recently got this. That love I was looking for was inside me so you don’t lose the love you searched for you redirect it internally it’s self-love super awesome you no lon…

What about the men are you chasing? Like, is it physical attraction? Chemistry? Feeling less lonely? External validation? What is it that your nervous system is craving that you believe a man will be …

You don't pick a single technique. You approach it as trial and error experimentation because other people can't choose an optimal meditation practice for you. You systematically go down the list of …

On the flip side, I have done a small amount of trips/activities with women, but plenty more solo. Looking back, I had a great time, saw a bunch of super cool things…but there were moments I wish some…

At almost 31, I’m going to share some advice that has taken me years to understand. Sometimes our parents are incapable of meeting our basic needs, such as kindness, validation, care, love. You can …

Don’t give so much of yourself to someone who isn’t committed to you. Date yourself instead

I have considered my win in past breakup. When the breakup happened, first I reached out to my girlies. Watched this movie"how to be single" as many times as possible. There is a podcast called - Dat…

this might be a useless tip for you (im going thru the same thing), but what helped me was writing every "rebuttal" down in my notes app. i.e. if they said something was a problem, id write down how w…

Do you care about yourself? Cuz caring for this guy indicates otherwise. Financial abuse is a red flag here. This guy might be your first but he shouldn't be your last. He's set the bar so low you can…

This. Sedate yourself.

Hey. I have the same questions in my head when it’s about my trauma. And I didn’t even experience CSA. Some days ago I was laying in bed and had the thought that I actually don’t NEED anyone to valida…

Pattern recognition is screaming in my face on this one! OP I’m not even going to hit on his absurd take about gaining 10lbs. He’s a useless child & under 1year is not enough to get lost in the sunk c…

It depends on the depth of “feel better”. A hookup is the equivalent of fast food. You will feel good about it for maybe a week at most and it will remind you that there are more fish in the sea but t…

It’s ok! Don’t be hard on yourself, when you love someone I don’t think you completely get rid of those feelings for a long time. That doesn’t mean you can’t start enjoying your life. I haven’t been …

Treat it like your own secret loss. Mourn it. Feel it. Breathe it out. You don't have to be ok. You don't need to be believed. You know what happened and that's all you need to validate yourself. Yo…

Allow yourself to be angry and sad. Don't keep any in you, any amount of that lingering pain will one day creep up and it's going to hurt a lot worse. Just because it happened doesn't mean you have to…

Fuck yeah, I am rad. If you wouldn’t date yourself it means you have self esteem issues and probably shouldn’t be dating.

I think the question is more about whether you’re dateable, not whether you’re looking to date a person just like you, which seems to be how many interpreted the question? I like the question. It’s a…

trust in your guts. if you feel strange into your stomach after or during interaction with him, chances are you've been manipulated. some narcs can pretend to remorse and change their behavior, espe…