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Intense trauma externalisation integration experiences? Gestalt chairs

Intense trauma externalisation integration experiences? Gestalt chairs — I have started with gestalt so it is still my preferred trauma coping tool subset, it's pretty aligned with how I feel and with ig how I work in general. I have been going to psychodrama workshops und…

r/therapypost4/7/2026
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost3/16/2026
Why are East Asian men in US/Western media so often portrayed in such a narrow way?

Why are East Asian men in US/Western media so often portrayed in such a narrow way? — East Asian international male grad student here. I’ve been in the US for a few years and it feels like 9 out of 10 East Asian men I see in American media are portrayed in a certain way. I mean charac…

r/AsianAmericanpost4/3/2026
I figured it out

I figured it out — I've known about emotional neglect for a while now, but despite knowing this I've been stuck in this deep dark pit for a decade. I've been living at home with my parents ever since I dropped out of co…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/6/2026
Better at Being Lost in Life

Better at Being Lost in Life — It's felt like such a long decade for me. I'm 24 and have so many regrets. As a child I was exposed to so much adult media unfit for my age that totally warped my understanding of the world. I was a…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost4/11/2026
Does being an adult mean having more and more responsibilities?

Does being an adult mean having more and more responsibilities? — I feel like I’m just starting my adult life. I’m 19 and working as a bus monitor, and it made me realize how many responsibilities I have now. Things like dealing with people at work, watching wh…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost4/12/2026
Anxiety only triggered in romantic relationship, how to manage it?

I struggled with this for years. First of all what I learned is that when I get anxious from not receiving texts, I remember that that is a response caused by seeing texting or the lack of it as a “t…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/13/2025
The post-abuse life is rarely worth it

it’s not fair how everyone with good childhoods/young adult memories gets to reminisce and be nostalgic and you can have nothing to relate to :/

r/CPTSDcomment3/9/2026
My (19f) boyfriend (19m) keeps telling me I’m at high risk of diabetes. How do I address this?

The biggest lesson you can learn from this experience is that you should never be with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself. They do it for two reasons, to try to feel better about themselves…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My boyfriend (31M) is upset I prioritize money and don’t want kids, even though I (24F) told him this from the start

Marriage has never, and should never be about love. It has always been a contractual arrangement between two people. You’re being smart about this. Women disproportionately suffer financially due to…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/14/2026
My mom who disowned my for being gay is ready to forgive me, oh and for me to financially support her and my dad after he retires of course.

Right? Like oh I’m sooooo sorry my biggest sin in life was liking adult men as an adult man.

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/15/2026
How do I (F26) talk to my partner (M33) about casual misogyny?

It's depressing to think someone would be attracted to a man they have to coach into acknowledging that women are just normal people. These are questions that would make sense to ask a teenager who's …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
How I learned that a lot of women/girls are scared of men

Totally get you hun 💜 I was abused by a few adult men when I was young, and then somehow it all happened again when I was ages 11-14 with a different guy… And believe it or not I’ve had several enco…

r/CPTSDcomment3/19/2026
The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker

>We do not have to talk about the few cases of men being victimized According to [the paper](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10135558/) I linked earlier, "27% of men and over 32% of women ha…

r/CPTSDcomment3/20/2026
Can anyone provide some insight?

He said he didn't want a serious relationship and you don't have sex outside of a committed relationship. Why did you meet up with him in the first place? Why fool around with him and get his hopes up…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
"You'll find someone eventually"

11 years solo here. That mix of resignation where you KNOW it’s okay if you’re single, not lesser, all of that only kicks the can down the line. Inside my inner child is screaming that it’s not fair.…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/23/2026
was anyone else sexualized by almost everyone around them from a young age?

yep, ever since i was really young and i knew other girls who were too. its such bullshit and really normalized (ik theres a lot of people against it too) i cant tell now if a lot of adult men just p…

r/CPTSDcomment3/24/2026
how old were you when you realized that your family and feelings weren't "normal"

I remember there was one day when I was in 4th grade when I woke up and was looking at the ceiling and realized the thing I had to do was just keep my head down and be quiet and stay out of the way. I…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/26/2026
My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open

For the purposes of this conversation knowing your roommate is non binary is absolutely not helpful. While it could conceivably be purposeful harassment we don’t know yet because you haven’t brought …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
Me (35F) and I think I found the love of my life (40M) but there's one serious problem.

Slow your roll? Psychologists are pretty clear that waiting a year to introduce your kids to the person you are dating is the way to go. Let me underline ‘introduce’. That does not mean integrating yo…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
My brother (28M) is getting married to his gf (18F) and I am TA for disapproving...

Wow.... No words... Yeah, I'd want to be clear of that mess, keep distance from eeeeveryone ok with this...... So what, if she was looking after herself at 10, does jt mean she'd be ready for older …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
What to wear - sleepovers

Standard t-shirt, gym shorts.* Easy on/off, they're comfortable, you likely have them already, and by definition they are designed to get, well, *messy* but launder easily. Remember that one of the …

r/datingoverfortycomment4/1/2026
I wish men wouldn’t talk about my curves after 3 chats

No idea what you are talking about. There seems to be a complete misunderstanding here. I'm simply wondering why a lot of adult men act like assholes in OLD contexts. For example, immediately talki…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/5/2026
I've been NC for 4 months and now they're 'stalking' me and I'm worried for my son.

Do you have any more details about the stepdad being a dangerous man? Is there a chance he would actually harm you? Does he have a criminal record for violence or is there any evidence whatsoever of h…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/6/2026
I 20M broke up with my 21F girlfriend after she proposed to open up our relationship and now everyone is telling me to get back with her basically (Update)

So, this 'all' is happening less because of your decision to end the relationship, but more because of EVERY other choice you've made on how to handle it. If you had simply said "That is not for me,…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/7/2026
I made a safe life for myself, shed my defences, and now the crushing loneliness has finally surfaced. Anybody else?

The first thing that happens when we're safe, in my experience, isn't bliss, but violent release. You've had a hard journey where you weren't allowed or couldn't afford to feel loneliness and fear. Yo…

r/CPTSDcomment4/8/2026
How do I (F24) nip my boyfriend’s (M26) weaponized incompetence in the bud?

You just tell him you're over this weaponized incompetence bullshit. You're not his mother and if he wants one can can go move back in with his parents. Living with a partner as an adult means pulling…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
How do I (F24) nip my boyfriend’s (M26) weaponized incompetence in the bud?

I would suggest two things: 1. Have a serious chat with him. Tell him that you are not his mummy, and that in this shared household, if he is incapable of behaving like an adult member, he will be re…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
Is it fair for my boyfriend (26M) to charge me (21F) the same rent as his roommate when we share a room?

Don’t give him money. Finances need to be agreed to ahead of time. Also, move somewhere where you don’t have to clean up after two grown adult men.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
I (28F)chose someone (28M) I knew was unstable and now I don’t know if love is enough.

Girly I have been diagnosed with things and am not a normal person. But being an adult means it’s not an excuse to not find a solution. That could be medication, therapy, or something else. But what i…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
How Do You Move on After No Contact?

I became my own loving parent. I did a lot of re-parenting work. I thought a lot about what I needed from a loving parent and did those things for myself. Sometimes this meant visualizing adult me …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/11/2026
What are some double binds you remember from growing up?

dad always emphasized how important my education was "so you can work with your brain, not your back"... fast-forward to adult me having a career that made more $$ per hour than he ever made, me sa…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/11/2026
Update: An anonymous person messaged me (F27) saying that my boyfriend (M29) of 3 years was arrested… can you help me know what I should do next?

So you have been with him for 3 years. Do you consider him to be bi-sexual or into men? Something like that would be hard to hide completely. You are female...his last relationship was with a female..…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
Family never excited for me

This is one of those things that bothered me in childhood. And then I stopped telling them anything. And the adult me is thinking that I was the problem by not telling them anything.

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/11/2026
Update: An anonymous person messaged me (F27) saying that my boyfriend (M29) of 3 years was arrested… can you help me know what I should do next?

OP, I feel for you deeply, but I think this issue may be beyond Reddit’s pay grade. There is a huge contingent of people here who love to believe the world is full of children accusing adult men of mo…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
Strong aversion to and fear of masculine energy…need help

Where there’s a strong surprising feeling, there’s always a hidden belief. What is it that you have come to believe about men that makes masculinity so reprehensible to you? I am a man, and for me it …

r/energy_workcomment4/13/2026