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Ofc i do feel guilty, but I am separating what *I know* and what *they know.* They dont need to know I feel guilt since that obv will have leverage for them. However, I do appreciate you pointing out…
Just three months of dating and I'm having a tough time getting over it. — Hey everyone. So, I (28/M) met my ex (43/F) about three months ago. I was a bit fresh out of my previous relationship, which I ended after almost two years because of sexual incompatibility. I was j…
Breakup with fearful avoidant — So I just want to tell my story of how the breakup is and how I assume that the person who broke up with me is fearful avoidant after analysing what happened and what was going on. I want to get some …
Why is healing from a discard taking longer than the relationship itself? It was only 2 months — I'm 3 months out from a discard with a suspected covert narcissist, but we only dated for 2 months. Is it normal for it to take longer to get over the discard than the time we dated? It feels kind of …
Never fully grieved the breakup, struggling years later — Quick background: My ex (25F at the time) and I (25M at the time) broke up June 2023 citing she didn't want anything serious and that everything wasn't evolving naturally. I broke NC in August 2023 an…
Never fully grieved the breakup, struggling years later — Background: My ex (25F at the time) and I (25M at the time) broke up June 2023 citing she didn't want anything serious and that everything wasn't evolving naturally. I broke NC in August 2023 and afte…
Went indefinite no contact with my mom 2 weeks ago, feels like I'm on a roller-coaster. — 2 weeks ago I decided that I was done, I know there is nothing I can say or do to get my mom to understand my pain, to be able to listen to me without turning it back to herself. We were in a big figh…
My only friend got together with the girl I love and I just feel so done — Im mostly using this post to vent you dont have to read it I feel like a real asshole for writing this but I really need to get this all out my chest so around a month ago my friend got with some…
My dad just texted me to "get over it" after 8+ months of silence — I've been low/no contact with my mom since last August after she sent me a guilt-tripping meltdown over something trivial (I didn't text her back fast enough about a card renewal while I was on vacati…
Do I manifest peace or opportunity? — Let something slide and it’s making me very angry, I want a chance to fight back and redeem myself but holding onto this anger is taking a toll on me mentally. Should I manifest an opportunity to get …
Breaking no contact to give back his things — My long-term ex boyfriend and I have been broken up about 3 months now and have not been in contact since. We were together off and on for 5 ish years total. I am slowly getting over it but the breaku…
Tiny useful epiphany/phrase — my friend and I were talking about what "getting over it" or "healing" actually means in the context of cptsd. we said a little of things but out little gem we came up with was: you could forgive yo…
ex said something very mean, suggestions on getting over it? — I just broke up with my ex, and he said something very mean to me about my appearance. I'm glad I found out what type of person he is and dodged a bullet, but wondering if anyone has similar experienc…
Having trouble getting over it — My wife and I have decided to divorce and I’m feeling very lonely about it. We have had our spats, and we are both young, and what I can’t get over is the idea that she’s already with someone else. S…
Hi! So one thing I can tell you from lots of therapy and recently spending time around her is I realized I had been only remembering her good qualities and putting her on a pedestal in my mind. When w…
They still feel the pain. Just alone, they cant name it or place it. And i imagine they experience it quietly for a long time as opposed to all at once and getting over it.
Thank you for your kind, comprehensive comment. I don't know, I feel I'm in such an odd place. I am legitimately intelligent, extremely emotionally open, & reflective. But, I just cannot get close to…
I think it’d be pretty rude if you asked to call them by something other than what they asked you to call them, to be very honest. You don’t get to decide what names are suitable and seems kinda disre…
Had my first date after ending my first 'situationship' and I was hoping it would help me get over things but instead I'm just re-upset about how things ended. The first date was nice enough, and he h…
What compels you to keep reaching out to this man after he’s told you multiple times in various ways that he is selfish, he cannot give you what you need/want? Please stop engaging with this man. He i…
Ok, I understand completely where you are. I was let go two weeks ago, we'd been seeing each other for 10 months. She changed my life in ways I never thought I realized, but because of my inaction, I …
It sounds like you’ve reached a place where you’re committed to staying, especially since your marriage has been in a good spot for a while now. When you’ve already accepted the reality of what happen…
Hey prestigious pizza. She was warm and engaged at first, borderline flirting, but not explicitly. I misinterpreted something she said and then I sent a very flirty message, which I instantly regrette…
Look - I could have made such a "joke" myself. Grief is hard and I deal with it making light of the messed up stuff. IF he had apologized and explained that he was trying to cope with his feelings i…
And I'm glad you're challenging, I really appreciate it. It gets me thinking and gives me someone to talk to. Top 3 I would say: 1. She constantly wanted my attention/reassurance. She didn't have hob…
I know that feeling of technically having talked things out, but just not really getting over it. In those cases though, there has usually still been something that bothered me and wasn't resolved in …
Like, just thoughtful gestures make me feel like I’m an unworthy imposter. I’m getting over it though, trying to realize other’s crappy treatment of me says more about them than me.
At least gaming wise, try different games? I had something like 1000+ hours in destiny and would still regularly get a pvp K/D < 0.5 But I have also put 50 hours into getting over it and can now beat…
Also she asked for space and his response was to turn up for her run and get his mates to push her into getting over it. Which is a whole pile of red flags too.
If she is your best friend, you need better friends. I am skeptical that this can be salvaged. You will never forget. Eventually she will resent you for not getting over it. Your relationship will …
thank you. YES! his downplaying and minimizing the damage enfuriates me. just because YOU perfectly justified it in your head doesn’t mean everyone else will! same reason why he hid the affair for a …
You're not getting over it because you're looking for redemption, but you cant take back what you did. Thats just fact, your only option is to be brutally honest without yourself about why you did it,…
I'm on day 91. I went no contact immediately. It still hurts though, but less. I think if you just find little ways to distract yourself, you can get back to happiness again. Just worry about what mak…
June 13th 2023 she cheated and moved out at 3am, friends called cops on me but cops sympathized because I was just sitting there crying. She moved out on her own, basically dated 2 other men at the sa…
Text of original post by u/SirRomeo007: Quick background: My ex (25F at the time) and I (25M at the time) broke up June 2023 citing she didn't want anything serious and that everything wasn't evolving…
Along with all this advice, therapy or even couples therapy might help. It's not necessarily about getting over it, but processing those feelings in a healthy way and learning to work through what's t…
Honestly you have to forget about the idea of a timeline for getting over it and just process and feel all your emotion. It took me a while to get over my ex but I did wake up one morning completely o…
I completely admire you so much I can’t even tell you You are not accepting the break up and that is why you are not getting over it properly Break up with her in your own head and take control of …
Oh I divorced her 8 months later. Was getting my finances and other things during that 8 months. I never touched or spoke her except when I told her I was divorcing her. She was shocked and thought I…
48m. Just getting over it
But what if you just don't feel like you're getting over them? I've been focusing on being the best person I can be, but it just feels pointless now. I felt like I was the best person I ever was befor…
I'm almost 4 months post breakup of a 4.5 months relationship (yep, not even lasted 5 months) and I still grieve everyday. It feels stupid and almost embarassing because I had a 5 years relationship b…
Honestly, we need to normalize this more. It took me two years to get over my ex, and I felt so much guilt and shame because of it. It’s normal. You were going to marry this person. You invested in th…
I agree with you. I stuck around for 3 years trying to save our marriage. Meanwhile he said he would have no contact with his girlfriend. When I caught him, he told me he couldn't stand to hurt her. H…
Getting over it during a trip is hit or miss. Integration work after the trip is also key - you can do a lot of good with what you see and experience on a trip. I would avoid intentionally bringing …