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Thank you for sharing this. Reading your post felt like someone handed me the secret playbook to my own current nightmare. I am on the other side of this dynamic—the anxious partner desperately in lov…
A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns) — When I was 21 and *severely* fearful avoidant I dated a secure guy who was wonderful in every way, but obviously not for me. I did everything stereotypical of a fearful avoidant attachment does in a…
I think I’ve messed up my habits so badly that I don’t know how to function in a relationship — Hey everyone, This is a bit embarrassing to admit, but I want to be honest because I actually want to change. I’m a pretty insecure guy, and over time I’ve kind of fallen into a lifestyle where I sp…
Also this! Happened to me. Thought I was dating the most secure guy ever. He communicated more than anyone ever and made me feel safe. It only showed in the long run because they can’t keep it up
Same. 1.5 years with a dismissive avoidant were the most painful period of my life other than my childhood. I’ve been married to a secure guy for the past 21 years and he’s great at communicating an…
Anxious woman here and there was one Secure guy whom I was extremely drawn to and was interested in dating but he didn't noticed me because he was in love with an Avoidant woman. Even during that time…
This is interesting. my ex was fearful avoidant, and she broke up with me just after 12 days of coming in relationship, and mind you the relationship was at its best at that time. I'm a secure guy,…
These men are negging you hard. Only insecure guys would do this.
Thank you so much for this i‘m still trying to figure out how to get out of this cycle i’m only 20 years old but i feel like i ruined my life because i only fall in love with toxic people. I’ve tried …
You're clearly a sad fuckin loser, so Ima let the upvote ratio speak for itself and peace the f out after this. Rewatching a movie you supposedly think is the "white man's scraps" isn't the win you t…
I’ve heard a lot of people (mostly other men) say that any guy under 6 ft is short—despite the fact that the dudes making these comments are under 6 ft themselves. Also doesn’t help that a lot of inse…
That's truly his issue. People will look at attractive people, it's inevitable. For me, there's a big difference if my partner gives attention back to the men who give her attention, then it would bot…
Right? A confident guy is PROUD to be with the woman who other guys find attractive. An insecure guy wants her to make herself small.
Is he pushing or breaking boundaries? If not, it's a non-issue. I have known several women in stable long term relationships that had/have me *absolutely smitten*. I wouldn't ever do anything to mess …
Do you feel confident and calm etc because there is this built in distance? Just cuz of feels comfortable in this moment doesn’t mean the dynamic is healthy. It’s a situationship no matter how you loo…
Your boyfriend is basically following the classic insecure guy playbook - tear down your confidence so you think you can't do better than him. When people kept telling him you're out his league he pro…
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it as I recently dated a FA woman. Once she opened up to me, I understood where her FA tendencies came from, which were primarily her relationship wit…