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Is casual sex compatible with secure attachment?

Yes, casual sex can be compatible with secure attachment. If you're interested in a ton of reading on secure attachment and alternative sex choices chosen healthily, I've heard good things about the …

r/attachment_theorycomment1/9/2026
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

Irritating the ones you love, polysecure (because it deals with a lot of attachment education), women who love too much, polyvagal theory and exercises, legit anything to do with different therapies— …

r/attachment_theorycomment3/25/2025
Trading book recommendation! For those trying to fix attachment issues.

I enjoyed the introduction to attachment theory, which included a small overview on trauma and emotional intelligence, from Polysecure byJessica Fern. I'm not poly but I found the book interesting!

r/attachment_theorycomment1/29/2026
Is casual sex compatible with secure attachment?

In the book Polysecure by Jessica Fern, she explores attachment theory in the context of Polyamory and Open Relationships. She talked about deciding with someone if you want to have an attachment-bas…

r/attachment_theorycomment2/24/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

Girl I feel you. I ended a FWB for the same reason. Lack of communication before or after. Not even looking for a partner of any sort in him but at least let’s talk about what worked and what didn’t. …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
The absolute dearth of any kind of help for victims of polyamory under duress

Polyamory is a numbers game by definition. My anger at my first spouse. My anger at the people into that lifestyle they brought home who tried to coerce me into threesomes. My anger at my SECOND spou…

r/therapycomment3/14/2026
Wife (40 F Str) is open to me (34 M Bi) exploring sex with men, how do I approach this properly?

It looks like no one has brought a positive outlook into this. You should do some work to deconstruct from mono-normative relationship outlook and transition into a polyamorous mindset. Even if your j…

r/relationshipscomment4/8/2026