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I've been reading people's experiences with partners who have borderline personality disorder, and I keep wondering... Is it possible for someone to not have a meltdown for a whole year before it happ…

Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…

How do you deal with the spam? — I recently (4 weeks ago) started a shopify store in a niche market with my handmade products. Doing organic advertisement with product videos on tiktok, facebook, instagram and youtube. Generally spea…

Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable — Hi everyone, I apologize in advance for this long post. I’ll just post the TL;DR at the start. TL;DR: Lost my best friend/coworker of 7 years after a conflict. He’s now cold/avoiding me but friendl…

How to be comfortable in new, developing relationships without devaluing them for not being as deep as a past relationship (phantom ex?) — After many months of thinking, I've come to the conclusion that one of the things that made my past relationship so special is the fact that it was the first time I had ever been in touch with someone…

Successes - this really works — I'm very busy but just wanted to let you guys know, KEEP AT IT. I'll keep some of the information vague to prevent judgements (you never know with some people). The purpose of this is encourage more …

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — ​I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…

Heavy energy/projection in living space — I keep experiencing, on a daily basis, unbearable heavy energy (from the little I've learnt, and I have learnt a lot) it feels like a projection of some kind. I have learnt and grown about myself abo…

People Pleasers Make the Worst Partners — I'm a Codepedent in Recovery. My partner is also a Codependent (Severe) and he's refusing healing and is a Chronic People pleaser. Being in a relationship with a people pleaser is exhausting. You sl…

What are the “hacks” that made your life living with depression less difficult? Any and every tip welcome — What are the little tips and tricks you found that made the unbearable, every day tasks that more manageable? What do you think made the biggest difference to your mind set? 💜

How can I build a personal life that doesn’t depend on other people? — Hi Reddit!! I really need an outside perspective on my situation, because I feel like I’m completely lost in where I’m going and what I actually want from my life… Maybe people who have learned to man…

Energy Exchange: How We Give, Take, and Protect Our Vital Force — Energy exchange is, essentially, communication. The energy a person generates is given outward. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from outside. …

THIS 👇🏼 is how they moved on SO fast — Something hit me like a damn truck the other day and I genuinely haven’t been able to stop thinking about it, so I’m just going to put it out there in here in the hope that it helps one of you too Yo…

Those of you who were blindsided, discarded, or abandoned- how are you doing now? — I see a lot of people on here saying that they were unhappy for years and what a relief it is to be divorced now. But what about those of us who thought we were in a happy marriage only to be left wit…

dealing with weebs? lol — hi all, i hope everyone is doing well! i (22F) am a japanese-american who just got into a phd program and will be further studying the asian american diaspora. i love my community very very much and l…

How do I deal with a non-virtuous past that led to a good and comfortable present? — Hello everyone, In the past months I have been studying Stoicism (I have read the Discourses, Meditations, and now I’m on my way through the Seneca letters). I, however, wanted to have an opinion on s…

After 30 years, things are finally going good in my social life/friendships. Something feels fishy 🧐 — Ive had the worst social life and worst friends ever since i was born. I have faced betrayals and lots of unbearable things from my social life. At some point I gave up and I have always spent my year…

I don’t think I’m okay anymore — I don’t really know how to write this, but I feel like I need to say it somewhere. For the last few years, I’ve been trying to connect with people, especially romantically, and nothing has worked. I’…

TRIED MANIFESTING FOR THE LITERAL FIRST TIME WITH ZERO ACTUAL HOPES AND IT KINDA AMAZED ME — Hi, something just happened that honestly amazed me ! I have a big exam coming up in a week, and I haven’t prepared to a decent level yet. I really need good marks, so about 3-4 days ago I started lo…

Broke up with her, need to talk about it — Well, as the title says, she broke up with me two days ago. At first, I didn’t really feel anything, but ever since then it’s been a complete emotional rollercoaster. About a month ago, I was going t…

3 months of no contact and I still can’t let go. What should I do? — I’m Mia (20 y.o) and I have clinical depression. My ex Daniel (19 y.o.) and has the same diagnosis. English is my second language, so sorry if something is hard to read, an also sorry for such a huge…

I cant get back with my ex — Repost from a different sub but i really do need input or just someone to talk to about this* My ex broke up with me a few weeks ago, and this past month has honestly been the hardest period of my li…

Anyone else feel this after ending something good? — I was in a long-term LDR with someone I truly loved. We basically grew up together, and he was genuinely a good person — kind, respectful, never treated me badly. But things didn’t work out in the en…

Husband had an affair… is reconciliation even realistic? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years and have a 1.5 year old together. Recently, I found out he had been having an affair with a co-worker and lying to me for months. He denied it every ti…

I am becoming resentful towards my husband for letting his brother live with us — TL;DR: My husband and I have been married for 4 years and have one young child. I am 28 and he is 32. My husband let his brother who was 18 at the time move in with us as he was trying to get a job a…

It’s Been A Year… So Here’s My Last Post — Well, tonight makes it official. It has been a full year since I was dumped. Whoever said you lose track of time when you’re having fun is a liar. You REALLY lose track of time when you’re miserable a…

I (29F) am planning to walk away from my partner (29M) and I feel guilty for choosing to put myself first.. — We’ve been together for about nine years, married for less than one, we had a lot of issues over the years that I’ve tried over and over again to fix, with trying to talk through it, and even couples …

it still feels like dying. — i didn't want to post here out of fear he'd see it. but what do i really have to lose at this point? he was my first love. my first boyfriend, my first time. the first person who showed me i was wort…

ex still views story a year later — i broke up with my ex boyfriend a year and a half ago. we’ve been no contact, not following each other for five months. we were together for four and a half years before that. the breakup was really…

Spiritual experiences — I would like to share my perspective on a series of intense spiritual experiences I encountered during my Sadhana. ​My practice centered on the Japa of a specific Mantra consisting of a single Beej A…

My dad is abandoning my dying stepmom — My stepmom is dying. She just entered hospice following a recent stage 4 cancer diagnosis, stroke and heart attack. It all happened so quickly. At first, I was pleasantly surprised by how my NPD dad w…

The thought of never hearing from this person again, never seeing them again. — It is unbearable.

I don’t know if I’ll ever get over my ex — I feel a little silly writing about this but I recently broke up with my long distance boyfriend. I broke up with him because at the time I thought it was the right thing to do. I was dealing with men…

Not everyone is able to leave a wayward — Just want to shout out to those who’ve been betrayed and can’t leave. I see so many judgmental comments where people share stories and are trying to reconcile because for one reason or another, they…

How to deal with unbearable rage with no acceptable outlet — I have nothing to say, every bit of life adds so much frustration, anger, hatred to me, and I have to pretend like Im fine and positive everyday. I try to control it but it feels shit, any advice woul…

What do you think about ethnic churches and temples of Asian Americans? — I think there are great places to gather with people with the same ethnic background and to practice your native language. However, the gossip, the conservative values, the hierarchy and the proselyti…

My body was rejecting him from day 1 and I still chose to ignore the signs — I'm hoping someone who is in a similar relationship reads this and realizes they need to leave immediately. My body and just the universe as a whole gave me every sign to leave this man and I always t…

I have to have surgery very soon, and I'm so nervous. — I have to have MPFL Reconstruction surgery, but I really don't want to go under general anesthesia and probably not wake up or have severe pain afterwards. Has anybody had this kind of surgery before?…

How do I detach from people who have an on and off pattern with me? — 23(f) I have always been emotionally invested in my friends. The thing is, my friends are either really good at filling there void with company or their family. Being a motherless child who is only su…

My mother set me up and got policemen and EMR to aggressively restrain me and put me in the ambulance when I least expected — I am mortified. The whole scene was scandalous, never had I ever felt so humiliated. It happened last Friday when I was just about to take a shower before I continued packing my belongings to move o…

Why is my mother being cruel to me during an already difficult time? — Sorry, this is going to be a long one!  Let me start off my saying that I love my mother. She and I used to get along for the most part. It always seemed like we would get along great during the day …

The most horror dream I experienced in my 23 years of life. Happened just 20 minutes ago. — I was an actor in the film, but the dream happened in layers, sometimes they would cut the scenes, than I would be acting again.. it felt very interesting ngl. Not weird or horror yet, interesting. …

Breakup tears me apart — Due to my (F29) fear of abandonment I became ill with burnout/dysregulated nervous system 2,5 years ago, which meant I couldn't work, couldn't play sports, couldn't see my friends and family and was c…

Totally wrecked after breakup — Due to my (F29) fear of abandonment I became ill with burnout/dysregulated nervous system 2,5 years ago, which meant I couldn't work, couldn't play sports, couldn't see my friends and family and was c…

Does doing seasonal jobs help you move out? — I got into a big argument with my dad last week and that’s the point where I had enough. He wants to keep saying “My house, my rules. Me and your mom can do whatever we want in this house. You can…

How do I survive this? — Hello everyone, this is my first Post Here so I hope I follow the Rules. I'm currently battling with 2 Things at once. My girlfriend broke up with me about 2 weeks ago because of the second reason:…

Took DMT first time the night before, watched Enter the Void on shrooms the next day. Now I think Im traumatised. — ​ So the night before, I did DMT for the first time. It was a lot. Colours I had never seen before, geometric shapes constantly moving and transforming, and a sense of presence that I still ca…

Idk what to do. Pls help — ​ I’m 25 and feel deeply stuck in life. My biggest issues are shame, avoidance, overthinking, emotional overwhelm, fear judgment, and a long-term pattern of not really building a life because…

I'm stuck, dont know what to do. Pls help — I’m 25 and feel deeply stuck in life. My biggest issues are shame, avoidance, overthinking, emotional overwhelm, fear judgment, and a long-term pattern of not really building a life because deep down…

This is so hard to do for me. It’s only been a week or so now but I would end my life if not for my 3 little kids. I can’t believe the woman I’m still in love with thinks so poorly of me she wanted to…

I needed this pinned post today. When I don't reach out, I am kind of ok.. if I cave and she doesn't reply, the pain is absolutely unbearable..

Yep, it's probably not a good time...and I may have impulsively downloaded it out of loneliness. I have friends and a sister I can talk to, I have hobbies and a new career. I put a lot of energy into …

" But I just keep losing interest or get unbearable anxiety around guys I meet on dating apps. As a man who has been on over twenty dates from dating apps I can say you are not the only one and you m…

That's where I'm at. This pain was unbearable. Anyone who hasn't been through an avoidant discard will never understand the severity of the experience. Our mutual friend apologized to me for hooking …

I am so sorry you're going through this. Ugh, I totally get the hurt and frustration. I am 1-year NC with my ex. It's been a rough go. The first 3-months were unbearable. She went with the dismissive…

Hey mate, I really relate to what you’ve written. I’ve had similar struggles in relationships – my anxious attachment would flare up with partners even though I felt steady with friends or at work. Fo…

Thank you so much for this it honestly means a lot to hear from someone who’s been through something so similar. The way you described it really hit me, especially the part about gradually thinking ab…

Hi everyone, I’m in my early 20s, and recently I went through my longest relationship so far — almost 2 years — with someone who is also my age, and has BPD. I have AuDHD on top of everything. Our rel…

I can relate to you, I think people don't talk often enough about how dark and suffering it feels to be at the other end of the spectrum. People tend to only discuss the aftermath of how you should pi…

I completely agree that we're not meant to be alone. I do still get a healthy amount of time spent with others. My friends do visit my town every now and then, and i still regularly spend time with th…

This is why you should never break no contact because when you don’t get the response you wanted (you never will) you’ll just end up feeling worse. The only answer is time, ittl feel unbearable at fir…

That's how stuck I feel too, when we're not talking. I'm so afraid just at the thought of him leaving me or cheating because I'm insecure and incomplete. But he doesn't threaten me to break up and nev…

Something will happen first. Like a disagreement or a fight. I think he might be taking that much space because he's not in the mood to risk starting something else. I can't be sure 100% because we ne…

Ugh I so get you. I've been in that scenario and it gives me a nasty knot in my stomach. The pressure feels unbearable and the kicker is in the one healthy relationship I was in, I was the one putting…

You've been analyzing him for the last four years, do you really think you'll find that one Reddit comment that explains everything and dispels your fears? You've asked an unanswerable question becaus…

Well, you don’t have to have a text intensive relationship to begin with, but if you’re texting someone daily and intensively for a long time, that’s what you signed up for. If you want your privacy t…

[trigger warning] I have a lot of childhood trauma related to a horrible abusive stepfather ( stabbed my mother when I was 4-6, shot at our house when we were inside) I was the oldest sibling and at…

i was just like you (and honestly still am sometimes) and i got diagnosed with ROCD. after starting medication, doing a lot of targeted therapy, & being honest and open with my partner about everythin…

That’s normal. Taking some of your power back by taking steps to prepare for the worst possible scenario can give you peace of mind. When the feelings become unbearable use your grounding techniques…

Lube—lots of lube. Your first time you’re going to feel tight and because you’ll be nervous chances are you might be a bit dry. Use lube even if you buy lubricated condoms. Avoid flavored lubes, those…

I had been keeping my feelings to myself so as not to lose his friendship. Then when he had a problem with his phone and I ran into him with another friend/date, that was when I thought I had lost him…

I’m tired of this attachment ruling over my life. Even though I’m self-aware enough and gotten much better at handling it, processing it myself- it doesn’t mean it stings less or I can avoid all trigg…

I hear you with trauma. Im too sensitive when it comes to going to these singles events and finding someone that piques your interest and when you get their details and text them and they ghost you, i…

I'm only around three- four months into this relationship, but I'm recovering avoidant trying her best after therapy so bear with me. I've been having low-level anxiety lately. I've realised that up…

For me, shame, or even the possibility of shame, has quietly shaped so much of my life. It’s the thing that makes the difference between trying and not attempting something at all, because the fear of…

I have been in this sort of relationship. It was my previous one before the one I’m in now - we were together for 4 years. We were so in love every day and the honeymoon phase never ended. Very high…

My (sigh…I still don’t even know what to call her now) wife / ex-wife and I were together for fifteen years. A lot of those years were rocky, but there was always a core love in there that I trusted w…

It’s a heartbreaking realization and I’ve been through the exact same thing. But once time passes by, you’ll probably view the relationship in another light and realize that the cracks were visible lo…

I see. I am not regarding intention but impact for my own self. Effect. That's the whole point. Well meant does not equal well done. Someone can try, and someone else can decide that the result of tha…

Oh anger can be totally healthy! I’m not knocking it. It’s just not really applicable here. He hasn’t done anything to me that would cause anger. I’m mostly going back to the first comment: I just n…

I've been realizing it routinely for the last six years. I was really close to death at the start of the pandemic with multiple chronic diseases. I decided I have to get as healthy as possible. It too…

I use to work in IT support and we had our calls recorded and played back to us during performance meetings. The fucking cringe I had the first time I heard myself talking was unbearable. The “uhhh’s”…

My abusive family member is fundamentally incapable of dealing with any kind of mental or emotional discomfort. (Physical also, hah.) That is inextricably linked to why he is abusive - he feels bad ab…

This is a very normal feeling, it’s hard and I’m sorry you’re feeling this way because it truely sucks. It shows you care, even if you don’t want to but don’t be hard on yourself, you’re human after a…

This is my fear too, I’m in a separation process recently, the quieter house I come home to after work is unbearable, I keep myself busy as much as I can. As of last week, my stbx lives at his new pl…

Check out the book The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer. He talks about what you described: being unable to shut off the loud AF mental narrative after reaching a high level of skill in meditat…

I hear you. Mine was "I miss you!", but I couldn't understand who I was missing. It became unbearable once I had my youngest. Took a bit to realize a part of me missed myself from an easier time in l…

Yeah the energy thing is so true. You can feel the oppressive vibes when they’re around. My dad is unbearable; even over an email, I feel the need to get out. Like a room on fire filling with smoke.

In like flint lol. Sorry your parents are unbearable

I don’t want to recommend anything but I’ll share my experience. I did this in fresh grief, I started the gateway tapes about 1.5 months after my boyfriend passed. I found the tapes to be incredibly h…

The longer you wait, the more time he has to put you in more debt. I’m also 46, I was a SAHM for 10 years, left college to have his kids based on his promises to pay for me to go back (lol). Now I’m a…

I don’t want someone that disrespects me. Though she had many qualities I did enjoy about her. She was a very practical woman. Even though she was disrespectful she gave a lot of effort towards the re…

I’ve been there and it’s hard imagining anything different for yourself. After so many years of being made to feel like you don’t matter, you believe you don’t. When my therapist asked me “would you…

The pain is intense and it's hard to imagine that it will pass. Like the first time it happened to me, I felt like I was physically in pain. It was unbearable. It will feel just a little lighter every…

HI, just my quick way in as "people pleasers" are something I've been thinking about and had to deal with the ramifications of. My Mum (with respect) is someone who has many faults and hasn't always …

Never surprised by the birthday message the next year after the break up... sir you dumped me? Most unbearable was when my dad died and the condolence messages following after from 4 different exes th…

I am genuinely enjoying this exchange, thank you! You don’t often find real conversation from a place of openness online. I would like to also validate your perspective and agree that there are deep-s…

I hear you, and I need you to know this, what you’re describing is not beyond repair, even if it feels like it is right now. The fact that you feel this much conviction, shame, and awareness tells me …