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Be Doers Of The Word and Not Hearers Only — # (I'm long-winded by nature so LONG post ahead!) Hello beautiful people, I felt called to write this post because my life seems to have done a 180º flip overnight. For context I've been applying N…

Type 1 Diabetes — Hi everyone, I have recently been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and have had to start taking insulin injections. I don’t want to live like this forever though, completely dependent on something so m…

My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…

How do I know if I simply don’t like someone enough to be with them or if I’m simply running away from what is safe? — I am dating someone for a week and I feel like I don’t like them enough and I would like something more exciting. They also feel like coming in too hard with double and triple texting. I know howeve…

How Can I Manifest Someone I Don’t Even Know? — Hey everyone, I need some advice. I recently saw a really handsome guy at my university fest, but he was an outsider. We didn’t talk, didn’t exchange contacts, and I have no idea where he came from o…

Why do so many websites of major companies suck? — I just went on [sephora.fr](http://sephora.fr) for the first time in years (I don't really shop there anymore, or I go in person). The website not only looks like it was designed 15 years ago and has …

How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…

Validate an idea for me - a web page recording chrome extension — Couple of years ago there was this extension called Nimbus, people used it take video captures of websites. Since it was hard to capture a smooth scrolling view of a website by just scrolling down and…

[EU] Can't get suppliers as a new small business — Every decent supplier I've contacted basically says "we don't care about your small shit business", only ones willing to sell are some small companies that sell random junk and surplus nobody wants to…

New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…

Are Trump’s new tariffs going to crush traditional ecommerce? — With all this tariff talk lately, I’m really wondering if traditional eCommerce is about to take a major hit. Importing from China was already tight on margins, and now it feels impossible. Has anyone…

Does cold email still works in 2025 ? — Hi there, I'm a beginner to freelancing, and I make landing page designs, currently I haven't landed any clients yet, I've tried cold DM for a while but got no results, that's why I thought to start m…

Excessive Rumination — Dear all, I've recently found myself reminiscing on a brief encounter I had with someone two years ago, in which we both massively triggered one another's attachment wounds (me being anxious, & her …

Question regarding the mind, marriage, and what's possible — Hi everyone, I'd really appreciate some help grappling with a few concepts after reading Dr. Murphy's books. I've read POTSM and excerpts from a few other books. How do we build the belief and knowi…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

learning to trust with new potential partners — What do you think are some healthy ways to slowly trust someone again in a romantic context so if things go wrong it doesn't feel like moving on is like an impossible task emotionally? I don’t mean t…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

Anxious Attachment Help — I'm a 44 M and feel like an emotionally secure relationship is impossible. What's helped you heal? I feel like everything in my life has been taken from me and have a difficult time finding motivation…

What qualities to look for in a therapist — Previously, I had been working with a somatic therapist for 6 years (on trauma healing, not specifically attachment related) and a few months ago they closed their practice for personal reasons on *ve…

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

How honest are securely attached people? — I'm curious how honest secure people are with others in their life. I'm healing from dismissive avoidant attachment and my instinct whenever something bothers or upsets me is to dismiss it as not a bi…

Aliens during 1 month patterning — So I've been doing the tapes for about 3-4 weeks now and practicing f12 a lot and I have practiced the 1 month patterning a few times and it usually always goes perfectly fine but tonight for the firs…

My (28f) boyfriend (37m) drinks to excess nearly every weekend, am I selfish for wanting it to stop? — Throwaway account. Please tell me if I am crazy for feeling this way. My boyfriend (37m) and I (28f) have what I consider to be a generally good relationship. We’ve had some issues in the past that we…

I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…

The entire universe is frequency and our communications depend on the resonance of our quantum fields — As many of you in this community know, the "UFO/NHI" phenomenon and spiritual awakening often converge at a single point: Resonance. For years, I’ve been obsessed with a question: Is there a specific …

In need of some manifestation help — I have a big thing I want to manifest but it feels impossible to me because it feels like things are just getting worse and worse, and I need some guidance. Can an experienced manifestor DM me?

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My experience with NHI's, contact and navigating society. — # Hello! Where do i begin? Firstly, i want to give thanks to this space cultivated by Oak and the other Moderators, without this space, people such as us/me do not really have anywhere to go with a…

Sister (29F) has not invited me (32F) to be a part of her wedding. Does she not want me to come? — My little sister is getting married this year. Backstory: we grew up with abusive parents. I spent my childhood shielding her from abuse. When I got older and moved out I made sure to take good care …

My mom was supposed to pick me up after surgery. Instead my son took the bus. — I’m in my 50s and still unpacking things about my mom. Growing up, she was always extremely emotionally absent. There was almost no affection, no comforting, and very little interest in my inner life…

Please tell them the truth before it destroys them. — If you’re cheating on your partner, please stop. And if you already did, have the courage to tell them the truth. Infidelity doesn’t just “hurt someone’s feelings.” It can destroy a person from the i…

What We Really Need To Heal — Not sure if anyone else feels this way: but I'm kinda over all the "healing" stuff. Because it doesn't work. And I think there's too much pressure on survivors to "heal". The only way that we can …

Got back with my ex: DON’T DO IT — So, as the title goes, I got back with my ex for a one-week long situationship. We were together for six years, then she decided to break up with me a month ago. She went on to live her “single-colle…

You can manifest anything, literally — What do you think? Ive never seen so many limited people as much as ive seen them here - on reddit. It's so ridiculous how some of you GENUINELY believe that manifestation is just HOUSE, SP, APPEARAN…

I (32F) trusted my partner (34M) completely until I discovered he lied about a “friend” he talks to daily and that they were texting very appropriate. I’m shaking and feeling lost — I’m a 32F and my partner is 34M. We’ve known each other for many years and have a long history together. We were apart for a while in the past but recently decided to try again because we both felt th…

After 30 years of being a people pleasing, peace-keeping, manipulative, caretaking, dysregulated, codependency "addict," I've finally reached a point where I have enough control to simply STOP. In a very short amount of time, my whole entire life has changed. It's nearly impossible to describe. — The first part of this post is just context, and you can skip it all by scrolling down to **The Proof** I'm not going to go into much detail, but just for context: I experienced some pretty major chi…

She Sent Me An Article... — I need to start laughing about this stuff because otherwise I'm going to totally lose it. I woke up to a text (muted and buried so I had to hunt for it) from my mom. I've been LC (very brief, no infor…

As long as your ex knows you will always take them back, they will never truly want nor respect you — Now how come it is this way? How come you need to walk away, abandon them and put yourself first in order for them realize what they had? And why can’t your ex just put their pride and ego aside, st…

Persist,Persist! — Guys I’m (17f) and I work in a kitchen full of grown women they’re like my aunts,grandmothers,second mom anyways I told them I was going to cardi b concert and I was gonna sneak floor seats (because…

I was the husband who didn't do enough. Sharing my perspective — It wasn’t a single explosion but a slow grind between two people who couldn’t agree on what a "good life" looked like. For a long time, I was admittedly the husband who didn’t pull his weight, a chara…

THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

When the Disciples could not perform Miracles, they were not told to become Detached or to do somatic release work, they were told that they MUST Believe! — I had to share this as I have noticed in recent times a slurry of misinformation being shared on this subreddit. I see endless mentions now of the need to let go, the need to be constantly detached, t…

Are aliens helping us or hurting us? — For the past two or so years Ive been stuck in this very strange alien encounter where entities claiming to be aliens have taken over my mind, specifically my internal voice and imagination, but they …

first shifting story i encountered — When i was a little little kid like 6 or 7 yo(yeah 67 whatever). I vividly remember that between us kid we told ourselves a story. We never repeated it to adults because they wouldn't understand. We …

Having hard time with giving and receiving help — I’ve been together with my partner for over two years and also last year we got married. We love each other but we have a lot of issues. He has more an anxious attachment style, on top of that adhd wi…

How to stop the myths. (Please read) — Abstract- Sorry for the long post, but I hope you read it all! This post is to explain how these myths are spread and how to stop the spread. Dream myths have been known to stop people from lucid dre…

Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…

Asian Male Experience Living in LA? — Hey what’s up fellas. I notice this community often recommends LA for single, young Asian guys looking to date. But I feel like a person’s LA experience depends heavily on which neighborhood they l…

what finally got me to shift - I broke my mind ⋆˚࿔ — I used to be the person who would try to shift every single night and wake up crying from a failed attempt because I was so frustrated with the fact that I wasn’t shifting. I thought that I fully be…

Leaving my relationship for the right reason — Me (m30) and my partner (f39) have been together for 8 years. We have two kids below 4. She has been diagnosed with different mental health issues. She has also had two very rough childbirths. During …

A lot of sources say you have to absolutely stop moving when trying to project, but this seems impossible to me because of my adhd. The same thing with meditation, I can't just focus on my breath or s…

“Lucid dream”is when you wake up in a dream just like when you are awake in real life,you have the ability to think get things done do what you like and look for people or just navigate in it just lik…

It’s also “impossible” to change your eye color using self hypnosis and I did that, at 13, 10 years ago, before I even knew who Dr. Murphy or Neville Goddard was. Both Dr. Murphy and Neville talk ex…

Ever heard of Lourdes ,the famous shrine in France? They have recorded miracle healings which are unexplainable by modern science and should be for all intents and purposes impossible . Every tim…

1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…

1. Daydreaming that makes you feel emotional isn’t what Murphy or Goddard are talking about. It is about feeling the reality of what you want to have happen now, that is the feeling. Emotions might co…

1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…

1. That doesnt disprove anything. It just means it may be more difficult. That's like saying mindfulness doesn't work because some people have ADHD.  2. Decent point but keep in mind some scientist …

I say just get used to it. This is a breakup subreddit and in the early stages of grief it’s pretty much impossible to not ask those questions. I do believe no contact is a boundary that cannot be era…

After all is said and done. My one true key belief is that YOUR BELIEFS SHAPE YOUR REALITY. Good or bad. Right or wrong. How you feel about everything in your life is what receive from it. It’s th…

>If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, L…

Ex back missions are very tough missions due to high preexisting attachment and subconscious unbelief. Add to that someone green doing the lob for the very first time - and the chances of success are …

I am securely attached, and I usually don't communicate a lot after i have met up with someone. This "withdrawal" has nothing to do with my dating partner. I myself enjoy a lot of alone time, so usual…

I manifested working remotely after i started a new job in the office. Well let me explain. Since i came to the us i been a housekeeping.. first in hotels then housekeeping in a hospital. I started im…

>Not saying you’re entirely wrong but that wasn’t the point of the ladder experiment. The point of the ladder experiment was to teach about awareness. > Ah. Conscious awareness. Complete rubbish and…

I am in the same boat. Had my FA (maybe DA? I never knew about attachment theory until her. She was extremely committed and IN. LOVE. for 2 years and was much more anxious and attached. Then she was j…

There are exceptions for every situation. So you take a hard thing like relationships, and then you make it harder with distance and all the drawbacks. It’s just going to be harder. Nobody says it’s i…

I feel this! The stakes are higher when I truly love/like someone (idk about you OP but for me this even extends to platonic friendships/ coworker relationships) and so my fear of messing up and pushi…

A local container emulating Fastly would go a _long_ way for my workflow. Since Fastly is based on an ancient version of Varnish (2.x), there is no `varnishtest`, making TDD to avoid regressions and …

As an outsider it’s really not clear who or what is going wrong here… have priorities been made clear? have deadlines been agreed upon and then violated without explanation? are they a mature member o…

I am a solo founder. Yes it is great for all those reasons. I, however, do understand the other side especially VCs. The goal of VCs is to invest in a company that just doesn't depend on 1 person. Usu…

But it’s impossible to love someone and never have conflict with them! No conflict means no care. Do FAs logically know this but have trouble engaging in healthy conflict ? Because people will never f…

That might as well be, I have no idea and probably don’t even wanna know if he been seeing other people 😂 he was free to do that cause being exclusive was anyways never brought up. But regardless of…

Kudos to you for gaining self awareness and thinking about how your behaviors can affect the ppl around you!! This is a major accomplishment and a big step towards becoming secure!! I’m wondering if y…

Life time relationships are extremely hard with secure people. They are next to impossible with emotionally volatile people. And the impact on kids is horrendous 

IMO it's impossible to identify avoidants early on without them directly telling you if they are avoidant or you test them by implying or expressing emotional intimacy and it scares them away. Avoidan…

[We just had a discussion about this in the AvoidantAttachment subreddit.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AvoidantAttachment/comments/1kp4duk/the_hottest_hot_take/) What you're describing is very indicativ…

The above post was initially removed by the mod team, as it is of the usual crap that populates the ngsub even till today, but has been reinstated to make a simple point that was touched on here : […

Alright unfortunately it’s impossible for me to determine whether she is actually losing interest or if she is having trouble regulating her own emotions, but what you need to do in both cases is let …

Yeah, it's learning to be honest and open up to the therapist and developing a safe, nurturing relationship with them (often the first one we've had) that does the trick. You gotta do that somehow to …

Free will is a fundational lense through which we experiment the world. We have the impression of free will. We hold ourself and other responsible for their actions. It seems impossible to think the w…

> Better yet, many are up front and say they don’t want anything serious/don’t want a relationship. This isn't even an AT comment specifically, but imo ignoring people when they say this is just a re…

also, if your encounter was as brief as you say, I would urge you to challenge the belief that you got close to actual genuine love with her... obviously, I was not there so I can't say for sure, but …

I also get very anxious. I try to act secure but my brain is going insane. Always overanalyzing, preoccupied, I genuinely cannot tell when I am overreacting and when I am right, so I always override m…

It's so disappointing when I know deep in my heart that if we were both secure, we probably would have had an amazing relationship. We were compatible in terms of our personalities, lifestyle, physica…

So let's say I want to be able to become friends with famous people, like actual friends that hang out, talk often & do things together, but I'm not & never have been in the entertainment industry or …

Hey, sounds frustrating, but also reads like a rigid checklist that needs to stay constant, like an impossible task because we're human, so we're flawed, ever-changing and emotional creatures. Don't k…

Did you notice that each time they came back the deactivation happened quicker each time? My experience From 1st kiss to deactivation around 2 months Went NC for 2 weeks She came back and we b…

My two cents! 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in the alpha state. If you’re really in alpha, you will struggle to even…

Hey, thanks for the reply. I'll do my best to answer as precisely as possible > 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in th…

I’m no expert on the matter, I’m learning about avoidants after being married to one for 19 years! I was always made to believe I was the issue in our marriage (I have ADHD) but husband is a huge cont…

Hi everyone, I’m in my early 20s, and recently I went through my longest relationship so far — almost 2 years — with someone who is also my age, and has BPD. I have AuDHD on top of everything. Our rel…

The replies that you've received in this thread is enough. The masters also made other conflicting remarks for various other reasons that are never stated but which can be understood after some think…

You can't make her do anything, you can ask for what you want/need but if she's not willing to give it to you then you have to either accept that or walk away, but those are your two only options righ…

That sounds very triggering! It sounds like you wanted more out of this than it’s turning out to be, and maybe this fellow is trying to make a polite exit. It’s impossible to know why. Maybe he’s avoi…

Oh yeah. "Hearing" your automatic thoughts is close to impossible in the moment, that's why you have to take a step back and calm yourself when you're feeling something big. Sometimes you'll feel som…

>Does it feel emotionally safe/secure because there is a natural distance and no real chance it can become anything romantic? There is very little risk. It’s way easy to live in the fantasy of who you…

28M and I’ve dated a decent number of women over the last 10 years. I’ve noticed a pattern that always seems to repeat itself. When I meet someone I’m attracted to but not *that* into at first, I sta…

Hey all—seeking some empathy & advice. My partner is, I believe, avoidant and very quiet/an internal person/processor. This naturally leads to some anxiety in me when they’re not super present. Wh…

So, I heard a saying once when I was going through a really bad OCD flair, I think this will help. ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’. Anxiety comes at us in waves. We have to feel the wave wash over us…