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I only read the summary but this is absolutely true. I've been on the dumpee side and at first the goal was to make them regret losing me / wanting them to see me glow and come back, and it worked. Bu…
Am I insane for wanting to open a brick and mortar comic/collectibles shop in this climate? — I've been reading this sub for a while now as I mentally hype myself up to take the plunge and quick my 9-5 to open my own comic and collectibles shop. I've been in the gaming industry for over a dec…
Physical Reaction — I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I really felt a deep connection to, until a f…
My [30F] husband [34M] may be a functioning alcoholic — Buckle in because this is a long post. Tl;dr my husband drinks and I am sick of it. (TW: mention of miscarriage) Throwaway account because I need advice and I am at my wits end. I have been with my h…
How do you handle conflict? — Correct me if I'm wrong, but I guess the stereotypical avoidant way to handle conflict is to... well, avoid it. Withdraw, stop responding, take time to yourself to process etc. But as for me, once a …
My therapist is distracted, does the dishes and drives during our phone sessions... — This is mostly a vent but I would love some thoughts/ advice on a nagging issue I've been having with my therapist since Covid started (and currently). I have been seeing her every 2 weeks without…
Therapist of 15 years ghosted me after switching companies. — I really don’t know how to truly feel atm. I just quite literally got this information so I’m just… baffled? I 25F, was seeing my therapist since I was like 11. She was genuinely one of the most bril…
i broke up with my partner of 3.5 years - advice? — burner acc as i just need to get this out and it’s kinda long, but would appreciate queer perspectives as it’s kinda relevant. but on friday, i broke up with my partner of 3.5 years (basically out of…
Close friendship ending because I ( F26) became their (M 27) emotional punching bag — I (F26) have known my friend (M 27) since high school years. We’ve been like family to each other. There’s this saying - “ Familiarity breeds contempt”. I have wanted to avoid that in my relationship…
Anyone else feeling empty and alone? — I started to recover after my break up, but the loneliness started setting in. I don't miss her, I just miss the connection. I feel anxious all the time and honestly meeting people who understand it …
Thinking about my ex constantly — ​ I haven't stopped thinking about my ex since we've broken up. I've been with my ex from the end of February to half of August last year. Since then, she's been on my mind almost non-stop. I …
Anyone else taught that if you don’t get it right away, you’ll never learn it? — Was anyone else’s narcissistic parent really bad at teaching things? And on top of that, did they lose their temper immediately if you didn’t get it 100% right the first time? My narcissistic parent …
I can't fully believe in it — No matter what I do I can't exactly believe in manifestation. I feel like every success story can be explained. Even though I'm interested in spiritual stuff I always have a realistic side believes th…
Emotionally abusive parents — I'm going through a really rough patch right now, and I last thing I need is my AP constantly nagging and texting me that I'm horrible and i made a mistake. i have always been emotionally detached fr…
Dear parents, why are you even here — For context, my parents immigrated from their home country of China to a western country, Canada. But I’m pretty sure they hate it here. They constantly complain about how everything is worse here, ho…
How Neville goddard and LOA changed my life ( Long story ) — # Hello everyone, i wanted to share another success story i had with Neville goddard teachings , it just made me think and remember that sometimes you get your desired reality before you even know it!…
My Mom doesn't know privacy - how should i deal with this — I was sleeping and suddenly at midnight my mom came into my room, turn on the lights and nagging at me for not turning off my laptop. I than flipped off so hard i started yelling and punching the door…
Overcoming emotional trauma from abusive father, feeling scared — Hi! Posting for the first time here, hoping I'm doing it right. I wanted to talk about my family trauma and seek advice about building a life on my own because my mind is so afraid to ever go back int…
Are you happy now? — I've been completely alone ever since I moved out 7 years ago. I had to distance myself from my friends and extended family because my mother was using them to keep tabs on me and I didn't find out un…
I feel I have CPTSD from emotional abuse by my father, need advice — Hi! Posting for the first time here, hoping I'm doing it right. I wanted to talk about my family trauma and seek advice about building a life on my own because my mind is so afraid to ever go back int…
I’m re-explaining my situation after everyone on this subreddit said I was the shittiest person alive — Hi everyone I know this is super long but please read all of it. So yesterday I posted this: “I need honest opinions because I’m really conflicted and don’t know if I crossed a line or if this break…
Group Dynamics and friendships — Does anyone else struggle with group dynamics? I've always preferred one on one, in my mind they are closer feeling friendships. I struggle alot to navigate group dynamics because it just naturally f…
I (36/M) am feeling newly disconnected from my partner (35/F) because she works too much, is this normal? — Hey all, I'm 36 and my partner (35) and I have been together almost a year. I'm beginning to feel disconnected from her and I think part of the problem is that she overworks herself. She works fr…
*Repost* Old OrionDirectorate post (prior username change) — Hello everyone, I found this success story interesting. I hope others do too, especially the ones seeking the financial aspects of manifesting. **For those new here, I'd like to clarify once more tha…
Why do I feel like i’ll never move on?(advice) — My boyfriend and I broke up 4 months ago, and I still have this lingering feeling that he was the best I was going to get. We’re about to graduate high school and I just feel like this nagging feeling…
Confused — My boyfriend sent me a text last week saying he thinks we should break up due to incompatibility. I called him and we spoke and I apologised for nagging recently and being stressy and said id relax (w…
Spousal Support — So I've obtained a legal counselor for my divorce, and I literally want to cry. The lawyer, keep throwing around the spousal support that I may have to pay. I am not rich. I work my butt off in health…
How do I stop the romantic infatuation cycle? — For the past 5 years my romantic life has been like this: I get into a relationship which I devote myself entirely to, convinced it's going to last forever (even though there's something nagging at t…
A Few Words of Encouragement — Obviously most of these posts consist of people telling their stories (including my first post, which is [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/1ryb479/i_stayed_for_way_too_long/…
Jealousy is ruining my life — I’m a senior in high school and as the titles says, I hate that I’m such a jealous person. I’m one of the best students in the grades in terms exam marks (it’s a different system compared to the US), …
How to manifest a call/message from someone you haven't talked to for 5 years? — About five years ago, I met someone in my hometown who was working there at the time. Long story short, there was miscommunication on both sides and 5 years later it still bothers me because with any…
N Dad wants to divorce my mom after 30+ years because she hasn’t slept with him the week after her mom died — Marked NSFW just to be safe. TW for rape, physical abuse, verbal abuse, even if I don’t go into much detail. Let me know if I marked or did anything wrong! I don’t usually use Reddit. I’m (31F) unfor…
It’s painful to enforce boundaries with these people — I’m F20. I told my mom today that I don’t trust her with my medication. This boundary of mine was formed because I’ve seen her recommend a bunch of weird holistic “cures and remedies” to my brother a…
tl;dr My boyfriend 29M and I 26F are trying to get back together after we broke up for, a 1 year relationship. I think he’s lying to me about sleeping with his coworker after I snooped through his phone. I still love him so much, Any advice? — So my ex boyfriend and I are trying to get back together. We broke up a while ago and both slept with other people while we weren’t talking. We both kind of lied to each other at first but each came c…
My story and where i am at the moment — My girlfriend and I have been happy for two and a half years. Granted, she said I rushed things a little and sometimes she feels like we were winging life. Life was genuinely happy—not perfect, but pe…
Leaving a loving relationship that lacks attunement? I’m [27F] and he’s [30M] — I have been with my partner for 4 years now. I love him a lot and he loves me too. I have never been this free and comfortable with anyone else before and think that’s one of the many reasons why I’ve…
I don’t know what to do anymore (25F saying 26M) — Hi, 25F dating a 26M here. We have been together for 2.5 years and I am looking for advice. Backstory: We broke up for two weeks in the past as he was working a large amount of overtime which made hi…
I (23F) have a hard time biting my tongue when it comes to my (23M) boyfriends procrastination — My (23M) boyfriend and I (23F) have been together for 2 1/2 years and this is both of ours first long term serious relationship. We’ve been living together for 6 months and we just signed to re-lease …
i realised i scripted my own breakup — I’m posting here because I want to leave the "old story" behind for good and i need some tough love but not too tough because im real emotional right now after seeing my own doing🤣. I’m not looking t…
What should I do ? — I 25\\\\F is in relationship with 30\\\\M we had been relationship since 6 years , we are struggling financially for a while now , he's working too hard I get it and I support him but I think our rel…
It feels like a child is clinging to me and then getting angry with me if I try to have a life or any interests outside of them. It starts with needling comments from them, passive aggression, accusat…
The depth of their reflections if you ask them about previous relationships, how they healed, what they want from a partner, relationship with parents… etc How they feel around children: if they’re …
I am having so much trouble with the rage I feel post-breakup. I worked so, so hard to keep my FA responses in check for this relationship and it just wasn’t enough. He gave up super suddenly and it f…
Not OP, but, as an FA, I would say that if pride or anger is an issue, it's probably actually fear and insecurity. When we're afraid and insecure, we go into fight or flight mode. When the mode is fig…
Text of original post by u/upernikos: I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I reall…
Could you maybe share how you were able to finally let go of that nagging idea of the needing to find a partner or you’re gonna end up alone? I do really well on my own, usually okay with it, and I’m …
“I need you to know: I hated that I needed more than this from him. There is nothing more humiliating to me than my own desires. Nothing that makes me hate myself more than being burdensome and less t…
Okay, first I just have to get this out of the way: you were pretty wild for bringing up moving in together after less than a year of dating ESPECIALLY since he had JUST gotten his divorce finalized. …
Oh, for sure. And that weird combo of flirting with nagging, negging a little bit, always confuses me. I grew up with three big brothers. So roasting always reads as very platonic and brotherly to m…
welp I lived with my best friend after uni and yep, ruined our relationship. on the flip side, I moved in with two strangers two years ago and one of them has become one of my closest friends now, so …
I hate nagging my friends to take photos so most of my dating photos over the years have been taken by me on a tripod with the tiny remote. Whenever my photos get stale, I go for a hike to a scenic sp…
It was more of just observing the structure of her face and her build. She was quite tall and lanky and her shoulders were broad and a little bit bulky but was slim. Its hard to describe without showi…
I have mutual friends with my ex. Found out he got so drunk on Valentine’s Day he got kicked out of the party, scared a bunch of women off, blocked his friends from meeting women, then tried to go to …
Is there a laptop with messages app on it that someone else could be using ? The second phone thing sounds off to me. If it’s an apple phone, FindMy can brick the other phone in a flash. Does it o…
Saying the dumper never regrets it is a gross generalization. I broke up with my girlfriend after about a year and half together. Without going into too much detail, we had some disagreements and issu…
Don’t marry her. Do talk to her. Read The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays. Read this subreddit, r/AsOneAfterInfidelity, and r/supportforbetrayed . These subreddits will give you a good range of vie…
I had post nasal drip that lasted a couple months causing a nagging cough after I caught a cold from my son. Needed two courses of steroids to get it to finally go away.
Oooh it’s my time to shine, I have experience with this! My SO will also get defensive about going to the doctors, although it’s for other reasons. What works for me is making it about myself, which…
You doing ok? If there's a nagging feeling that this is familiar it's because cheaters follow a pattern of behavior. It's crazy how many stories I've heard have fit this mold
ironically been there from the other side told my ex from the start i didn't want kids she left it alone for a while than started pushing me to change my mind to the point of nagging(in hind sight i …
Was supposed to meet for date #6 but she isn't feeling well so we're holding off. I don't mind, I totally understand, but it's highlighting something that's been nagging at me - I've initiated every d…
That's what I've been telling myself, but I can't help having that nagging voice of self-doubt in my head. It's tricky.
I got skinny after I left my husband. He always wanted me to be skinny. I guess nagging didn't work.
Here's the thing. I'm Korean first of all. I respect Maggie Kang a lot because she not only made this movie but she put her money where her mouth is by hiring a lot of Korean animators as well as voic…
This feels nice to hear. I wasn’t saying I was perfect though I am not going to beat myself up for things that now only mattered to her. I don’t feel it relevant to list everything she had an issue wi…
What you’re feeling is actually very human, and Stoicism doesn’t ask you to shut that off. Stoicism will bring you into more enriched relationships as you learn to manage what relationships are, what…
I'm so sorry you're experiencing this, and all these people saying "just talk to him". The reality is that his default is not to be helpful. That is not going to change by talking to him. He has a bas…
Men are not mind readers. I have a family member who has made comments like such-and-such thing broke. I go over to try and fix it and she’s nagging me about how to fix it and told me constantly “don…
How do you enjoy what you have now without worrying about where it's going? I've been talking to someone and genuinely enjoy the time I spend with them, but I have this nagging thing in the back of my…
I have ADHD. This has nothing to do with ADHD. He doesn’t even have to do the work. He just has to sit down and eat (don’t get me wrong, that’s not ok either, but in this situation, he’s not even t…
He learned she actually can keep from nagging 😂
You're not nagging, he reframes it as nagging because he doesn't want to meet a higher standard. He doesn't care because your feelings do not inconvenience him more than doing the chore would. If yo…
Yea, I suppose you’re right. Been off and on with the apps, just feels like a dopamine chase - I’m noticing trends about myself and feel like I have more self work to do. Not having an easy time p…
Sorry to hear that about your friend, OP. Unfortunately this situation is not something you can control. In your mind it might feel like he is your responsibility, but that's just not the case. Best t…
Thank you for this comment. My husband takes boys trips a few times a year and there is almost nothing I'd enjoy less than being around a bunch of farting, belching, Cheeto-dust-covered men leaving th…
How do you do that with a person that gets so triggered about a subject that they break down and just say "I can't talk about this right now" or "I don't have the capacity" every time it gets brought …
Do you and your husband have any support network or is it just you guys parenting without help? My grandmother was so instrumental in being the extra parent I needed. If you have a grandparent, aunt, …
Their nagging and criticism isn’t a reflection of you, but of them. Even if you live a perfect life, they’ll criticize that you don’t have more kids, that your house is dirty, that your career isn’t …
Well, the thing is, there were a lot of times in our relationship where I asked him to change his ways. We’ve had the same conversation every couple months, about him not being present enough, about h…
Can't shake off my affection for edad cause he's the only good thing (ambiguously, but basically yes) from my family. Sometimes it makes me think I'm an impostor being in this subreddit because as opp…
What op didn't realise was that her travelling without him was the beginning of the disconnect. She got used to doing it alone and realised that she didn't need him in her life and he wasn't benefitin…
\> I can see why she became unhappy. I became busy at work right after we bought the house (it’s a fixer-upper). With my job and the house, I will definitely admit that I neglected the relationship, b…
That’s kind of how it resonated with me. I usually don’t post my meditation experiences, I just journal them for future reference, but I had a nagging feeling this one might be shared. I held back fro…
I'm onboard with what you have just said. Something else though has been somewhat nagging me. That is, is there a similar aspect of the high strangeness also attached with orbs? More specifically, the…
Before healing, I avoided conflict hard. Whenever my wife brought anything up that bothered her, I used to get very defensive. I believed I was always right, even though I was usually wrong. This resu…
I think you might need to look at (and I don’t know the answer) why you feel the need to always be calm. Because, I know that those of us in the 80s and 90s were conditioned to be the ones to resolve …
Honestly it's usually because they HAVE spoken. They have told you their feelings and they have been ignored or shut down for nagging. . Then after so many conversations where she's brought up her fee…
About 3.5 years since ex and I called it quits. Almost a year since the divorce was made official. We lived together for 6 months after we decided to call it quits. That was absolute hell, and the …
The issue is that you have no respect for yourself. You're ok with her walking all over you. You let her have her cake and eat it too. For years. And now you still are. You've gotten used to bein…
I was coming here to say the same thing as you in that I also think I've been on both sides of this. And you're 100% right about both sides even wanting it work out. When you are on the other side of…