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Was anyone else "homeschooled" by their parent/parents? — It's only recently occurred to me how incredibly neglected I was as a kid when it came to education. Especially as the eldest child. Handing a handful of questionable and not at all up to date "textbo…

Is this normal? CSS — I was taught there are three main styling approaches: CSS Modules, CSS-in-JS, and utility frameworks like Tailwind. I also learned that it's important to write clean, organized styles with good class …

Whats the worst client experience you’ve had? — I’ll go first:- I was told I cannot charge him $50 for an email because I wasn’t Canadian. He then went on to talk about the price I “should” charge. I was 18yo back then and it was my first sales ca…

Underestimated fulfillment in my eCommerce startup, nearly paid the price — When I launched my first eCommerce brand, I thought fulfillment was "easy" find a product, set up a store, ship orders. Simple, right? I couldn’t have been more wrong. As soon as we got traction, thi…

Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …

I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …

General manager compensation — Hi All, I've owned a small seasonal diner for 5 years now and am planning on drastically stepping back next year. An employee who has been with me for 4 years, and who I trust / get a long with/ have…

Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …

A little positive reflection for anyone feeling they’re in the trenches right now. — I only learnt what attachment theory was during a breakup with my most recent ex 2 years ago. When he dumped me seemingly out of the blue because ‘I deserved better’, ‘he needed to be alone.’ Etc etc …

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…

Dr Joseph Murphy's view on the Bible — Did Dr Joseph Murphy believe the people in the Bible to be actual living people? or just states of mind? I have these books: * The Power of Your Subconscious Mind * The Cosmic Power Within You * You…

Attachment in someone with no relationships? — Wondered this for a long time so it's oversharing hours tonight. I basically don't have relationships. I've overly attached with my mom, possibly even enmeshed, but that's it, and there's a lot of du…

8+ Months of LOB practice ( Update from my 1st post ) — Hi everyone, Some of you may remember me from my last post where I did an update of my situation at 4 months in, practicing LOB. After that post, I decided as was recommended to lower the progress g…

Can I get some assurance from reformed people pleasers 🥲? — And some advice? Not necessarily on "what to do" because I know how to set boundaries in theory. It's managing the guilt and fear of fallout that I struggle with and I do because all my life any time …

Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too. — I (39m) look young for my age and have been dating for the last 4 years. I have mostly dated women in their 30s and about half of them have told me to date someone younger after things didn’t work bet…

Life's expectancy for life & love — Unfortunately, I think for the rest of my time on this planet, I will carry a quiet fear. Even in the midst of real, full-blown love, I may never truly trust that one day I won’t be lied to, cheated o…

Wondering if anyone has taught a child the basics of grounding, meditation, shadow work, and/or energy work? — A little information, my children are younger, but not too young to understand, and we are expecting again. My wife is very skilled with energy even out of practice, and I am getting back in tune with…

AM silent treatment is HELL — For context- two days ago AM asked me (19F) and my sister (17F) why our cousin and our close friends are scared or intimidated by her. We started making fun of her for the things she used to do or say…

Lack will dissolve when you realise: Manifestation starts from irony, and feeling it real starts from memory. — I said it. This post is for people whose brains are very logic driven. Those who think: “I need to see proof before I believe something.” i have something for you. Let's go. We all know the key: The…

I don't connect with others anymore — Meditation taught me about awareness and of the things I feel i truly want and need in life. But in our materialistic and commercialized setting it seems the goal of everyone is to get more and more …

Heavy energy/projection in living space — I keep experiencing, on a daily basis, unbearable heavy energy (from the little I've learnt, and I have learnt a lot) it feels like a projection of some kind. I have learnt and grown about myself abo…

Anyone else ashamed of how they were neglected but also spoiled? — For me, it’s very strange to see how I might’ve been taken care of at times, like my mom or grandmother doing all the house cleaning and cooking, but physically/emotionally neglecting me. I wasn’t rea…

I am successfully shifted — Hi! My English is bad sorry I wanted to shift my reality where my sister is alive and healthy with me. I started to robotic affirmation 24/7 and subliminal, I have been locked in my room since 1…

Who else was taught to people-please or be a pushover? — I was taught by my parents from early childhood to make others happy, and I often found myself last on the priority list. Perhaps the overemphasis on reputation in many Asian cultures contributed to m…

Healing from perfectionism taught me that I’m not superhuman — I’m just a regular person and everyone else is just as ordinary as me. Sure, we all have our quirks and differences but you’re never the only one with them or unique. I am not loved based on my achie…

I understood Neville much better after started reading about transurfing. — I am more of a reasoning person and therefore neville's amazing techniques left me full of doubts because I don't know WHY they work. Reading about Transurfing actually had me see Neville from another…

Starting over at 32, jobless lost 20s to sickness — I was diagnosed with a brain tumor when I was 22 and doing bachelors, tumor is benign but in critical place that really messed me up, health took a down ward turn with a lot of complications, i dîd no…

First “bad” trip taught me a lot - sharing my experience to help others — I’m 28m, good job, good relationships, physically fit, happy overall. Experienced tripper with several high-dose mushroom trips under my belt. Always had positive experiences. Took 4g mushrooms today…

My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. — So I'm a little bit confused about this. A couple of days ago, my wife came to me asking the question that has been asked many times during our marriage. "Do you still love me? And why do you love me?…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

My husband [M31] let slip in a compliment that he thinks his ex was prettier than me [F28] and I can't stop thinking about it. How do I let it go? — EDIT: I have made an update to this post for everyone, see here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/1rwh3g2/update\_my\_husband\_m31\_let\_slip\_in\_a\_compliment/](https://www.r…

I got a call from my lawyer — I'll make this quick, but 6 months ago I was arrested for something I didn't do. Since then I have remained under investigation for Conspiracy to commit fraud and it's turned my life around. The polic…

Lost my mom, not sure where to go from here and looking for guidance — Sup guys, So at the end of December, my mom passed away. The last couple of years, I chose to live nearby, and my life somewhat was revolving around my mom. After she passed, everything feels numb, m…

What is your earliest memory of being neglected? — I was reflecting on my past, and I realized one of the first memories I ever had was when I was 5 and was neglected. I remember I was in the backyard, completely unsupervised, and I climbed up our m…

Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…

I burned out so badly I couldn't get out of bed for two weeks and the recovery taught me everything about my limits — Last year I hit a wall that I didn't see coming. I thought I was fine. I was working sixty hour weeks, maintaining an active social life, going to the gym, keeping up with everything. I felt like I wa…

I normally don’t like to talk about my issues outside of therapy because I just want people to see me as normal, but I’m 36 and still can’t get past the effects of trauma from my childhood. — I grew up with a mom who is obviously mentally ill, very likely borderline personality disorder at the very least. I grew up white trash in poverty surrounded by drugs and trashy people my whole life …

Need help - feeling lost, weak, burnt out, uninspired - evil eye or what? — I will try and keep this as to the point as possible. In the last three and a half years I have lost contact with myself, i Felt I was on top of everything, achieving my dreams and succeeding and then…

what finally got me to shift - I broke my mind ⋆˚࿔ — I used to be the person who would try to shift every single night and wake up crying from a failed attempt because I was so frustrated with the fact that I wasn’t shifting. I thought that I fully be…

Sending my breath places has relived a lot of pain. — I was always taught to try and ignore pain or distract myself. A friend of mine years ago said her yoga instructor said to “send your breath” to places that hurt. After many years of practice I can ma…

I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …

Ive decided — Ive decided i’m gonna get over him now. Im gonna lock in on not stalking and genuinely trying to heal. He made his decision on going back to the girl he told me not to worry about. So why should i be …

Confused if my therapist is just not the right fit. Am I the problem?? Do I just need to work harder? — My diagnosis is Bipolar 2, heavy on the depression. I’ve been seeing a therapist for a few months now. A few things I’m confused about that I need advice on. ⁠1) I feel like he doesn’t understand my …

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

Art and study of the Gateway tapes and general connection to the Universe (with my own experimentation) — \- I WILL BE UPDATING THIS POST EVERYDAY. LINKS WILL BE AT THE BOTTOM OF POST WITH LOG NUMBERS AND DATES - 🌠 Log. 00 \[Tuesday, March 24th, 2026\] So far, I’ve been repeating the same first 3 tape…

Anyone else struggles to understand basic social skills, but can fake being socially adjusted? — I’ve thought myself to mimic pro-social behavior in most cases. However, I offten come across robotic and fake because I’ve learned to imitate social behaviors but not fully understand them because …

Has anyone had to fix their moral compass because they weren't taught how to be a good human? — Please be kind, I don't know where else to go with these thoughts. I've been mulling them over for a long time now with nowhere to go and no one to talk to about it. I never learned from my parents …

Energy too open — I received a massage today from someone who practices reiki as well and they told me that my energy is really open. So open that they were getting dizzy from it. They told me I need to do grounding an…

society pushing the "your parents did their best" nerrative — I grew up in a dysfunctional home to say the least. I do not remember my parents caring for me and they taught me nothing - not academic nor necessary stuff (like laundry, period, showering etc.) and …

No he didn't. He taught act as if as a PRIMARY METHOD to reprogram the subconscious mind (sm). This is a bad method to recommend to beginners who are not especially talented in acting etc.

More pseudoscience from you (the first being that gravity is attractive- gravity is a warp in the space time continuum as it responds to mass, and only appears to be attractive to the uneducated). No…

Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using slee…

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

This!! Same man. I want to use my trauma as an excuse but the truth is when I was with her I only knew my own toxic coping skills taught by my manipulative dysfunctional family

I broke up but she didn't want to get back. It's my fault but she wasn't a Saint either. Immaturity on both ends. I have paid for my mistakes in heartache and tears. I hope you get the person who ch…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

read actually anything by Margo Anand. (SkyDancing tantra) I’m 72 now, and i was always taught that any of this chakra, energy work, out of body experiences, visions, etc etc and etc was just a bunch …

Seems like a classic case of unbelief. They fell for dumb loaporn nonsense. Of course it didn't work. Because they weren't taught to condition their SM.

1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…

Love these arguments. Point 1: There is a difference between hypnosis (true authentic feelings of experience of here and now of the desired outcome) and daydreaming. When you give your mind and your…

Yeah that’s how it started for me. I use to think I liked girls who play “hard to get” now I just find them rude. I’ve even taught myself to find it cute when a girl I like makes a lot of effort.

This is largely because people would rather avoid the discomfort of being honest about how someone's behavior impacts them, and let somebody else continue to struggle forever, than let themselves be u…

This isnt wrong. Think about the way we used to punish people in our societies of the past - we would exile them. Being socially ostracized used to mean certain death for us. Somewhere in our genes we…

Thank you for your sympathy! 💕 I reported them on the app, but didn't feel comfortable going to the police since similar behavior hasn't been consistently regarded as assault in other cases. My expe…

Started with minimal capital, no big savings, and had a 9-5 while working on my business. It wasn’t smooth, but I focused on learning, executing, and iterating. Failures taught me more than success ea…

This. Actually, it should be taught in HS along with a class in Personal Finance, instead of some of the ridiculous other stuff they often teach. My life, family, and marriage are up in flames due …

Yes! I had exactly the same experience, along with the blowing hot and cold and not wanting to discuss any relationship issues. It was exhausting and ultimately sad because I had to end things wit…

Yeah same as you I wish I knew about this earlier. I probably wouldnt have tolerated so much. But at the same time, I think this whole experience taught me alot. It all appears so clear to me now.  …

Thanks. Even if Im anxious or fearful, I usually bring up pretty quickly what bothers me because I hate mis understanding and I also hate to think badly of my partner. This way I am vulnerable even in…

It can be the goal. But you don't wake up one day able to have secure attachment. Literally no one does. We all have to learn it. Lots of people are lucky enough to have had parents that taught them t…

I couldn't agree with you more. Also sorry that you had to explain that to people via DMs. I know it's something you kinda get used to as a more self-aware avoidant on reddit but that doesn't ma…

That's so funny, I actually wrote "I envy that level of delulu" and changed it to confidence. >It's funny that you mention confidence because that's what this person said. That DAs don't have the con…

\> "anxious individuals have a lack of self control, don't respect boundaries, and and don't realize how much damage they do because they just don't care" That would be basically correct, that's why …

Yeah, thats understandable and I feel/felt the same. We were together previously and I broke up with him because he wasn't aware and he just cycled through anxious lashing out during arguments or de…

You know what my experience in dating has taught me. If she does some weird BS I'll warn her I don’t play the hot and cold game, and if it continues I'll move on to the next woman. You can't date with…

So me and guy are talking, been about a week. He asked to be exclusive with talking and I said yes because I don’t usually talk to many people at the same time so he would be the only one I would be t…

Aww sending hugs. Feels familiar. Felt so in my late twenties. Cried so hard. With time and looking back, and lots of unrelated therapy, I realized two things : everything happens for you ; and life i…

The majority of a message (thought stream) sent to my significant other, after two days of receiving (what I believe to be) whimsical communication and apathetic tone, from someone I know loves me—am …

There’s actually a term for this that my therapist taught me, and it’s self verification. Think of it like when you get a new car and suddenly you see that model car all over the place when you never …

I can relate to this and give you some hope. You will get better. It’s not a quick journey. I am still struggling with it, but I get better every day. It is going to be hard, especially at first. Yo…

I went through a devastating break up three years ago. My ex was a dismissive avoidant. We were in couples therapy before the breakup. I kept seeing the same therapist after the breakup and that’s whe…

Oh yes that resonates so much! I often find myself questioning whether I’m actually feeling “in love” because it doesn’t feel like what we are kind of taught it’s “supposed” to feel or look like from …

I relate to this a lot. Therapy taught me there's this “myth of secure attachment” that secure people are 100% Secure™ all the time and once you’re healed you’re basically immune to messy feelings. Th…

I feel you! Seeing that this comment is from 14 days ago I hope you're in a better place right now. But I think one of the most important things my psychologist taught me over the last year is to chec…

I am so grateful for the most secure relationship I've had. It taught me what im able to hold when im being held right.

I've heard (and taught) all this stuff so many times. I just...have a lot of snags around it all. Let me go through each of your points. I have other hobbies and interests, but it's hard for me to ac…

I confronted them when they gave me the opportunity. They apologised for being patronising. Why people treat me like a naive creature to be taught and fixed is beyond me. It's not my first day on eart…

Hi, just wanted to say you're not alone in this. I'm aroace (my attachment style comes to play in platonic relationships) but for the longest time in my life I denied being aromantic because I wanted…

How long did the intense grief + obsessive thinking last? The grief stopped when I allowed myself to understand what exactly I was grieving for. Was it that version of me, was it the safety, was it …

I’ve stayed friends with an ex before, but we were close friends first and there wasn’t a power imbalance. In this situation I agree it’s not a good idea, trauma bond + hierarchy just bleeds into the…

"The grief stopped when I allowed myself to understand what exactly I was grieving for. Was it that version of me, was it the safety, was it the expectations I had. Eventually I realized it was just t…

My unpopular opinion is that you’re not wrong. It can get complicated, especially the older we get. I ended things with someone because we didn’t have a romantic spark after a year. Other than that he…

Speaking from experience, I had a track record of 6 - 10 month relationships and never really knew what the deal was. Then I went to therapy and learned that I was very emotionally unavailable and ha…

Tbh most women I know wouldn't be knowledgeable about women's historic inventions. It's not general knowledge and that is a shame. It would have taken OP all of 10 seconds to say "actually women inven…

If the many years on the Earth have taught me something, it's that looking for closure is something we can usually do without. For someone to ghost you like that, it's more a reflection on their psyc…

Made a new connection thats not dating, but rather someone asking to be taught to do shibari and now considering how that may affect any dating i might do going forward 😅 This specific form of kink…

10 years in a relationship, 4 years back in the game. Now 32, I’m navigating the dating scene ( currently in India and moving to Europe soon) as a Pansexual, Heteroromantic, and Childfree (CF) guy. Wh…