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This was not my experience even when I was heavily DA. I think it could almost seem that way from the outside because it did take me a loooong time to warm up to people (still does! though not nearly …
I'm lucky enough to have turned my podcast into a full time job - here's what I wish I had known — Hey all! Love this community. I'm really blessed to have turned my podcast into a full time job, getting over 200k downloads across 15 episodes upon launch. I'm working on more seasons, but I have had…
Duolingo leader throws shade at r/UXDesign — You all might remember this thread a few months ago, [debating Duolingo renaming UX to “Product Experience.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/UXDesign/comments/1j3hvkw/duolingo_renames_ux/) The VP Mig announ…
Being an Entrepreneur is bloody hard — That's a quote from Dan Pena and it's absolutely right. The bum boys on Instagram, YouTube and all the rest that pretend like it's easy are 1000% full of it. The true life of a business person and e…
I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…
Recovering DA trying to reconnect with FA wife — For context: * I (40M) am a DA, my wife (41F) an FA. We have three children. * Together for 17 years, married for 13 years, distant/no-touch for over 10 years but stable and no deep conflicts. * Cont…
SATURN RETURN & TRANSITING SATURN/NEPTUNE IN ARIES POSTS PROBLEMS — # PROBLEMS WITH SATURN RETURN POSTS We are getting a lot of Saturn Return questions as transiting Saturn enters Aries. First, many of you think your Saturn Return just began today, Feb. 14, 2026 (usi…
Do narcs enjoy kissing? — It took me a while to realize that my nex never enjoyed kissing. There was this one episode where I waited till bed time to tell him "hey, it's been a while 😏" and he turned to the other side and sai…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
My first week with the Gateway Tapes — I am so grateful that I have been able to experience what I have already and I wanted to share. I’ve been doing guided meditations for astral projection for some time now with limited results. Last w…
UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…
I texted her. Here's what I said. I hope this was honest and vulnerable enough. — OK so, this will be a long one. I fucked up. I have some many things to tell you, so many regrets with a heavy heart. I'll start with I miss you. I've been missing you for a long time now. I haven't t…
Started gateway this week. I’m confused — Hello! I admittedly don’t have the most knowledge about the gateway tapes. I’ve listening to a couple podcast episodes about them but it sounded like this intense experience where you will astral pr…
How do I “do” therapy? — I started therapy recently after being diagnosed for the first time with depression and anxiety, but I really don’t enjoy it. I show up and I feel like it’s always having the ball put in my court so t…
[Update] My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth — It’s been almost a year, so I thought I’d give an update in case anyone is wondering. First, I want to thank everyone who took the time to comment, message me, or simply read and reflect on the post.…
If someone is repeatedly triggering you despite knowing what your triggers are is it emotional abuse? — I've been married for 10 years. Certain phrases trigger my trauma in tense moments like in an argument. My husband knows what these phrases are but says them to me regardless causing me to spiral in t…
Worth the wait — About 6 years ago, I (34F) hit rock bottom. My life was in shambles after an abusive relationship, so I had no other choice but to go back to live in my mother’s house for a while. At this point, I wa…
IF YOU ARE 30+ USING NC — If you’re 30+ using the “no contact” method as a means to “Get your ex back”, DON’T. This is long. I just met up with my ex for the first time in 3 months. I was nervous, worried & genuinely conce…
An update : Projected twice since meeting my wife’s deceased great/great great grandmas and it was not a good time — Hello my fellow travelers. Since my first post I’ve projected two times and both of them were not the best time to be honest. To pick up where I left off here is a link to my first experience [The G…
Anyone feel like their own emotions aren't real or dont count somehow? — Not sure how to describe it but I'll have a full crying breakdown, or an anger episode of stomping around my room and yelling, then 10 minutes later it will feel like it didnt even happen, like I dism…
My "Alzheimer technique" worked on my NMom again but I almost chickened out — About a month ago I shared a [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/1qyh9x9/at_age_40_i_finally_found_what_works_with_my_nmom/) here how I visited my NMom after 3 years of NC and…
My ex destroyed his life after we broke up — I don’t even know why I’m writing this, but everything has escalated so much that I just need to get this off my chest. I (33F) was in a relationship for more than 14 years with my ex, let’s call him…
What if we could use Depression? — I had depression for 16 years, and one thing that helped me was shifting the perspective on it, Instead of seeing depression as anything else other than just a black hole that sucks everything thats…
BF of 3.5 years broke it off. I'm so happy and free. — Sooo these last couple of days were a lot. I (29M) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for 3.5 years. If you asked me a week ago, I'd say our relationship had its ups and downs, but we were generally ha…
I successfully manifested my SP after 6 months NC and a high paying part time job — For context so you can understand my situation pre- manifestation. I Had an amazing boyfriend, great self concept and I was absolutely happy, looked amazing, and had a lot of friends, I was loved from…
Leaving, but it is complicated — This may or may not be in the right sub. I'm not sure if I fit into al-anon, nar-anon, or NAMI, but what I am struggling with right now does fall under the work I've been doing to break codependent tr…
Out of a delusional episode and have quit drugs, but evidence of something "wrong" with saying it was delusional has emerged today... — First off do me a favor plz, google for "what is the electrical phenomenon some stipulate is needed for a timeline shift?" yourself and tell me if it throws in the answers anything about a change in S…
If I Never Discovered Manifestation, I Probably Would Have Killed Myself. (NOT A VENT!) — **This isn't a vent, I'm just reflecting on how much Manifestation has changed me for the better, and hopefully, this post will encourage people who are new to manifestation to keep trying!** (Yes, I …
Interest in AP since death of my 8 year old — Hi. I had never heard of Astral Projection, NDE's or OBE's before the death of my son 3 months ago. I have now ended up researching all the reddit and facebook groups about this, more out of desperati…
I made the post about breaking my mind for shifting - here’s how I did it ⛓️💥 — Hello radiant soul! 𓂃˖˳·˖ ִֶָ ⋆🌷͙⋆ ִֶָ˖·˳˖𓂃 ִֶָ I made a post on Reddit about how I reprogrammed my brain for shifting (and spiritual practices in general\*) and many of you requested that I make…
TheTelepathyTapes: Best episodes — Hi, I’ve recently started listening to "The Telepathy Tapes" podcast and I’m curious about your experiences with it. Which episodes did you personally find the most interesting or compelling? I’m e…
How does a partile Saturn-Venus opposition act when sitting right on the ASC/DSC axis? — https://preview.redd.it/pllk211r6urg1.png?width=700&format=png&auto=webp&s=b55183f3a90c146a6bf7f65246a631ea0ee0503b Posting again with the correct house system. I’m seeking interpretations of this s…
Losing friends from a breakup — This shit hurts. Just venting and wondering if anyone can relate. My ex and I were together for about a decade and broke up almost a year ago. I find myself still really grieving and hurt by the frien…
When do you know to end a relationship? — I (19M) have been with my girlfriend (20F) for about two years—we started dating in high school. Since I turned 18, I’ve been living with her, her mom, and her grandmother. Early in the relationship,…
Wave 1: episode 3 to 4 — Does anyone feel like the jump from episode 3 to 4 is massive? Is this normal going forward? We went from a guided meditation to basically ‘do it your self’ from one episode to the next. I didn’t rea…
If you're struggling with Meditation, this might be the push you need! — Apologies for the long-ish post, but I want to share this with everyone here, in case it helps them like it helped me. I used to think meditation was useless. I was a bit confused, a bit dismis…
Worst episode yet
Two festivals ~3 weeks apart. Recommendations on which substances to take? — There are 2 festivals coming up in my area with around 3 weeks in between them. I plan on taking MDMA for the second, but was unsure of what to do at the first one. I've considered weed, 2CB, shrooms …
Issues from anger stops me from building long-term connection — NOTICE: I'm sharing a ton of information, and self-assessment so expect this to be long I've come with alot of friendships from schools, outside, and many things that allows me to potentially have fr…
How Many Times Can You Break Up Before It Sticks? — I’m having a really hard time getting over my ex, and I don’t know how to move on. We met 4 years ago and dated for about a year. The relationship ended largely because of me—I’m bipolar, but at the …
Grieving a divorce — I've never posted and I don't know who will read this, but I've been reading a lot of posts for people in similar situations and wanted to share my story. I recently divorced my wife of all of 8 mont…
How do you recall your experience? — I've seen two UAP in my life. Both occurred within a year of one another but I haven't seen anything since. That's about as tangible an experience that I've had. (I've also had sleep paralysis twice i…
My story, just have a need to vent somewhere — 25 years old desperately trying to finish his uni to maybe finally have some independence, crying in the bathroom stall at the internship again. I guess I'll just put my story here to cope. Througho…
They want to exorcise me ?! — Hey,, so a family member wants to exorcise me from my mental health issues. Im 25. I already made a post about this but ill quickly go over and link the post if i can figure reddit out. I got diagn…
A wave of grief just hit me, just letting it out — I was no older than 13 or 14, we were out for a dinner, my parents, my brother and me. The place was crowded and dad was in line for placing the order, the waiter couldn't hear what my dad said and my…
Ramblings of a lunatic (me) — This is gonna be extremely long so I don’t blame you if you don’t want to read it but I’ve been writing about it for a while and struggled with meaning and found this Reddit and thought I’d seek out s…
TW: Cloanzepam withdrawal and suicidal thoughts??? — Hello everyone , I have been on clonaz and setralin for past 8 months due to panic disorder and anxiety issues. It was triggered by a panic attack later leading to me thinking I might have a serio…
My [F 33] boyfriend [M 42] is jealous of my brother [M 29], how do I address this insecurity in my bf? — My bf, Ted, and I have dated for about 3 years. He has always been weird around my brother. But now its starting to make sense why... He's clearly deeply insecure and jealous of him, for reasons I can…
Thoughts 3months post discard. — Its been 3 months since i was discarded by my cheating, lying, gaslighting, manipulative, psychotic, evil, pos boyfriend, who love bombed and promised enough to keep me so hooked because he knew i was…
Experienced a lot of stress, paranoia and anxiety in a brief period and now my head feels fuzzy — I'm sorry the title is so long. I had an episode the other day where I wasn't sure of something's safety and I was terrified that my negligence might have hurt someone. I needed a ton of reassurance f…
Im tired of this life — I’ve been a daily weed smoker for about 6 years now. For two years before, it would be an occasional spliff. At my worst, it was a q a day. Today, I’m down to two spliffs a day. I want out. So bad. …
2 new episodes in the works. Stay tuned.
There aren't many but as far as I can tell there are a couple which could qualify. 1. Escapism. Just like anything fun, let alone of the "reality substitute" type, there is the potential to use it e…
I attribute my LD to the episode ‘What was in Blue’s Dream’ from Blue’s Clues. Home sick one day from school, watched this episode, dreamed that episode that night then not only did I know I was dream…
Hi we have a podcast episode on this topic, one of our co-hosts is an expert in this topic and offers some insightful tips and techniques. Would it be okay for me to post a link to the episode here? …
dumb question but did you launch 15 episodes at once in the beginning? is this the strat?
Every two weeks for nine months sounds more like a red flag to me. You need to protect yourself from these fallouts and give him a lot of space without asking questions or prodding. My partner is th…
Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …
Have you ever tried mentioning anything about attachment theory or being an FA at the beginning of dating? Or does it feel like it’s too soon and may sabotage things? For me it feels like I’d rather t…
Hi everyone, I’m in my early 20s, and recently I went through my longest relationship so far — almost 2 years — with someone who is also my age, and has BPD. I have AuDHD on top of everything. Our rel…
What do you mean not take your relationship as a permanent ending? sorry for all the questions. If it could help... towards the end of the relationship I actually did something i never did with her a…
Hey everyone, I’d really appreciate some advice or perspective. Yesterday I had an argument with my girlfriend, and it left me feeling pretty low. We hadn’t talked all day, so in the evening I…
It's great that you are feeling better about how you'd be doing in a relationship, but to be honest it seems impossible to meaningfully answer the questions on the test if you are not currently in a l…
Wow I am sorry. I have felt similarly before and it is such a terrible thing to experience. There was a time, even, where I was paranoid that I was NPD (despite being, if anything, the complete opposi…
I also had terrible spirals where I become like an octopus clutching at him aggressively when I “feel” that he gets distant when in fact, he is just very busy. I would call him incessantly until his p…
Hi everyone. I’m a woman in my mid-30s and recently I’ve been feeling completely overwhelmed and ashamed about how dating affects my mental health. I’ve had depressive episodes before, and it feels li…
Thanks for your response, happy to hear that! > I want to learn more about that third law of disorganized attachment, and so much more. This is a bit of a joke. It refers to Newton's third law of mo…
I’m currently dating someone and, honestly, everything seems to be going well. But whenever they act slightly different from the norm or show the slightest bit of insecurity regarding upcoming plans (…
I relate to what you’re saying. I’ve spent most of this last year alone and it’s been very difficult but honestly, I had no other choice. For me, it was a matter of “I can’t force people to be in my l…
Well, I’m really intrigued by attachment theory…and I’ve got a crush on an avoidant guy. Our connection has not been advancing beyond mostly text conversation and sort of “fantasy.” I get mixed signa…
I'm female, and I can't imagine how much harder this would be for me if I also had to deal with the societal pressure not to be vulnerable that men get. I know you're being glib here but the pressure …
I have been harmed by avoidants I’ve dated in the past, but I’m pretty damn secure and on this thread to let avoidants know when their weird ass behavior is weird. I don’t think it’s attachment specif…
Flight/fright. Adrenaline. Feeling like I’m completely on edge. Can’t relax, nervous system is in overdrive. Like everything is just “wrong”. Angry. Angry because that’s the only emotion that can come…
Posted a short summary of my book *A Stoic Resurection* ([I introduced it in another comment down below](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1obp2fx/comment/noljs2g/?utm_source=share&utm_medium…
I sometimes listen to aca voices across America podcast. It’s a dift speaker on every episode telling their story. It’s recorded from an aca meeting, which is recovery from growing up with alcoholic o…
How do you deal with anxious attachment episodes? I had a pretty bad episode on Sunday and didn't get any sleep. My anxiety about my relationship drove me to dig into her Instagram and found that she…
Sunday Stoic - Greetings, I am cohost of the “Sunday Stoic” podcast, a weekly podcast that concentrates on applying Stoicism to modern life. Our most recent episode examines the Cardinal Virtue of Ju…
The other thread is locked, but /u/greenline_chi if you like podcasts, you’ll love this one called “In Bed With The Right” They have a couple episodes about Christian nationalism, religion generally,…
TW/CW: ICE Raid violence, imprisonment, and deportation Quyen Dinh, Executive Director of Southeast Asia Resource Action Center (SEARAC) joins me as a guest for this emergency episode on The Banh…
When I first started learning about spirituality, I had an episode. Among the paranoid and delusional thoughts I was having one was an intrusive thought that didn’t feel like it originated from me tha…
Ugh, I’m sorry! IMHO since Halloween is a long time to figure out whether you have feelings… Be kind to yourself for a few days! I call it babying yourself, but strict instructions are to eat all th…
I have a really hard time in being interesting. I think im a boring as fuck person ever since I gained sanity after a lengthy psychotic episode. I just dont feel amusement like I used to. Before an…
Surfing the crimson wave… Good for you sticking to your boundary. I think there is a Seinfeld episode where Jerry is dating a woman who cries about everything, but has zero emotional response to him …
I hate OLD so very much, but there's no good way to meet people around where I live. I just found a speed dating event nearby for people in my age range. Anyone ever been to one of these? How was it? …
> I just keep thinking of the Letterkenny episode where it's 9 men and 1 woman. Events I've seen have a men/women limit. I would never go to one that didn't have one.
Random telenovela shower thoughts: Over the past couple of weeks I have been catching up on my fave telenovela, La Reina del Flow. And what I have been noodling on is the male characters and how they…
Ooh good idea. Maybe I’ll get bored one day soon. The last episode I watched had a really good moment. He was having a fight with his wife because she went to vent to her therapist. And he was like …
🫡 I have turned on the preheat! I'm a few episodes into season 1, I think I've seen the whole series through before but it's been a while. New tattoo is a snake! I'll have a few more sessions, it's…
Enjoy your pizza and pets! I’m glad you’re looking after yourself despite feeling understandably sad on this day. I also tell myself I hate the commercialism of the day (and I do!) but I’d like to hat…
I hope you get a filler episode soon, with lots of goofy b-plots and no character development at all!
Thanks! I hadn't heard of that but it sounds like a great think to try. Any episodes you'd recommend in particular?
Start with season 2. Each season follows 3 or 4 couples through their process of understanding and beginning to deal with their issues. They grapple with a variety of tough issues and come out better …
Thank you, I'm starting therapy today which its great :) I told him, he is not happy about it and is triggered too but we're gonna try. I don't know what my trigger is, but I usually panic before meet…
Watching the most recent Love is Blind episode makes me happy to be single right now... yikes. I do believe there are good men out there, but damn.
I watched it last night and I was just cupping my face the whole time. The episode before that was hard to watch, too.
Reminds me of a Modern Family episode where they take Haley to a bar for her “first” drink, but she’s clearly been drinking for ages lol I feel like sport games can also be good bonding moments if th…
Me (late 20s male, mother passed last year and my boyfriend (26M, currently unemployed) have been together 2 years. We live together and share pets that he loves. He was my main support during my moth…
sounds like a "curb your enthusiasm" episode
I need to listen to the year ahead podcast episode, I’ve been so wrapped up with January thru March and a bit I July to remember the end of the year.
Great question! Firstly, I recommend listening to Michael Greenberg's podcast. Episode 252. Secondly, ask yourself, has rumination ever improved your relationships? And/or led to reconciliation w w…