book
close enough
Evidence
Citations (78)
This is actually so common – you're manifesting a person, but not THE person. The Universe is showing you that you CAN manifest love, but you're settling for "close enough" instead of holding out for …
Working on becoming secure has made me more susceptible to toxic relationships — I think. Here's the thing, I'm fearful avoidant, and before I was aware of attachment styles at all the moment a person I was interested in made me feel at all rejected in the slightest (took too lo…
Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…
AM silent treatment is HELL — For context- two days ago AM asked me (19F) and my sister (17F) why our cousin and our close friends are scared or intimidated by her. We started making fun of her for the things she used to do or say…
My ex-wife tried to kill me a few years ago. She just moved in three houses down from me. — I’m struggling with how to even process this. A few years back, things with my ex-wife reached a breaking point. She was struggling with substance abuse, alcohol and pills, and I had discovered she’d …
I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…
UPDATE: I asked for a divorce — Here is my original post: https://old.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/1b6vfpt/i_asked_for_a_divorce/ Hi everyone. Hope this post finds everyone better than the last time I posted. I last po…
I (27F) keep getting mocked about my lack of friends by my boyfriend (32M) — To provide context, my boyfriend (32M) has had the same friends since he was in diapers and I love that for him. I’ve had friends in phases as a result of my upbringing. For more information, I grew …
Tired of toxic connections.. can my birth chart help me finding the right people? — I’ve been trying to understand how to not stay stuck in what hurt me + somehow still find people I actually feel aligned with. I also wonder if some of these patterns make sense through my chart, lik…
How can I attract genuinely aligned friendships? (my NN is in the 11th but I have a very hard time with it) — Hi! I’m very interested in the insights of this sub bc I’m not very experienced with astrology but even less with the whole sign system. Just right now while transferring my chart in whole sign notice…
I Communicated With the Moon — I'm searching for some anecdotal evidence of anyone else who's seen 'the eye of the moon' on mushrooms, but I can't find anything so I'll post my experience here. When I was tripping, I laid outside o…
Just random thoughts — I've tried my best to move on, but even still, some nights i find myself thinking about what we had. Even if it was merely a drop in the bucket in our lives. I remember when we she started first havi…
I have to see my ex constantly, what should I do? — I got broken up a month ago after an argument where my ex told me they would change and stop violating my boundaries, but it never came. They said they no longer loved me and when I told them what the…
I’m intensely triggered by my partner’s younger sister and I hate what it brings out in me — I need to say something ugly and I’m hoping someone here will understand rather than just tell me to “work on my self-esteem.” My boyfriend has younger sisters, and one of them especially triggers so…
You have the answers — ​ Hello folks, hope your day is going well! Below i'll post the final chapter to a short work I put together. while out of context it does provide some useful tips on how to be. A dedicated …
29, no car/job, friends all live elsewhere, emotional abuse, can't find any way to leave — I am 29 F. I don't have any transportation, or a way to find a job. My parents refuse to help me get my license. I am nice abd help clean up after everyone around the house and keep to myself most of …
I get immediately anxious around him. — Except for one year, ever since moving out over a decade ago I’ve lived (usually) one thousand miles away from him. He doesn’t visit, namely because I’ve never asked him to and we aren’t close enough…
I Think My Friend Is Lying About Where He Goes At Night — **TL;DR:** My friend kept disappearing every night and his location showed him in the woods, so I went to check it out and found him standing in a circle with other people acting really weird. He to…
partner of four years broke things off out of nowhere. her friends hate me now and i wish i could just go back in time — Me and her went through some of the hardest events in both of our lives together. we made it through a breakup already, (we thought we would end up being long distance for college, she ended up at the…
Oh I'm sorry, didn't realize I was fighting for my spot.... — T, I had no clue, for over 2-3 years, me a live female, sucks, gets wet, does as you say or even without you saying, a legit deposit for you. Instead....I'm fighting for love against barred women with…
Sexual Incompatibility Btwn M30 and F209 — Please note that I am NOT looking for breakup advice. I love my partner and am unwilling to leave for various reasons. Advice like “break up you’ll be unhappy for the rest of your life” or anything li…
Denied access to the moon — Spontaneous projector reporting. So it's been a while since I've had a projection and I had a cluster of them today! Really fun, I got out three times consciously during a much needed nap. The last o…
How do you deal with the virtue signaling? — I wrote this in another narc sub the other day but I’ll try here as well: My cluster B ex (his SD-3 score is 3.9 machiavellinism, 3.8 narcissism, 3.2 psychopathy if that helps) has a habit of using h…
(TW) I feel like I deserve every terrible thing that has ever happened to me — I feel like something inside me is broken in a way I don’t know how to fix. There’s this constant ache in my chest that won’t go away, like I’m grieving something but I don’t even know what it is any…
Experienced sexual abuse but nobody believes me — I've been struggling a lot lately with panic attacks and flashbacks. Whenever the thoughts come into my mind I'll get stuck thinking about it for hours, and it's clearly not good to live like this. On…
I don’t really know how to be single — I broke up with my ex more than 3 years ago but we still spent a lot of time together for a couple years. Then I had a 5 month long situationship with someone who didn’t want to be in a relationship w…
Self-Perception — Often times when it comes to the world and everything that encompasses it, we look to seek out the cause. We seek it through observations in our environments and what is being perceived through the se…
Am I, 43F, being ridiculous or is he, 45M? — I, 43F, and my husband, 45M, am having a heated discussion and he told me to post on Reddit to see who is being ridiculous. Quick backstory, we are going to my parents tonight at 4 for dinner. He a…
How giving up was better than happy hysterical manifestation for me - SP Stories — I was manic manifesting a man I went on a date with, a year ago. He was really nice to me. However, when I met him, I felt no attraction and he kissed my hand without consent. It felt like alarm bel…
Codependent fixer, I read this with wide eyes filled with hope, and got to this comment and remembered my FA/DA leaning ex partner ghosted me 3 months into our relationship. We cannot fix them no matt…
[We just had a discussion about this in the AvoidantAttachment subreddit.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AvoidantAttachment/comments/1kp4duk/the_hottest_hot_take/) What you're describing is very indicativ…
OP your self-insight is great and this on/off again pattern (while unique to each individual relationship in its own way) is reassuring to read because of just how many similarities we all share. Th…
I would suggest really digging into what is underlying the need to meet in person and “find out who we truly are”. There is only so much you will learn about someone in the short amount of time you ca…
...because I was busy managing the pain of feeling stabbed no matter what I did? If I lied down and put pressure on my back, it hurt like hell. Then it hurt trying to move to lie down on one side. …
Here's my thoughts after being on this subreddit for a while, and I am someone who has been daily practicing for the past 8+ months with no physical results. 1. Maladaptive daydreaming proves that ma…
Really depends on how long you known each other and how long you actually “dated”. I knew my bf from high school, we reconnected as adults and dated for like a month before deciding to be exclusive.…
I remember needing relationship advice on something, and I couldn’t post here because you need approval before posting. So I go to the other “attachment style” subs thinking, hey they’ll be close eno…
All of this. Though I would say the part about the coffee shops within distance is a very subjective part, like it really depends on where you live. ive seen posts about here about guys seeming l…
>Are you okay being the point of contention in someone's romantic relationship? I will say that this friendship seems close enough that OP would end up a point of contention in most relationships thi…
I think they don’t realize how much anticipation plays into wanting to kiss someone. You need to be close enough to think about kissing them a few times to be primed to kiss them later.
Shower thoughts inspired by a post yesterday. I have been thinking a bit about how daters feel like there is not sexual chemistry if kissing hasn’t happened soon enough. I have kissed on first da…
I am in Europe and close enough that people do move around that it by itself isn't super suspecious. But there are plenty of other red flags!
Can confirm. Outgoing in me is worn out. Stopped actively looking for friends and stick to the few I have. I do read what you said and think that maybe you might be missing the whole picture of why p…
The couple have been planning this wedding for a while. If they’ve grown apart from your bf then they probably figured he would know enough people there and they aren’t close enough for the expense of…
Never been diagnosed with RSD, but some symptoms are close enough that I've looked into it a while back.
I've only had one experience with something I can put down as cosmic in terms of astronomy. I was waking up slowly, still dozing and "flash tendrils" appeared in my vision. A blue/indigo star opened u…
IF it’s not him he knows or suspects who it is. It’s also someone close enough that knows you left so NOT a random person. That’s why he’s not really getting to the bottom of this. If he was 100%…
If that was really the case it could easily be someone he‘s close enough with to know sth like that. An affair he broke off. A friend/colleague who’s in love with him but knows he loves his wife and w…
What about his mom? Or anyone who would want to break you two up and is close enough to know details about your life? Perhaps he is cheating on you and the messages are being sent from the other woman…
Oh yeah, I used to take their calls, sometimes even call them to catch up. After a while a few of them apparently thought they were close enough to start getting on to me and like I said I just litera…
This is exactly it. Close enough to feel like a relationship, separate enough to feel like a person.
I have given exactly that support to many in my life. People come to me with problems and I give them an ear. If they are asking for solutions, I give what advice I can, but mostly I just give them a …
A regional organization started up monthly speed dating events in my city so I'm strongly considering going to the one at the end of the month. It's on a weekday but the venue is close enough to work…
Sometimes it takes an outside perspective to see the toxicity of the system. The partner often gets blamed because they’re close enough to see it and invested enough to engage.
I remembered hearing someone tell me that at 45, once me turn 18, they are competing with every man under 60 for the same 18-25 year olds. Honestly, I've had several long term relationships, (7 years)…
Let me warn you about a rookie mistake. It's very common but it's astrologically weak. Scorpio is not a traditionally an Eighth House sign. Zodiac in fact does coincide with the 8th house but only bec…
Just to clarify, I’m Brazilian and used AI to help translate and write this post in English, but the experience described here is 100% real and exactly as it happened. I apologize for the length of t…
There you said it yourself too, what truly seems to make it so hard for many to go and see it through and through, that of the transition from illusory loneliness into that of solitude. As it is a r…
Yep especially when you talk to these people IRL instead of lurking on them. Get close enough to where they tell you stuff like their spouse is an abusive alcoholic behind closed doors (one real life …
They want you close enough to serve them but far enough behind that you can't outgrow them. Its like they need you to be successful just enough to be useful but not enough to actually leave or have yo…
I used google translate. I thought it was Spanish, but I didn't look close enough to see it was Portuguese.
That was my first thought too!!! I found the Perfect person doing Quantum hypnosis living close enough for a day-trip (synchronicity of same name ! rofl) I just have not been able to set it up. I'm a…
See I thought the "that would be strange" was them denying the possibility of the idea or saying they didn't want to do it pre emptively. I still think it's on the friend to say I'm honestly not comf…
Would you consider that Chinese American military guy in the Korean War who pretended to be PLA so he can massacre them, a hero? He will speak Chinese to them to get close enough to mow them down like…
Her dad should get close enough to sniff her ass to tell her she needs to wash better? You think before you speak? In this situation if she's truly oblivious then a partner is the only one that can te…
If all abusers were only mean, nasty and rude they would have no one sucked in close enough to abuse. Kindly, get your head out of your ass and see him for who he is.
I told my nmom she had to go to therapy to have any contact with my kids, when she did finally go she was diagnosed with npd and she fired the therapist. Then she found one that told her what she want…
Everytime some one says it came out of no where I immediately imagine that the person wasn’t paying close enough attention to the signs or details along the way. There are pretty clear signs when peop…
Not even just irregular, ffs. Sex can and does often initiate a period if it's rough enough and close enough to the time. Some men are just too stupid to be allowed vagina privileges, I swear to god. …
It was possible for my wife to lie to me every day for six months straight. That’s nearly 183 days. So, yeah, unfortunately, it’s possible for a cheaters to lie to you while looking you in the eyes. I…
Gotcha thanks. I’m actually 32 but close enough lmao (I’ll change it soon). She’s 29. I didn’t realize that location said my neighborhood and not city, and Orlando is big so it could be vague and thin…
20-ish years ago when I first moved out into the world from my childhood home, I was hypnotized by every TV and screen I saw. As kids television time was tightly controlled as the ultimate reward/puni…
The fact that you are willing to self reflect and improve and care about other people like that speaks volumes about your character and who you are. So don’t be so hard on yourself. There aren’t enoug…
Do you interact with ethnically Korean people more often and with greater depth than with non-Koreans? I think there are many materialistic people of all ethnicities but you just might not be close en…
She ruined your shower which is awful but the timing was close enough to the birth of your own child to remind you why she hasn't been in your life and why you don't what that toxicity around your bab…
I think we all suffer from that kind of frustration where people appear to be empathetic yet put up that boundary. Objectively it is a positive statement, the reason for it varies. Sometimes that is …
Absolutely! I realised from a young age that my home life was somehting to be ashamed of and I made a facade. All the time growing up, I copied how the "nice" girls were, no one could tell the differe…
Yeah I've read about similar experiences, that partners phones pick up on the things the other partner searched for and show it to them aswell, when close enough to eachother.