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I know it can be expensive but you mentioned in your original post you have a good career. You also, in your own words, are desperate to date someone. Are you really not able to come up with ~$100 dol…
A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…
Energy healing. How it works and what does the “patient” have to do so it is successful!! — My main technique when performing energy healing is that I don’t “put” some other energy or mine into patients body. I work with their energy since I believe they have all energy they might need for a…
It Was Always About You — I thought I would share an experience I had a while ago that really changed my understanding of Neville’s teachings and manifestation in general. **How it started** In 2022 I was very into occultism…
You’re Enough — As Asian men in the west we’ve been told directly/indirectly a number of negative things about our self worth, lack of value as a partner, (insert your negative Asian male stereotype), etc… A lot …
Stop being a fixer, and get the relationship you truly want! — The biggest lesson I've learned in love is that it's ok to be selfish. People come on this subreddit because they want to learn how to walk perfectly on eggshells so their sisuationship won't end. I'm…
The way i am raised affect the way i do everything and its so annoying — I can't tell people im busy sometimes. I remember the first time I said "mom, im busy i got to finish homework. I can do it after I read" my mom hit me so hard i bled. I can't stand up to for myself…
How I’ve helped myself the last 2 months — So after 5 years together, me (29M) and my now ex gf (28F) split up and it went very cordial and respectful to one another. I will say that she was the person in my life for the period we shared toget…
I need more than just “Love yourself” — I wrote a lot about my situation and then my phone died and I lost all progress 😭 so for now I’ll keep it short and sweet and I’ll maybe update this/make a new post with all the details. I’m a 20yr…
I Spent My Life Trying to Control Others.Until I Learned to Control Myself. — As someone who has been trying to control and manage people my entire life, I find it hard to believe that all I had to do was control how I feel, my thoughts, and what I do. It’s literally mind blowi…
Unconditional Acceptance & Love for Self expresses itself! — Hello everyone. I thought I'd share with you all an incredibly beautiful insight I've stumbled upon from direct experience with life itself. When we learn to love and accept ourselves as the being th…
It's better to enjoy your own companionship than being in an unhealthy and immature relationship — Just came out of a very weird breakup, and I was completely emotionally drained near the end Sometimes you give your all, and it still doesn’t matter because it’s not enough for the other person. I’…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 2 — SELF-CONCEPT (roll those drums caz i got my tea and i got to PREACH) i can claim to be the GOD of self concept i swear on me i got it baby and i got it sooooooo goooood (please take what you will …
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 2 — SELF-CONCEPT (roll those drums caz i got my tea and i got to PREACH) i can claim to be the GOD of self concept i swear on me i got it baby and i got it sooooooo goooood (please take what you will caz…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! - PART 3 - IT'S YOU! (NOT ME) — THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS!- **IT WAS/IS ALWAYS YOU** Never me , nor anyone else. No post in here could make you get all your desires, no coach could teach ya all that you wanna know about…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! - PART 3 - IT'S YOU! (NOT ME) — THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS!- **IT WAS/IS ALWAYS YOU** Never me , nor anyone else. No post in here could make you get all your desires, no coach could teach ya all that you wanna know about…
I feel like I'll never be able to live normally after being cheated on. — I need some support. I(21F)'ve been with my boyfriend(26M)for a year and a half and we planned future together. More than two months ago I had the opportunity to go through his phone after big fight.…
Self love through cooking date-night meals for myself has helped me immensely — Generally, I used to really detest myself, however things have slowly been getting better with therapy and separation from the main source of discord in my life. I say discord, but really my love is p…
Maybe you do need to love yourself (27M) — This is for someone who might need to read this. I will be glad if my experience inspires you. 6 months post breakup, the relationship itself wasn’t long, but it ended suddenly and my actions pushed …
I make my life worst — Im 17. I am dumb, no early childhood achievements, no achievements at all that are important, probably not any at all. Im a complete idiot, I can’t reason, analyze, follow instructions, common sense a…
To you, yes you, the one reading this — If you feel like you're never going to get better, you WILL. You were the perfect package, just delivered to the wrong address. The right person IS coming, but the only person that can save you thro…
Lessons learned from doing and breaking no contact — I broke no contact about an hour ago and it actually went well. I was on day 5 and after reading through reddit for a while I learned what an avoidant partner was. I reached out to let her know that I…
Manifested him — I manifest my SP just by saying oh he texted whenever I opened whatsapp, i just said that & closed whatsapp, saying ya ya I will reply ( a little attitude you) and then forgot about it Also I stop …
Is Self-Love Hard — I’m a parent with a history of childhood abuse, and I’ve been trying to make sense of something that’s been coming up for me in parenting. I thought I had already dealt with my past, but parenting ha…
How do I (23F) cope in a relationship with someone who has depression (22M)? — My bf and I have been dating for almost 6 months. We started dating right before winter rolled around and he felt like a dream come true until the past few months. He is medicated and does go to thera…
I have realised anyone that give out a bit of hate and blame and then says they deserved better, no indication of any part being their fault. — you were the problem as you highlighted the issue but not the lead up. think deeper into guys really it opens alot more to grow and heal with yourself and the regret of the position you and I and all …
Trying to Be Happy Despite Feeling Like I'll Never Meet My Person — This is probably a very common complaint for people going though the divorce process. I know it's nothing unique, but I just wanted to share this with other people somehow. Ever since I was very you…
15 things I learned the hard way from my breakup — 1.Loving someone more than you love yourself is not romantic it is self-destruction . 2.The moment you start shrinking yourself to keep someone comfortable, you have already lost the relationship. 3…
alright, a few people asked me for the methods i used to manifest my SPs, here it is — for more context, check my last post. i only started this journey a month or two ago. im still experimenting, i am by no means well learned in this particular topic. i havent even gone in depth in a …
How do you love yourself when you’ve felt unloved for your whole life?
Introduction, Valuable Healing and Attachment resources — # Hi, and welcome! It is a pleasure to have you with us. Please come as you are, we encourage you to share openly and vulnerably. If you do not wish to share and just browse, you are welcomed here to…
Realistically, 2 months isn't nearly enough time for someone to reflect AND implement what's needed to heal wounds, triggers or habits. So, likely... you'd be going back into the same situation. I hav…
Baby, you need to accept your own humanity. Say something uncomfortable you want to say to someone, get a mirror and say it to your own face and see yourself saying it and cringe at your own expressio…
I feel like exercising helps and bare with me, but the apps aren't or shouldn't be an issue. Through workouts, eating healthy, and generally taking good care of yourself, you'll truly feel what it's …
How's your nervous system in the relationship? I remember after 5.5 years I felt like an empty battery, I was a bit anxious sometimes, easily stressed, my sleep was poor. Pretty lonely despite having …
Hey, to be honest, a big part of my recovery was choosing to be intentionally single. Instead, I focused on just human connection, friendships, practicing vulnerability in real time or over messaging.…
You need to identify and work through your past trauma so that you can start loving yourself. Once you **know** that you are worthy of love, you'll rest secure in believing that your partner thinks so…
Self- love and desire for a partner are two different things imo. Humans are built for connection and that comes in many different forms (friendships, family, romantic etc). If you have a preference…
The idea of being “ready” is an illusion. It’s a way perfectionism can sneak in and steal our joy. It skews our perception on what we can handle. Address the fears. What is the root of the fears? Wh…
All feelings are real. You’re punishing yourself for feeling what’s right. Right now, you are your only priority. Waves of pain will come and go until they slowly dissolve. And you need to be there fo…
Darling, first of all, a hug. I was in that same place once. It is necessary that you allow yourself to feel every emotion, and most importantly, anger—because this anger protects you from the people …
When you're in a relationship, you should never be feeling like you're dragging your partner along in milestones. It's okay for them to need a little more time, but it feels like you're begging him fo…
TLDR: Don't really have much feelings for this guy im dating, but is that good/what healthy attachment feels like? I matched with this guy on tinder, weve been on a few dates, weve been texting for a…
Something that I think everyone should consider when they don't feel like they are getting what they "need" from a relationship is to consider where that need comes from and if it's worth losing your …
For me, the key has been not to try to "fix." The urges you have aren't the enemy, they're your system trying to protect you, and going to war against them or judging them will often result in entrenc…
You walked away because you love yourself. There's someone out there for you who will be way better. You can acknowledge the good times too but also know that their toxicity wasn't aligned with you. G…
The loneliness of not being in a couple doesn't really go away, but you become more accepting of being alone. Learning to understand, accept and manage all your feelings and emotions are really import…
It's only physical if you literally make it that way. You are manifesting all the time. Meaning you are constantly shifting timelines and realities. That's why when you truly love yourself, you have f…
I cant really answer the first part because you didnt provide an example me, but maybe ask yourself how adding stress to a stressful situation improved it? Did it ever? People seem to want to claim it…
There is research that suggests that if you power through this moment, the relationship eventually is stronger for it. Do with that information what you will. --- > I am starting to hate myself. H…
I’d recommend watching some videos by Bashar, he’s got some really good shit. Ultimately, the lesson I’ve been learning is, everything about me is perfect. And that same truth applies to everyone. Yo…
just let it go, i am in the same boat, they don't read our messages as we intent to sent them. We try to talk them into understanding us, but they can't now, they are thinking differently than us. We …
Fellow Indian here. I had a love marriage - after 29 years together and two kids , got divorced. He was born and raised in US and I was in India- I completely feel you on the ‘ I’m Indian and it’s tab…
Yeah. Not finding the right therapist is a headache. No doubt. I am sorry you could not find one. There are goid therapists. And sometimes its a journey like few months or years with one until you …
Age is nothing but a number. I feel amazing and better than in my 20s. Sure I have some occasional body aches but I eat healthy, work out, rarely drink, wear what I want, say what I want. I'm unapolog…
If she made 1 mistake and cut all communication and is not in contact with the person.. forgiving is ok but it seems shes its not a mistake ,she has a full relationship with this person..love yourself…
This is proving the point that if you dont love yourself and feel confident you cant enter a relationship
To love yourself more, you must realize it's the striving for self-love that is the problem. That's where the lack of love feeling comes from, attaching to the illusion of what isn't. There is no abse…
Please learn to love yourself.
This is completely normal. I made the decision and divorced about 6-7 years ago now. I remember the feeling of loneliness vividly…it’s funny to think about how before, loneliness seemed bliss compared…
It’s all about time ❤️ this feeling is temporary - your body is grieving a loss and your nervous system hates unpredictability. 1) take the time to be sad. Journal, talk, rant, vent whatever it is. …
I'm sorry, she wasn't a very developed human, and the years lost create a hole so big you don't know if it will ever get filled. But, love yourself, heal yourself. Its ok to dissect what happened to …
You should go to the gym so you can find YOURSELF attractive. You should not give a fuck if she finds you attractive or not. Forget all that. Stop doing things for her and start separating your life …
Yes it’s insane. Met up 4-5 times and he hasn’t cried more in the past 2.5 months than he has in the past 6 years? OP, learn to love yourself and have more self-esteem.
I’d like to understand the context here. What was going on when he said this? Because on its face, that’s a hurtful, shitty comment. But the part that gets me is the “love yourself” part. As flippan…
Don’t raise your child in this relationship. A daughter will learn it is normal to be treated like that, a son will think it is OK to treat someone like this. Please get the help you need to love you…
Hmm, that sounds tough! I like what someone else said about top down vs bottom up therapy. I find myself being a little too analytical and in my head when trying to "fix" my trauma responses. I am a v…
That guilt is part of the abuse <3 You are still looping in the belief that you are responsible for and need to prioritize your parent before yourself <3 That’s one of the most devastating things they…
It breaks my heart when I see posts like this. When did it become normal for people to have to crowd source a response to something that’s so obviously wrong, rude and unloving? OP, if you’re real, …
Brother, what are you doing for you? If you are going to the gym to look attractive to her it defeats the purpose. You need to quit living a life for her and live life for yourself. I would sugge…
Ok thats good.. the emotions of betrayal and grief from verbal abuse can still be there somatically even though u love yourself. But ur probably not so emotionally available and embodied to reach that…
It’ll be ok. I know how you feel. But don’t give up hope. Live YOUR life and be who you want to be. Love yourself more than anyone.
you might not be the most popular lady on the apps but it only takes one good one. you just have to make peace with who you are at every point of your journey and love yourself along the way. there wi…
Hasn’t he just told you he hasn’t really bonded with you, and may just have to let you go? He’s not fully invested in the relationship. He’s not really trying with the birds. I sense a theme here. …
Being a woman and heavily in the gaming community my entire life (also a people behavior observer prob audhd), it's all about your energy/vibe. Find the weird that matches yours. Be confident, own yo…
She didn’t cheat. It was a bit different in my situation. We broke up 3 times and I was the one that wanted to continue the relationship because I thought she was the one. She just abused my love. T…
Oh my gosh as a fellow bad ass child free chica that also prioritized myself and my financial freedom, I am so freaking proud of you for standing up for yourself and not caving to his pressures or his…
Be confident and love yourself and respect others.
You missed being single because you were walking on eggshells around this man. It’s the best birthday gift you could have gotten. Love yourself enough to never accept a rotten partner.
Google it for sure... but I think it's based on the idea that Earth was created and evolved from a few higher dimensional groups as a beautiful experiement . They first created the Anunnaki, the other…