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Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them?

>am I dealing with a DA/FA or this man is just making a fool out me? Por qué no los dos? He is textbook FA and he is absolutely bsing you. You are well off not participating in those hot and cold ga…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/7/2025
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2

How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …

r/DevOpspost6/30/2023
Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition?

Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…

r/AvoidantAttachmentpost3/2/2026
Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

r/AsianMasculinitypost3/8/2026
Help/advise needed please: “Spiritual awakening” or/and brain inflammation, thus spiritual psychosis, etc.

Help/advise needed please: “Spiritual awakening” or/and brain inflammation, thus spiritual psychosis, etc. — This is extremely important to me, and I think to humanity as well, so I appreciate you taking the time to read and potentially respond. This is my personal ongoing testimony; I fear no psychological …

r/energy_workpost3/23/2026
Art and study of the Gateway tapes and general connection to the Universe (with my own experimentation)

Art and study of the Gateway tapes and general connection to the Universe (with my own experimentation) — \- I WILL BE UPDATING THIS POST EVERYDAY. LINKS WILL BE AT THE BOTTOM OF POST WITH LOG NUMBERS AND DATES - 🌠 Log. 00 \[Tuesday, March 24th, 2026\] So far, I’ve been repeating the same first 3 tape…

r/gatewaytapespost3/24/2026
Weekly Synchronization :)

Weekly Synchronization :) — so, last week's worldwide, synchronization was such an overwhelming success and blessing to the people who organized and participated that they've decided to make it a weekly event. They've added a se…

r/gatewaytapespost3/27/2026
Exhausted and confused

Exhausted and confused — So my wife of 10 years has been very distant lately, starting in about October or November she suddenly started caring about her appearance a lot more, found a new interest in sports, stopped reading/…

r/Divorcepost3/31/2026
I’m re-explaining my situation after everyone on this subreddit said I was the shittiest person alive

I’m re-explaining my situation after everyone on this subreddit said I was the shittiest person alive — Hi everyone I know this is super long but please read all of it. So yesterday I posted this: “I need honest opinions because I’m really conflicted and don’t know if I crossed a line or if this break…

r/BreakUpspost4/6/2026
My dad just texted me to "get over it" after 8+ months of silence

My dad just texted me to "get over it" after 8+ months of silence — I've been low/no contact with my mom since last August after she sent me a guilt-tripping meltdown over something trivial (I didn't text her back fast enough about a card renewal while I was on vacati…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/7/2026
How do you deal with being the only one who was hurt and knows the truth ? How do you deal with the flock of flying monkeys ?

How do you deal with being the only one who was hurt and knows the truth ? How do you deal with the flock of flying monkeys ? — I'd like to share a story. Unfortunately, I'm still dealing with the narcissistic person and the flying monkeys. I feel like I'm trapped in a spider web and that the pain is going to stick with me for…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost4/8/2026
Atheist here. Saved from abuse by good people in the the Church.

Atheist here. Saved from abuse by good people in the the Church. — This is NOT a story of religious conversion. I'm somehow 'hardwired' to be an atheist and that won't change, but my life experience has left me with deep respect for religious folk who "walk the walk"…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/10/2026
2 Months after I broke up with my abusive Ex.

2 Months after I broke up with my abusive Ex. — I'll give a bit of context before I get into how my recovery has gone so far. I (19M) met my now ex (21F) at university through a club that I am an exec in and that she was at the time a member of. w…

r/BreakUpspost4/12/2026
Does anyone else feel like the investment isn't worth the potential reward anymore?

Does anyone else feel like the investment isn't worth the potential reward anymore? — Because I'm really starting to. I know dating at ANY age is a weed out process. You're going to be into some people that aren't into you. Some people are going to be into you that YOU'RE not into. Yo…

r/datingoverfortypost4/12/2026
Any Golden Children that “woke up” later in life? How did you survive the transition period to your individuated, authentic self?

Any Golden Children that “woke up” later in life? How did you survive the transition period to your individuated, authentic self? — I grew up not knowing anything was off about my family. I was a shy, obedient kid that struggled to stand up for myself, but I thought that was just who I was. I felt that any negative emotions or any…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/12/2026
Parents basically destroyed my life or at least I feel like that

Parents basically destroyed my life or at least I feel like that — What I like to call as the collapse started about a year ago when I was 20 years old, I used to study mathematics at one of the best universities of my country (not really relevant but with near perfe…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/13/2026
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them?

You participated in the dynamic when he said he didn’t want a relationship but wanted to waste your time still seeing you, and you agreed to this. Why? Do you not think you deserve better? If you resp…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/7/2025
I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies.

I wanna apologize to you and all avodants. I've been hurt in the past and actively participated in demonizing Avodants. It’s easier to view avodants as monster than hurt people trying their best. It’s…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/30/2025
my(F28) bf(M30) thinks themed bridal shower of my friend is stupid and my costume is stupid.

My husband is not into dress up at all but if I were to dress up as a princess for something I would 100% be the prettiest princess to him because he loves me. And I know because I have dressed up and…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/7/2026
Eat, Pray, Love for white men

oh so you participated in the military machine that the US uses to brutalize and oppress the world? good to know

r/AsianAmericancomment3/7/2026
I desperately need to be held.

There actually are "cuddle groups" where I live, that are organized professionally. I have a depressive friend who was chronically touch starved after his wife left him, and I convinced him to try som…

r/CPTSDcomment3/8/2026
My husband (29M) and I (29F) have a dead bedroom because he says I dont initiate

Totally agree, because if you have one dynamic going for 9 YEARS and then, instead of talking about how your own wants have changed, you do a “test” by keeping the other person in the dark about what …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/10/2026
Ugh, I contacted the AP

To say that the other person is not at fault is a very dangerous statement. Even if they have no connection to the OP, they still participated in something that caused harm to the person and their fam…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/11/2026
Opened up to my wife about how I feel about our relationship and she just said "That's your problem" - am I crazy?

I experienced exactly this, and she told me the exact same thing. When I reached my breaking point, I finally forced us into marriage counseling after years of her resisting it. She participated, but …

r/Divorcecomment3/12/2026
why am i angry all the time and how do i stop that?

No problem! It might help if you observe the charts of others as well, both to study astrology and to see insights for your own chart too. My partner is a scorpio rising and his peak state is when he …

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/15/2026
Potentially unpopular opinion re: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

They grew up completely indoctrinated that mental health help was only for insane people who need to be locked up. My dad didn't understand until he was almost 80, that he had what is now known as PT…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/17/2026
Need some hinge/dating app advice

I genuinely don’t know why this was recommended to me. I’ve never been on this page or researched/participated in this topic I’m from the Caribbean😭 BUT please for the love of God don’t listen to an…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/18/2026
My (29M) prenup with my fiance (28W) pays her for having children. My parents (65M, 62W) are telling me to call off the wedding

My children are young, but I would be SO proud if i learned they had this sort of prenup in the works, especially considering how dirty their father did me during our 20-year marriage. I worked and …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/18/2026
I’m so lonely after my divorce

My divorce is almost finalized. Last 5 years were terrible. My wife participated in nothing, anyhow I think you just ran into the wrong guys. You should continue to try. I am now looking for the same …

r/Divorcecomment3/19/2026
Anyone find out later in life the “good” parent was as bad as the “bad” parent?

My Dad found me behind the dryer after my mother smothered me with a chenille bedspread when I was an infant. She had left me for dead. I was always focused on the event of him coming home and rescuin…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/20/2026
Global synchronization 3/21

Reporting back! Thank you to everyone who participated.

r/gatewaytapescomment3/21/2026
My psychotherapist gave me an AI-generated workbook, and I’m unsure how to proceed.

I totally understand why that would be jarring as a client. To give a little benefit of the doubt, I am a therapist and I participated in a training a couple of weeks ago. During the training, the in…

r/therapycomment3/22/2026
I got a job after 4 months — even without feeling 100% confident

I participated in several interviews, but deep down I always thought I hadn't passed, and well, that's what happened. I think sats helped me because it's a method I've always liked and hadn't practice…

r/nevillegoddardcomment3/23/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 27, 2026

I am currently 37 years old. At some point in my 20s I gave up on dating. A combination of rejections, romantic failures on my part, and side effects of my antidepressants resulted in my romantic dri…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/27/2026
What indicator in a birth chart points to someone that has a tendency for a path of "online presence"

I hadn’t considered the connection between Aquarius and online community building or participation, but it makes sense. My Aries 11H is empty except by SN, but my MC is in 9H Aquarius and I have a 3H …

r/astrologycomment3/30/2026
20 years of a "loving" marriage, then a 6-month double life. Seeking to understand this mindset from folks who have 'lived experience'

Answering the questions from the side of the betrayed spouse (husband caught first time in 2016, with EA/PA of 2 years; Caught in 2025 with another co-worker - this time I left the house, and the marr…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/30/2026
My brother (28M) is getting married to his gf (18F) and I am TA for disapproving...

It might have created the Romeo/Juliet type of situation, sure it could have. But that's better than feeding/clothing/sheltering a man who is doing harm to someone. Maybe if she'd kicked him out …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he?

OK since other people are sharing their bons mots and comebacks to such a situation. Similar situation happened to me way back in 1990. (I'm old) During the time dude was radio silent, Christma…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Does anyone think that their parents view your primary purpose as to be successful so they could brag about you?

Yes, totally. I once participated in a research competition of a very prestigious institution with my now husband. We sumitted a very crappy research paper and we knew there was no chance we would win…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/31/2026
It gets to a point where the enablers are worse than the narcissists.

Is your enabler maybe actually a covert narcissist? Since you write they participated in the gaslighting. Overt and convert often make couples..

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/1/2026
How to get over the reality that she'll never fall for you in the same way again?

it all felt so mutual until it wasn't. if I knew the game of love could be like this, i would have never participated

r/ExNoContactcomment4/1/2026
She got drunk and didn’t remember it

I think there is only one way this should be handled- Op needs to be supportive of his girlfriend and insists she seek therapy. If she was drunk, this is SA. Her going to a therapist will help clea…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/2/2026
She got drunk and didn’t remember it

I think there is only one way this should be handled- Op needs to be supportive of his girlfriend and insists she seek therapy. If she was drunk, this is SA. Her going to a therapist will help clear …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/2/2026
She got drunk and didn’t remember it

I think there is only one way this should be handled- Op needs to be supportive of his girlfriend and insists she seek therapy. If she was drunk, THIS IS SA. Her going to a therapist will help clear …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/2/2026
She got drunk and didn’t remember it

CHOOSING NOT TO FILE CHARGES DIRECTLY AFTER AN ASSAULT IS NOT INDICATION OF GUILT OR LYING! I was a victim of rape. Clear as day. No alcohol involved. No flirting no nothing. Just flat out attacked. …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/2/2026
BF (25M) ignored my (24F) safe word and I don’t know how to feel.

While I understand that some people truly enjoy rough play and have no intention to shame someone who enjoys it, I think it's extremely important to not normalize such behavior and for women to discus…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
BF (25M) ignored my (24F) safe word and I don’t know how to feel.

Exactly this. A healthy & safe BDSM dynamic would also inform the decision to even engage in the dynamic when drunk. In fact, the dungeons I’ve been to don’t allow alcohol or anyone who seems under th…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
Gray divorce, what do I do now?

Join a local Facebook meet and greet. There are lots of men and women in your area, in the same situation. Another suggestion is to reclaim a hobby or activity that you participated in before you met …

r/Divorcecomment4/2/2026
Found out my friends are covering for a cheater

My ex (cheater) works in a high school (vice principal) and her AP was the principal (married and older). They had another female teacher who covered for them. That teacher was also married and has tw…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/2/2026
Read this if you're miserable and want your ex back.

Seriously this is one of the best posts on Reddit I’ve participated in. I love what you wrote and the commentary from everyone is really upbeat despite the struggles. Sucks that we can’t do events or …

r/BreakUpscomment4/3/2026
What were seemingly "normal" things you experienced growing up, that you now realize is narc abuse?

My nparents would always blame me in arguments with my siblings regardless of who started the fight. They encouraged and participated in openly making fun of me over everything and say it was their ‘l…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/3/2026
Anyone else taught that if you don’t get it right away, you’ll never learn it?

No, thankfully since it would have been comically false. My mother couldn’t care less what I did and never participated in my life. She was there, but as an uninterested sideshow. It must have hurt to…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/5/2026
POC solidarity as an Asian

>What do we do? If you believe you are interacting with people who will act in good faith, you push for better education and offer better education. In my mind, the biggest issues with non-Asian PO…

r/AsianAmericancomment4/5/2026
Im so done

I feel this so deeply. This describes every year of my life until this year. Nobody can honestly understand the level of pain that people like us face in every moment we live through. Last year, I pa…

r/CPTSDcomment4/8/2026
Am I chopped?

Diet is much much much more important than cardio or having a physically active hobby. You can have that kind of hobby and burn more weight but if you eat more calories than you burn and can't contr…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/8/2026
Google engineer rejected by colleges uses AI to sue UCs and others for racial discrimination

I got curious and looked into the case. And I’m not admissions expert, but he was NOT a well rounded candidate at all. A lot of his young accomplishments (like getting offered a job at Google and his …

r/AsianAmericancomment4/8/2026
Date (M39) left me (F36) with a knee injury and no apology

Hard tellin’, but a year ago I would have been thrilled to go on a date with a bjj woman… In the future, keep bjj in the gym. Sorry this happened, but engaging others outside of the practice, (even …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
How do I (29F) tell my partner (29M) I don't want to go to the movies with him anymore?

Well it sounds like your husband’s movie hobby is something you’ve known about for a long time. And while you don’t say it, my hunch is you supported and most likely participated in it at the start of…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
Did anyone else grow up in the 70's with these ritualistic, delayed punishment "ceremonies" from their narcissistic parent?

Good. I think I’m just amazed at the amount of people that observed or participated in harming you in this way. I’m sorry they never had to answer to you for it.

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/9/2026
To you, yes you, the one reading this

I do all this and more and thought it would help me move on from the heartbreak. but here I am crying over him every time I am alone. I’ve thrown myself into work, got new hobbies, started a business …

r/BreakUpscomment4/9/2026
I feel like I, F19 might've messed up my first ever date by giving the guy, M23 a BJ?

If I've ever gotten intimate with someone on the first date it was because I was into them too. What kind of backwards thinking do you have going on up there, where you're judging the girl for some…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
Am I, 43F, being ridiculous or is he, 45M?

I wouldn’t have participated in the exchange as soon as that bullshit started. Unless he’s in some way “challenged” he knew what you meant and decided to peck at you for sport. It’s like that guy wh…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
Dark Entities Feeding On Us

Not the user you asked, but the main thing for me was that according to experts in indigenous Mexican shamanic practices and beliefs, there is no system in Mexico (or anywhere else) that resembles wha…

r/AstralProjectioncomment4/11/2026
Does anyone else feel like the investment isn't worth the potential reward anymore?

Original copy of post by u/Far-Spread-6108: Because I'm really starting to. I know dating at ANY age is a weed out process. You're going to be into some people that aren't into you. Some people are…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/12/2026