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This is what happens when your FA ex comes back

I actually feel that I'm only slightly anxious leaning and relatively secure but I got triggered more when he was avoidant and I think a secure person would have a very hard time staying secure. I thi…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/10/2025
Letter to my ex

Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost2/8/2026
Feeling guilty about breaking up due to distance

Feeling guilty about breaking up due to distance — She's going to move away for years. I just couldn't do it, I don't believe I can be happy in a long distance relationship, seeing each other few times a year. There was still around 3 months together…

r/BreakUpspost3/29/2026
Letting you go is the best decision to protect myself

Letting you go is the best decision to protect myself — My final act of love won’t be a hundred missed calls or text messages. It will be the silence you always wanted. Not because I stopped caring, but because I finally learned to care for myself. I won’…

r/BreakUpspost4/4/2026
A Tale of Two Easters

A Tale of Two Easters — **Hers** I woke up with a migraine and threw up as quietly as I could with the fan on so the boys wouldn’t hear, wouldn’t worry, wouldn’t have one more thing to carry. I brushed my teeth to …

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/5/2026
Inappropriate exposure

Inappropriate exposure — So, my parents didnt have loving relationship. They didn't seem close or enjoy each other's company. The only act of love was when my my father would grope my mother. In my presence. Never a kiss or h…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/6/2026
I feel guilty for missing him.

I feel guilty for missing him. — Apologies for the long post, I just really need to get things off my chest. We broke up a bit less than 2 weeks ago. I sobbed and said we could work things out, but I knew his mind wouldn't change. W…

r/BreakUpspost4/8/2026
im (23M) unsure how to handle conflict with my girlfriend (22F) in our 7 month long-distance, she wants to distance herself when upset

im (23M) unsure how to handle conflict with my girlfriend (22F) in our 7 month long-distance, she wants to distance herself when upset — I (23M) have been in my first relationship with my girlfriend (22F) for about 7 months. It's long distance. Recently we had an argument where I finally admitted something I had been holding in for a …

r/relationship_advicepost4/11/2026
How do I tell my boyfriend he is wasting my time?

>but I am always willing to try something for him because I love him It's not only hard to say no, but you have the added double plus bonus of that you actually seem to find VALUE in going along with…

r/relationshipscomment3/14/2026
How do you end an engagement when you both live together, share a lot of expenses, and the wedding is less than a year out.

At 22 you are just starting to learn who you really are. The biggest thing to realize here is that it is okay to change your mind about something. This is a big deal. To be sure, this won't be your fa…

r/relationshipscomment3/18/2026
My husband (39M) is annoyed that I (31F) always get sick after him. How can we find a solution?

Bingo. Add in the age gap and OP saying she’s a full time SAHM while working part time and this has all sorts of red flags waving around. “All day, every day, therapist, mother, maid Nymph, then a v…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
[Partner] Wife’s suppressed severe trauma surfaced. She’s in extreme ‘flight’ mode, refusing therapy, and I am burning out. Need honest outlooks.

The answer is unconditional love. Don't waste a lot of time searching through a bunch of books whose ultimate message is really just going to be to love yourself. You need to have unconditional love…

r/CPTSDcomment3/27/2026
My (28f) BF (29m) cried when I made him lunch before he left for work

He was feeling genuine gratitude for your kind and thoughtful gesture. Often, for those of us who are not accustomed to be being cared for by others, a small thing like this feels really good and comf…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/28/2026
My (28f) BF (29m) cried when I made him lunch before he left for work

Some are so starved of consideration and care that even the tinniest act of love and generosity makes them realise how neglected they’ve been.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/28/2026
Husband (29m) and I (33f) disagree. Is counting hours with the baby "unfair"?

Parenting is not a chore, its an act of love. He's acting like a teenager, who has been asked to stop playing games to look after a baby sibling. Counting hours is unfair to you, you shouldn't eve…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
My dad is abandoning my dying stepmom

No one should die alone. Spending time with someone who is dying is an act of love that every human being deserves to experience. Thank you for being better than your father.

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/1/2026
My dad is abandoning my dying stepmom

And I’m so sorry you have to go through it as well. I’m glad for you & your stepmom that you can be there for her at the end. I know how much it meant to my mother to be surrounded by those who cared …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/1/2026
I broke up with my girlfriend today

I completely understand. When my ex decided to leave me, at first I tried to save the relationship. I told him that from the beginning I knew it wouldn’t always be easy, that there would be hard momen…

r/BreakUpscomment4/2/2026
plsss i need help

Yeah that makes sense. In my case i was just addicted to the dopamine rush, so if I take away the industrial porn and only watch ''porn'' that shows what sex actually is (a wholesome act of love), the…

r/selfhelpcomment4/2/2026
After many failed attempts for me (31M) to change, my wife (30F) of 7 years has suggested divorce. I want to be better.

You shouldn’t have to change yourself to the point of “pain” just to make someone happy. If she loves you, don’t you think it would hurt for her to see you go through all of that just for “love”? I ne…

r/Divorcecomment4/3/2026
I’m naive to think she’d check on me

I wouldn't take the fact that she hasn't checked in on you mean she doesn't care. Reaching out means opening up a conversation and keeping in contact with someone you once loved never works. I think o…

r/BreakUpscomment4/4/2026
The early signs and red-flags to look out for with a covert narcissist.

Here’s what I saw or o should say now realize we’re the signs and red flags looking back. The victim. When I met her she had just ended a 5 relationship with her married boss. She of course claims h…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/4/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment4/4/2026
Ex husband spiraling

Your instinct to protect him is exactly right. Kids need at least one safe, steady parent, and you are being that for him. The school pickup letter wasn't a betrayal. It was an act of love. Keep offer…

r/Divorcecomment4/4/2026
Letting you go is the best decision to protect myself

So many of us feel this way on this subreddit so thank you for sharing with us. Together we mourn, together we heal. The final act of love in that relationship was an act of love for the self that des…

r/BreakUpscomment4/5/2026
My 25f partner 24m doesn’t put any effort into any holidays or events or anything special. Is that normal?

This was my ex. His mindset was more that since he didn’t care if the “special” stuff happened, it was my responsibility alone because he’d just as well not do any of it. Which like, I guess he wasn’t…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
My fiancé (38M) and my (33F) different mental states when we wake up is causing friction?

I wonder if OP could try a variation of this - I think part of why that’s so sweet is there’s still a moment of care and connection with the coffee. There’s no words necessary, but it feels like a mut…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
28F and 28M sex drive incompatibility, feeling stuck?

Highly understandable. Personal satisfaction, especially sexual, is important but not the only meaning to life. Maybe ask your partner if he's open to stimulating you even when he himself is not in th…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
How to heal?

Honestly I don’t think I’ll “heal” from it, but I’ll my inner child play, I take care of my self is a act of love and resistance for me, even with a whole family to take care of, I’ll still dance with…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/7/2026
Somebody stop me (29f)from sending this to my husband (35M)

I’m sorry that you’re angry and you’re hurting. I think you want him to hurt and be angry too, and this won’t do it. What will is living a better life without him than with him. Being fully healed und…

r/Divorcecomment4/7/2026
Female dumpers, have you ever regretted leaving someone?

Not regret per say, just sad that I had to leave. I was hurt by what he'd done to me and his complacency during our relationship. I have no ill will against him, though, despite what I may have felt w…

r/BreakUpscomment4/7/2026
idk how im going to take care of her in her old age

Yeah she did the absolute bare legal minimum to keep herself out of jail, and she was traumatizing you the whole time. And if she sacrificed, it was her choice to sacrifice - you don’t have to pay for…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/8/2026
Female dumpers, have you ever regretted leaving someone?

I made the biggest mistake of my life leaving him and regret not thinking about what life without him would actually look like. I got caught up in so much outside noise and made horrible decision afte…

r/BreakUpscomment4/8/2026