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"Borrowed self-worth" is the perfect description! I've always been super curious about what makes me tick and in the longest break between partners it gave me time to process everything and question:…

Question about POSM — In chapter 9 Murphy suggests simply repeating the word “wealth” over and over 3/4 times a day to attract wealth- he claims this method works because it does not contradict your conscious mind’s assump…

Type 1 Diabetes — Hi everyone, I have recently been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and have had to start taking insulin injections. I don’t want to live like this forever though, completely dependent on something so m…

Can’t Access My Shopify Store Created with Google Login – Stuck in Login Loop, No Password Option — Hey everyone, I’m having a frustrating issue and hoping someone here can help. I created my Shopify store using the “Continue with Google” option with my Gmail so I didn’t set a password because Goog…

Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure.  I have been involved in th…

Founders, Seriously, Please Don't Quit your Day Job (I will not promote) — I say this as a lifelong Founder who spends all his time trying to make other people lifelong Founders - **"Please don't quit day job" ... at least not yet.** Seriously, hold on to that steady incom…

Common sense from an actual founder [fully boostrap 10M$ company] about startup studios' playbooks [i will not promote] — I don't post on reddit but I've recently seen an increased influx of post or people talking about X or Y playbook about how you should startup. i will not promote Let me get this straight, I won't cr…

How to actually contact support? Phone number is dead, Chatbot is...dead? — I'm trying to contact support on behalf of a fortune 500 company to regain access to some of our shops that because of turnover and neglect (thanks Covid) we've lost admin access to. Yes, we should h…

How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…

How to remove Fraudulent Orders from Shop account? — So the question is as above. Back in March, I got fraudulently charged by a 'Elite Chimney LLC' for about $6100+. These were not placed by me or by any one I know, it just showed up one day. I manage…

I did it, I quit my job! Scary or a Reborn? — I did it 🎉. I quit my 9-to-5 work and jumped into the wild, now I’m a full-time indie hacker. Scaling my agency, focus on service and SaaS, and building something truly mine. First month: I landed m…

Avoid Mailgun emails going to the promotions tab? — I am building a bespoke API to interface with our CRM. I'm using FastAPI. I've implemented an email feature so that we can move away from dependency on a custom SMTP email system that I've setup with …

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …

Will my ex FA ever stop resenting me? — I was with my ex (FA) for 2 years, amazing connection and relationship. She broke up after a rough period (lots of changes + frequent arguments, not too intense) saying she was overwhelmed. Later she …

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Physically Reacting to Jealousy — My first post was about my deep attachment to a former friend who cut things off because she is now my employee. I'm actually making a lot of progress with that. Well my stress level is very manageabl…

Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

I deactivated again while healing, wondering whether your experiences are similar — A few days ago I (DA) deactivated again, the first time after working on healing (4 months now). It was short (just 10 hours) but gave me more understanding. For context, I'm trying to reconnect with…

Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…

Avoidant wins! 🎉🎊 — Meant to put this in thr weekly vent but it's kind of late now. It's amazing what consistency of safety can do to your nervous system. So the main reason I have no real friends is because I fear the e…

23 and feel stuck with no direction — I’m 23 and feel really lost and stuck in life. I’m in a good relationship and I’m grateful for that, but mentally I’ve struggled since I was a kid. I had really bad anxiety starting around age 8–9 an…

Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this? — Yesterday I first tried shrooms. I did 15g fresh, which you can expect to be about 1.5g dry ± I've tried acid 2 times before, which were very amazing, intense and long experiences. They theached me a…

It does get better (dumped by an avoidant) (personal advice that helped me) — Too anyone who deems themselves as a hopeless romantic, anxiously attached, etc, this may relate to you. After three months of what I thought was the worst time of my life, it truly gets better. T…

My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …

Herpes — hi everyone! So I met a great guy lots in common and lots of green flags. One of my requirements before being physically intimate is sti panels. It used to feel awkward for me to ask but it also tells…

i dont know what to do (relationship) — Im 22 and my dating history is very sparse because i always suffered with rather low self esteem and mental issues. Over the past years ive been opening up and evolving personally, also trying out the…

I manifested the cure of my disidrosis(with photos) — Hello guys, I will tell how I manifested the cure of my disidrosis. So I will tell how I MANIFESTED my disidrosis😢: So guys, at the beggining of 2025 I was diagnosed with chondropathy, I didn't knew…

Married 5 months after 10 years together (M32 / F29) — she started talking to another guy right after the wedding. We’re now on a 30-day separation and I don’t know what to do. — I’m looking for honest advice from people who have either been through something like this or have perspective I might not be seeing right now. My wife (F29) and I (M32) have been together for about …

Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…

Getting rid of nihilism/pessimism — I (24M) am a pessimistic person, it is a really bad thing and i'm struggling to get rid of this thing. A lot of things happened these last years that chopped my illusions about life, such as losing my…

Divorce was not how I imagined life — I never thought I would go through divorce. When we married I really believed it will last forever. But life changes and people change too. At first it felt very heavy. House quiet, many memories eve…

My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him — **UPDATE:** Thank you to everyone who commented and shared advice. A lot of people suggested going no contact with my mom to protect myself and my son. I understand why people said that, but I want …

I found 2 tricks to help focusing on my breath. Beginner + Adhd here. — H56, overstimulated by screen (shows, movies, youtube podcast, chess online), stimulants (amphets like), and since my childhood, overthinking (the worst addiction ever). Sorry my English is not perf…

Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…

17 months post being discarded by my husband for the other woman. — On 03/20/2026, I will be 17 months out from the night that my husband left me forever and went to his affair partner of a few weeks. I was shattered. On the verge of losing my excellent job because …

The way as a slave — “The unrestricted person, who has in hand what they will in all events, is free. But anyone who can be restricted, coerced, or pushed into something against what they will is a slave.” —EPICTETUS, DIS…

What's an anxiety hack that has changed your life? — okay 11 years of anxiety. here's what actually works for me. no bs. the biggest thing first I named my anxiety. we call it Lisa. when my brain spirals I literally say "Lisa stop, none of this makes …

please, take your time to hear my story, because no one else ever did — My mom gave birth to me when she was 41 years old, I have a sister and a brother, my sister is 27 years old, but she has mental problems and behaves terribly immature, so she is always making screamin…

Permashifting tonight — Hello.. I WILL be permashifting today, no "trying to" i intend to do it and I will I'm gonna leave a mark on thid world, but I must go now I've been trying and trying till I had an epiphany..y…

She snuck out with a "friend" while we were at a party — Hello everyone, this is all still very new since I just founf out about everything 3 days ago. I (24M) am in deep intense pain in knowing that my girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me at least 4 times …

Manifested an Apology - Decide — I manifested an apology today from a friend who 'ghosted' me February 10th with no explanation (no replies, denied phone call, ignored me, physically walked away from me in person, didn't acknowledge …

Is it actually possible to re-wire the brain and actually stop sexualising… everything? — I posted here a few times, I'm currently at 107 days of sobriety. I don't watch p0rn, don't masturbate, don't go cruising. The only times I've done something sexual were with my ex, as we are still cl…

I understood Neville much better after started reading about transurfing. — I am more of a reasoning person and therefore neville's amazing techniques left me full of doubts because I don't know WHY they work. Reading about Transurfing actually had me see Neville from another…

When it’s finally over with a narc or NPD person — I said this in a comment to someone else’s post but I feel like I should post it here, just in case it helps someone. There’s no way of truly knowing whether or not a person with narcissistic traits…

I feel like I always date people who aren't right for me but I'm really good for them — Hi Reddit, I’ve got a bit of a dilemma. I feel like I’m everyone’s favourite foster girlfriend. I raise them to be good people until they find their forever homes. Everyone I’ve dated recently grows s…

First “bad” trip taught me a lot - sharing my experience to help others — I’m 28m, good job, good relationships, physically fit, happy overall. Experienced tripper with several high-dose mushroom trips under my belt. Always had positive experiences. Took 4g mushrooms today…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

How to begin the “healing” — STBXW (33) and I (M33) had been having issues in our marriage since December. She eventually opened up and said she feels she doesn’t love me anymore. That broke me, but it felt like something we coul…

Months later and still stuck on my ex… does it ever fully go away? — I’m about 3–4 months out of a breakup and I feel like I’m going backwards instead of forwards. The first couple months were rough, but more in an expected way. Lately though, it’s like she’s on my mi…

Can this be stickied forever?

I actually like Neville for his psychological interpretations of the bible. Joseph Murphy is amazing too because his books are easy to understand and very practical. I do find most of Nevilles teachin…

I sometimes question though: was it good that we would have stayed with them forever? If they were that disinterested? Wouldn’t it be a bad choice on our part to stay with them? I know what you…

Holy cow, inspiration. Thank you for sharing this. I so hope to be in that place eventually because I got dumped and am in a little stressy depressy hole but this ish can’t last forever!

If anyone is interested in knowing how to do this with a little practice then log onto [www.lovelifewellnesscoaching.com](https://www.lovelifewellnesscoaching.com). You can use your third eye and perf…

In this case no contact would be sticking to logistics only. Be neutral and deadpan and polite. Don't share insights, emotions or vulnerabilities with this person who is essentially gone from you fore…

I agree that things can change, but am forever baffled/frustrated by a repeated theme I see in here: men seem to think women have it easier or have some sort of advantage. I assure you, women don’t “k…

Anyone still posting on here? I drove my ex away with my insecure attachment style, looking back he kept putting in little effort and I felt as though I was trying very hard to change. I’m sure he wa…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

Victim blaming MUST DIE. How could something this corrupt be so deeply ingrained in our society when all it can ever do is case immeasurable harm and ruin our right to live a just life?! We must purge…

Tbh you’re allowed to have your viewpoints but this is attention seeking behavior judging by your posts meant to get a reaction out of the people here. Also, why go on a Murphy sub for this? You alrea…

Only these from your long list above, can be argued to relate to the LOB : " *”Whenever He decrees a matter, He says to it, “Be!” and it is.” (Quran 2:117, 3:47, 19:35, 40:68) ☪️* *Prophet Muhamm…

Not OP, but I really appreciate you sharing this perspective here. I (FA) have been in relationships in the past with DAs and FAs, and have always felt like there was something wrong with me for not f…

I think building discernement and self-trust will reduce the risk of "inevitably being discarded". Meaning, at some point in your healing journey, you'll learn to identify people who are good relation…

Or before going on a rant about an "avoidant discard" consider maybe someone just broke up with you because it wasn't working for them. People aren't obligated to stick around forever trying to for…

This is largely because people would rather avoid the discomfort of being honest about how someone's behavior impacts them, and let somebody else continue to struggle forever, than let themselves be u…

No I didn't dance with him..we just saw each other during dancing and he smiled at me and I smiled at him ,and people around me are like forget him ,he was an outsider and he won't even come back to t…

Just read the replies and imo there's nothing wrong with asking. It's great that you did. My opinion is that if I'd only had one date with somebody and they text me saying "good morning handsome" I'd…

The distance didn’t make it harder in my opinion. At the beginning of a relationship you’re getting to know the other person. Thats incredibly easy to do with texting, calls, video chats etc.  We cou…

Just because you're not passionate about anything today doesn't mean you won't be forever. Give yourself time and explore. And don't just focus on the business world either. You can't just think "I mu…

I recognize this disorder because I suffer from it myself! :-) It's commonly known as controlfreakism. Don't worry, though. You can use it to your advantage. The good news is there's a way out. Much…

Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…

Agreed, a therapist is incredibly helpful. Appreciate your reply. I’ll check out those resources. Thank you. Hope you find your forever match soon!

I don’t think there’s any reason to leave if you’re happy. More just don’t expect things to be perfect. Recovery is a journey. I had anxious attachment and consider myself secure now, but not eating o…

"I was literally BLINDSIDED and DISCARDED by my DA who said 50 times that they need space and I'm overwhelming them. Don't they understand I just want to love and suffoca- I mean support them?! Why…

Why can't they stop experiencing love like they say they do and start experiencing it like I think they should??? >Avoidants should swear off dating forever and leave us who are actually capable of l…

>Avoidants should swear off dating forever and leave us who are actually capable of love alone!! 😡 What gets me is there are plenty of avoidant attachers who aren’t dating at all. Better yet, many a…

Either charge more for the songs starting now or continue to sell them to other people the way she does. Clearly your music is popular so use that affirmation to sell more music. Sounds like this per…

I would say that it’s probably worth hearing them out - if they can discuss what they did wrong, *and* if they are willing to agree to do the work - and go to couples councilling - to work on their is…

To be clear I’m stating all this because I had this happen with my wonderful FA bf, and I waited first, got very stressed and after two months told him I couldn’t anymore. We got back together within …

Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …

just be alone. I am fa and I've destroyed everybody who was sane before me. I am going to choose to be alone forever

I think everyone has fear of committing and is mot that into yr partner at times. The difference is you keep working at it. Sometimes the other petson can sensevall your issues and get so frustrated t…

Definitely end it, this is his vague way of breaking up without accountability (and without guilt). He will string you along forever, one foot in and one foot permanently out.

Thank you for sharing this. I'm happy you're learning and improving.  I messed up and have too much space. Because he was used to me being the one to reach out and instigate and start the conversation…

This was helpful, thank you. I just can't understand the avoidant. I thought we had turned a corner, but my FA (admittedly after a few arguments throughout the week) is now saying 'everything he's eve…

Ugh so much this too. He always justified intentions and could never hold or truly understand the impact He could say the words “action matters. Impact is what matters in the end. I am going to show…

Are you advising me to be single forever?😂 I think decades of celibate is a bit extreme. Learning relationship outside the relationship sounds a bit like learning how to swim in an empty pool st this…

I am in the middle of a pretty un-fun cycle that is causing a ton of friction/pain/overwhelm in my current relationship, despite knowing for sure that we both love each other with such a great depth. …

Text of original post by u/nintendonaut: After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 mon…

I get what you're saying, I mean, there's no way around it other than to say "shit's fucked." You're not wrong. But I'll also never truly be over my ex. She was the first person I ever loved and I lov…

I had to read your post about this same topic in another sub to get more context, so that way I could provide more specific advice. A lot about what you are dealing with is perspective and the narr…

I hate the way I feel time when I’m anxious (which lately is all the fukn time). A second lasts a hour. It doesn’t feel like I’m texting too much because it feels like so much time has passed in bet…

My partner is FA and I am a DA leaning earned secure. He definitely brought out some things in me that I had yet to address. We lived together for 1.5 years. Much of it was tumultuous. I moved out aft…

It's likely that he can't give you the level of affection that you want from him, perhaps lukewarm is as hot as he goes. The important question if you took a snapshot of your life right now with him,…

I'm AA, and you remind me of my ex who is an FA. Whenever my relationship with him encountered any issues, I'll be busy trying to fix the relationship, whilst he will be busy thinking of ending the r…

I’ve been dating my guy for 5 months. He has been extraordinary. Patient, kind, loving, basically says all the things my soul has been dying to hear. He reached out to me, and by date number 2 said he…

Fights happen in different ways each time. I learned to be patient right afterward to give us space. But sometimes he ignores me/takes some distance from me for what seems like forever (hours, a day o…

Text of original post by u/upernikos: My first post was about my deep attachment to a former friend who cut things off because she is now my employee. I'm actually making a lot of progress with that. …

She is her, there is no "not real" because everything you have felt for her has been real and all the times you've had together have been real. Her feelings are her feelings and they're never for you …