mental health

You're doing a lot of things right here man. Gym, work, reconnecting with family, Hawaii. That's solid. Most guys 3 weeks out are still on the floor. You got up. Respect for that. But I want to be hon…

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

How can I get credible backlinks for my mental health startup website? — Hey everyone, I'm building a mental health awareness and support platform called *Trusme*, and I'm trying to improve its SEO through quality backlinks. I'm not looking for spammy directories or paid…

I’ve decided to go all in on my mental health tech startup — how do I fully shift from side project mindset to founder mindset? - i will not promote — Hi, I run a platform with digital tools to help people build mental strength and emotional resilience. Until now, I’ve treated it like a serious side project, but starting today, I’m committing to it…

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

A Modest Proposal — A Manifesto for Metrics-First Everything — Picture it: Q1 FY 2025. A Medicaid patient opens an app to request mental health services. The screen is sleek—gradient buttons, playful microinteractions, and conversion-optimized flows. A calm anima…

Updated Rules — Hello, r/therapy! We hope this post finds you well. We are writing to announce a minor overhaul of our rules. As our community continues to grow and evolve, our rules must do the same which is why we…

A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Do fearful avoidants "split" or "idealise" and then "devalue" when triggered? Or is it more likely to be a sign of something else? (Eg BPD/NPD?) — I am curious about whether "splitting" is something that is an FA behaviour or if it's a separate issue associated with other mental health disorders. As an FA, do you feel yourself "idealising" or p…

Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…

Master’s degree, big scholarship, and leaving a toxic situation — Background: I was keen to leave my toxic family situation for years but let’s just say it wasn’t happening. I got a good job in my hometown, I found someone I loved who was desperate to marry me, I …

When does the relationship clock start? — I (42F) met my bf (36M) in September on a dating app. We dated for five weeks, then I ended things because he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship (mental health struggles). We didn’t talk for two …

I (28F) cut off my in-laws after how they treated me before and during my wedding, but I get anxious when my husband (27M) still talks to them. How do I move on? — TL;DR: My mother-in-law and sisters-in-law insulted me, fat-shamed and color-shamed me before our wedding and caused major drama during the wedding itself. Now they act sweet in front of my husband. I…

It does get better (dumped by an avoidant) (personal advice that helped me) — Too anyone who deems themselves as a hopeless romantic, anxiously attached, etc, this may relate to you. After three months of what I thought was the worst time of my life, it truly gets better. T…

Life's expectancy for life & love — Unfortunately, I think for the rest of my time on this planet, I will carry a quiet fear. Even in the midst of real, full-blown love, I may never truly trust that one day I won’t be lied to, cheated o…

F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…

Book recommendations — Hi all, I facilitate meetings for our non profit in the Seattle area. I want to do a little book club on the side outside of our mental health meetings. Can I get a recommendation in a fantasy s…

My sun and rising are in Sagittarius. Why am I so shy and reluctant to express myself? — Based on my limited understanding, having your sun and rising in Sagittarius signifies being outgoing, expressive, and freedom seeking. I couldn’t be further from that. I know other aspects in my char…

Codependency and an ex that keeps coming back — Hey guys! So, I've run out of ideas on this. I got together with a single mum in summer 2024 and we parted ways around last October. Since then, we agreed to stay friends but she wouldn't even give m…

I (28F) had an affair and don’t know what I’m doing. Please help. — I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, married for 2. He is genuinely the best person I know. Kind, safe, loyal. He’s my best friend. When I cry, he’s who I want holding me. When something funny happe…

How honest should I be with my new psychiatrist? — The last 2ish months I have been having a lot of issues with both my anxiety and depression and I think I need to change or adjust my meds. I have been “self medicating” aka smoking hella weed… not my…

My Fiancé kicked me out with only a few hours notice — This is the situation I am in. About a week ago my fiancé (25 M) brought up how he has some problems with me (25 F). We have been together for almost three years. He said he cant bring up sensitive to…

A Stunning 26% of Adult Children Are Estranged from Their Fathers — "Research indicates that **estrangement is often initiated by the adult child**, with studies showing **26% of adults are estranged from their fathers** and **6% from their mothers**, though some esti…

My (28F) boyfriend (26M) has recently got back into religion and it’s affecting our relationship. — I’ve listened/watched so many Reddit podcasts, but this the first time posting. This a weird situation and I have no one to talk to about this, I’m left feeling quite numb about everything. My boyfri…

did you need mental health treatment because of the aftermath — A year ago today I was starting an intense outpatient therapy program because, with my already existing depression, I spiraled so bad after being cruelly discarded it became a mental health crisis for…

My husband (29M) and I (29F) have a dead bedroom because he says I dont initiate — My husband (29m) and I (29f) have been together for 8 years, married for 1. For the past 3 months we went from a very active sex life to a dead bedroom out of the blue. Every other aspect of our relat…

Does anyone else find that exposure therapy and putting yourself in social situations literally fries your brain instead of making you stronger? — People often say things like "just work for a month and it'll get easier," "don't give in to your avoidance," "go where it scares you." I really tried to follow this advice, and it didn't get easier.…

Update to my previous post. Tis not a good one. — [https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before\_i\_43m\_delete\_her\_44f\_number\_and\_move/](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before_i_43m_delete_her_44f_n…

hello, everyone. How's it going? i am sure your are doing your best. — what is the best game for the mind and for mental health? Because I think in personal development, the most important thing starts from the brain. Every battle starts from the brain. Just a casual que…

I'm sorry, I just want to get out of this mental hell — I'm sorry if I keep making these extreme venting/screaming posts.... i'm just tired of all the bad news in the world I'm a graduated artist and animator looking for a job and goes to therapy, but I c…

How to permanently stop feeling romantic love for anyone? — wasn’t sure I needed a TL;DR here, but I’ll put it anyway: how do I turn off my ability to feel love for anyone, ever? hi all, I (M,33) have not had a whole lot of luck with dating. I try to stay s…

I (21F) Am losing feelings for my (22M) boyfriend. Any advice? — Throwaway account. I (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for a little over two years. It's been good for the most part, and i can tell you that my boyfriend is one of the best people i kno…

Revision is where it's at. — People say that revision works faster and this is my experience as well. I'm a fairly good manifestor but there were a few things I was stuck on, namely my height. I carried a bit of disappointment …

I spent 8 years trying to “fix” my mental health and now I think the real problem is that I’ve been obsessively trying to fix myself — Hi everyone, I’m trying to explain something I’ve been struggling with and I’m wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar. For about 8 years, I’ve been deeply focused on “healing” m…

Therapist told me I was a narcissist during a session, completely shutdown. — Hi everyone. I have been actively looking for a psychiatrist or therapist to take me seriously when trying to pick through cPTSD, and autistic shutdown. The services in my province (Canadian) only of…

My experience with NHI's, contact and navigating society. — # Hello! Where do i begin? Firstly, i want to give thanks to this space cultivated by Oak and the other Moderators, without this space, people such as us/me do not really have anywhere to go with a…

My partner’s 18-month cough is affecting our relationship but she refuses to discuss it — Edit: I’ve received a lot of sound medical advice on this post for now so thank you. Post nasal drip, asthma, vocal tics, allergies, acid reflux, cancer symptoms etc etc are all things we’ll keep an e…

My 22F boyfriend 22M is scaring me — He mutters things to himself. He pulls faces because he has intrusive thoughts. He mutters “fuck off” under his breath because he says he’s responding to intrusive thoughts and he’s not telling me wha…

Understanding Infidelity — Last year, I (25M) broke up with my now ex girlfriend (26F). We were together for 3 years and were living together at the time, but I discovered that she was cheating on me with a coworker of hers for…

I feel like I was cursed or hexed by someone. How can I get rid of this? — I suddenly feel off. I don't understand what is happening to me but I can't think about anything else other than my past mistakes in my life and insecurities and struggles and negative thoughts in my…

I Won’t Stop Sharing This — I’m sharing this because people deserve to know how broken the mental health system in Utah can be. I saw a therapist for two years. During that time she had me coming up to three times per week doin…

Should I help repay my sister’s debt to protect my parents? — I’m 31F. My sister is 29F and lives in Canada. We come from a lower middle-class Indian family that has mostly lived paycheck to paycheck. My sister always dreamed of studying abroad. She completed …

Friends/Coworkers joke about my Sobriety — I am 20 years old. I had never drank or used substances up until I started working at a high volume sports bar over a year ago. I swore i would never get into it, i never thought i would, but it is he…

Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…

I (29F) have cancer and my estranged father (60M) is funding my treatment but forcing me to leave my boyfriend (24M) or marry him immediately. Do I have any way out? — Please be kind. I was unable to type so used audio to text converter and ai to fix the spelling mistakes. I m already in a terrible mental state so hope this sub can be a little gentle on me. Haven't …

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Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …

How to become a stoic when dealing with toxic family — I don't want this to be another emotional rant but basically, I'm done, depressed and ruined by my father's behavior and I want to stop feeling anything towards him and the things he says to me. My me…

Did anyone else find an odd sense of peace when COVID hit and we all had to self isolate? — Small confession: when the pandemic hit and we all had to self isolate, I found an odd sense of.. happiness? You wouldn't believe - (well maybe you guys would) how hard it is to explain my symptoms …

unpopular opinion virtual therapy is better than in person — Fight me but virtual therapy > in person therapy and here's why: No commute = save 1-2 hours per session Can do it from bed if you're having a bad mental health day No awkward waiting room small talk …

Hey there’s a Z code in the DSM 5 for emotional neglect, I’m sure. I haven’t looked but there’s a lot of different Z codes to help identify life circumstances, to give a bigger picture to the F code d…

It’s not gonna be a smooth ride but it is a ride you must ride. The what ifs and what nots you can probably turn into a alternate reality movie once nothing hurts. Eventually you will realize that…

It’s hard moving on when you’re still so in love w/ them. I can’t get him out of my head. Idk how to move on and thinking about it hurts more bc I never wanted it to end to begin with. I lost my soul …

I contacted mine with a text and she didn’t respond back, it’s been 21 days. I know she probably saw it and I want anyone who reads this…DON’T! Because it’s been about 3 years about 2 with no contact …

I am a 40yo male with a partner who experienced emotional neglect. How can I be a better support person for her without sacrificing my own mental health? We have been together 5 years and we still br…

I understand. Just a week before my wife left me she said “I’m so glad we are such a strong couple that if we needed counseling we would go to couples therapy” however what she really meant was “ plea…

If it helps at all, I'm doing better a few months in now. Not *a lot* better... but enough, for now. Pick a couple areas you want to improve in. Now's the time to get started. Don't try to fix every…

I am very skeptic about mediation. Its not something I would do to improve my mental health, unless I wanted I escape reality for a while

I just want to say, I’m am so happy to have found this sub! Oh how I’ve created so much in my life, with LOB (unconsciously) and more so just belief and the movie the secret that started it all. Then …

When I said self hate, I meant those posts which very obviously points to OP not having a desire to be better. It refers to posts just venting and talking about how useless and worthless they are, how…

I do agree, but I’m my experience my thoughts change naturally. It’s like I’m just happy, and I don’t even know the reason - happens due to reprogramming. I kind of forget about it. It’s not constantl…

At this point in your journey, I believe, you need two ingredients: grieving and not avoiding your emotions (somatic work, journaling, revisiting painful memories, allowing yourself to cry, etc) and s…

I agree- but also (at least in my situation), there was definitely some cartoon level villain behavior. But I also don’t think that my case was just avoidance. I think other mental health issues were …

I don’t hate people. But if I have decided I do not want someone in my life, or that they are bad for my mental health, i am going to have a good reason for it. I don’t see the point in surface level …

Maybe (as an FA) I can offer some insight… I was raised by a narcissist. In spite of my best efforts (15 years in therapy), I still have a high risk of ending up in a relationship with one. The mom…

The thing is, with certain types of people you cannot afford to feel empathy because it will just be used against you. The same person begging on their knees for you not to leave them can be the same …

>Note: It's at that point when most secure people will leave a relationship with an insecure attacher, when their reasonable requests start getting shot down. That's what I was going to say too. If y…

Thanks to you I learnt something new today : "indie hacker". Had to look it up to see what it means :) Take good care of your mental health, as it can be draining and stressful. I wish you success o…

Man, this post hits SO hard. Running a business is absolutely brutal, and I think we need more honesty about the real toll it takes on founders. I've gone through some of these exact same experiences…

He could be like me (anxious avoidant) I run white hot at first and then turn distant once I feel a bit overwhelmed with life and my mental health.

Same situation bro , it … my mental health up after 2 yrs she pushed me away and within 2 weeks she was in this honeymoon phase with someone else lmao

For what it’s worth, you don’t really have to engage too much with the origins of FA in my opinion. What’s most important is how the echoes of it are showing up and affecting you now. Therapy is expen…

In short, what he is doing will affect you exactly in the same way narcissistic abuse would do. Regardless if he's one or not, or if he's being conscious or not, the effects on your mental health will…

Well initially I thought that about this 6-7-ish mark we'll make it official. However closer to those timestamps she began to feel overwhelmed with each week (she's autistic, was finishing her bachelo…

I explained in a comment below but essentially when I make friends with someone, they seem emotionally aware and kind and fair, conversation comes up in which they need emotional support and I provid…

Yes, that makes sense. I think we may be experiencing two different things honestly. I’m a very open communicator and will tell someone if I’m not comfortable sharing if they prompt me. My experiences…

I dont think people realize the FA attachment style is a "cover" for other underlying mental health conditions such as BPD OR Bipolar. I think you have to stick it out in a relationship for awhile b…

Though as I can guess from any other attachment style (or even mental health issue/relational pattern in general) every person is different, I imagine clarity and communication are key here. I would o…

This is how I feel. 10 + years with someone. I think I'm anxious attachment and he's avoidant/ fearful attachment with a whole sleu of trauma. and i love him sooooo much. we lived together for 5-6 ye…

It’s incredibly bound by culture. Also everything mental health is nuanced evening with a grain of salt. Especially with FAs it can depend on the situation. Even secure can be anxious or accident with…

Your description reads like a 26 yo who leans securely attached with the ability to flex to meet their partner where they’re at. The symbiosis part was most ppl I knew at 26 rather than unique. But I …

Absolutely. Mental health deserves real care, not silence. Thank you for protecting this space 🌀

Hey mate, I really relate to what you’ve written. I’ve had similar struggles in relationships – my anxious attachment would flare up with partners even though I felt steady with friends or at work. Fo…

Yeah OP if a man really loves you he won’t make you feel bad for those things. What I’ve found is to really get to know the person the best individuals arms you can fall into is someone who has the sa…

I struggled with this for years. First of all what I learned is that when I get anxious from not receiving texts, I remember that that is a response caused by seeing texting or the lack of it as a “t…

Actually rn im thinking that im the mix of AA and SA. I reread many dialogues with my exes and came to the conclusion that my reaction to them pushing me away was actually very healthy. I expressed my…

Do you have health insurance? A lot of therapists accept health insurance. Mine was only $15 a visit with mine. There's also income based/sliding scale community clinics that offer affordable or even …

Thank you so much for this. Haha it made my eyes water. Tbh ya i had been putting the majority or more like all of the blame on me. I'll try to eat although it's really hard to, but as for seeking pro…

I struggle keeping relationships for a full 2 years, people usually get fed up with me being so needy but I think the older I get and the more comfortable I am with myself and understand myself more t…

Do you see a therapist? Could there be other mental health factors coming in to play (like panic attacks)?

When we are undergoing a tough time and have a lot of stress it is super hard to see the positive sometimes. That is normal. Sometimes we have to make sure we made space for ourselves to grieve whatev…

I've been dating this woman for 3 months, fantastic, love her. The honeymoon period ended pretty abruptly when she suddenly "stopped feeling it". A couple days, therapy sessions, and some very long co…

It’s kind of normal to go through this with a lot of mental health treatments. People finally understand themselves and others better, there’s new skills to implement, but the outcomes initially swin…

Hey everyone, I’d love some outside perspective. I have been seeing this guy for a while. We’re close, he’s said I’m the person he feels closest to, and we stay in touch every day through TikToks, sm…

I appreciate this perspective. I lost a previous partner to suicide, though he and I were together 1.5yrs and he was clearly devolving with mental health and addiction trouble. But I can tell you, I h…

So… I have dated someone with DID before. Dissociative Identity Disorder. In these individuals, when anything even remotely stressful happens; they will quite literally turn into a different person. L…

You are right— splitting is used is used in many mental health disorders in a similar manner.. BPD in the way you are talking about and possibly how op is too. Schizophrenia, DID, etc… have splitting …

FA here it’s not splitting I think that’s for an actual mental health disorder or personality disorder. Let’s all be clear attachment styles are not disorders and they all can be changed with the prop…

Ultimately, I've found that I have been attracted to lots of people with whom no secure attachment is possible because it feels *really really good* to take care of someone and have them appreciate yo…

Ive never tried asking chat gpt anxious attatchment questions in that specific way so i will defiently give it a try, thank you! With meds unfortunatly they are not as available in the uk without priv…