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I know it can be expensive but you mentioned in your original post you have a good career. You also, in your own words, are desperate to date someone. Are you really not able to come up with ~$100 dol…
How much do I charge? — I’ll start by saying I’m freshly out of college (I took marketing). I know basic Seo and don’t mind learning as I go as this will be my first big project. I have an opportunity to work with a local …
Broke up with DA after a year. — Met her a year ago, almost to the day. Things started well, relatively slowly which was nice for a change compared to other situations I have been in around that time. After two months, we became offi…
I (28F) am tired of constantly having to ask or tell my partner (28F) how to love/care for me. Do I just move on? — I’ll start off by saying, I completely understand we have to communicate with others on the ways we want to be loved and cared for. This isn’t that anymore. My gf and I have been together for a littl…
Does anyone subconsciously think about them? — It's been five years since we last officially spoke. I was honestly doing okay for those first few years (crossing them out of my mind, going on dates, getting through other relationships and breakups…
How to not get triggered by ex. Im tired. — Long story short, my (first) bf and I broke up 2 years ago. The breakup was unexpected for me and ruined me completely for a year. It’s been a few months since im feeling better, but I’ve had my strug…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
I want to send this text so bad — Hey. I know you probably don’t want to hear from me. I’m sorry for sending this text but I just need to. I haven’t been in the best head space for the last month. I feel like I won’t ever hear from yo…
MILD UPDATE: Struggling right now with feelings — Hey everyone. Don't have much of an update right now. I haven't forgotten about the comments or updating everyone as I can. I am personally going through a rough patch about our marriage. We really…
The point of no return — Girlfriend of 9 years ended things with me a few weeks ago, but we were still doing okay. Doors weren't closed, and we didn't end on something shattering. We were still communicating, just a little bi…
When will it be over — It’s been three months. When will it be over? I think I’m doing okay then I go back to square 1.
Advice on how you cope/manage — I left a 4 yr relationship in December 2025. I made a close friend back in October 2025 and after the breakup we became interested in each other. I had no plans of seeking another relationship, it jus…
He’s too selfish and I’m too selfless — My ex and I broke up three months ago and we ended up in a situationship cuz he couldn’t leave me alone. At first I was doing good with no contact but the more I saw him and talked to him I had starte…
My sadness is turned into resentment — My ex and I broke up three months ago and we ended up in a situationship cuz he couldn’t leave me alone. At first I was doing good with no contact but the more I saw him and talked to him I had starte…
Finally realizing that he just never cared about me — My ex and I broke up three months ago and we ended up in a situationship cuz he couldn’t leave me alone. At first I was doing good with no contact but the more I saw him and talked to him I had starte…
How to forgive yourself for the break up reaction?(rant lol) — I kinda had a break down when my ex boyfriend of 16 months dumped me over text, I didn’t call him names or anything or treat him badly when he did leave me but I feel very dumb still texting him like …
M47 F47 Any way of coming back from this social anxiety fail? — I'm a solid INFJ,have been since college and am now 47. I managed to find a love in college and was married 20 years. And maybe that's enough for this life. I keep finding people that seem to act…
I (19F) do not enjoy having sex with my boyfriend (20M), what does this mean about me? — I don't really care enough to post this on a different account so. I have been with my boyfriend for a few months, and it is going fine in all aspects. There is nothing special about it. But every tim…
Insecure (F6) about partners (M56) previous girlfriends based on their outward beauty. — Edit: F60 I’m 60F and my partner is 56M. We’ve been together for 3 years. We are making plans for the future to live together and eventually get married. I have a very successful career. I am finan…
3 Years Post Trip... — I've got some thoughts that most subreddits wouldn't understand, thought you guys might. For context, used to trip way too regularly around the ages 14-17, I'm 20M now and obviously am a very diff…
I feel like an afterthought in my (26F) relationship with (34M) — I (26F) began seeing this guy (34M) about 2 months ago, but we met through work about 3 years ago. He invited me out with his friends one night and we've been hanging out ever since. Things have been…
I feel wrecked divorcing at 47 — I’m three months into separation, with divorce in process, and I’ve never cried so much in my life. I’m 47, and starting over feels insane. She asked for a divorce about 90 days ago, and I’ve been a …
Is here putting me as back up just in case? — My ex broke no contact many times, ever since 2 months ago, by texting me (usually a short one - latest he asked me whether I’m doing ok since I’ve looked very thin now). I never initiated contact. I…
Hearing my son say “I’m happy you’re my mum” has been the final push that helped me move on from my own mother. — My mother always put herself first, never apologised and caused me a lot of pain that I’ve been dealing with ever since I moved out at 18 (I’m 38 now). I have a 7 year old son Peter (yes he’s named a…
I need help understanding why I can’t let go — I broke up with my ex about a year ago. For some context, we were together in our hometown, but because of work we had to go long distance, and that’s where everything started to fall apart. I was th…
I need help understanding why I can’t let go — I broke up with my ex about a year ago. For some context, we were together in our hometown, but because of work we had to go long distance, and that’s where everything started to fall apart. I was th…
Feeling stuck in my marriage. Need advice! — Hi Reddit, Throwaway for obvious reasons. I (36M) feel completely overwhelmed and don’t know how to move forward, so I’m hoping for some perspective. My wife (33F) and I have been together for 7 yea…
It's my birthday, and it reopened all the hurt — 9 months since breakup. A close family member of theirs died. It all went downhill rapidly. At breakup I am told I am the love of their life, they wanted to try, I am still the one for them, it wasn't…
How to get over new job anxiety? — I’m doing ok in life except I once again am dealing with the urge to quit after stating a new job. This time it’s less than last time but it’s still there and it’s a different world of hurt. I cried…
So I guess I'm getting divorced — I found out a couple days ago. And while it wasn't a huge shock, it was shocking enough. I never expected him to just throw me away like that. Now he's trying to get me out of my house so he can move …
I feel guilty for missing him. — Apologies for the long post, I just really need to get things off my chest. We broke up a bit less than 2 weeks ago. I sobbed and said we could work things out, but I knew his mind wouldn't change. W…
It's been almost a year since we broke up. I want to move on but my ex is in a new relationship and its broken my heart — I've actually been doing okay, I'm dating consistently, been intimate with new people since we broke up, been travelling, go to the gym regularly, I skateboard and I've been heavily investing in that.…
How Do You Define a Good Session? — I’m very new to meditation, 40 days in. In general I think I’m doing OK. Some sessions my thoughts are all over the place and I have to work really hard to go back to my anchor and some days, I have …
I saw my ex and my ex-best friend together today and I feel sick. — I thought I was doing okay. Then today I saw them (they live in the same apt as mine). Together. The last time I saw them together, I cried. This time I just froze. Literally couldn’t move or react f…
Does life get better? — Like the title says, does life ever get better? I am 27 M, living on my own. I am doing okay professionally. But I still can’t find any reason to be happy. Everything in my life is great. I have a …
Anyone has a spare Cultfit voucher or discount code? — Hey everyone, This might be a bit of a long shot, but I thought I’d ask here. I’ve been going through a really rough phase lately — dealing with a breakup and honestly just feeling like I’ve lost my…
Grieving — TW: Depression, emotional abuse, pet loss, and grief mentioned. \*Edited for clarification and to add paragraphs, because major wall of text. I have been completely no contact with my mother since M…
I have so many questions — I want to reach out. I want to know how you are If you’re eating well If you’re having a hard time too If you’re already moving on Why you couldn’t push through with me Why you couldn’t keep tr…
2 months later .. — We broke up two months ago. I’m doing okay but I’m not really sure. Still trying to navigate it all. I’m definitely rebuilding my life, but I don’t know what to do or where to go from here.. Any adv…
Is it very unusual to never have had a friend? — I’m a 24-year-old guy who had a really difficult childhood with an abusive, alcoholic father and other stuff. One of the things I’ve struggled with the most is my interpersonal relationships. At this…
Don't know what to do — I was the dumper who decided to end my 3-year relationship this February. I personally thought I was the dumpee but was forced to be the dumper, as the ex ignored and avoided me since last year. I kne…
So… what now? — Last saw narcissist parents in November, last messaged in February. I’m ok with building a HEALTHY relationship on my terms. Told them give me some dates to arrange a neutral location chat in my area …
Omg SAME THING, WORDS AND EVERYTHING. How did it go?? Did things work out? Are you doing ok??
That happens when you feel really safe. Which is good but learn how to balance that. You can talk to your therapist about it, also use her as your inner voice - imagine what would she say about this…
No need to apologize! Thank you for sharing, it helps me feel understood! I’m so sorry and I hope you’re doing okay through your breakup. I really relate to only feeling certain when he pulls away. It…
Long text but I would really appreciate any advice and support 💗 TLDR in the end. I'm meeting up with my avoidant partner after he shut down at the mention of a problem. So my partner (21m) and i …
Hey, thank you for your thoughtful response. I definitely don’t want to sink into victimhood or act like I don’t have any agency. I do have other friends as well, they are just newer friendships that,…
Today is a milestone birthday for my ex. I broke up with her just over a month ago. I know how much she was not looking forward to this birthday, and how grateful she was to imagine she wouldn't be c…
You said you've been healing for 4 months, and I'd say that given this short time frame, you're doing okay and are on the right track. "Healing" is a process that can take years and is never entirely …
I'm 15 months in and I think I'm ready! I've been in therapy for the last 9 months, I believe I've worked through most of what was blocking me. I now find myself having fun on dates and I'm generally …
Thanks for putting it this clearly. I thinks was a bit of a challenge in my last relationship. She once mentioned that I gave her compliments but would appreciate more. And I tried to increase it, and…
You deserve credit where it's due for realizing your mistake/that it could be considered enabling. And also if I were her I'd get the ick from the original scenario. I don't think either of you are wr…
Ok. I am sorry for spamming here. I am just doing unwell coz of the breakup. So I just made a little recap in my head about all my relationships. And I am very aware that I am putting myself into tr…
I (36F) met a 40M on an app a couple months ago. We had strong chemistry right away and scheduled a first date that same week. It went really well. During the holidays we both had more availability a…
Some details - im an anxious person. Im medicated. The guy that I’m dating - let’s call him A. A is a PhD student and has his thesis/defense due and works crazy hours and is very stressed. His texting…
Same as my parents. I’m doing ok, but my sibling is struggling and could really use some help / money.
Doing well is more than just money. It's social life as well. You're killing it financially but you're struggling socially, so you aren't doing well. I was in an adjacent situation to you: Doing okay…
This is actually a funny story. A few years ago I tried to get screened for ADHD. In my country, the screening asks a close family member who grew up with you, usually a parent. I couldn’t ask my mom …
You wrote this at the end almost as a footnote: "As someone who was severely anxious just a year ago, the work I've done with myself and through therapy has really done wonders to being a more secure…
It was the same thing for me too but after 15 years but this is recent. Very hard when it was all you knew for so long. I miss her my kids my dogs so bad and it's only been less than a week. I messed …
man, I've been feeling the same as of late, it's unreal. today especially. me and her were together for almost 4 years. domestic. marriage talks at some point. it's about to be 3 years since she walke…
1 month for me as if yesterday, Ex is moving out this week, finalising this Saturday, and the silence and loneliness is exactly what i am currently most scared about. Hope you’re doing ok
Thank you, that’s very kind I wish the same peace for you, I hope you’re doing OK
Lately, I’ve just been feeling an amalgamation of emotions but currently working through it with a therapist once a week. Experiencing strong feelings of despair and hopelessness. Its gonna be a long …
You doing ok? If there's a nagging feeling that this is familiar it's because cheaters follow a pattern of behavior. It's crazy how many stories I've heard have fit this mold
“there are no healthy people, there are only people who haven't been examined thoroughly enough” what a dark, cynical take. Sure everyone has things they’re working through to varying degrees but it…
My previous ex I mentioned was also heavily avoidant and convinced he’d never want to be in a relationship again- or at least not til he was in his 30s so he never made me official. (He was carrying h…
(but seriously hope you're doing ok now)
Wow! and I just looked at your profile and there are even more similarities than you realize. I hope you’re doing okay and I’m glad to hear you’re coparenting well!! Here for you if you need someone t…
I completely empathize with people who have been kicked out for being gay. I am not gay myself however the moment I turned 18 my nmom told me to either get a job or go to school but she was going to c…
My husband had a good amount of therapy. He should have had it the first time he cheated but we were young and in a new relationship. I’m only with him because he never did cheat in person. Years ago…
OMG i also am ruled by a fire moon and my Aries is in the 10th! MC Aries 2 degrees. I bet you’re feeling the pressure from the Neptune Saturn bc I am feeling it just with the MC can’t imagine being ru…
My brain is more like in overload land - Take an excessive deep dive and learn everything I can attachment styles? Check - Go to online dating and spend an excessive amount of time/ effort there? Ch…
I’m so so sorry that you went through this! :( it sounds like you tried your best with her. Those kinds of people you just have to leave them be as much as you don’t want to. Hats off to you for being…
Wow, that's really sad. As a woman that is divorced, I can't imagine a partner trying this hard and me just ignoring it. I'm saddened by it. I hope you're doing okay. You will, for sure, find someone…
That took a lot of courage to do and you absolutely did the right thing. He deserved to know the truth about his own life. Hope you're doing okay after all that.
I actually broke up with for the same reason. He reallly struggled to show empathy, so when I’d talk about my depression or anxiety, he’d just offer solutions (go to the gym) and that clearly I’m not …
For now I wouldn’t mention it … as it shouldn’t be important. Once the relationship is more serious and you’ve been together quite some time and discussing and acting on real long term commitment … mo…
Two over the past year. The first was a the only dream where I've had a tactile response and it was like cuddling the bestest kitty fur ever. It was at a mental low point after a rough day. The s…
I am glad you are doing ok now. Depression stinks and if you ever get into any sort of dark phases in the future, I hope it never happens tho, you can reach out to me and several other people and of c…
I truly wish you well and hope you’re doing okay. It’s really tough because you battle with knowing it’s right and should you. It’s even harder when you’re the one having to step up and do it
!Thankyou. You are right she had a choice and she chose to do this.. she could have just stayed faithful but didnt. My heart is doing okay I guess but it is certainly getting harder and harder to in…
I’m sorry you went through that, you had every right to end it. Esp when she had a history of putting her hands on you, even one time is far too many times. Did you ever reach out again or remain dist…
Fr, I tried to mentally prepare myself for the past couple of months by telling myself that she was moving on. That’s why I think I’m doing ok-ish. It’s definitely one thing tho to think about and ano…
Your mom sounds like she is trying to control you still, so the answer to her is: "No. I'd be grateful for anything you guys leave me, but it is still your money, so do what you want with it. You do…
That's so cute. I think the cozy rest in Switzerland is a reasonable and attainable aim. I hope you work for it and get it. Thank you for commenting on my post :) these days I'm doing okay, thought I…
Yeah I fully agree. In this case, reaching out as the dumper would not be the right move. I’m sorry they handled the breakup that way, shows their true colors. I hope you’re doing ok now. ❤️🩹
you're absolutely right, ive needed therapy since i was like 5😂 i dont think it'd ever change what i said though. we truly loved each other, in a way most people never find or only find once in their…
Thanks, it's been tough, I've woken up some days just crying when I thought I was doing ok. I will say to reach out to friends and family you feel comfortable being vulnerable with. That's what I've b…
Exactly, specially after 13 years together and the relationship not doing ok.