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Do fearful avoidants "split" or "idealise" and then "devalue" when triggered? Or is it more likely to be a sign of something else? (Eg BPD/NPD?)

Yeah I guess that's an interesting perspective, thank you. I guess I can see how fear of rejection would show up. I do think part of him feels that the right person would just know and things would ju…

r/attachment_theorycomment11/16/2025
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back

This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…

r/attachment_theorypost8/9/2025
A letter to my fearful avoidant ex

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost2/5/2026
I 27/F need advice about my 29/M boyfriend. Is he planning on leaving or?

I 27/F need advice about my 29/M boyfriend. Is he planning on leaving or? — I need a males POV please So it’s bit of a long story but i will kinda keep it short. We broke up back in June of 2025 but we were still sleeping together up until January. Last week of January he to…

r/relationship_advicepost4/11/2026
tried dating sites at 41/42 and only get messages from 20 year olds

I think part of the issue from my pov is that a lot of guys who 40yo women will date are the 1%, women at this age don’t settle and know what they want. Imagine a 45yo guy with his life together, at…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/9/2026
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone

You passed. Because youre keeping yourself safe. Maybe your partner isnt a violent person, but throwing a bag full of clothes at someone's face is not funny or safe at all. What if you fell? Or someth…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/28/2026
I am heartbroken for my son!

Thank you!!! I hope so much that my boy will see that this about so much more than a car. He’ll think of the love in every bolt when he goes cruising a back road. And he will fight for himself and his…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/30/2026
Embarrassed of myself

I’ve been there. I asked him to stay three times. He would often say I didn’t fight for him, so I did. Every time. I didn’t have it in me to do it a fourth time. He didn’t even try to come back after …

r/BreakUpscomment4/6/2026
I 28M cheated on my girlfriend 23F and I need to end the relationship the right way

I actually think by telling her you cheated she will have the clarity of what a waste of space you are and it will make it easier for her to accept the end of the relationship. I adore my husband if…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
The Discard is the only time they actually tell the truth

Yes and no for me. Yes… because I found out he cheated A LOT in. Our relationship and spend the majority thinking I was to hard on him. I found out how he can’t be alone and he has to always have a w…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/10/2026
My boyfriend '20 M' is blaming me '19F' for his potential suicide

He also took over my Instagram IDs PW after me saying multiple times that I hate sharing IDs and I like the idea of having a seperate social media I never had anything to hide from him, I just needed…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026