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Wait a minute?! Isn't there a male loneliness problem because woman don't put up with azzholes anymore? They have their own money, they don't need a man, so men are supposed to change? Women don't put…

She started hooking up with multiple guys right after our break-up... — My ex (F25) and I (M29) were together for almost 4 years. She broke up with me on the first of March. I respected her decision and we said goodbye with respect and love. The past few months were defin…

All is now. Be Here Now. — One of the biggest misunderstandings about manifestation is the idea that you are trying to create something in the future. Neville’s teachings point to something deeper. Creation is finished. Every…

I Stayed For WAY Too Long — I just found this sub (after watching the Ben Affleck movie *Deep Water*, which was super triggering), so I thought I'd tell you my story. Maybe someone here can relate. My ex-wife struggled with a …

My(32M) Ex wife(32F) might be stalking my wife(27F). Is it enough to be concerned? — A little bit of history between us. I was married to my ex wife let’s call her Jenn for 3 years and together for 5 (high school sweethearts). We both went to college at separate schools, but made our …

Day 2 of NC after I reported him — So I reported my partner to the police on Monday after a tirade of harassment and abuse. I have endured abuse and intimidation for 6 months straight, and I couldn’t take it anymore. Every time I tri…

Avoiding Your Real Work Is Costing You More Than You Think — # Avoiding Your Real Work: The Hidden Cost of Staying Busy Without Progress ***“I’ve been noticing this pattern in myself lately and wanted to share it here because I’m curious if others deal with th…

Anyone else ever become obsessed with getting into your body? — When my therapist told me that i have to work on getting back into my body, it didnt really make sense to me. We did work on things like body scans and deep breathing, but it didnt really amount to m…

I wrote a goodbye letter today. I am not there yet, but I fear I am getting closer everyday. — I would like to start this off by saying that I am sorry for my actions. They were somewhat selfish in the sense that I am not the one that has to live with the pain and suffering that my actions have…

Just found out my wife attempted suicide — I (33F) separated from my wife (42F) at the start of this year after 13 years together. We share a house and pets together and I spend one night a week at our place so I can look after the dog and get…

I’m ready to settle down, but I don’t want to settle. — I think my standards are too high, but I don’t bulge because I don’t want to end up unhappy. Most of the men that are interested in me are either bad picks or I’m not attracted to. Has anyone else fel…

I'm 10000% with you here. If you see heavy avoidant tendencies pull the pin. It will never work out and you already know this. Finding the right person is just hard... keep looking and don't settle.

I think it depends on your philosophy on life! Most people will avoid risk and settle. But I don't think that is for me. I don't want to settle. I want to push myself to get the most from life and fac…

Funny seeing people post with their SO on Valentine’s Day when you know about their relationship problems. I’m convinced that SO MANY PEOPLE settle.

34F also in nyc! I don’t think you’re avoidant based on what you wrote it sounds like you just are aware there are more options and you know you don’t have to (and should not) settle.  I’m queen avoi…

Totally. Let that shit settle. Can’t heal when the person is right there. It’s like being stuck in the same living quarters after a breakup. Yuck.

Hey, one of the things I told myself when I started dating again is that I would no longer accept feeling insecure with someone. If, for whatever reason, I began to doubt someone's feelings for me, I …

As a guy who is 35, I can tell you for certain, no woman could make me settle. I have reached a point in my life where am I perfectly ready to stay single, and would never be with someone who doesn’…

That’s what I was saying - long term, it’s against our nature to settle. But short term and can be nice and stabilizing for a while…

I can’t speak for your boyfriend because I know next to nothing about him. I can tell you that when I hit 35 I refused to settle. Period. I was at the age where I knew I wanted to get married and ha…

I'd rather die alone than settle.

All of everything being said, remember you also don't have to settle. If you're not getting the validation or the emotional connection that you're looking for, you can look elsewhere. You sound like y…

No, I'd rather be alone than settle.

Dont settle. You said lots of people test positive. Let him find a partner with herpes. You dont want that disease.

Tbh it sounds like you're just not that into her. Don't settle. Just break it off and do both her and yourself a favor.

Bullet dodged. Don't listen to the people saying "no one will take you to dinner". All my first dates have been restaurant dates, either lunch or dinner at my preference. Ive had guys hunt me down on …

Yeah, just don’t. You broke up for a reason, and there will always be something in the back of your minds on whether it will happen again. I broke up with and then got back together with my ex-h, and …

1. It’s been over 7 years since I left my narc abuser and I’m still finding myself. I go to therapy every two weeks, speak out my feelings with a couple chosen safe people who never truly left me. I’v…

Some people are so afraid of being alone they'll settle. Couldn't be me.

Exactly my point. The thing is,by the time your mind starts to settle a bit, you're getting up lol. That's the point of long meditation sessions. Even though it may seem boring at first,you start to g…

A lot of people go through this after a breakup, so you’re definitely not alone. Part of the brain is still trying to “solve” the relationship and make sense of what happened, which is why it keeps lo…

The right thing would’ve been to have a conversation and discuss. Hear both sides. Him giving you silent treatment and storming off is extremely immature. Anyone who can’t have hard conversations shou…

i relate to this a lot. i have an avoidant attachment style too and something i’ve noticed in myself is that repair in a conversation and repair in my nervous system don’t happen on the same timeline.…

I hope you find what you’re looking for! I have to remind myself that I love my life without necessarily having a partner, and I’m unwilling to settle. And the right person for me is going to be able …

The sleep thing is really common in the early stage. My sleep was terrible for a while too. The nervous system takes time to settle. Sending strength.

The replaying in the mind part is very real. I remember going through that too in the beginning, the brain trying to analyse everything. The first days after a breakup can feel overwhelming, but the …

How have you managed to stay in this relationship for an entire year, let alone think of moving in together. Please do not settle. You mention alignment, but someone that is not supportive when you're…

Maybe treat him the same for a day... Hon, ya have an ok body, but it's not as muscular as the guys i fantasize about, but i can settle. . Babe, I always wanted a guy eith a huge cock, but your peeny…

The 4th house is one of the biggest ones, especially the 4th house ruler or planets in the 4th under pressure from Mars, Saturn, Pluto, or Uranus. That can show conflict in the home, or instability ar…

This, absolutely. OP, take those words to heart. Don’t give up, but definitely you are not connecting with the right guys (for you). There is better out there, just have to align and not settle.

The operating system analogy is exactly right. I spent a long time thinking I was "too much" because I wanted to work things through. Turns out it was just a mismatch. Someone whose system is built fo…

Be patient, be picky, don't settle.

Good advice. He has open-minded as you possibly can, within your own boundaries. I think many people as they get older become their own worst enemy in terms of casting good and potentially great peopl…

Give it some more time to settle. Two weeks isn’t very long in the grand scheme of things. Definitely not long enough to demonstrate that you’ve made any progress or positive changes that she can trus…

Edibles can get too intense quickly. I once blacked out while staring in a mirror, suddenly my consciousness became outer space with a galaxy in it. I was luckily still standing when I returned to my …

I sometimes wonder this too. Every now and then I think this on this sub, tbh. Just little things that I don't think are actually that telling that other people are worrying about. I also have come …

YOU thought this was an issue where you were just busy and it was something you needed to work through. Did she share the same pov? Never assume anything. Healthy relationships require an annoying amo…

51yo man here with a 9yo and 8yo. Everything you said is totally valid. I’ve matched with hundreds of women on the apps and organically over the last 18 months. Went out on dates with about 30 of t…

Two months in I was exactly where you are. Not sleeping, replaying everything, missing a version of someone that didn’t seem to exist anymore. The part that messed with me most wasn’t even that they …

You don't pick a single technique. You approach it as trial and error experimentation because other people can't choose an optimal meditation practice for you. You systematically go down the list of …

Sounds like you're trying to gaslight yourself into being a different/better version of you than you already are which just won't work. It sounds like you're decent at recognizing your thought pattern…

Basically it’s better to be alone than settle. A lot of us feel that way now.

I don’t care anymore if people think my expectations are too high or I am too picky. I am 47 years old and beat cancer. Damn right I am fucking picky and I will never settle. Ever.

Divorce sucks. Nobody get's out with everything they wanted, sometimes you just have to settle.

2028 🥺 The only cost I am paying is mental health cost. Obviously I am spending on lawyer fees and other cost - but the biggest of all is mental health. At time it feels like how a marriage that l…

Unless you’re looking to remarry, and need an urgent divorce. I would suggest you gaslight them into thinking, you won’t give up until it’s proved false. Tire them out. Let them settle. They won’t bud…

Yes yes. Have been doing that only from last 3 years now. And I am not in a mood to settle as per their demand. And also it something comes in budget then I will settle. Opp lawyers are her family m…

You need to both clean the organs and work the microcosmic orbit and then open the chakras. This takes time and Daily practice. How you view these interactions is highly based on your own unprocesed e…

Same! It's almost like I have to lay on top of them and put pressure on them to get them to settle.

That's actually an interesting and correct way to look at it. The moment someone in a relationship decides it's over, you can't really have control over it anymore. You can fight and you can wait but …

I feel that my dating strategy is similar enough to the burned haystack. I looked towards compatibility, and was quite OK with writing someone off as soon as we hit "unlikely to work out long term" i…