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Everyone on these boards has healing to do, so that's not some "gotcha", my friend. >for some reason you’re very emotionally attached and aggravated by this.This is just a personal rant on some perce…
How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe? — I am dating someone for a week and I feel like I don’t like them enough and I would like something more exciting. They also feel like coming in too hard with double and triple texting. I know howeve…
I’m looking for recommendations on a good Front-End course/certificate. Ideally for UX designers — I’m looking for an easy to follow, front end coding course that will teach me the basics on building a single page prototype. I’ve seen some job postings for UX designers asking them to use code to …
Gallery plugin - preferably free — Hello, I'm looking for a gallery plugin with lightbox. I want the plugin to be able to show small images as thumbnails and big images in the lightbox. I currently have FileBird plugin and I use …
Help Me Understand Relation Between Guest Posting and Google's TOS — I'll start off by quoting Google's Spam Policies: https://developers.google. com/search/docs/essentials/spam-policies >Advertorials or native advertising where payment is received for articles that i…
Theme Suggestions- simple, visual oriented, for events/non-profit — Hello! I run a small nonprofit that produces low or no cost music shows for the community. Part of our mission is to be as supportive as possible to the creatives "on both sides of the stage"... So w…
With Updated Reporting, Now Deleted Products are removed from Sales & Tax Reports — I'm struggling to get a clear answer from any of the help team (shocker I know). Previously I could delete a product and still run reports and see the sales numbers, etc. Ran a report yesterday and t…
Site Reliability Engineering Internship at S&P Global — Hey guys, I have an interview for Site Reliability Engineering internship at S&P Global. What should I expect? Has anyone ever interviewed for this role? Also what kind of Questions did you get? Again…
Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…
Why is PSP a conscious mind method? Since we're doing it in alpha, isn't it a subconscious mind method? — In my understanding, PSP is a subconscious mind method, since we are doing it in alpha/sleepy drowsy state. But at the bottom of [training task 3](https://www.reddit.com/r/JosephMurphy/s/DP5PadUKql),…
Help me to recognise my attachment style please! — I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA). On the one hand, I clearly crave intimacy and…
Friendships — Hey, super random, but a while back, my friend and I had this conversation. I was just sort of thinking about romantic relationships as friendships. It occurred to me that I was no anxious when it cam…
Attachment in someone with no relationships? — Wondered this for a long time so it's oversharing hours tonight. I basically don't have relationships. I've overly attached with my mom, possibly even enmeshed, but that's it, and there's a lot of du…
8+ Months of LOB practice ( Update from my 1st post ) — Hi everyone, Some of you may remember me from my last post where I did an update of my situation at 4 months in, practicing LOB. After that post, I decided as was recommended to lower the progress g…
Meta Dating Monday - Flowers, Candy and Wrestlemania — Welcome to Meta Dating Monday! With Valentine's Day just around the corner and my kids now old enough that I no longer have to sit there trying to write names on lumpy candy bags, I can finally focus…
so what is ”healthy”? — so i’ve read over the several attachment style subs and something interesting i’ve found is that on the anxious side people are talking about how the society is pushing us to be hyper-independent and …
Jupiter in Aquarius and the impersonal nature of this placement — This is one placement I genuinely struggle to fully understand. Jupiter, as a principle, feels conceptually misaligned with Aquarius and its traits. The expansive, benefic, growth oriented nature of J…
Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…
Ever put your eyes in the box? — Hello there friends, So what are some of the odd things you have put in the box? My eyes take a long time to settle down, maybe they should just go in the box? What say you, explorers?
Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…
Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…
Update: How can I(20F) tell my boyfriend (20M) about my sexual preferences when he has already expressed disgust over it? — Alright, so even though no one asked for it I’m back with an update. First of all, thank you to everyone that commented, I swear on everything that I read each and every single comment. Thank you for…
read this if you are confused — Yes I have shifted, here is the mindset that brought me to this point. If this does not resonate with you move on. For those who follow the Law of Assumption, non duality etc I intend this will make …
OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL. — I don't know which tag this would come under but I just have to say this because the amount of 'im gonna give up' , 'its not working' ' what am I doing wrong' posts am seeing is insaneee. First of all…
So what do I do about this date...? — Scheduled for 9:00 pm EST tonight, so this is a real-time survey! M/54. Finalized details for the date yesterday via the app. Later that evening, I jumped on the app to send a follow-up message with …
I can’t stop thinking about her — I feel like I’m going insane. I cannot stop thinking about my ex girlfriend. It has been 3 1/2 years since our relationship first ended. And after the first breakup(6 months in), I ended up getting ba…
What can 'normal' people do to bring open contact a step closer? — I wonder what 'normal' people, like most of us here I assume, can do to help bring open contact a step closer? Do we have any agency in these matters? If so what do people here feel we can do or wh…
HUGE tantrum from my NDad due to my recent success. Hilarious but also depressing. 🥹 — My ndad is currently throwing a tantrum - screaming, stomping around, making threats etc whilst telling my mum and I that it’s my fault, and that I know what I did, therefore avoiding/refusing to expa…
Does anyone actually trip without music? — If so what do you do? If you watch movies how much do you dose?
How do I “do” therapy? — I started therapy recently after being diagnosed for the first time with depression and anxiety, but I really don’t enjoy it. I show up and I feel like it’s always having the ball put in my court so t…
Overarching Energy of the New Moon in Pisces on March 18th, 2026 — Even if you are not an artist, philosopher or feel things deeply, the New Moon in Pisces could give you an open, dreamy quality, where you want to dig into more abstract subjects. You may be thinkin…
I finally figured out how to manifest — For context I’ve been manifesting for a really long time. I’ve taken this lifestyle up for over 5 years. But it used to be tough to know exactly what I’ll get and when I’ll get it in the past. I usual…
I made my husband confess to OBS and here’s what happened — For your education and entertainment purposes, this is the story of what happened when I forced my husband to confess to OBS. Quick backstory: (you can read the full post on my profile) my husband h…
AM diversify your dating pool — these type of posts are truly beyond strange. a lot of aw have some self loathing issues so why don’t am date outside of their race? i know some aw and a lot of them really have coping issues with bei…
Has anyone else been paralyzed by extreme avoidance to the point of near delusion? I mean at one point I wouldn’t even get up to brush my teeth I would just be on my phone all day distracting myself from reality — And the irony is the more I avoided reality the worse my life got so the more I needed to escape reality. Addiction 101. My phone provided pleasure and took away pain. As my life got worse from chroni…
“EASIEST AP TECHNIQUE IN HISTORY!” (Update) — “History’s simplest projection technique” (Tweaked and updated for better results!) I posted the 30 second head lift technique a few months back and I wanted to update it hopefully to add to y…
Nowadays, would you say it's easier to have kids / start a family in Asia or the West? — I know flings and casual sex and "game" and all that keep getting brought up in these communities, and I understand why. But let's suppose you eventually (or currently) want to settle down, take it ea…
I don’t know how it’s going to happen… but I feel like my life is about to change — I can’t explain this properly, but I feel like my life is about to change in a big way. I don’t have all the details. I don’t even know exactly where I’ll be living. But I keep getting this calm, gro…
What does Marcus Aurelius mean by “misfortune” and “good fortune” in Meditations 4.49? — I’m having trouble understanding what Marcus Aurelius means by “good fortune”/"good luck" and "bad luck"/“misfortune” in *Meditations* 4.49. From Robin Waterfield translation: >Be like a headland: th…
Do couples that practice AP find each other astral projecting everytime while they sleep? — I am obviously new here I was curious about this lets say a married couple that does this see each other at night when they are sleeping? If so what they do? You guys travel together or what?
Meditation hasn’t worked for me — I’ve tried meditation for years. I used to do simple breath work, I tried frequencies binaural beats etc, and for a while I did transcendental meditation. None of them helped me. So recently just a f…
It doesn’t matter WHAT you do, it matters WHO does it — Lately I’ve been thinking about how working on yourself is actually really important when it comes to manifestation (and no, don’t immediately assume it’s something hard). The phrase “it doesn’t mat…
Is it normal for a therapist to always ask “so what do you want to talk about?” — Contemplating finding a new therapist. I thought therapy was supposed to be two way. She’s always asking me what I want to talk about over and over. And she yawns constantly through my session. It’s l…
My ex destroyed his life after we broke up — I don’t even know why I’m writing this, but everything has escalated so much that I just need to get this off my chest. I (33F) was in a relationship for more than 14 years with my ex, let’s call him…
my 22M bf says he will leave me 22F if i get breast surgery — Hello, hence the title. I made a joke that had some truth in it saying, “I’m gonna get breast implants.” **I have little-to no boobs, and it is my BIGGEST insecurity**. Women can grow glutes by eating…
Case 3: A shift in Perspective — **Background Info:** [Nature of Dreams & the abilities therein](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1s5zpt7/the_nature_of_dreams_the_abilities_therein/) **Case 3: A shift in Perspective*…
Me and my therapist are going in circles/no “coping mechanisms” — I’ve been with my therapist since 2020 and at this point, I feel like she can predict my behaviors and I can predict what she’ll say, and sometimes we get noticeably fed up with each other. I feel att…
help confirming stellium and what it means ! — ive been looking at my birth chart and have a few questions i hoping to get some answers for. i think i may have an aquarius stellium and/or an 8th house stellium, but i'm not sure sure if i'm reading…
where do i go from here? — hi friends, i’m not sure where to go to heal. i posted in a different thread about the situation leading up to my breakup with my now ex: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/s/UQCEcqeyRU today is the…
i'm feeling so fucking lost and alone i don't know what to do — It's been +4months since my bf of 3.5 years broke up with me back in November 2025. It was really heartbreaking for both of us bc we had an amazing, truly healthy relationship but hewas going through …
I just want to..Live — I hate that I’m stuck. Visa sponsorship is from the company. So whatever I do I can’t leave, I also hate how the culture is.. I came in wanting to grow and learn about marketing, yet all I’m doing is …
so what is WILD DILD and all this things mean?
Is it possible/useful to help out lower dimensional beings to? Like higher ones can do with us? If so what are you recommanding?
So what's the point of lucid dream if it only last for a short period of time.
100% he uses it, the Law works for anyone who puts it to use, and "the rain falls on the wicked and the righteous" but here's the caveat: The universe functions on selfless giving, and all things ar…
From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…
What would you make of an avoidant who, when unable to fully avoid, resorted to behaviors that can really only be described as hurtful? So deeply so that they nearly certainly must come from a place o…
I disagree because I think long distance can work. I've seen it work. But I agree that the time lines are different. I'm seeing a guy long distance. We aren't dating, we aren't exclusive, but I hope…
I haven’t heard a single word about automating SSL replacement, so whatever you think it is, add another 35% of tech debt to your list. Honestly you are getting into territory where operations may ove…
It would be really cool to add some functionality around not only understanding what changed through the layers of one image, but also what changed between two different images.
I have a 100% automated account for bluesky and youtube, instagram and tiktok is like 70% automated. instagram I don't automate the actual uploads etc, only content creation, they will limit your acc…
Thank you for this answer. I am very detached/annoyed with people Im not interested in (even when not talking about romantic rltp, any person I feel "meh" with I dont engage further). So what do I do?…
ok so what then? what's the issue? don't go out with her then
You are ending things early on so what's the problem? That's good on you for not wasting your time with someone who has signaled or directly said that they are not looking for the same things as you. …
Getting to know each other before brining up more serious matters isn't playing cool. So what if she wants kids too if she won't like for example how you dress or your lack of tact. There's time and p…
No I don’t and while I think you have some fair and good points, for some reason you’re very emotionally attached and aggravated by this.This is just a personal rant on some perceived grievance you ha…
Also what I'm saying is maybe she's not gonna do it at all but could it be just a kind of "reassurance" for avoidant, so that she won't feel being tied to me or something
Use video conversation exclusively for a while. Trust me, it helps. If he's too raw and unhealed though, it will continue to sabotage your progress. Make sure he's doing his part to heal too. He does…
Help me to recognise my attachment style please! I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA…
A lot of what people are recommending here are excellent. I just want to contribute the gist of anxiety is if you feed it, it grows. So the more you give into your anxiety and let it dictate your ac…
I really appreciate your honesty. I agree that over consuming info makes it so much more confusing and changing our beliefs of others is a difficult journey. I am trying to have a relationship with …
Hi, I’m 22F and was in a relationship for over 3 years with an avoidant male. In June, I decided to leave the place we shared together and move home because of his emotional regulation that presented …
A re-framing that has been helpful for me: reminding myself that I’m not daydreaming about how this other person makes me feel, I’m daydreaming about how I make MYSELF feel. There is nobody here but m…
Text of original post by u/DaniT0n: Hey, super random, but a while back, my friend and I had this conversation. I was just sort of thinking about romantic relationships as friendships. It occurred to …
What I'm going to say is not going to sound intuitive at all and is going to be scary, but it's honestly one of the practices and shifts I made that has led me to being secure. It took a lot of therap…
I think that you are more attached and trauma bonded than not. And that is why you are having trouble letting go of him. You are afraid of being on your own. However, that is also what you need for yo…
I would suggest really digging into what is underlying the need to meet in person and “find out who we truly are”. There is only so much you will learn about someone in the short amount of time you ca…
Yes, I identify with this and have a lot of thoughts here. I definitely overcorrected. One of the first things I worked on was more open and transparent communication. At the time, I think I was mostl…
When you notice yourself being hypervigilant about signs they may no longer be interested, ask yourself "so what?" So what if they really are pulling away and are losing interest? That's ok, you'll de…
It's tough because when I'm only half-interested someone, it's very easy for me to say "so what" when they appear to be losing interest. The spiraling starts when I actually like them and it's hard to…
Ok we've gotten kinda off topic here. My point was that you need to keep saying "so what" even when it gets hard, no excuses. When you spiral because now you "actually like them", that is all the more…
So what I’m understanding is that you want him to take control of the situation? You wanted him to make the decision of taking you to the hospital? You also mentioned your finances as a concern. O…
Often feelings are going to be mismatched. So what? How you respond to their bid for connection is what matters. I would never turn down such a clear bid for connection from someone I care about. It c…
Listen, I get your “so what” I do. I’m not dumb, I know things are mismatched sometimes. But I guess you helped me clarify my question: do they want a disingenuous response? I have a friend that w…
> No matter how many times I’ve explicitly talked about it, they still do. So what you're actually saying is that you've tried to set a boundary and they've ignored it and continue to make you unco…
Well I think this is where you need to do more work. Some questions to ponder: Did your parents take their anger out on you? Whether it was verbal, emotional or physical? What do you think it mean…
From what you wrote, you're normally pretty good at advocating for yourself. So, are you "testing" him by withholding that self-advocacy? If normally you tell him what you need, this is what he expec…
So what is karma? How much do I have? And how much do I need to post?
Okay so what I am seeing is that your work culture has become toxic. And her changing the status of the friendship was a breaking point or maybe just when it all came to a head and was brought more pa…
So what does a typical "lashing out" or "pushing away" event look like? Do you criticise the other person at all or just yourself?
So what do you feel is the difference? Is it because there's no idealisation phase?
I'm a guy of 50M and am in a relationship with a woman who is 46F We are 2.5 years in a Living-Apart-Relationship. She lives with her childs, I live with mine. We see eachother once a week for one, t…
What the other user guessed is also what I was thinking. You said she didn't explain and you're not sure she knows. Have you flat out asked her to explain? Not allowing a partner to get support like …
I am just so moved by what you wrote, this is such beautiful growth on your end. Resentment and being shut down are usually because things have built up over years. I wonder if you asked her if she’…
Thanks! > Resentment and being shut down are usually because things have built up over years. I wonder if you asked her if she’d be open to writing out all the hurt and what she’d need to feel safe a…
Friendships can come and go. It sucks but it happens. I think you need to learn to be okay with that. So what is keeping you from being able to feel secure enough within yourself to let friends go if …
Anxiety is not always something made up. Sometimes anxiety is what is telling us to look closer there might be truly something wrong. You chalked up your anxiety as something to dismiss which only led…
For the record, being antagonistic will get you banned. So what do you prefer, a polite discussion asking legitimate questions to aid in your healing journey or being removed from this sub? Please not…
List out all the triggers you had in past relationships. You’ll see there is a root cause and thread that continues through all of them. Ask yourself what values and healthy secure needs you have arou…
I know the feeling...I used to turn up my nose at the idea of seeking a relation cuz it seemed so needy. When I was a teen/young 20s I felt superior to the girls who were boy-crazy or "pick-me"s. I th…