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Wonderful. My mother fell again...in the parking lot of my building. — Well, according to her, anyway. I don't know how to handle my mother when she won't leave my apartment, so she cleans every square inch and/or centimeter. She claims that she's "abused" while she doe…

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

Detachment or deactivation? — Me (23M) and my ex (22F) broke up one month ago because she was feeling overwhelmed by some arguments we had due to changes in our lives (new place to live, new work). She's FA. I was secure for almos…

Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup. — I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known about the anxious-avoidant trap for some time…

What I'm realizing: I relate closest to others with deep trauma and that is a troublesome recipe. — TW: addiction, suicide, physical and emotional abuse, CSA. I have CPTSD, routine struggles with depression and anxiety and the corresponding executive dysfunction. I grew up with an alcoholic parent…

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

muslim girl trynna move out without family knowing — hi guys, i’m not gonna talk too much and ill try to make this as concise as possible. im 23 and i’ve been wanting to move out since my mom decided my big brother could become a father figure and tha…

adhd — my thoughts do not ever go away i’m either completely asleep or completely awake and my mind is racing and i will just sit there for HOURRRSS throughout the day and night idk what to do everyone alway…

Histories of Native American Treaties and Anti-Chinese Violence Win Bancroft Prize — Emilie Connolly’s “Vested Interests: Trusteeship and Native Dispossession in the United States,” published by Princeton University Press, examines the financial aspects of many U.S. government treatie…

My ex-wife tried to kill me a few years ago. She just moved in three houses down from me. — I’m struggling with how to even process this. A few years back, things with my ex-wife reached a breaking point. She was struggling with substance abuse, alcohol and pills, and I had discovered she’d …

Some recent examples of my manifestations. Very convincing for skeptics. — Ever since I learnt about manifesting, which has been only few months, I manifest every single day, so much that I dont even keep track of it, and no its not some god mode, I manifest cryptic shit mos…

My mother sent my childhood abuser to my home, after I have been successful at making sure he never knows where I live. — Conversation is below. I have been very careful making sure my brother never knows where I live, as he beat me as a child so much police intervened and I was such a mess I was mandated to go to thera…

My parents raised me to just serve people — I'm 22(F) and have moved away from my parents place but might have to go back because it has become too expensive to live alone and my parents bought a bigger house so it would all work out for me if …

I'm a rotten abuser and I can't forgive myself for it and I don't feel that I should. — I 30F am an abuser who has ruined my husband just because I can't accept being loved. yesterday I told him that I hope one day he gets the self esteem to leave me, and he responded that he hopes one d…

How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 4, and have 2 kids with another on the way. We have also been best friends since we were in middle school up until we started dating. A …

I normally don’t like to talk about my issues outside of therapy because I just want people to see me as normal, but I’m 36 and still can’t get past the effects of trauma from my childhood. — I grew up with a mom who is obviously mentally ill, very likely borderline personality disorder at the very least. I grew up white trash in poverty surrounded by drugs and trashy people my whole life …

An update : Projected twice since meeting my wife’s deceased great/great great grandmas and it was not a good time — Hello my fellow travelers. Since my first post I’ve projected two times and both of them were not the best time to be honest. To pick up where I left off here is a link to my first experience [The G…

Dumpers who were emotionally overwhelmed. — You didn’t break up because he cheated. You didn’t break up because he was toxic. You didn’t break up because he was violent. You had the most loving relationship but he’s human, not perfect. Maybe…

The One Question That Unlocks Everything — ***If you had your desire, how would you feel?*** That question is deceptively simple and violently powerful. Because the moment you can answer it honestly you have already located the state. And the…

Help! Feeling dread and doomed after sessions. — I’ve been using gateway tapes for over 5 years, not every day but I will say over 70 sessions or so. Over 2 years ago, I started to have OBE and I fought them (because I was worried about astral proje…

Was my therapist blaming me for abuse? — My husband and I went to marriage counseling. I had an affair and afterwards he became very controlling and abusive. He had very strict terms for me to follow in order to remain married. He had my loc…

Would appreciate advice from others more experienced than I — Hello! I'm a beginner and I've been doing the tapes for the last week and am at the last tape in wave 1 freeflow 10. I read a post today defining how focus 10 should more or less feel and I realized t…

I (20M) haven't slept in my own bed in almost 2 months because of my (19F) girlfriend — We have been together for almost 3 years and both go to the same college. We live in dorms on opposite sides of campus. Lately I feel like I don’t have any time to myself anymore. If we’re both free, …

Interest in AP since death of my 8 year old — Hi. I had never heard of Astral Projection, NDE's or OBE's before the death of my son 3 months ago. I have now ended up researching all the reddit and facebook groups about this, more out of desperati…

Holy cow wtf was that!? — Alright so in a 26M. I remember in my teens, like 14/15, I used to always try to do things like astral project/lucid dream. As I got older I forgot about that stuff. In the last 6 years or so, I natur…

Wave 1 introduction to focus 10 (first timer) — Wave 1 introduction to focus 10 \- Afterwards felt very focused, aware. Face feels numb. \- During focus 10, I saw a vision of a black male outside a building walking, then hearing gunshots inside …

Stop Asian Hate's iconic victim Grandpa Vicha's murderer Antoine Watson is going to walk free now without punishment — [article 1](https://www.nbcbayarea.com/news/local/grandpa-vicha-sentencing-murder-case/4058429/) [article 2](https://www.cbsnews.com/sanfrancisco/news/granpa-vicha-killing-san-francisco-suspect-relea…

Kink, consent and dating — I \[44F\] was out on a 4th date with a slightly older guy \[51M\] last night. First three dates (1st happy hour, 2nd dinner, 3rd movie) there had been some low key affection but we hadn't kissed yet. …

tw: abuse — hi. id like to start off by saying i was in a 9 year relationship with my ex. he was my best friend. i guess i’ll say everything good about us first. we laughed a lot, played a ton of video games toge…

Why are people so cruel? - Day 13 of Recovery — Had a bad day today... *Really* bad... People are so fucking cruel. First someone sees my scars at church of all places... Not that I'm Christian, but isn't it called a sanctuary for a reason? Anyway…

Is This Coercion? — TW. I \[23F\] have been with my “husband” or BD \[26M\] since I was freshly 17. He was about a month away from being 21 at the time. Whenever I don’t feel like having sex, for however long that may…

A friend tried to reach me for a kiss during a bad trip at 300mcg acid — I recently posted about my trip and got to understand more about why things happened. So I think I should also post this scene. When he was having a bad trip i sat beside him and the first thing he h…

My dad (66M) started making sexual “jokes” about me (20F) after I turned 18. — I’m 20F and I live with my dad (66M). Something changed so drastically in the past two years. For context: he’s not a “bad father” in the traditional way. He’s responsible, financially and kind …

Has anyone reached out to their nex’s exes for the truth? — I’ve been thinking a lot about how my ex framed all of his former partners as mean, crazy, narcissistic, or toxic, and now that I’m out of the relationship, I’m questioning how much of that was ever t…

Some supportive words to all you going through this. — just as the title says, I wanted to share something with you all. A bit of trauma dumping. If you’d like to know how I was feeling a few weeks ago, you can look at my profile for my most recent post…

37/m. 3 months ago, I committed an act of domestic violence on my ex partner and I am trying to make sure the version of me that did that stays in the past. — In December I physically attacked my now ex gf of 4 years. It is the single worst thing I have ever done in my life, to the person I loved more than I have ever loved anyone before. I moved out immedi…

Please join me in listing things that you discovered aren't normal outside your own toxic upbringing — Eta- I decided I didnt like my paragraph so I am redoing it. Eta- paragraph contains examples of child abuse, TW So as the title states, I am seeking things that were completely normal in your upbri…

I (18M) caught my Mom (44F) Cheating on my Dad (46M) and I don't know what to do — General Idea of our Family - My dad goes to work 5 days a week and comes back to visit us on wednesday evening and weekends. My mom is a teacher and goes to school in evening shift from 1 to 6 pm ever…

During WWII, British intelligence hired an astrologer, gave him military rank, and had him cast charts to predict enemy strategy — In 1940, a German refugee named Louis de Wohl approached British intelligence with an unusual offer. He claimed that Hitler's strategic decisions were guided by personal astrologers, and that by casti…

I just realized that I might be a victim of munchausen by proxy — I'm realizing that my whole life was a lie and I am feeling waves of shame, regret, anxiety. I'm a young adult female stuck in severe isolation still at home with just my mom and sibling. I think I ha…

Spiritual experiences — I would like to share my perspective on a series of intense spiritual experiences I encountered during my Sadhana. ​My practice centered on the Japa of a specific Mantra consisting of a single Beej A…

I think I’m addicted to emotional pain — I don’t really know where to start with this but when my partners cheat on me it makes me want them even more.. When I argue with them, my dopamine levels rise and it excites me I will say, I am so…

The "Why didn't you fight back?" Response — Something I've really wanted to vent about and ask others in similar situations is when you're talking about something that happened between you and your parents and the response you get is "why didn'…

My really weird experience shifting? — My experience attempting to shift? I won't lie. I wasn't expecting to mini-shift anytime soon but I did. And it really was something else. Along with ah...side effects? I think. I'm not sure. I us…

My sister (36f) and I (28f)are fighting because she didn’t tell me that mom died and I really feel like she crossed a line. How do I fix this? — TL;DR: my sister was told about my mom’s death, but intentionally withheld information from me. After I confronted her about it, she became mean and made unhinged and unsubstantiated claims about me, …

Emotionally abusive parents — I'm going through a really rough patch right now, and I last thing I need is my AP constantly nagging and texting me that I'm horrible and i made a mistake. i have always been emotionally detached fr…

19M realized my father is a creep and I am so angry I can hardly function — I always heard that in psychology, the brain can actually block out memories. I thought it would never be me, but if it was then I wouldn’t know because I couldn’t remember it anyway. Apparently it di…

I can only experience pleasure during intimacy if it is violent — For the entire time I have had consensual sex, starting in my teens, the one constant is that I require it to be violent. The partners I’ve had normally are willing to do it because they want to hel…

Guys i caught my narc dad at night again near my home. Then he yelled at me — Im so overwhelmed. I was Overstimulated tired already. Coming from fun event whixh i never do. Longing forwarding to my bed. Guess whos at my corner. He creepy stops. I was hesitating wether its hi…

Have you ever gotten an “Error Message” from the Universe on a heavy dose of mushrooms? — Hey psychonauts, I wanted to see if anyone else has experienced something similar during a deep psilocybin journey. A while back I took a heroic dose and broke through into full ego dissolution. It …

Dream of ceramic/clay worm/tentacle. Please help, thank you. — Hi, I have lately been involved in reading a lot about out of body experiences, monroe institute, gateway tapes, astral realms, occultism, alien abductions, etc. I have never previously in my life tr…

That too. Do you know what non-violent Rosenberg communication is? I found it SO helpful in detecting insecure attachment (AND for my own communication, to fight off the crazymakers & their mindgame…

She sounds very immature and as they say you are the median of the people you surround yourself with I'd say upgrade to some more reliable people. You handled this very maturely. Calling someone heads…

Yes, I edited, and yes, my comment contains some judgement (besides mostly description and perception, ie. judgement-free language). Non-violent, 100% judgemental-free Rosenberg communication, to me…

This is incredibly simplifying and dismissive Edit:. I find it really baffling that me expressing my feelings in a point blank way, not attacking this person or being violent or anything, is *still* …

In my possession, I have a lot of antique guns passed down from family members. Like the Derringer my great grandmother carried as a traveling nurse in the early 1900's. And the 38 special her daughte…

I’m glad you moved somewhere safe when he acted violently. However I would encourage you to examine why you wanted to continue with someone that has proven over and over that they are not safe and can…

Text of original post by u/f1rstpancake: I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known abou…

I am dealing with a similar situation as you OP, and my partner and I can talk, to a certain extent, about how our attachment style affects the relationship. We came very close to breaking up recently…

Same here, and can relate so much you. I haven’t found the way to stop that cycle but my therapist told me that one doesn’t have to go through a specific “traumatic” experience to create an anxious at…

Text of original post by u/f1rstpancake: TW: addiction, suicide, physical and emotional abuse, CSA. I have CPTSD, routine struggles with depression and anxiety and the corresponding executive dysfun…

> I think this is an anxious trait so I want to know if this also happens to you? Why am I reacting like this? Is it justified or is it my insecurity talking? How do you communicate, instead of pullin…

I know this is an old post, I was searching FA on this sub and yours really piqued my interest. I don’t think I was ever that much of a FA except for when I was a teenager, I had childhood trauma and …

You should check out the book Nonviolent Communication!! There are free PDFs online if you want to try before you buy. I'm moving from AA -> Secure and it has been super helpful. The basic idea is: …

Avoidants typically harshly assert distance when their subconscious feelings are coming the closest to being exposed though. They will also often keep people they have genuine feelings for in their or…

If you aren't already aware of it, the r/glasschildren subreddit might be an additional helpful space. I also grew up with a sibling who had autism and was violent in multiple ways, and with parents w…

Lol I hear ya. I found using NonViolent Communication techniques helpful

I got a LOT from Pia Mellody’s book “Facing Love Addiction” that helped me find where to reset myself when it comes to approval-seeking behaviour. Until we deal a bit with the fear of interaction we…

>Look up “non violent communication” and handy hints and phrases for holding boundaries (we need scripts when we are in high emotion situations because the ‘invent a sentence’ part of your brain is se…

Not sure if I'd consider your breakup to be amicable. Even if things weren't loud and violent externally, internally there probably isn't any peace with yourself. Otherwise you probably wouldn't be te…

I feel like the solution to your communication problem could be "Non-violent communication" by Marshall Rosenberg - you'd have clear patterns for saying things in a respectful but honest way. How co…

IDK I need to talk to my therapist about some things later today. It feels almost mean to be like...hey can you not talk to this girl she's the one who broke my heart. Like I'm not trying to start d…

I think if you do see lockdowns you will also see violent (figuratively and/or literally) reactions to it. People do NOT want another lockdown no matter how dire or necessary, and with the current lev…

I’m usually opposed to the “assume the worst and break up” Reddit mentality but come on man. You think it’s all a coincidence? You’re 20, I know you feel old and it’s scary but you’re so young and thi…

Pornography isn’t created equal to begin with. There is really awful, exploitative and violent porn. There is also porn where it’s completely self-empowering and pleasure centred. I think paying perfo…

Yes, I very much agree. I appreciate your thoughtfulness on the subject. When people discuss this topic, it's often framed around whether consumption affects the consumer directly via a drain on thei…

That's awful about the violence you suffered by those vile and abusive pricks! As a man i really hate men who don't respect women, especially become violent towards women. I fucking hate the patriarch…

The industry itself is predatory and vampiric. The trend has been increasingly violent and dregrading material. Often leaving the actors with regrets, trauma, feeling they were pressured etc. Even phy…

The mantid seems to have given a similar message that Chris Bledsoe received, being shown Egypt and the pyramids then a large celestial bull that ran over the top of him. What Egypt and these large gr…

You won‘t learn if you preach lessons to others and refuse to be taught yourselves. A violent person attacking you with a knife is a single situation where Relax & Be Nice both don‘t work. Look beyo…

You need to more than consider it, I think. Your lawyer should be your legal advocate. Stop playing nice and start demanding what you pay people for. But demand it from a different lawyer, because you…

I agree. I have days I am okay and accept that my father does not care or love me…then there are days I find myself really upset. Sometimes I cry and sometimes I just feel pain in my body. It’s ind…

Those two people put OP’s sexual health at risk as well as emotionally and mentally abused him. I think OP having a giggle when he makes eye contact is quite literally the least of his and their worri…

Hmm, your situation and choices are a combination of psychological and evolutionary aspects. Let's look at why you are inclined towards emotionally unavailable men: 1) So, the ruler of your marriage…

The shame is not yours to carry. Your father must be ashamed for telling you such violent words. Your teachers must be ashamed for not saying anything when abuse happens right in front of them, and th…

Being nice is subjective, and not necessarily a good thing. The world is a violent place; birth itself is a violent act. We are all striving to feed ourselves on a daily basis and to not go without.…

The First Continental Congress famously resulted in a nonviolent resolution thanks to political discourse and compromise with Great Britain.

Slavery: another issue that famously was resolved nonviolently in the US.

I'll be healed enough to be able to write a book some day about this. From my understanding so far, abuse is a tactic used to break people psychologically so they are less able to resist emotional man…

Yes you can. I've been there. But you gotta remember the truth, you can. And that is the truth. Sounds fucking hokey, I know. I went to alanon years ago, helped me when I was in a bad situation. I'm n…

Also autistic, and my idea scenario is city condos across or down the hall from each other. The next best option is a place big enough to have separate bedrooms and separate living rooms with a split …

💯💯💯 Your post is something that I wish every single person could read. This is my exact experience after years in the court system trying to get away from a malignant narcissist psychopath. The c…

ok i followed you right up until the end. what does another planet in aries and scorpio do overall then? does it provide harmony in that sign ? my impression of mars is that its a violent angry planet…

that’s totally normal in that situation, cheating is such a violation of trust and love. i’m sorry that happened to you, he sucks for that. i hope there are, to be fair i thought i struck gold and t…

“The only antidote to shame is humility.” -Uncle Iroh. When I was younger, I’d gone through my first serious break up. My ex and I both severely mistreated each other, and the break up was messy (to…

I think that my dad was so horrible that it made me feel unreasonable for thinking I should cut off my mom as well. My mom was a narcissist too, but she was not as overtly terrible as he was. She was …

There is a combination of really good advice, and horror stories about the lives with and the deaths of Nparents on here. My own Nmom was just that, and an enabler to my much more violent and derang…

i have often been shamed by people and eben emotionally abused by my extended and some primary "family" for being on SSDI for 7 years now. actually just had a huge blowup about it last week where my s…

There's a scene where a male police officer has an affair with the main character. And there's a very very violent, yet short, sex scene. At a point you're NOT expecting it. Maybe it's just me but th…

Just for the record, the person I mentioned in my other comment is in addiction recovery with a couple of years clean. He has been upfront and brutally honest about it with me. I have no fear of him b…

I guess you have lived it everybody’s different. I was married to an alcoholic too, and I got rid of him when he became violent and drunk all the time I deserved more.