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Intense trauma externalisation integration experiences? Gestalt chairs — I have started with gestalt so it is still my preferred trauma coping tool subset, it's pretty aligned with how I feel and with ig how I work in general. I have been going to psychodrama workshops und…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
Why are East Asian men in US/Western media so often portrayed in such a narrow way? — East Asian international male grad student here. I’ve been in the US for a few years and it feels like 9 out of 10 East Asian men I see in American media are portrayed in a certain way. I mean charac…
I figured it out — I've known about emotional neglect for a while now, but despite knowing this I've been stuck in this deep dark pit for a decade. I've been living at home with my parents ever since I dropped out of co…
Better at Being Lost in Life — It's felt like such a long decade for me. I'm 24 and have so many regrets. As a child I was exposed to so much adult media unfit for my age that totally warped my understanding of the world. I was a…
Does being an adult mean having more and more responsibilities? — I feel like I’m just starting my adult life. I’m 19 and working as a bus monitor, and it made me realize how many responsibilities I have now. Things like dealing with people at work, watching wh…
I struggled with this for years. First of all what I learned is that when I get anxious from not receiving texts, I remember that that is a response caused by seeing texting or the lack of it as a “t…
it’s not fair how everyone with good childhoods/young adult memories gets to reminisce and be nostalgic and you can have nothing to relate to :/
The biggest lesson you can learn from this experience is that you should never be with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself. They do it for two reasons, to try to feel better about themselves…
Marriage has never, and should never be about love. It has always been a contractual arrangement between two people. You’re being smart about this. Women disproportionately suffer financially due to…
Right? Like oh I’m sooooo sorry my biggest sin in life was liking adult men as an adult man.
It's depressing to think someone would be attracted to a man they have to coach into acknowledging that women are just normal people. These are questions that would make sense to ask a teenager who's …
Totally get you hun 💜 I was abused by a few adult men when I was young, and then somehow it all happened again when I was ages 11-14 with a different guy… And believe it or not I’ve had several enco…
>We do not have to talk about the few cases of men being victimized According to [the paper](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10135558/) I linked earlier, "27% of men and over 32% of women ha…
He said he didn't want a serious relationship and you don't have sex outside of a committed relationship. Why did you meet up with him in the first place? Why fool around with him and get his hopes up…
11 years solo here. That mix of resignation where you KNOW it’s okay if you’re single, not lesser, all of that only kicks the can down the line. Inside my inner child is screaming that it’s not fair.…
yep, ever since i was really young and i knew other girls who were too. its such bullshit and really normalized (ik theres a lot of people against it too) i cant tell now if a lot of adult men just p…
I remember there was one day when I was in 4th grade when I woke up and was looking at the ceiling and realized the thing I had to do was just keep my head down and be quiet and stay out of the way. I…
For the purposes of this conversation knowing your roommate is non binary is absolutely not helpful. While it could conceivably be purposeful harassment we don’t know yet because you haven’t brought …
Slow your roll? Psychologists are pretty clear that waiting a year to introduce your kids to the person you are dating is the way to go. Let me underline ‘introduce’. That does not mean integrating yo…
Wow.... No words... Yeah, I'd want to be clear of that mess, keep distance from eeeeveryone ok with this...... So what, if she was looking after herself at 10, does jt mean she'd be ready for older …
Standard t-shirt, gym shorts.* Easy on/off, they're comfortable, you likely have them already, and by definition they are designed to get, well, *messy* but launder easily. Remember that one of the …
No idea what you are talking about. There seems to be a complete misunderstanding here. I'm simply wondering why a lot of adult men act like assholes in OLD contexts. For example, immediately talki…
Do you have any more details about the stepdad being a dangerous man? Is there a chance he would actually harm you? Does he have a criminal record for violence or is there any evidence whatsoever of h…
So, this 'all' is happening less because of your decision to end the relationship, but more because of EVERY other choice you've made on how to handle it. If you had simply said "That is not for me,…
The first thing that happens when we're safe, in my experience, isn't bliss, but violent release. You've had a hard journey where you weren't allowed or couldn't afford to feel loneliness and fear. Yo…
You just tell him you're over this weaponized incompetence bullshit. You're not his mother and if he wants one can can go move back in with his parents. Living with a partner as an adult means pulling…
I would suggest two things: 1. Have a serious chat with him. Tell him that you are not his mummy, and that in this shared household, if he is incapable of behaving like an adult member, he will be re…
Don’t give him money. Finances need to be agreed to ahead of time. Also, move somewhere where you don’t have to clean up after two grown adult men.
Girly I have been diagnosed with things and am not a normal person. But being an adult means it’s not an excuse to not find a solution. That could be medication, therapy, or something else. But what i…
I became my own loving parent. I did a lot of re-parenting work. I thought a lot about what I needed from a loving parent and did those things for myself. Sometimes this meant visualizing adult me …
dad always emphasized how important my education was "so you can work with your brain, not your back"... fast-forward to adult me having a career that made more $$ per hour than he ever made, me sa…
So you have been with him for 3 years. Do you consider him to be bi-sexual or into men? Something like that would be hard to hide completely. You are female...his last relationship was with a female..…
This is one of those things that bothered me in childhood. And then I stopped telling them anything. And the adult me is thinking that I was the problem by not telling them anything.
OP, I feel for you deeply, but I think this issue may be beyond Reddit’s pay grade. There is a huge contingent of people here who love to believe the world is full of children accusing adult men of mo…
Where there’s a strong surprising feeling, there’s always a hidden belief. What is it that you have come to believe about men that makes masculinity so reprehensible to you? I am a man, and for me it …