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In the book Polysecure by Jessica Fern, she explores attachment theory in the context of Polyamory and Open Relationships. She talked about deciding with someone if you want to have an attachment-bas…

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

How to heal avoidant attachment? — Uhhhh hey gang. Formerly severe fearful avoidant here. The attachment quizzes put everyone somewhere on a quadrant, with the bottom being high avoidance and the right high anxiety. So I was farrrr in …

Apple-style vs Standard "Startupy" Landing Pages — One thing I'm struggling with our landing page design is whether to take an Apple style approach where the headings are — "So much power", "A whole new leap forward", etc and we have cool-focused sect…

Best Practice HTTP Status Code for Proxy-Level Content Validation Failure? — Working on an API gateway/proxy that sits in front of APIs. The proxy adds its own validation layer (toxicity, etc). I'm wrestling with an API design choice: when my **proxy's** validation rules bloc…

Need Help with SEO for medium-sized e-commerce sites — I own a medium-sized e-commerce website, and we’ve never really focused on SEO. Yep, we've mainly relied on paid ads, but traffic is getting more expensive, so we’re ready to take SEO seriously now. I…

Responsive Font Weights? — How often do you guys set responsive font weights in your projects? If you do, what are your typical use cases - like using slightly heavier weights on mobile for better readability, or lighter weigh…

Ranking a client in the map feature — Hi ya’ll One happy accident of my work is that now one of my clients is ranking in the map feature, but not for the typical anchor texts I’m using when I link out to them. But for different but relat…

Need Guidance for Amazon Systems/DevOps Engineer Interview (Cloud Support Background) — Hope you're all doing well. I'm currently working as a Cloud Support Engineer and have managed to land an interview with Amazon for a Systems/DevOps Engineer role. While I’m excited, I’m also feelin…

Detailed Car Crash Simulation as a Service - I will not promote — Hello everyone! I am a mechanical engineer specializing in simulation (with a PhD in biomechanics) and I'm currently working on software that simulates car accidents in detail, also taking biomechanic…

How do you estimate full Shopify projects for clients? — For those who offer full Shopify site builds (themes, apps, checkout customizations…): What’s your typical process to estimate time and price? Do you follow a checklist, use a spreadsheet, or someth…

Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …

Is this site using a bootstrap or plug-in? — This bookstore has a section where, if you you click on one of the books in a slider, it expands a panel about that book below. These sliders under "New and Featured" and "Trending" (the entire div is…

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

q5.js v3.0 has been RELEASED! — Hi I'm Quinton Ashley and I just released q5.js v3.0! https://youtu.be/xizIG1QNc7g https://q5js.org The q5.js WebGPU renderer is up to 32x faster than p5.js v2! In typical use cases it's also signif…

How do you transition from low-fidelity wireframes to high-fidelity designs? — I’m in the process of designing a web app and started with these [low fidelity wireframes](https://wireframes.org/) to map out the structure and flow. It’s been really helpful for getting ideas down q…

Pop up and flow conversions — I’m wondering what people typically see for sign up with their pop up forms, and what they see for conversions from their emails. Mine don’t seem to be working. We aren’t a huge store. We’ll probabl…

States shipped map? — I'm looking for an easy way to generate a "state's we've shipped to" map for our store. Seems there's a few plugins that do this, but in typical Shopify fashion, they're all monthly fees, which is utt…

Built Artificial Intelligence driven accounting prototype for small businesses — struggling to find beta users. Any advice?(Tried LinkedIn as well) — I’ve recently developed a prototype of an Artificial Intelligence powered accounting tool tailored specifically for small businesses — the kind that typically have just one in-house accountant or rely…

Small business idea for neighborhood store — Hi everyone, I'm based in europe, greece and I’m looking for feedback on starting a small, neighborhood-oriented business that I can run mostly on my own. Here’s what I have: A 110 sq.m. ground-flo…

Shoppay rewards options deteriorating with use? — I saw some people post some shop pay questions on here so I hope I’m not in the wrong spot… I use the shop pay app fairly regularly. So I have accumulated more rewards that I need to use. I typically…

A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns) — When I was 21 and *severely* fearful avoidant I dated a secure guy who was wonderful in every way, but obviously not for me. I did everything stereotypical of a fearful avoidant attachment does in a…

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

Detachment or deactivation? — Me (23M) and my ex (22F) broke up one month ago because she was feeling overwhelmed by some arguments we had due to changes in our lives (new place to live, new work). She's FA. I was secure for almos…

New relationship insecurities that mimic AP — The first 6 months or so in a relationship I feel like I'm an AP, sensitive to people not texting consistently or following through with planning meetups, primarily. Then I settle down, feel like I ca…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

Are pre-birthday discards the norm? — I’m trying to understand this through attachment theory because I genuinely don’t know what just happened. We’re both women. I was 23 with a grad degree, she was 38 and just got her culinary degree w…

Do zodiac compatibility charts actually work in real relationships? — I have been curious about zodiac compatibility charts and how muchthey matterin real relationships. Many astrology sites talk about certain signs being perfect matches while othersare challenging. Fo…

Can You Change How Your Moon Sign Expresses Through Conscious Behavior? — I have a theoretical question about how flexible natal placements are in astrology. For example, if someone has a Moon in Aquarius but consciously chooses to develop emotional habits and attitudes th…

3 years in. Bro, it gets wild. — Okay, so a large part of this community seems to use SATS as a high-preparation, ritual method and yes it’s very powerful in that way. But you’re literally God. Why keep yourself so limited? Nevill…

Aliens during 1 month patterning — So I've been doing the tapes for about 3-4 weeks now and practicing f12 a lot and I have practiced the 1 month patterning a few times and it usually always goes perfectly fine but tonight for the firs…

My boyfriend (M35) and I (F27) have not said i love you, over a year of dating — TLDR; My boyfriend (M35) and I (f27) have been together for over a year, he hasn’t said I love you despite having talked about marriage, kids, future together. In a conversation he said he was apprehe…

I was able to communicate with someone….. — I don’t know if this the correct sub… let me know I’ll explain my situation hoping some one can orient me : A few days ago, I had a weird dream/astral projection experience—I don’t even know how to …

Leo with both Moon and Ascendant in Cancer with a Taurus signature - why do i feel weird, stubborn and kinda emo? — A Leo but with mostly Earth/Water fixed influences ( Virgo, Capricorn, Cancer). Barely any Air elements and maybe thats why I suck at communicating and I feel kinda slow. Not much Fire either. Peopl…

What’s the healthy way for us (46F, 46M) to resolve conflicts that my boyfriend has? — Tl;dr: what’s the healthy way for us to resolve conflicts? \*\*Background:\*\* I (46F) have been dating my boyfriend (46M) for about 6 months. Neither of us has been married or has kids, and neither …

Is there a reason as to why I have difficulties with people? — So I am a Femme person (if that’s needed info) So I’m not sure what it is about my chart, either in general, cause this has happened all my life, but I have had a lot of difficulty with people. Grow…

My husband (29M) and I (29F) have a dead bedroom because he says I dont initiate — My husband (29m) and I (29f) have been together for 8 years, married for 1. For the past 3 months we went from a very active sex life to a dead bedroom out of the blue. Every other aspect of our relat…

Update to my previous post. Tis not a good one. — [https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before\_i\_43m\_delete\_her\_44f\_number\_and\_move/](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before_i_43m_delete_her_44f_n…

Knowing the exact time when waking up - psychic or circadian? — Recently again I keep waking up at VERY different times every single day (anywhere from the range of 7am to 11am - UPDATE: actually 3-11am as covered later in the post) and as I'm laying there in tha…

Meditation Has Gotten Harder — Ever since I read the research on meditation a few months ago I’ve really put an emphasis in practicing every day. I typically aim for 10 minutes but have gone up to 20. I use silence and try to foc…

Started gateway this week. I’m confused — Hello! I admittedly don’t have the most knowledge about the gateway tapes. I’ve listening to a couple podcast episodes about them but it sounded like this intense experience where you will astral pr…

I (29F) have cancer and my estranged father (60M) is funding my treatment but forcing me to leave my boyfriend (24M) or marry him immediately. Do I have any way out? — Please be kind. I was unable to type so used audio to text converter and ai to fix the spelling mistakes. I m already in a terrible mental state so hope this sub can be a little gentle on me. Haven't …

Mom using ChatGPT as a therapist — My nmom (50f) is now using chat as a therapist. I told her to be careful about putting in personal information and that AI typically generates answers it thinks you want to hear. She is adamant that i…

I (37F) am tired of my boyfriends (45M) cleaning OCD and the comments it comes with. Is this workable? — My boyfriend is very smart, caring and kind in so many ways, but we're not on the same page about cleaning. I feel like a broken record bc I know this is an issue in many relationships, but what's hap…

I’m 19 and left with a 4yo autistic sister. I feel extremely hopeless. — I’m 19f, my mom passed away November 2025 and Im left with a 5year old neurotypical sister and 4 year old sister diagnosed with autism, ocd, and adhd. My sisters and I have different fathers, their fa…

I Know I’m Awake Without Checking. Why Not the Same for Dreams? — I know I’m awake even when my eyes haven’t opened yet. I don’t need to check my surroundings to know I’m awake. I want it to be the same when dreaming. I shouldn’t have to notice the weirdness of the…

Potentially unpopular opinion re: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents — Just finished “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay Gibson after seeing several recommendations for it on subreddits like these. I thought the book had some good info, and I’ll a…

If your avoidant ex discarded you: go no contact immediately. — writing this as someone who only figured out I'm avoidant/what avoidance truly is post-breakup: the kindest thing you can do for yourself as the ex of an avoidant is respect yourself enough to have t…

Last night I meditated to sleep and at some point became aware in my dream after noticing something was off I opened the door to step into a “void “ or some part of consciousness I briefly saw my body…

Thank you all. I am new here and hope to learn as much as i can Edit: I’d like to add how i ended up here. Just the other day i was in a state a where i nearly achieved what i believe could of been m…

Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…

What if someone remembers the hour (and P.M. vs A.M.) but not the minute? Any typical margin of error?

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

Wonderful information in the introduction. I would love to get some personal insight from people who are familiar with Astal Projection. I'll keep it as short as possible. I have recently discovered t…

Yeah because the only thing believers do is insult you and blame you for the fact that you never manifested anything. Typical cult behavior

FA leaning more towards DA here, when I’m dating and we spend a lot of time together or talk/text a bunch I typically take time to myself after. It can be pretty overwhelming “dealing” w my partners i…

Yes that's typical avoidant behaviour, it may also be linked to introversion. My ex FA girlfriend would retreat systematically after we had a great time. They get a bit overwhelmed and scared when th…

They can be self critical, but that's actually the opposite of being accountable and aware because typically it's just another way to ruminate. I also think that tendency in general is what drives the…

Thanks for your opinion on my 10% figure. Besides that, I did not say partners should be at my convenience. I said other aspects of life can throw a relationship’s typical patterns out of balance. Ha…

I think typically the people we get along best with, will feel boring. Conflict is where excitement stems from. When things are easy and flow naturally, there is no conflict, and thus no excitement. Y…

There are many factors to consider with regards to attachment styles, especially towards different people / situations a specific style might be more prominant. There is also a spectrum - mild, modera…

You are correct. Your perception of love is warped. And thus it can be really hard finding it without accidentally finding yourself in shit relationships. As many have commented, avoidants typically …

My lil cousin(20F) was having relationship issues- she is an avoidant and he is an anxious. I pointed this pattern out and she said, "My therapist said the same, does having this attachment mean I'll …

I think the attachment styles in place work well. I know it was studied exhaustively on thousands of children in the 70s/80s/90s and had there been more definitive styles we would have caught them bac…

24 hours makes sense when you consider their infrastructure scale. Rolling back ML models isn't like deploying a typical web app - you're dealing with massive distributed systems, model weights, and c…

You could take a look at using a matrix for this. Instead of operating systems or other more typical matrix criteria, it would be client IDs or names or whatever. I’m not sure it is suitable for you…

I was diagnosed three years ago with ADHD. My wife, who is a psychotherapist, speculated for a long time and then gave me an assessment, which was then confirmed with a psychiatrist. But I've been run…

An entrepreneur is not just someone that’s wants to do their own thing eventually. Neither is the entrepreneurial spirit good intentions, a desire to break the chains, or a desire to own your own thin…

I'm mainly a programmer but I tend to create full games that typically have shown past success on the platform. Then let the Roblox algorithm catch onto it allowing players to organically join it whic…

The best book I ever reason on this is “traction” by Weinberg and Mares. They’re the cofounders of duck duck go. Check it out. It’s way different than typical marketing books.

This kind of discount is all in the positioning. There's not much information here about your typical engagement structure -- e.g. whether it's monthly, annual, how much it costs, whether you bill by…

If you want another arguement, people in the clothes industry say that 2x your landed cost is wholesale, and 2x the wholesale to get your MSRP. This is obviously also super product dependent, and it …

>wanted to stay casual  Idk what that means, exactly. Dating someone... but not really ? The specific rules or the framework of this concept are unclear because "casual" can mean anything, including:…

I don’t think there’s any reason to leave if you’re happy. More just don’t expect things to be perfect. Recovery is a journey. I had anxious attachment and consider myself secure now, but not eating o…

Some of these comments are saying silly (and heteronormative) things like "weird around children" or "checks out other women when they think you're not looking". Obvious reminder that being uncomforta…

This is great advice. DAs tend to repeat the same cycle over and over, from what I've read it's very rare for them to break it. They typically distract themselves with a new relationship, to avoid pro…

So maybe the best strategy is to set some rules for dating. Here's some suggestions: Make it clear on the first date that dating for you is an exclusive engagement. While you are dating one person, y…

I literally felt the same, and so needed a second opinion. Here's what Claude Opus 4 had to say (after copy pasting it): Why does this reddit post feel like an ad? My spidy sense is tingling: Yo…

There's no reason anyone needs to know that you see a therapist. If you don't tell people, they won't know right? Depending on your health insurance, a session usually only costs a copy ($20-40) fo…

The blame-shifting is too much. You are doing exactly what the other commenter was talking about. Avoidants do this to everyone, not just to anxious people, and it’s in excess of the typical “putting…

Since you're a DA, it's normal for you to feel that you're OK while others aren't. It's your natural stance. Typical AA/AP are the opposite.

Hmm. If you offer a relationship right off the bat without knowing the person, that typically is a red flag for women. There is no mystery, nothing to conquer.  Women are gatekeeper of sex, men are …

I have personally found the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, an ancient Indian text on consciousness training, most helpful in setting up and controlling my lucid dreams which typically started randomly. I h…

This is so very typical of FAs. My ex did the exact same thing. I foolishly went back to him. And now I’m stuck here at square one, heartbroken again! 🤦‍♀️ Don’t. Take. The. Bait.

Typical avoidant circle back to start the cycle all over again and 99% of the time it’s the same old thing

So the solution to "jumping to conclusion" is not "giving the benefit of a doubt": it's learning to investigate with kindness and with non-violence communication. From a neuroscience perspective, you …

This definitely feels familiar from times in my past as well. The problem is, when we are so inward looking, and introspective about things, while that carries some really strong benefits, it can also…

Making a longer comment to OP in your reply because I want to dive deeper into this: >Not being into someone =/= avoidance. Youre correct in this, however avoidance does make it harder to judge if y…

From the purely bystander's perspective, ie. the rational and adult brain perspective with 0 emotions involved, him telling you to "act normal" was yet another of his defense mechanisms. From the po…

This is typical DA deactivation. It has nothing to do with you. He's not wrong, he has a lot of work to do but sadly he probably won't do what's needed to become a securely attached person. It's reall…

Chatbots have caused severe psychosis and mental breaks in people in crisis, not to mention completely neurotypical people just looking for answers. All it does is agree with you and mirror you. It fe…

Well if both parties are aware of attachment theory then I think they are less likely to judgemental of the different attachment styles. If not you can explain what an unhealthy attachment is and wha…

Though as I can guess from any other attachment style (or even mental health issue/relational pattern in general) every person is different, I imagine clarity and communication are key here. I would o…

Thanks for sharing. What were the stereotypical things a FA does that caused the relationship to end the first time? How long did that last?

Seconding what someone else said below. This sounds like pretty typical FA. Not a fear of intimacy; a fear of abandonment. I dated someone just like this. Any perceived distance made her devalue me an…

I’m FA, but when my anxious side is triggered, I have to repeat to myself “it’s literally not me it’s them, it’s literally not me, it’s them. I think I can control how present people will be for me ba…

I don't resent any of my exes. When exes would reach out to me I was pretty aloof/indifferent towards them. Which is typical avoidant behavior strategies. Usually the one's that have resentment toward…

TL;DR: when an avoidant asks for a break, is it real? Ive been dating an avoidant guy for like four months. He had ended a 9 year relationship a year ago and I ended an 8 year relationship recently.…