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Intense trauma externalisation integration experiences? Gestalt chairs — I have started with gestalt so it is still my preferred trauma coping tool subset, it's pretty aligned with how I feel and with ig how I work in general. I have been going to psychodrama workshops und…
Should I redirect the sales? — This is not a rant/rave about my e-commerce journey as I expected a lot of turmoil and for e-commerce to not be all it was cracked up to be. This is actually witnessed by the shhear number of people …
JSON-LD by llana Davis — I am newer to SEO and stumbled across this app via ChatGBT. My 7-day trial ends in the next two days and then we’ll be charged the $400 annual charge. Before we commit though, has anyone (or does an…
I have had enough for Klaviyo. Planning to switch to Omnisend — I have done my math: using Ominisend could save me $50 a month + SMS marketing. Does anyone have experience with Omnisend? A backstory: Klaviyo overcharged me and refused a refund. Their service is …
tarriffs and what they mean for clothing brands — Hi, I am a high school student starting a clothing brand from Canada and I just got an email from my shipping courier today regarding Trump's tarriffs on May 2nd. I was wondering how hard I am going t…
What questions to ask web developers before signing the contract with them. — I’m talking to few developers to create a non-ecommerce website for me. I need some basic features like live chat, calendar for appts, contact forms, WhatsApp integration. Most of them are including 1…
How to remove Fraudulent Orders from Shop account? — So the question is as above. Back in March, I got fraudulently charged by a 'Elite Chimney LLC' for about $6100+. These were not placed by me or by any one I know, it just showed up one day. I manage…
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
Asking for input from those who are avoidant — (Forgot to add user flair.) Last paragraph has the question. But for context, I have someone in my life who has acknowledged they are avoidant. When I started looking into attachment styles I found t…
Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…
What is even going on? — I (45f) have been single and dating for a a little over a year now, and there have been some frustrating patterns emerge that I just can’t make sense of. So I’m curious if anyone else out there has. A…
Discharged after a 3 star Google review — Hi! I have autism so I sometimes have a hard time figuring out how I come across . But I was at a practice that provided both APRN services and therapy . I posted a three star Google review saying I …
Advice on how to deal with parent giving ultimatum over my relationship — I'm a 28 year old gay Asian male currently living in an East Asian country for my job, away from my home country and my parents. All my life, I had a great and loving relationship with my parents. I w…
I want to leave America. What country to move to? — I am Filipina. It is 3 in the morning where I am, and I cannot sleep. I cannot do this anymore. What this country has become, the headlines, the racists (and most white people), are debilitating. I am…
Us who were child victims — Do you absolutely melt when you see a parent go above and beyond to protect or avenge their child? I was not believed by my mother when I told her I was raped at 9 years old by a family "friend." When…
Women who were discarded by their male avoidants, did they ever reach out after a long period? — I saw a post of this asking the opposite, so now I'm asking those women who got discharged by men. Let's say it's been months or years, where there moments where they reached out?
Why do people have it out for me? — Hi all, I’m new to this sub and don’t know the terms or anything, but I have always felt in tune with nature, energy and have always the ability to read peoples emotions very easily. I’ve also alway…
How to deal with strong intrusive thoughts? — Hi everyone, I have a problem I'd like everyone's advice/insight on. I've had a very suppressed/repressed mind since childhood, which eventually precipitated in mental illness at the age of 33 (I'm 40…
Am I expecting too much after the worst time of my life? — Asking for advice in a situation that is a bit of a shitshow. I’ll try to make it succinct. I live in the UK but am from a different European country. I, F42, started seeing M44, “S”, just over t…
People are always shocked when abuse happens in "good families"...... but that's kind of the point. — I saw the latest news about the Duggars & how the mom was recently arrested and charged with child endangerment. What really stood out to me wasn’t even the charges, it was how many people were shocke…
I'm so sick of laying in bed — don't know what to do. I work a regular 40 hour office job that's not even that difficult or stressful. But as soon as I'm home, I end up in bed. Even showering feels like a chore. Getting out of bed…
How are you guys actually spending your weekends to feel recharged? — I've realized that my weekend mostly consists of scrolling my phone, and I don’t want to face to screen anymore … And near my live area have lot of parks, so I’ve started trying to go birdwatching on…
She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…
Leaving, but it is complicated — This may or may not be in the right sub. I'm not sure if I fit into al-anon, nar-anon, or NAMI, but what I am struggling with right now does fall under the work I've been doing to break codependent tr…
breakthrough trip & the bigger picture — Hello, it's me again. I know that there are people here who enjoy reading my experiences so thus my posting. Obviously a disclaimer is this experience is under the influence of a psychadelic, but it t…
My situationship doesn’t want a relationship but still has feelings for me?? — Please don’t call me delulu, because I’ve had my fair share of avoidant weirdos, but I don’t think he is one. Been talking to this guy since December. Things were great. The chemistry was there. The c…
Some supportive words to all you going through this. — just as the title says, I wanted to share something with you all. A bit of trauma dumping. If you’d like to know how I was feeling a few weeks ago, you can look at my profile for my most recent post…
My parents would make fake police reports to label me as a ‘bad kid’ so I wouldn’t be believed if I came forward about their abuse (tw: CSA) — I don’t even know exactly how to explain this, but recently in therapy while I was yapping about my life, this topic came up: When I was around 13, my mother started making fake reports about me and …
May 4, 2017 Experience — On May 4th, 2017 my best-friend and I decided to smoke a little joint on the rooftop of her building at night. We were half-way in when I noticed two bright orbs appear in the sky. Originally I though…
Anxiety isn’t in the head it’s stuck in the body. The somatic trick that rewires it — I tried something that felt absolutely ridiculous during an anxiety spiral and it worked better than anything else I have ever done. I stood up put on a heavy beat and just started shaking. Full body …
How to deal with Trauma and depression from Asian parent — So I' am a filipino and 19 years old student I have a big brother and a little sister who is 5 years old I had a huge fight with my mom. While my dad was working in different state in Australia so he …
"When trust is lost, traumatized people feel that they belong more to the dead than to the living." — "The sense of safety in the world, or basic trust, is acquired in earliest life in the relationship with the first caretaker. Originating with life itself, this sense of trust sustains a person throug…
porn and gore ruined my sense of self, i will never be normal. no matter how much you force me to. — hefty rant, but does anyone feel the same way. i never feel normal compared to other humans, like a roach and light, i always avoid things that would make me feel "normal" (socialization, befriendin…
Weirdest experience when dreaming last night — So last night / this morning I had the weirdest experience when dreaming - I have realised whilst dreaming before that it was a dream and it was like what I was seeing froze like a picture, shattere…
My divorce and a warning to everyone that is seeing red flags — In 2024 I found out my wife of almost 13 years had been, at the very least, emotionally cheating on me for at least two years. One day I woke up to her being in a bad mood and treating me just awful, …
Am I a bad daughter? — I feel incredibly frustrated and upset right now. My parents have financial issues and while I sympathise I am dealing with really bad depression and suicidal tendencies brought on by their abuse. My …
feeling guilty about something thats not talked about enough in manifestation — okay so i never thought if ill ever be making a post like this but here we are so ik about manifestations and all since few years and am actively doing it since last year well mostly manifesting my sp…
The dreaded day has finally come — I've been low contact with them for years but one of my literal nightmares has come to fruition, dealing with my parent's hoarder house. They're in their 70s, increasing mobility issues, and have fill…
Quitting spring health — I’m so done with spring health. I have been seeing my therapist through spring health for about a year, this year I got my 6 no cost sessions. I had to cancel one about 10 days before it happened due …
IVF and my beautiful child and my sexually charged (not with me) wife. — I had no idea I was married to a narcissist. She is cold, calculated and beautiful. Great athlete too. Doesn’t light up a room by giving energy. She lights it up with a certain fear. Very successful. …
I wish I was 'normal' [mentions of neglect] — Couldn't figure out how to add a spoiler tag, but trigger warning in the flair and title. Whenever I bring this up to other people, or in therapy, they always say the same thing. There is no 'normal'…
I (28f) found out my bf (41m) has been requesting cash back on my debit card? — I don't know where to start... I just found out that my BF has been getting cash back on my debit card without my knowledge. A little background... We live together. He doesn't have an income. He …
Leaving a Messy ‘Situationship’ — I (25m) dont think I have the emotional maturity to end a nearly 2-year situationship with a girl (25F) with whom a future with seems uncertain I met this girl when we both started grad school, and w…
i made a mistake — after a year and a few months, me and my gf broke up. i was the one to end things but i went about it all wrong and i absolutely in the wrong. i feel guilty and like an absolute piece of shit. we br…
i need help / advice. — This is basically a cry for help and i’m desperate for advice. I am a student in my early twenties living in canada with low income and i live in an extremely abusive household. i want to leave b…
My mom said to get over it — I’m the oldest girl of three kids and this went on for years from my grandmas husband, I was 6 years old and it went on until 5th grade. And I spoke up about it when I was 17 and I’m 21 now. I’m expre…
Jury Duty triggered my CPTSD and turned the day into a humiliation ritual — TW: mentions of domestic abuse and attempted unaliving I'm not sure if this is the place to post something like this but sometimes in order to cope and make myself feel better, I write it all out an…
I've been refused a copy of my referral — I did a course of CBT on the NHS, I wasn't finding it useful, I have PTDS and CPTSD, she tried to treat the PTSD from the point of trauma, but more and more trauma was coming up and I kept disassociat…
I think my therapist is actually not a good therapist — I think my therapist is actually not a good therapist So I found out I had ADHD back in 2022 and started going to therapy. I was charged $130 for an hour. Fine. For about 4 months I went twice a mont…
Found out the 60+ year old man in my apartment building is a sex offender. — I made a post a week or two ago about weird interactions with my neighbor. Like him commenting on my appearance, watching me for hours sit on my deck, driving up slowly behind me as I’m walking and co…
a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…
Yeah I think that too but I'm sure Swift is an FA through and through. Her lyrics are so highly charged, often moving between stages of idealization and wanting outright distance from her partners, so…
she probably liked me cuz I wasn't only her partner at that time. I was her emotional support as well. someone she confided in, fully trusted, and used to share everything with me, and I was also her …
When you notice yourself being hypervigilant about signs they may no longer be interested, ask yourself "so what?" So what if they really are pulling away and are losing interest? That's ok, you'll de…
I am AA, he is displaying avoidant behaviours. I don't want to speculate on his attachment style, I can only work off of what he says and does. The honeymoon phase was fast and intense, and it ended …
Giving her gifts is not the answer you’re looking for. If you give someone when they’re in a emotionally charged state can feel like a love debt, like they have to repay it or like they have to do bet…
I have found that I keep emotionally charged conversations and people at arms length. I have never been able to truly be their friend. I've found it much easier to form friendship groups than singular…
It does sound like his idea of what love is could be quite different, and maybe he really does feel the same way about you, but for him “love” isn’t the right word yet. However, it’s definitely a vali…
I have the fortune of having been in a marriage where my ex refused to celebrate the holiday "on principle" (he wanted me to get him stuff and cook him a nice meal, he just didn't want to reciprocate)…
Two things come to mind: 1. A lot of older people stop chasing that emotionally charged sort of love because it tends to end in disaster. Honestly, I’m reaching that point at 35. I wouldn’t call that…
What were you in for? Edit to add: I don’t just mean what did you plead to / what were you convicted of. I’m asking the real question - what were you originally charged with and/or what did you do?
The definition of codependency is when one enables the other's self destructive behaviour and they both are bonded because of it. I have definitely fallen into that pattern in the past where I sank in…
re: #3 - what is your attachment style? I wish I had 0 problem saying no, but I guess that's what therapy's for re: #4 - my therapist is amazing and already giving me a reduced rate until I find a ne…
I think I’ve been trying too hard when it comes to dating. For the past 2 years I’ve gone to social events, cold approached women, used r4r, joined clubs/meetups, singles mixers, and speed dating even…
I was always that person who said I’d never date someone who is separated/not officially divorced or even someone who is less than 6 months out of the divorce being finalized. Welp… I somehow ended …
Very interesting and charged placement.
You get charged the white tourist prices?
Original copy of post by u/dreamyraccoons: I (45f) have been single and dating for a a little over a year now, and there have been some frustrating patterns emerge that I just can’t make sense of. So…
1. Probably those guys are looking for sex partners primarily. They may not be looking for a real relationship at all, or they may be open to it. They probably try this approach with lots of potent…
I had something similar. In my dream my friends and I were running from the police and we were in this tall building. They needed to use the restroom and we were far enough from the cops that we thoug…
Charged placement def! But😅....Saturn deb though.... And its like that in almost every divisional charts...d1 d9 d10 d3 d4 and so on.... And a lot of the planets in chart are in Saturn Nakshatra and…
*What is with some men thinking it’s appropriate or will be successful to go straight to sexually charged chatting? Especially in our “mature” age bracket? I’m a very sexual person so that aspect is i…
it's a mixed bag, life always presents you with challenges, aging too. And I agree, youth is highly imperfect, emotionally charged & chaotic yet memorable because if it.
IMHO: #1 probably an element of porn culture or just the sexually charged nature of the world around us. Also, men do that because… it works sometimes. There ARE women who engage with it. So because …
Prep school has a specific meaning and it’s not the one you intend. For example—Dalton is a prep school and that is in fact elite. Probably enrichment, after school program, tutoring or extracurricula…
Hmmm… 🤔 That’s a good question. I guess you could say I kind of forced myself, or cornered myself, into manifesting it. I’ve been trying to do conscious AP/OBE since elementary school, but had no luc…
I am so much charged and it’s worth it
Yeah right, agreed completely. Maybe shes gay. Or maybe shes just finding every single excuse she can come up with to make herself feel justified behaving the way she did/is. The laundry list of 11 ye…
An aquaintance of mine is also a Libra Rising and he also has his Sun and Mercury sitting in the 8th house in Taurus. His Mars is in the 4th house in Capricorn and Pluto is in the 2nd house (the only …
Yes. Guilty as charged. But we can also keep our mouths shut and not be assholes.
No worries mate, always willing to give my perspective. Intent is the key factor imo, the delivery can always be adjusted to accommodate both people. But the action being done, should always factor i…
They don’t want to be stuck with helping this absolute jewel of a human. They want to make it YOUR PROBLEM. Too bad for them. ETA: On further reflection, I bet they want you to have him discha…
It sounds negative to me dear. I know you didn't speak to T, but be assured T put in motion you getting discharged. They were offended, ORRRRRR another take~ T personally didn't like you and used this…
I feel a kindred spirit here! I stopped all contact with my mother in my 40s when she pulled the same crap. I had MAJOR surgery a few years ago. My mom ASKED to take me and be my support person. All g…
Yes! I used to associate the ability to stay up late & then sleep in as my down-time or that's it's okay to relax. Now I'm basically 10-6, and I am consistently recharged. I have more energy overall.…
Yes, and that's why they have a lot of training that helps them understand how to remain objective, because discharging a patient is serious and potentially damaging to the patient. If, as a therapist…
They do this because if you do try to go to police or stand up for yourself, they would have "proof" that you are bad too. That this is a "both sides" thing and they are not the only one at fault. Esp…
you want a genuinely honest answer? Men cant be men anymore. So they look for affirmation that what the world considers toxic is good. It's very easy to sit there and judge these people. I do. but wh…
I’m sorry to hear that! I lost my dad to cancer. It was during the early days of me learning about this stuff. When he was first diagnosed we were told he only had a few weeks to live. So I went full …
Should have rolled the dice to see if he got charged. You’re too nice.
It’s a crap situation. If two people are both drunk; both of them can not legally give consent. There have been court cases that determined consent based on levels of intoxication. Keep all the evid…
Some state laws define rape as inserting the penis into somewhere. Women quite literally can't legally be charged with rape in those states.
Same as my nephew. He has been hospitalized several times. He gets better on antipsychotic meds, but stops taking them once he is discharged. He smokes weed all of the time, which makes his paranoia m…
If the thoughts are highly charged then maybe you should wait until they calm down before you meditate.
Moon in Virgo 12th house is the obvious source. It means unprocessed emotions you don't even know. It might not even be your own, who knows. But the state of Mercury matters also. It shows a mind that…
Everybody does it differently. I’m just telling you the way it was for me. And having a routine is very good if you’re raising children. It’s good for your mental health. You’ve got to put the phone d…
You've got the sun in Gemini and Libra rising! Those are classic overthinking signs, along with Virgo. The overthinking that you're *conscious* of is probably happening with your sun in the 9th house:…
Yeah that's exactly what I noticed. Moon in detriment RIGHT on the IC, together with Chiron in the 4th. (Also wow this is such a tidy chart? With the AC at 0° Libra and the MC at 1° Cancer, all the ca…
It’s totally valid to need a break after a long day and not be able to handle a deep dive into work drama every night. You could gently set a boundary by saying you love hearing about her day but some…