focus on the future

Interesting people call that positivity: the "others have it worse" mentality I mean. To me proper positivity would be acknowledging it could be worse, but also that it could be better and not to sell…

Its hard. I was still "friends" with my ex after the breakup and I was like everyone else..hoping I can find a way back in her life but she told me she is seeing someone else and going over to his hou…

The "I will die someday" never really made sense to me. Like... yes, as all things do. They go back to it, but don't realize they won't be missed. My ndad used his age to encourage me to "move past …

Try grey rock then accepting it for what it is, that it’s not personal towards you but rather how it’s the culture and how they are hardwired. Then focus on the future and breaking the cycle

I'm 52 and going through the same thing. My husband wanted to separate due to dealing with severe childhood trauma that he has ignored all of his life, is depressed, and has anxiety.  He pulled away…

Oh my bad. I’ll just let go of the old story completely and focus on the future then

Please don't pain shop... especially if reconciliation is the focus. It'll never bring you any sort of satisfaction to do comparisons, rationalizations for his cheating, etc. You both should just focu…

Good question. Absolutely. I can only share from my own experience, but I don't stress about past present or future. I have my goals, and I focus on them while focusing also on what I value and …

There's nothing that can be done to change the past. You've already improved things so this isn't a problem any more. Well done! on your part. Be glad you've learned what you need to do for hygiene…

It depends on why you broke up with them. If there were valid reasons for the breakup, it's normal to miss them but to still carry on forward. If your reasons for the breakup weren't completely valid,…

I’m just going to say you are completely valid in your feelings. I think you should focus on the future and really think if you can handle it. What’s his job and hobbies like? Do you see any mental he…

Have you spoken to her about any of this? I don't understand people who put up with things for years or decades while quietly simmering in resentment, expecting others to read their minds. Are you a p…