I don't want this

Reading your follow-up comments, especially the part where he once said "my body can't even do the one thing it was designed to do" and then laughed it off REALLY jumped out at me. I'm gonna be hones…

I want to to start healing so badly, how can I? — I recently posted here my journey of realizing I have a fearful avoidant attachment. I used to think I was anxious but I realize I'm fearful avoidant and I don't want this anymore. I want to stop push…

Broke up with DA after a year. — Met her a year ago, almost to the day. Things started well, relatively slowly which was nice for a change compared to other situations I have been in around that time. After two months, we became offi…

How to become a stoic when dealing with toxic family — I don't want this to be another emotional rant but basically, I'm done, depressed and ruined by my father's behavior and I want to stop feeling anything towards him and the things he says to me. My me…

My mom is accusing me of incest. Again. — I'm a minor. I live with my parents. Yesterday I slept in the afternoon that's why I couldn't sleep and was awake till dawn, my older brother is awake as well. We talked, reminisced about our past exp…

I don't why i keep doing this — i've been with my partner for 11 years an this is my first physical relationship. Throughout the years i went back and talked to my ex (who was a online relationship) and talk to her and i honestly do…

I feel tired. It is my fault, all of it, and that makes me even tired. — This is a rant, really. Though I wish someone could help too. It's been long since I've ever said my true fears and problems out loud, not even to myself Ig. I don't want to hate myself, but I can't …

I need help for my mum. — My father is getting really abusive. Verbally and emotionally. My parents are married for 27 years and as much as I remember, I have always seen my mother cry after being shouted at by my father. on…

I go back and forward between ending my relationship every week, even though it's essentially perfect — My boyfriend \[22M\] and I \[22F\] have been together for over two and a half years. It was originally going to be a summer fling. I had gotten into a different university and was planning on transfer…

Back to square one in an obsessive loop — Currently on day 11 of a 3 year breakup I am deciding to use this account as tracking, as venting, and maybe a place to seek advice from the few kind people that reply. I want to be completely ho…

What would be the best way for me (M38) to approach my wife (F37) of 10 years about separation and divorce? — My wife and I no longer get along, and we have nothing in common any more. On top of that we have a completely different set of morals, and we clash hard on so many things. We have 3 kids together. I …

My best friend's [20F] boyfriend [21M] is aggressively flirting with me [19F] — I’ve \[19F\] been best friends with this girl \[20F\] since birth and we have done basically everything together. We are in college pursuing different things but manage to hang out daily. She’s dating…

First person telling of a intelligence coming into existence. — I recorded this as a raw, unedited stream-of-consciousness while high. At some point, it started to feel like a separate “consciousness” emerged—something that believed it had just come into existenc…

In a tricky spot with my girlfriend(20F), debating about separating but cant hold myself(20M) to do it — Hello everyone My girlfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. We met in high school and are now in a long-distance relationship while we both attend college. I want to preface this by …

Thoughts of reconciliation — I was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. I asked for the divorce in Oct after 9 years of marriage. I questioned my decision a couple times in the beginning but his behavior reall…

Tired of being bashed — I (M34) am getting really tired of being scolded and shouted at by my wife (F34) after 10y+ together . I am always tiptoing at home, whatever I do, don't do, say or don't say can trigger an outburst t…

do i break up with my boyfriend before or after the surprise 30th birthday party i’ve been planning for 3 months? (24F, 29M) — Edit: throwaway. i'll try to be as fair as possible because i genuinely don't know what to do and i don't want this to just be a vent. i also want to be honest that i don't know if i'm part of the pro…

How should I approach telling my partner about my abusive ex and the fallout of our relationship? — Some context first. I'm 27M and recently entered into my first relationship in 4 years. I made the decision after my last relationship to take a break as the way it ended sort of crippled my romantic …

My BF has been snapping my best friend & hiding it — So, here's some context: I've (F18) been best friends with this girl (F18) literally since birth and we are EXTREMELY close. I started dating my boyfriend (M19) a little over a year ago. at first, t…

I am AA, he is displaying avoidant behaviours. I don't want to speculate on his attachment style, I can only work off of what he says and does. The honeymoon phase was fast and intense, and it ended …

Hey I've been facing some issues in my relationship. Need advice on how to fix everything. My partner very recently expressed her concern for my health and that i should really avoid drinking at all.…

I am anxious attacher earned secure, after 2 years of therapy. Now I am in a relationship with DA or FA, possibly the second option, hurting as hell, considering leaving them. Everything was ok, for t…

Detachment is not a belief. You are either detached or you aren't and detachment can only come about once you see how all things are inherently meaningless. I can believe to be detached all I want a…

I will be downvoted, you will dislike my answer, whatever... You have no choice but to emotionally detach somewhat from the kids for the sake of your own sanity/survival. Otherwise you will literal…

Close to two months in..I thought I would be fine by now but it still hurts and I am just using this energy in other places that I am passionate about..I don't want this pain to drain me and suck me a…

*Your reaction to me using your phone was beyond unacceptable. You became physically violent with me and that is not something I wil lever tolerate in a relationship.* *Regardless of WHY you didn't …

I can relate to you so much. I wanted to meet him for a closure so bad, because I thought only he could give that and living like this with so much uncertainty was killing me slowly. And I did meet …

thank you for taking the time to respond! I agree with a lot of your points, and I definitely don't want to come across like an asian pick me. I'm not trying to single out and demonize asians. I'm ju…

> I value our friendship more than that, despite the fact that I do have feelings. I want to mention it because I don't want this to be taken in the context that he's a creep (which, okay, he is perve…

Yeah do not send if you're hoping to get back together. You need to be grounded, warm but more importantly grounded. When ppl break up they don't care how you think or see things. It's just psychology…

If she is just talking about things they've done or general stuff, the kinds of things friends share with each other, then you shouldn't have any negative reaction to it. Be a friend and chat about th…

Thanks for the info. I don't want this to be taken as trying to discredit any victims.

In my husband's case... The money went to gambling and drugs. I'm 36, been together for 15y and I found out a month ago that he has a whole financial double life and has had it for YEARS. I can kind o…

Financial abuse is definitely one of those things that can end a marriage for good. Everyone wants to "fix" their marriage, but you can't. You have to rebuild it from the ground up and it starts wit…

Your writing is very comforting. Thank you so much. I don't want this for my own gratification. I'd fully respect if the child didn't want anything to do with me. I'm also thinking about way down th…