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Thank you. Reading peoples' posts on here has been amazing. The time and thought that many people put into their queries and replies is so extensive - caring and sharing. So this morning grown up me…
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…
am i childish for not being able tolet go? — its a little complicated we didnt just date and break up, i mean we kinda did but there was a lot before that. im gonna start from the beginning. i will skip a bit of unimportant stuff just keep in m…
How can I feel fulfilled in my relationship? — I am a 40-year-old woman who was married for 15 years before separating five years ago. Since then, I have been with my current boyfriend, who is 44, and we have been together for four years. I love h…
A Tale of Two Easters — **Hers** I woke up with a migraine and threw up as quietly as I could with the fan on so the boys wouldn’t hear, wouldn’t worry, wouldn’t have one more thing to carry. I brushed my teeth to …
Don't you think it's sexist for my fiance (28M) to not want our future children to have my (28F) last name? — my fiance and i always fight over this issue. i think if i'm the one that's getting pregnant, going through labor, and giving birth, of COURSE the child should take on my last name instead of his to h…
AITAH for choosing my peace and dignity over this toxic ahh group? — this is a VERY LONG thread so only read if you have time please, although the full post has more context. SUMMARY IS PROVIDED AT THE END Last year, me (17f), and my 2 best friends lets call them, li…
What team am I playing on — So back in my early 20s I'd been using ambien to trip and as a substitute for Xanax whenever I couldn't get a hold of any benzos. This was in the early days of popping different pills but ambien was m…
Narc Mom Bars Autistic Grandson From Inside Home During Short Visit — This January my mild symptom narc mom asked me to help take down her tree as she's in her 70s with a replaced hip. My wife unfortunately had the flu that day so I had planned to take my 11 YO son and …
Torn about possible divorce after wife cheated on me. I'm petrified of hurting my boys. — Ok so my wife (f 46) and I (m 45) have been married for 10 years, together for 17. We had a happy marriage but over time we ran into some major obstacles. I began bringing stress from work home, letti…
Helped and loved a girl who was forced in her past relationship. Now I am facing the consequences. — We were college mates, but didn't speak till the end of the 3rd year. And I replied to one of her stories on WhatsApp and that's how our conversation started. She used to tell me about her days, life …
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How do you get over someone? — I’m 22F, and I still can’t seem to quite get over my past ex. We dated when I was 17 and broke up 6 months after. It’s insane to me how quickly he was okay with leaving me after talking about marriage…
THANK YOU. I fucking hate the porn addiction posts every two seconds. I feel sorry for the boys suffering with it, but try SEARCHING OLD POSTS. There are amazing answers out there, just use the search…
>I mean it's definitely a red flag to me and I'm a dude. I don't know any guys who don't listen to incel shit who say female. Like yeah I'm sure he picked it up from somewhere, like a shithead prodcas…
Ok, I’m just going to give quick summary before I sign off. First for those believing he cheated, even with all this I can’t imagine him ever doing that, he has always been the most kind and loyal per…
Girl...if 40 if kicking you ass, 46is gonna demolish you! Or some other age- aging is not lineal. When i turned 40, I was like whats the big deal? At 44 my body collapsed on me! I had rotator c…
I am so sorry to know these crazy, manipulative, aggressive, and downright sadistic people (your husband and his evil partner) are in your life. You need a great white shark of an attorney to cut him …
A decent pair with you both having slight mismatch of Venus tho. What wasn’t great for you both was the fact that the boys birth chart had the unfriendly Saturn period Feb 2018 to Dec 2020 (rarely doe…
100% this. The lack of physical spaces for traditional male bonding and community has driven lots of men to the Internet, where these grifters hawk a vision. I was thinking this as I was walking aro…
I’m a woman who owned a business in an industry that was 99% male for 30 years. I spent a lot of time out drinking with the boys and fit in quite well, but I also knew when to step back and let them b…
What was it like? Not can I come? Not the same question or meaning. He could've just told her how fun it was and how he enjoys the time just him and the boys. But HE took it all those steps too far.
But the problem is the misogyny, not the boys trip. Its the whole "biological differences make women more emotional" BS that OP has a problem with.
From my perspective, that’s just two ways of saying the same thing. I don’t see any nefarious intent in saying “I want to hang out without my husband.” In either case, the meaning is “just the girls”…
The thing about the boys trip is fair. Everything else is a real yikes. You call it casual misogyny but is it? It seems just like plain old, ingrained misogyny.
Every year on my birthday, my husband of 10+ years will buy me a beautiful bunch of flowers, present me with a beautifully wrapped present, and treat me like a queen. This is because he's been train…
I honestly think this might be a case of you hearing something he's not saying. Because even if there are very few gender differences inherent to specific behaviors after accounting for socialization,…
She terminated that pregnancy after the guy bounced. My kids are fine. Although my ex still hasn't figured out how to have a healthy relationship, and I don't think she ever will. She was actually …
Okay the boys will be boys thing has always been a cop out ive never heard this used on anyone above the age of like 8 and its usually in terms of playing in dirt and etc...like it feels intentional d…
My kids are both boys, actually. When we split up, we agreed that we wanted our custody situation to be as 50-50 as possible, with no one parent getting more time than the other. So that's what we d…
Was pretty amicable for almost 3 years. Then she decided she wanted to move far away to get married and take the kids. I objected to it. Then she started doing vindictive things, some of which also ne…
(46M) 50/50 two kids B/G 14/10. Divorced 3 years. Currently coupled up now for 1.5 yrs to a (50F). I met her on bumble. I always say she sniper’d me. She had a hidden profile but where she could “like…
You got LinkedIn pics besides your first one & the group pic with the boys does nothing for you. You have to tell a story through your pics about what lifestyle you have and make it easy for her to im…
Ah, nature vs. nurture. There are biological differences with socio-behavioral a consequence; it doesn't make one a misogynist to know this. Also, why go to the boys club anyway? Leave it alone and mo…
I have experienced sexual assault, but I experienced a weird almost phycological sexualization most of my life. Parents and relatives loved sexualizing my intentions. Every adult around me assumed I w…
omg same!! as soon as I entered middle school my parents started to treat me as if I was hooking up with all the boys at school and trying to seduce everyone around me! when it was actually quite the …
Oh yes. I was the worst “friend”. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was treating my friends the way my mom had treated me. Always competing, always insulting or embarrassing them in sly ways. Mak…
I wonder why netflix did little to zero marketing on the asian IP that is the least self hating (although there are some misses) on the platform like this and squid games while giving all the spotligh…
Because he feels guilty about cheating on you and that’s why he’s been hanging out with the boys! IMO
That time I tried to insist that we have a conversation about the international trip that he booked with “the boys” (not just the boys) essentially behind my back. And he was shaking so hard that i li…
I mean, I somewhat disagree. After 6 months of dating someone you might have a good idea of what they get up to in their day-to-day life... They might not have been living together, but she'll surely …
She didn't think it would be wise to bring something like that up ahead of time. That's serious disrespect. It could be a stupid mistake but she could also enjoy the thrill of getting away with it on …
Say you're going to go to a speed dating event with the boys and see how she reacts to it
AI is basically a confirmation bias engine. Here’s what it says if you ask it to explain how the Bible was inspired by the Lord of the Flies (note: it wasn’t): > - Simon is Christ — the mystic who re…
I gave it project instructions to be fair and honest, push back, avoid unnecessary affirmation, and to flag uncertainties. I also tried not to lead it when asking questions like in your example. But e…
No - separated for 5 years; divorce finalized 2 years ago - all amicable. I got full custody of the boys and got out with little financial pain. To her credit, she felt guilty about the while thing an…
I'm also from a religious family, I would say, it's pretty much impossible not to mix with the boys if u went to that type of uni. U could just keep ignoring them eventually they will stop. I would …
Original copy of post by u/KaleidoscopeNext1466: I am a 40-year-old woman who was married for 15 years before separating five years ago. Since then, I have been with my current boyfriend, who is 44, …
Well he was going to leave me in January but we have that love ❤️ and so we stayed together for a couple weeks then around the begining of February ending night of January he text me when he was at ho…
You married the wrong man. He is not a husband in action only by title. Now the boys are young but start building that exit plan This man will leave you drained, once you regain your strength and sel…
Parenting is a full-time job, even more so with twins. You should be splitting the housework. Maybe he handles dinner, or takes the boys so you can. He handles bedtime routine so you can clean after d…
Put the boys in his room and get in your car and drive away. You can't opt out of parenting
>Did you do Asian American studies? No, I would say it's just an awareness of and interest in the lived Asian American experience. It was quite eye opening when I went to college in the USA and learn…
hi, mom of twins here. we were un/lucky to have our twins during the pandemic, so my husband was fully wfh. he'd get on meetings while wearing a fussy baby, and the baby would fall asleep while he sto…
Im serious! I could not survive without cheese, or wine, and probably a dozen other things that brighten my days. And I have two dogs. The boys? Theyre probably not ready to give up meat either.
Depends. If they cheat and leave, I'll open the dating apps immediately or go hit the town with the boys. I don't sleep around, don't get me wrong. I just mingle. Ain't got a care in the world for th…
It is disturbingly common for people to see symptoms as personal choices and flaws in personality, or a weakness of will. As a child, I was often held accountable for things I couldn't control, includ…
It took decades to admit I had been trafficked and groomed bc I saw so much victim blaming and thought it was just something a little worse than grindr hookups that became chronic. And also weird feti…
It’s interesting because it seems men and women are the same when it comes to hyper-sexuality after abuse. Not to say that the reverse (hypo-sexuality) can also be a valid response to abuse. As to tr…
Oddly enough I sorta understand his thought process on the boys taking his last name. Well maybe not what HE is thinking but something my husband and I have discussed. Well maybe have a boy and a gi…
Let me guess he can go out for beers with the boys, but doesn't you like it when you attend girls' nights too??? He is the Ultimate Red Flag, and OP needs to wake up to his true nature.
Been in a similar situation. She slowly faded and I hit a breaking point with my anxiety. Realized I struggled so much as I was so attached. In hindsight, Best thing we did was pull away from each oth…