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I'm fourteen and I've been in a really weird situation my entire life. I don't know what to do. — trigger warning for sensitive content such as abuse (only financial abuse is really explicitly stated), alcoholism, s icidality (in the past, censoring in case it gets the post removed or something)?…

How do you stop feeling of needing to be perfect? — I have no problem getting dates, but things always seem to end after 1-3 months. Sometimes, it was my decision to break up or it was theirs but I didn't disagree. But I've had guys dump me when I thou…

At the start of 2026 I left my soulmate after three years together, I'm 36 now and whilst I desperately miss her, I realise I'm finished/done with relationships. — The dust has settled now. I'm not reacting out of impulse. I'm never going to find a connection like this again. I've had two other long term relationships and a few causals... We met on Christmas Ev…

Struggling to speak up in friend groups — Since my teens, I've been suffering from a major social/interaction problem. **I am almost unable to speak up in a group setting.** I'm referring to groups of 10-15 people or fewer, at a time, someth…

How do I grow a personality / figure out who I am? — Hey everyone, I (22F ) really need advice because I feel like I’m slowly ruining my own life. I honestly don’t know who I am as a person. I feel like I don’t have a real personality. My whole life I’…

Someone I saw a future with shattered my view of relationships for the rest of my life. — I no longer can see relationships the same and I used to find myself resentful of woman sometimes(I know not every woman is a cheater or a liar but it builds up and need to find someone to blame). T…

I hope this helps shift one of you — Try this exercise, it’s simple but might help take some of the shine off your ex. First, write down at least 3 things you love/loved about your ex. Here’s the catch though. It can’t be surface level t…

Advice on how to proceed in this situation — I, 40F, am in a relationship with my bf, 31M for 1 year and 2 months now. We met online, but coincidentally, we've met before on two other occasions and only found out while getting to know each other…

Me (M) ex (F) reached out after 4 months NC to return "stuff". We walked and hugged, but she says it’s complex. Need advice. — ​ My ex and I were together for a year. We both have kids from previous marriages. She is currently navigating a divorce from an extremely controlling and abusive ex-husband. Last October, she…

Text of original post by u/rkuchiki123: I have no problem getting dates, but things always seem to end after 1-3 months. Sometimes, it was my decision to break up or it was theirs but I didn't disagre…

Hey thank you. Do you think I am just not the best looker than? Or are the algorithms really just working against males that much? Or a combo? 1-2 years never getting a match or message seems extreme.…

I think you’re matching with boring people. Not a gender thing. I usually carry conversations and I’m definitely witty.

So when you meet up, was that small investment in being witty and a good conversationalist worth it? Meaning were they better in person and you started dating? I’m guessing no or you wouldn’t be posti…

Woman here. I was thinking about this the other day because I’m usually the one who has the witty hello and questions. I get one word answers. I continuously scratch my head and say to myself, why bot…

This isn't a double standard per-say, but I understand where you're coming from. The dynamic exist on both sides of the coin and simply means they either are actually interested or they either aren'…

Women want witty banter from guys they are interested in? SHOCKING revelation there. It’s almost as if wit and conversation isn’t the only qualifier. 😑

I think you took my comment the wrong way. My point was the witty conversation is perceived to get you over the hump and it doesn't. It helps you get to the front of the line if you're already over…

Same. I don't need to be razzle-dazzled by witty banter, but at least engage with what I'm saying and show some enthusiasm. The people who have to be dragged along in a text conversation rarely improv…

The biggest things I've seen that work for me is that having a decent amount of confidence, reading the room, and just being funny is what get people to really like you in dating. I'm not attractive…

I miss his freckles, his hands, his eyes, his smile, his toned legs, his mannerisms, and he genuinely had a big size down there too. He had the most beautiful side profile as well. Could not stop star…

F44, I much prefer to actually talk on the phone vs trying to make every text exchange witty and exciting. I find it so much harder to convey what I want to say via text and I often wonder if the nuan…

Some people's expectation of witty banter seems to be that the other person performs it for them. 

Turned 44, if anything I put more effort into my photos and profile and I get like three matches a month, they reply with three words, then ghost, then delete. I work remote and dont live in a major c…

Expecting a stranger on a dating app to respond within 24 hours feels a little entitled. It says more about your anxiety than their interest level. “Everyone has 30 seconds” - it can easily take much…

Seems to me that 90% of what you love about her is not who she is as a person but what she does (for you). So if a completely different person was willing to perform the same acts of service, both em…

It isn’t about the original basic question, but the answer and follow ups. Can this person carry a conversation beyond a few words, do they compel me to answer, is there witty banter. If I’m not fe…

I could tell a lot by the profile. There were plenty of "just ask" profiles, but plenty that were witty and funny. I had the best success on the apps that had longer profiles. It was like the essay po…

A good personality is going to be different things for different people so your mileage might vary. However, I tend to look at their pics and see if they seem to be enjoying life or if it's just a pil…

Everyone is burnt out. The chances of putting energy into witty banter on an app and then them plain ghosting are way too high. Save that energy for the date.

I find a correlation between what they state they want is what they lack. The ones that said, they value witty conversation in a sense of humor, turned out to have no witty conversation and absolutely…

The dopamine hit was a good point! That makes a lot of sense, and I think I do the same thing. I'm a lot more witty in my imagination than I am in real life, but in my fantasy I have the time to come …

Clearly "this says something really bad about who he is as a person." Whether it's a dealbreaker depends on what standards you have for yourself. I can't imagine wanting to live with (let alone try to…

Tinder is the worst app for asian guys, Bumble is slightly better and Hinged is the best, get on Hinged. Hinged/Bumble weighs more heavily on good job/education and personality via a witty bio, etc.

NO. Absolutely not. Though I still care about him, I now accept all those assessments my logical mind made about the way he acted and what he said. He has no business playing at being ready for a rel…

The issue is not that you’re bad at expressing yourself but rather you need time to process and thus may not respond immediately? Before looking at aspects, I examine the general structure of the c…

Scroll down to find this poor guy, “I keep having these conversations on hinge that seem like they’re going great - good back & forth, witty banter - that all seem to end pretty abruptly. What gives??…

Your brain is fine but may be very busy right now... In myself social awkwardness and distancing after some trauma, not being truly present with others but existing safely behind my eyes instead of "…

You are reading the situation correct, he got what he wanted and doesn't care about anything more then that. I'd personally not message back at all. Any reply just keeps feeding his ego ("you recove…

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Trauma can physically impact how we process language, but neuroplasticity is real! Meditation can definitely help clear the fog. You're still that witty person,…

I love banter. I don't get the same feelings of curiosity and excitement with online chatting but in person when a man is witty and knowledgeable or at least passionate about a subject and gives me ba…

Oh, that was just a hypothetical demonstration. Not a literal snippet. Lol. Honestly, I love talking. So much that it’s precisely how I make my living! When I connect with someone interesting, I’ll go…

No that is a very acute and accurate statement. I was definitely focused on her appraisal of me. I think a lot of the biggest things I did wrong were just rookie mistakes. She wanted to meet so quickl…

Ignore the negative comments, just because you're tired of something does not mean they're low energy. I honestly think Reddit is filled with people who don't actually live life. I'm in the same posit…

I really appreciate your Frank answer to the point advice. If I may, talking and building connections with people if something I'm very good at. I know for a man that I am decent looking simply from l…

Not a Virgo rising (or Virgo any of the big three), but I am so happy to see people calling Virgo misunderstood because this sign *is* very misunderstood. Virgo characteristics include being sharp, w…

Gender plays a role here . I’ll prove it: define flirting. My bet is your definition isn’t even in the same stratosphere as a males. What you want is witty repartee with clever innuendo laced in. Have…

Because they both believe in the same reality, yes, they can. You, being a healer don't have to forfeit your energy to them if you don't want to. Simply, be witty in your responses. Satisfy them, but …

You are in Mercury Mahadasha until May 2030. This is a great period for intellect communication and career growth. Your spouse will be smart witty and possibly from a different background. Marriage li…

First off OP, this one is NOT for you. She sounds like she may have been drinking during your exchanges. There is NOTHING wrong with a low key first date. I think there is a saying that a first meet…

The threats and being hyper vigilant, absolutely. Happens in every environment. Seemingly. Yes, lets take an example, usually at family parties. I know 3-4 people will be insanely self centred and ma…

i guess im just looking for support tbh. i live in this city alone with most of my family 90 miles away and only a sibling an hour away so i feel kind of alone on my council here. i work a lot, even w…

I overcame. I've learned how to be fun in a group, be witty, and make jokes in a group. In every group, there will be people who have stronger connections than the others. You don't need to be friends…

Honestly I’m not. But thanks for you comment it’s very witty and I appreciate you making me smile 😊

I went on a really nice first date! It was his birthday and he chose to go on a date with me during it (what the heck!) And he was really charming and interesting. He's into scuba diving which I've ne…

You didn't. I promise. I'm recognizing the feelings and taking the time to process them. Only reason I wrote it as a comment was to be witty.

This is so funny, i always called myself fast learner and i do have a very quick and witty mind, i dont know which one came first but since i know NG and how you speak to yourself matters 100% i tell …

Haha, absolutely untrue. Everything, EVERYTHING, depends on the two people involved. Most people just choose poorly. That's why relationships fall apart.   I met my husband while we both were seei…

If this is the case for you, learn good FUNNY insults about their appearance then walk away. Practice with your friends since you aren't malicious. Doesn't have to be true. If they laugh it's good. C…

I think you look fine. You don’t need to put on muscles or go super lean (unless you want to and/or want to do it for health purpose). What do you mean by more charismatic person? I think a charisma…