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1. Not totally sure because I'm firmly in the "want kids" camp, but I would read it as they want kids but are trying to play it cool, and probably also that while they want kids they don't want to rus…

Being DA but really wanting kids — Ever since I was 5, I’ve known I’ve wanted kids. I spent my teen years fantasising about having them, and felt like having kids was the best thing ever. I love the idea of caring for kids and helping …

I(F28) have to have a tough conversation with my bf(M30), but I’m scared. — We’ve been together 8 years this July. Not married. It’s been a point of contention. We’ve been in a pretty rough spot since last year, and honestly, it’s only gotten worse this year. I’ve realized o…

My boyfriend (31M) is upset I prioritize money and don’t want kids, even though I (24F) told him this from the start — I (24F, in university) have been dating my boyfriend (31M) for 3 years. We both still live separately with our parents. From the very beginning, I was **extremely upfront** about my priorities: I do…

My wife keeps helping her sister and husband — Hello, I need some advice, I'm a male of 45 yo, and my wife 44 yo, live a good life together with our dogs, no kids, because we got married at the end of our 30's and realized we didn't want kids. …

My [28F] husband [37M] wants me to deliver bad news to his mother. How do I get out of doing this without hurting feelings? TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ mention of miscarriage. — UPDATE: I did talk to him, and I took the advice of not being gentle about it. It’s his mom, and he told her the “good news”, so he can break the bad news. At first he was upset with me, but he got ov…

I'm exhausted of doing everything myself — This is more of a vent but I do actually have a question, so stay with me. I thought I'd have someone by now. I wasn't raised great at all (post for another time/sub) so I know that figured into my …

Ouch. Starting over, into the lonely void of dating — I'm 38M and picking up the pieces after abruptly being discarded by an avoidant two days ago. She told me I'm in different 'tier' of people who is able to express emotions and needs. And that she's u…

Would you give them another chance? — I feel conflicted on giving this person another chance due to 1. Being somewhat at peace with where I am in life and 2. Feeling like if they cared enough they wouldn’t have left in the first place. ,…

Do I (26F) need to decide now if I want children when my bf (31M) already has decided he wants them in the next Yr and 1/2 — for context we have been together for 4 years and have been living together for 2. he owns the house I just live here rent free lol we were discussing career plans and were talking about how my chan…

Still want kids? — How many people out there still want or plan on having more kids? i'm M41 (almost 42) don't have any, and wondering what my chances even are now. Underatandably, in most OLD profiles I've come across,…

am i a monster — sorry, idk if this is even the right subreddit for this, and i’m super new to reddit to begin with, so i’m honestly just trying to get stuff off my chest. for context, i’m 16F, an only child with REAL…

I finally did it….i opened the can of worms — I (f21) have been with my boyfriend for over a year. I have never told my family about it especially because I was never allowed to date until after college. I also come from a Filipino family so that…

I (29M) love my gf (29F) and we have been thinking about the future but seem on slightly different pages re:children — We have been together coming up to a year. Early part of the relationship was a bit up and down, I was dealing with anxiety and insecurities including intimacy issues. Things got better and we love ea…

How to tackle my (M34) wants to be a father with my partners (F31) indecision? — Hey team. Running I to some issues regarding children in our partnership. I M34 rwlaly want to be a father one day, im pretty set on it and clear in Mt decision. My partner on the other hand is on …

My (24M) girlfriend (24F) and I struggle with intimacy issues — TLDR: Long-term high school couple nearing engagement, but they’ve never had sex. She avoids it due to birth control concerns, and broader physical intimacy is minimal. He feels his needs aren’t being…

Quarter life crisis? — Genuinely I wish I was joking but has anyone experienced this? I’m female early 30’s and I’m just spiralling about current and future. It’s giving me such anxiety and honestly making me depressed and …

i want kids and most likely will not have them — I'm 15 and I've really wanted to be a mother my entire life. I was neglected in various ways and I decided because of that I will most likely never have kids. I wanted kids so I could make them feel …

We want a future together, but my fear of pregnancy is kind of becoming a dealbreaker. — My boyfriend(27 M) and I (26 F) are dating for two years, and honestly, he’s incredible—respectful, caring, and someone I can truly see a future with. We are at the point where we want to "settle dow…

He broke up with me because I don’t want kids — Despite the fact we are in our early twenties, and my reasoning for not wanting kids is because the world is a mess right now, for some reason, it’s a dealbreaker for him, even after knowing that mayb…

Bf just told me he didn’t want kids — I (33F) and my bf (33M). This happened right after I ask for discussion about the possibility of spousal sponsorship. I was told he didn’t want kids and he knew I always want kids and it turned out we…

How can I (20NB) bring up relationship issues to my (20F) girlfriend? — I (20-NB) have been dating my girlfriend (F20) for a little over 2 years. She has supported me through having gender issues and mental health issues, and I have supported her through family and mental…

Lied to for 9 months by My (28F) Fiancé (29M) — My soon to be husband (28M) misled me for 9 months on the timeframe to have children. I’ll start with I know I’m very headstrong about the plans in my life. He just wants to do anything to make me hap…

Bf just told me he didn’t want kids — I (33F) and my bf (33M). This happened right after I ask for discussion about the possibility of spousal sponsorship. I was told he didn’t want kids and he knew I always want kids and it turned out we…

I am starting to resent my in laws and potentially by husband for how he handles his family — My husband and I have been together for 11 years now but only married for 2 years. I’m (27F)and my husband is (28M) years old. For the past couple years I’ve been around his family for the most part w…

I (26F) paused my engagement/broke up with my fiancee (28M) because he didnt stand up for me against his racist family. now i want to either leave the UK, is that a bad idea? — Hallo everyone. I (26F) posted about this a few days ago on AITAH but my post was deleted :/ I explained how I'm Polish and have been in the UK for 4 years with ex (28M), he's from here. this is shor…

40F. How do you answer “did you not want kids?” Question? It just didn’t happen for me but I find this so dumb and rude given I’m single. — I get asked this a lot at work, parties, etc. I get asked if I’m married or have kids and I say no to both with bewildered looks (I think bc I’m attractive and own my home and have a career) and they …

Irrationally angry at people for having kids. — I just need to get this out and thought maybe some people would have similar views on it. I get irrationally angry about people I know having kids. especially people I know have issues themselves. …

Hurting from CPTSD robbing me of milestones all the while I have 5 pregnant friends — Just wanting to vent here. I recently experienced one of the worst flashbacks of my life and was down and out for weeks. In this time, I found out my best friend is pregnant, found out another friend …

This is worth the read — So 3 months ago I lost my license and the day it got suspended was the day I parked it outside my ex’s house lol, anyways I went back to retrieve it since I’m no longer suspended, I let her know I was…

Am I overthinking this, or do I see signs of OCPD in my girlfriend that could affect our future together? — Hey Reddit, I need some advice and insight from those who might have experienced something similar or have a better understanding of personality disorders. I (31, m) have been with my girlfriend (31…

Sexless relationship feeling like roommates — My partner and I haven’t had sex in over a year. We’ve been together nearly five years, aren’t married, and don’t have kids. As I’m turning 30, I’m starting to wonder if this is what my life will be l…

I (33F) want to remove my IUD but my partner (35M) is reluctant to wear condoms. How can we find a compromise? — My bf (35M) and I (33F) have been dating for nearly 3 years. I've had IUD for nearly as long but have had more frequent headaches, mood swings, and overall discomfort to the point that I've been consi…

No Ring? F(24) M(26) — Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and already have a child after being together for a year. It was a surprise obviously considering I was on birth control. At the time he expressed ho…

How do I (28M) - with an extremely clouded memory due to medication - tell my mom (40F) that I might be a father - without making her feel like I have been lying for years? — EDIT: WRONG AGE FOR MOM. MOM IS (F50) This is a throwaway because I'm panicked and paranoid. I'm a 28 year old physically disabled adult with extreme chronic pain, still living with my mom. When I wa…

This is so interesting! I'm extremely avoidant when it comes to dating...I literally don't even attempt to. Which is insane for someone at 32 lol. At least I know I don't want kids haha

Yeah and there is nothing wrong with just establishing your long term goals. I don’t blame you on that. You want kids, some like my gf and I both are determined to never have any more kids, even thoug…

Those are some wild assumptions so I’ll just ignore that. Yep I tell women I’m dating I want kids early because if they don’t want any we shouldn’t waste each other’s time.

Having children is important to me and that’s not going to change because the other person is not interested in having children. If the other person is opposed to having children, then forming a roman…

Having less of a support system has probably all played in this entire cycle. I'm at that age in life where friends are moving onto other life stages (kids etc when I don't want kids), other cities, a…

A lot of DAs want kids. Just be sure that your emotional unavailability does not pass on to your children. It's very easy to 'pass on' avoidant attachment. My DA ex got it from both of her DA parents.…

I hate to say it but don't. Earn your secure attachment first. My wife is a DA and we did not figure out she was until 2 years ago (working on but not secure yet) and we have 9 and 4 year old. It has …

I see a lot of profiles on dating apps of people who want kids yet are looking for “casual” and “long term relationship”, but not marriage or a lifetime partner. Bummer: children are not an accessory …

If you badly want kids but are unhealed ask yourself These questions What will I do if the woman I chose to date, gets pregnant before its planned What happens the woman I'm with is pregnant an…

Nah that's actually so rude. Awkward thing to talk about over text. I wouldn't answer because I'd hate the idea of him showing my response to people. Any type of message you would be embarrassed/uncom…

That happened to me too! A little while ago out of curiosity I set a dealbreaker for “doesn’t want children” and swiped through maybe half a dozen profiles before it told me I was out. You really expe…

As someone who is also childfree in a large-ish metro area, that doesn't surprise me at all. I think a lot of dudes are afraid of putting "Don't Want Children," as it could potentially lessen their li…

I think I've told this story before in this sub, but basically - I used to want kids, but as I got older I realized that I don't want them as much anymore. Am I fully committed to a child-free lifesty…

Anyone in their mid thirties who wants kids feel like sharing their perspective or venting? I came back to dating recently when I realized I had too much grief to pull the trigger on artificial …

I think that’s amazing clarity you have to know you want kids even more than a partner. That’s such an expansive belief… and I find it interesting you also have all those limiting beliefs in the back …

I'm 34 and want kids and quite stressed about it. Almost got to the point of trying with my last partner and then we split up. I personally would never have kids on my own so that hadn't really been i…

I tend to be more particular with who I swipe on these days (partially because I'm childfree and so many people want kids or are "open to kids".

For the people who for sure doesn't want kids, how did you handle these types of conversations early on?

I think you should consider carefully the kind of home and relationship you want kids in. Personally, as someone who said it to my husband after 6 weeks, says it and receives it multiple times a day, …

It’s not problematic if there’s no power balance and you’re looking for the same thing. I’m 34 was dating a 23M. Ultimately i couldn’t do it because he was just too young and I want kids sooner than h…

Man, the bio clock this is weird even when you dont want kids, like being childfree I dont really want to date folks with kids already and then having to factor in about folks who have want kids on th…

your standards stay the same, your dating pool just gets smaller so you end up getting more confirmation bias. from my point of view as a man, the no kids, don't want kids dating pool gets rapidly sm…

I feel like some people put that because they don't want kids *now.* That's frustrating, though.

I haven't had that happen. I'm childfree and try to confirm that they don't want kids by the second date. Most of my dates don't go past the second or third date anyway, though.

It can definitely be tricky, as you could imagine. I understand why some people are skeptical of the “unsure” answer, especially in your 30s. From the outside it can look like someone avoiding a real …

It’s 100% worth having a conversation about it early on, that’s for sure. I’ve heard from female friends who are hardline childfree and from others who want kids that they’ve run into situations where…

As a sterilized mom this drove me insane. I tell them I don't want another baby but I'm fine if they have kids, they say that's cool. Then they find out that I'm surgically sterilized (not tubes tied,…

“Never” dating? “never” having a relationship? I’m sorry I didn’t know we had a fortune teller in the house. Ofcourse thoughts like that would make anyone sad and full of grief dude. You sound like me…

They want kids, I don’t. I’m not attracted to trans women.

It's super deceptive! I don't understand it. I know me putting "doesn't want kids" limits my pool, but that's kind of the point.

>But while I really really like the advice of going out and trying new things and finding things you like to do and meeting new people, I'm not sure it's necessarily good advice for finding a new part…

Yes, that’s also my experience. But many younger guys want kids. I have one and don’t want anymore so pretty much my only option is older who already has kids or has given up due to age lol. Or a youn…

I misread this as you set your age limit to 12 and had to do a double take 😅 I tend to do the same thing as you and set my age limit higher in hopes that the guys will be more serious and haven’t ha…

If you want kids (or even think you might want kids), I wouldn't date a woman in her early-40s. Realistically you'd have to start trying for kids very soon in the relationship, and there's a good chan…

>are you saying if for some reason your wife couldn't conceive you'd leave her to find someone who would give you a son?  People breakup / divorce all. the. time over the kids issue. There's a reaso…

Just don't swipe on guys who want kids, problem solved. He has a very specific condition that he's looking for in his potential partner and it's important to him that both parties are aligned on it - …

Believe me, you want this more than you want to date for 14 months and be about to take next steps toward cohabitation for him to decide THEN that you being on the fence is a dealbreaker after knowing…

Poor guy that’s awful! But excellent - I always worry that a younger man will want kids. Babies and dogs hit horrific octaves. Enjoy this - it’s the goal!!!!!!

I can't speak for myself (and I am 33F only), but two of my coworkers (both women) have had children in their (admittedly early) 40s. I waver on whether I want kids, but focus on my nutrition and exer…

I’m 39 with no kids but open to having them. Generally the women/people I’m attracted to don’t want kids though so we’ll see.

Same experience but opposite genders. I don’t want kids and I am evidently the only person in the state of Utah who feels this way

Keep in mind bumble locks filters behind a paywall then feeds you people who don't match your preferences that you can't filter out without paying them. It's how they try and milk money. Dating apps s…

Hm, interesting, haven’t considered that tbh. I feel like I’ve seen more guys who don’t want kids on tinder for some reason (but I’m off tinder for now, I kept seeing the same profiles after a while).

I've noticed Hinge will show 3-5 new people every now and again. Even my standouts that I can only send roses to are either empty or only have 1 person in them. 😂🤣 I know I'm fishing in a small pon…

I’m a bit confused by men in their late 30s or in their 40s who put “don’t know” for the _Want kids?_ question on the apps… I understand the “open to kids”, but I feel like at this point in life, you …

This used to infuriate me but now I'm trying to laugh at it. I wonder if that's not true, in some cases? Maybe it's a harder no but they don't want to close off the avenue to dating the large share of…

Yeah I figured it might be to keep their options open but I feel like with “don’t know” you may alienate both people who want kids and people who don’t want them

Please give me your honest thoughts on putting "wants kids" in your dating app bio when you're 29/30 ish. It feels like it really tanks my match rate (haven't actually seen data so just guessing). I w…

IDK if it tanks your match rate, but if someone doesn't match because you want kids then isn't that a good thing since it weeds out incompatibility? I don't think most people assume that wants kids me…

Totally a good thing! I guess I just worry about being off-putting to people who do want kids but aren't in a rush. Maybe I'm worrying too much?