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It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies.

Everyone on these boards has healing to do, so that's not some "gotcha", my friend. >for some reason you’re very emotionally attached and aggravated by this.This is just a personal rant on some perce…

r/attachment_theorycomment6/16/2025
Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning.

Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…

r/UXDesignpost4/30/2025
How do you persist data across pipeline runs?

How do you persist data across pipeline runs? — I need to save key-value output from one run and read/update it in future runs in an automatic fashion. To be clear, I am **not** looking to pass data between jobs within a single pipeline. Best solu…

r/DevOpspost5/5/2025
Nonordinary Perception

Nonordinary Perception — I'm so glad I found this community, I've posted in the paranormal and the witchcraft communities and been called fake, liar, crazy, and all kinds of names for sharing my paranormal experiences, so I'm…

r/experiencerspost3/18/2026
An update : Projected twice since meeting my wife’s deceased great/great great grandmas and it was not a good time

An update : Projected twice since meeting my wife’s deceased great/great great grandmas and it was not a good time — Hello my fellow travelers. Since my first post I’ve projected two times and both of them were not the best time to be honest. To pick up where I left off here is a link to my first experience [The G…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/20/2026
Finally sniffed this one out

Finally sniffed this one out — I met this guy at work about 2 years ago (different departments) and we have been friends ever since. Dude helped me schedule my first doctor’s appointment in almost 6 years and even offered to take …

r/NarcissisticAbusepost4/7/2026
Does anyone actually enjoy lying to their APs?

Does anyone actually enjoy lying to their APs? — i'm pretty much living a double life. lying to my AP and making myself seem much more successful in her eyes chills her out and she leaves me alone for a while. then there's the every day lies you tel…

r/AsianParentStoriespost4/10/2026
It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies.

Look I’m not go back in forth with you after this, I mostly answered because for someone who said some good points you got quickly derailed and started projecting your own trauma. It wasn’t a gotcha. …

r/attachment_theorycomment6/16/2025
When I want to deactivate I swing too far to the other side to preemptively "sooth" my partner, just in case.

Absolutely. When my avoidant stated his excuses for the fun being over, I wanted to cry and rage at the fakeness of his excuses, and unfairness, and how I didn't do shit wrong to him, etc etc. But I …

r/attachment_theorycomment7/17/2025
My DA bf broke up with me Saturday morning.

I gotcha. I asked because I was just curious. Your boyfriend sounds a lot like how I used to be. I never realized I had DA until a couple years ago. Most of what I attributed to depression and anxie…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/7/2025
How do avoidant dynamics move forward — and when do they not?

Oh no, I gotcha 😆 I didn’t set out for this to be a serious thing, but we did meet on a dating site. So I kinda figured dating would be involved 😅 I wasn’t super in love and I didn’t think there was…

r/attachment_theorycomment1/14/2026
What do secure bids for connection and co-regulation look like?

Gotcha, so it's less about you "going too far" in any particular interaction and more about your overall pattern of interactions.

r/attachment_theorycomment1/15/2026
Anxious Attachment Help

Oh gotcha, I took it as a more recent thing that was weighing on this issue. I think when it comes to the spiraling maybe you need to work backwards and see where it starts from, what triggers it an…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment1/17/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Gotcha. The way I read it at the time sort of came across as the profiles you were reading were obvious on looking at them. Even then, I don't think I'd feel awkward if someone didn't represent th…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/4/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Not really dating related, but having spent over a decade dealing with health issues and not working, then 2 years ago finding and getting a degree in a career that's basically made for me, and then a…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/12/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

oh gotcha, im not sure how that platform works. Okay, just didnt know what you were going for. Yeah I would just add photos of you smiling. You seem like a nice person but it doesnt really come off in…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/19/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 24, 2026

Ohh ok, gotcha. The quotes made it confusing Yeah, that sucks to feel like it's going somewhere serious and letting your guard down to only be met with that. :\\

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/24/2026
r/datingoverthirtycomment2/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 02, 2026

Gotcha. Hey it's all about your tolerance for emotional pain, haha. I just don't think you can or should expect more from her and it sounds annoying having to try and tip toe around respecting her nee…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/2/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 02, 2026

Gotcha, so it's an age as well as location thing. Well, Shuffle Dating organizes by age brackets, but it sounds you shouldn't have a shortage of less structured activities, judging by where you live. …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/3/2026
3 years in. Bro, it gets wild.

Gotcha. In retrospect, it has dropped from 8-9 hours a night to maybe 5-7 hours per night. And it seems less impactful throughout the day. Like I just select being energetic rather than tying it to …

r/nevillegoddardcomment3/7/2026
does anyone feel a little pain when they see how other parents treat their kids?

good luck with moving out. im also pakistani and its awful the ways in which they make you feel you owe them your entire life when they dont even make the effort to be cooperative in everyday conversa…

r/AsianParentStoriescomment3/9/2026
My husband (29M) and I (29F) have a dead bedroom because he says I dont initiate

I find myself being very sceptical that he’s telling the truth about this ‘test’ to see if you’ll initiate. No high libido person can go three months for the sake of this experiment. A couple of weeks…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/11/2026
r/realityshiftingcomment3/12/2026
Please share your CE5 experiences!

Ah, I gotcha. While I have aliens, they are honestly just as focused on growth and shadow work and lessons and yada yada yada as "spiritual" beings are. I *wish* they would give me some sci fi firewo…

r/experiencerscomment3/13/2026
What are the most infuriating sentences your ex has said to you during or after the breakup?

“We were morally wrong” so to him, being in a same sex relationship with me (which he started btw) was morally wrong, but cheating on me wasn’t, got it. “I was with you because it was convenient” oh …

r/BreakUpscomment3/13/2026
r/AsianAmericancomment3/14/2026
r/experiencerscomment3/14/2026
This is harder than it should be. 🥸

That's way over the line inappropriate for her to have done that. It also reeks of bitterness. Like, yeah, men lie about their heights, which is BS, sure, but the pictures don't lie. Like, no way hal…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/17/2026
I (19F) told my boyfriend (19M) it’s not my job to prove I won’t cheat.

Yeah, no, it's time to run. You shared your password and in response, he got mad that you didn't share it sooner? That's crazy talk. "Hey, you gave this to me, but now I'm gonna whine that I didn't h…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/18/2026
AM diversify your dating pool

Ah gotcha. I even just Googled Esther Ku supports Asian men and the opposite shows up 😂

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/19/2026
Please tell me this is intended to be a parody!

I did some research and apparently this is a Chinese American female graphic artist represented by a legit literary agency. Given the age of AI and social media rage baiting there certainly still poss…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/19/2026
Dating Apps Make Me Feel Super Lonely

Gotcha, thank you for the clarification!

r/datingoverfortycomment3/20/2026
You had an OBE, right?

Gotcha! Thank you so much! Ive dome 3g shroom trips recently and felt like i was going to detach from my body. It felt like i was so close. Il try and not get attached to the idea and let it happen :)…

r/gatewaytapescomment3/20/2026
I (34m) have been with my partner (34f) for 8 years. I have supported us financially for 8 years but want her to contribute and I'm made to feel like the bad guy

Gotcha, very important context. So you feel like she doesn't do enough financially, she feels like you don't do enough domestically, even though both of you (based on the current split) should be pret…

r/relationshipscomment3/20/2026
What is the best starter psychedelic?

Ohhh 😂 I gotcha lol, that's crazy I never made that connection but yeah I can see how that would be misleading

r/Psychonautcomment3/21/2026
dealing with weebs? lol

during the whole SEA vs Korea debacle, I saw so many SEAsians using comfort women as a "gotcha", had me confused. the glaze they have for them is confounding, like they're mentally cucked.

r/AsianAmericancomment3/24/2026
My (37F) partner (43M) is obsessed with having something in his ass during sex and its ruining it for me.

I don’t have sex that revolves entirely around my clitoris and nothing else because I’m not a selfish lover, so that’s not something that would ever happen. I know you think this is a “gotcha!” moment…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/25/2026
My (37F) partner (43M) is obsessed with having something in his ass during sex and its ruining it for me.

Not a gotcha, I think your statement is reasonable, given the described situation. I did wonder how you'd react to a post that could lead to my rephrased version of the statement, though.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/25/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 25, 2026

Gotcha thanks. I’m actually 32 but close enough lmao (I’ll change it soon). She’s 29. I didn’t realize that location said my neighborhood and not city, and Orlando is big so it could be vague and thin…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/25/2026
My abduction story.

I'm feeling exactly how you felt over 20 years ago. I've been interested in the "supernatural" since I was young, probably because I've had experiences. But recently had an experience and I went down …

r/experiencerscomment3/26/2026
Text that Blew Apart My Entire Life

Don't try to gotcha me, you said you were seeking R... Good luck with everything.

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/26/2026
Three Tabs Yesterday.

Gotcha. You'll get there. It's a learning process I'm sure, and it'll be more rewarding once you get it down

r/Psychonautcomment3/28/2026
Accidental awakening

Gotcha. you can see the root cause but that makes it harder to process because it’s so raw. Thank you for your insights. I wish you the absolute best and hope this eases for you.

r/gatewaytapescomment3/28/2026
I'm exhausted of doing everything myself

Gotcha. It shows up as a reply to OP, so came off differently. I've also dated irredeemable POS's, so I totally get it. I know good cis dude partners exist, but gd do they seem rare, and I often don't…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/29/2026
Dumb mask-off moment

ah, gotcha 😅

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/30/2026
Helpful words for those who were betrayed

Oh gotcha, sorry for the misunderstanding. Yes I agree fully with you. I think people get hung up on it because their partner often gives them all these reasons to justify their own immoral decisions.…

r/Divorcecomment3/31/2026
r/Divorcecomment3/31/2026
Why should one person do all the work?

Gotcha! Can see you can totally be engaging. And yes just have to keep moving and swiping no on all the duds and hope SOMEone out there matches your energy.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
To pay or not to pay

Oh gotcha. Thanks for sharing that. I don’t need free meals, can afford to eat whatever I please so that wouldnt interest me.

r/datingoverfortycomment4/1/2026
How to manifest that’s practical and simple.

ah gotcha could you give couple of examples of how you framed your self concept and targetted those limiting beliefs ? doesn't have to be the current affirmations if you're not comfortable to share t…

r/Manifestationcomment4/2/2026