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been there honestly… i wasted like an entire summer after graduating doing basically nothing but scrolling and feeling bad about it. the plans and goals thing is a trap because you wake up motivated,…

Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…

How do I get my google sites webpage to appear in google searches? — I have created a personal webpage under google sites. It is: [https://sites.google.com/view/fhcomponent/domov](https://sites.google.com/view/fhcomponent/domov) For some reason it does not show up in…

The best way to differentiate yourself? — What I have found works is this: Step no.1: Research yourself and your competitors If you're the founder or in a C-level position, you might say: "I already know everything about my business." WRONG…

I have failed. More than once. (i will not promote) — Been 10 years since I started my professional journey. I have failed. More than once. I have also succeeded and still doubted myself through it. I have risked time, energy, money, relationships. S…

I have a question about google search consoles "page with redirect" and removals — I have about 20 something pages in GSC that are listed under "page with redirect." These pages exist on my website, and when I copy the URL and search it, the correct page shows up. Some of the pages …

Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure.  I have been involved in th…

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

Shopify Bill Pay - international vendor payments cannot be funded by Shopify Balance anymore — Im not in love with Bill Pay as its so sloppy and support is lazy. Plus they lock down accounts left and right and don't tell anyone. Once the new balance account numbers went out I saw that they were…

Being a parent exposed everything bad about running a small business — Before kids, I founded and ran a small food delivery business for 5 years. It was locally loved, I had a steady stream of orders, and from the outside, it looked like freedom. But then I had my first…

Parallax effect issue on mobile using theme — I'm trying to find out if anyone is using Flatsome or any other theme, experiencing issue with parallax scrolling effect? I tested it on a few phones using Chrome browser app, then tried it on Firef…

Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …

I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …

Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…

Yesterday I launched a landing page and I got 3 presales in 24h. (I will not promote) — I'm building a minimalist, AI based bookkeeping app. Went live with a simple landing page yesterday and shared it in a few relevant places. I was prepared for a long period of drought and self-doubt,…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…

Thank you — I'm in one of the healthiest relationships I've ever been in, and this subreddit—along with my therapist—has helped me in a big way. I still get triggered, but I'm better at self-soothing and have lea…

I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …

Can a FA-DA relationship work? — My partners have been dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant, so I have always leaned anxious ig. In my last relationship, I felt secure at the start, it was nice, we set boundaries.. till it happene…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

I failed to build habits 47 times. Here's what finally worked. — For years I tried to change my life with big plans — gym 5 days a week, strict diet, no screens after 9pm. Every single time I quit within a week. The problem wasn't my discipline. It was that I was …

Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …

I doubted and spiraled for weeks. It happened anyway. — I manifested something exactly as I had imagined it. The strange part is that before it happened, I spent weeks convinced I had ruined it. I was manifesting spending a specific holiday with someone. …

Getting rid of nihilism/pessimism — I (24M) am a pessimistic person, it is a really bad thing and i'm struggling to get rid of this thing. A lot of things happened these last years that chopped my illusions about life, such as losing my…

Top 1% Sleep Paralysis Sufferer – Just had a wild 'Inception' loop — I get sleep paralysis a lot, but I just had my first "dream-within-a-dream" (False Awakening) loop. I was falling asleep while masturbating and a 'demon' attacked, forcing me back to sleep. Then whil…

I (F18) am jealous of my boyfriend (M18) for the gpt chat — I know it sounds strange, but I can’t do it anymore. At first my boyfriend started using chat for normal things, such as workout plans, food advice etc. at some point, he started sharing his appearanc…

Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…

I’m so lost and need help — I wouldn’t say I’m new to the world of projection, I’ve known about it for 8 years and been wanting to try it ever since. I bought multiple books on the topic and have read them. Unfortunately all o…

I did it, I broke no contact. — So I had made a previous post about reaching out to my ex after a month of no contact. I was super hesitant about it and almost didn’t do it because I was worried about the result. But after some hesi…

self concept got me my dream life — This is a rant, but this is a confirmation that self-concept is real and it's what changes your life. Self-concept is something that you shouldn't convince yourself of. Self-concept is something you b…

(TW) Forced cosmetic procedures as a minor – is there a name for this kind of trauma? — TW: body shaming, child abuse, medical procedures forced on a child. Hey folks. I've been digging through some memories in therapy and I just recalled something horrifying. Heed the trigger warnings …

How to stop chronic procrastination that's genuinely ruining my life? — I am in my second year at uni and I'm doing really bad. I am currently on academic probation and if I fail to meet the semester grade requirement this semester I will be required to withdraw. I have …

My Divorce Journey - Hope it Helps someone — Just want to share some notes on my journey through divorce…I’ve been divorced for about two years after a 15 year marriage (2 kids) and I’m finally on firm ground with myself. Just some key points …

Narcs have a weird thing of unnecessarily keeping in touch with their exes. Is this your experience as well? — I'm not sure if it is done as a power move towards their current partners or if there is some denial on their part about a failed past relation..

Just feel so disappointed in myself all the time — I just can't help being so disappointed and sad about myself all the time. I constantly feel like I've been a disappointment, and that no matter what I do, I won't be able to escape that, and I'll end…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

How can I make the most of the rest of my 20s? — I’m 26F and will be turning 27 soon. I really can’t believe that I was 17 ten years ago now. But I still feel like a teenager, like I haven’t actually grown up. Like my frontal lobe didn’t even fully …

THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

When the Disciples could not perform Miracles, they were not told to become Detached or to do somatic release work, they were told that they MUST Believe! — I had to share this as I have noticed in recent times a slurry of misinformation being shared on this subreddit. I see endless mentions now of the need to let go, the need to be constantly detached, t…

The dangerous 'toxic positivity' of AI therapy: A personal story — **TL;DR:** I used a customized Gemini "Gem" as a complementary therapist, but it completely failed to spot a predator. The AI interpreted extreme red flags (love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation…

Farewell — In the last two years, I have posted to this group a few times. Last year, I posted ([“Here’s the thing: you’re dying, too.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1ifz1cr/heres_the_thing_youre_…

Pulling the trigger but terrified, Male 48 — I'm a male, 48 years old. Married for 24 years to a woman two years older than me. I'm sure my story isn't unique, but here it is anyway. On the outside, we look like a great couple. We have a teena…

Calling AM on her bluff, even if it means she becomes homeless — \*\*\*\*Warning this contains Abuse, this is not for everyone if you’re under 18 please do not continue reading this. I’ll try to make it brief. My AM was a single parent of 5 kids. That’s where he…

I manifested something by feeling it and not wanting it — For the past two months, I have been searching apartments. I was so frustrated for the whole month of February because I couldn’t get a single apartment in my city. In March I did get an appointment t…

How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 4, and have 2 kids with another on the way. We have also been best friends since we were in middle school up until we started dating. A …

Stop being a fixer, and get the relationship you truly want! — The biggest lesson I've learned in love is that it's ok to be selfish. People come on this subreddit because they want to learn how to walk perfectly on eggshells so their sisuationship won't end. I'm…

Seeing lizard-like eyes and being healed? — Hi everyone, I recently meditated for about 45 minutes to an hour in the \*very\* early morning a couple days ago (I never meditate that long) after waking up before the sun rose. I was in a supine…

Literally Crying Right Now — I have been going through so much and struggling to stay positive. This morning I decided fuck this..I have the power to change this. I’m shifting my mindset and I’m not going to feel stressed or depr…

Creaking and Cracking — # Do you get unusual noises in your vicinity during experiences? **Such as: Creaking, cracking, popping, thudding, snapping, etc.** **These noises occur in synchronistic-timing** with my thoughts an…

Breaks are as important as the attempt - from an experienced shifter ⋆˚꩜.ᐟ — hi gorgeous souls! I have seen some posts about people feeling demotivated after a lot of failed shifting attempts and I wanted to give a bit of advice on how to navigate this as somebody who used t…

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

Can someone explain what the fuck just happened to me. I was trying to fall asleep and when i finally succeeded i woke up again at like 3 am i realised I couldn’t move it felt like i was moving but wh…

I guarantee you that dreaming and precognitive or prophetic abilities are connected. I knew how long it would take for Kurt Cobain to die and even that it would be specifically him when I was 7 and 1/…

I have a feeling that many parents who emotoinally neglect were neglected themselves. How can you learn to connect with your child if that was never modeled to you? So many children were and still ar…

I've seen the opposite. I've seen people encourage illegal acts. It was a recent post about a PS5. The girlfriend bought their boyfriend a PS5 for his birthday and like a week later he said he wants …

How much did you pass by, like did you know your answers were wrong and without manifesting you would’ve failed?

Oh yeah i knew they were wront because i still had concepts of my courses and the questions i saw made me go "fuck im cooked" but i held my ground. Yeah i definitely would've failed because i left 20 …

I read this post as I was at lunch, I was sitting and thinking about a new scene for a mission I will do - and it involves a big airballoon. Out of nowhere this college walks in and says ”have u guys …

Just believing is one thing, subconscious faith towards your desire (not LOB particularly) is another thing. You lived your entire life based of your default beliefs without even knowing the Law. I sa…

There's alot of hate on people saying "it works for me, try it" but that's because most of us have tried and failed too (bc we did it wrong for ex) before just like the majority in the other sub, and …

You put yourself in the mindset to take inspired action and you achieved your goals. Sounds like manifestation to me. This sub encourages action.  As for SP...I might get banned for saying this b…

I do agree, but I’m my experience my thoughts change naturally. It’s like I’m just happy, and I don’t even know the reason - happens due to reprogramming. I kind of forget about it. It’s not constantl…

I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …

It’s kind of saddening/comical to see how majority of these posts go “my partner / ex is avoidant. They are the best thing since sliced bread and I’ve already read 102839172 books on their attachment …

For me its making the same amount of money while spending less time working. I've found out i'm severely burned out by work and failed relationships are just symptoms of an unstable person. Besides …

He’s going to leave you. I’m sorry. I can guarantee this. He’s extremely immature, and you are trying to be his mother and his therapist. It will backfire on you spectacularly. He needs professional h…

What if the business *is* execution? In that case if nobody dies it’s failed

Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…

Reaching $300k in profit usually doesn’t happen overnight, but here's how I got there: I started with a side hustle while working full-time. Having a steady paycheck allowed me to take risks without …

From my experience, failure is part of the journey, not the end. Every failed venture teaches you something valuable whether it’s about your approach, market fit, or persistence. Don’t be disappointed…

Only if you don’t know why it failed

Your health checks ideally should also be business impact A metric showing something like % of successful vs failed requests in a system should correlate to business impact/service availability for c…

Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…

Humm, this is very interesting and I can see myself in that fear But I did something weird, I wanted to feel close and vulnerable but did not know how and still feel sometimes so afraid of intimacy th…

100% agree. So many people have become jaded by their failed relationships

My ex broke up with his gf moments before asking me to dinner 🙃 We were both DA but I was pretty far along in my healing process, he hadn't even begun his. He was like the DA final boss in so many wa…

Agree! But what I’m not proud of is holding him to that standard, while also admitting that I failed to communicate as well. You’re absolutely right, I have no idea what prompted him to just cease c…

I am dealing with something similar, with someone I haven't spoken to in 14+ months. They repeatedly baited, love-bombed and then switched and ghosted. Again and again (maybe 4 times) I fell for it at…

Bro there’s a pattern with people of this type of attachment style and like I can’t believe I fell for it every time in the past! - you reach out & they ghost you - they ghost each of your messages …

Yeah. I’ve felt this way for a while. Sabotaged or otherwise failed at every relationship I’ve been in. Always been a stepping stone instead of someone’s “someone.” Stopped dating and been happier sin…

For me, being healed doesn’t mean that I’ll never be triggered by someone’s actions again. Rather, it means that when I recognize that someone is triggering me, I am able to remove myself from the sit…

she probably liked me cuz I wasn't only her partner at that time. I was her emotional support as well. someone she confided in, fully trusted, and used to share everything with me, and I was also her …

As I said, whether you're 'avoidant' or 'anxious' because there is either a lack of emotional processing, or complete omitting of emotional processing. People that are 'avoidant' perceive time as fin…

I hear you. I’ve also been there. Acceptance is tough because it feels like giving up, but it’s actually about shifting perspective. Friendships evolve, sometimes they deepen, sometimes they fade, an…

You’re right. First, I want to say the mods here can be toxic, rude, arrogant, and biased. Anyway, back to your question. Most people who believe in the LOA only learned it from The Secret or some mod…

This is pure bullshit to the tenth power and weak minds will eat this up and wonder why their life is fucked lmao. Thoughts don’t magically bend reality but your beliefs, focus and mindset shape how y…

I’m aware of it logically. I try to figure out how to work with it emotionally. I’ve been calm before the message also, but I failed again. I’m looking up grounding techniques.

You already did what most of us failed to do so due to our attachment. Don't fall into the trap. You're your own priority, speak your boundaries and if she willingly changes you need to address your n…

Oh, thank you for such clear, coherent feedback. I might write "Stay in the present. Turn inwards to find that validation, comfort, reassurance, strength, and forgiveness within yourself." into my pho…

Sure, here is a portion that resonated with me a lot and made sense on what attracts me to the avoidants or unavailable or troubled people. Shall share more if you are interested: The need to be need…

I think the problems and risks come up more when it’s YOUR kids and it’s not something you can just walk away from. My mother is a DA leaning FA and she is a teacher. She is great with students but is…

This was kinda why I asked the question. Not being able to talk about past relationships is the marker of avoidance, and having only negative things to say is the marker of anxiousness.  I totally ge…

He used you for what he wanted and wasn't looking for commitment. Selfishly, instead of telling you outright that he wasn't interested in anything more, he gave a non-committal answer ("let's play it …

Fuck I just want to rage and scream at how fucking unfair this is. Just like the cosmic fucking joke that we were so deeply in love but what felt grounding to me felt destabilizing to him. I would beg…

I feel really conflicted about this post. Enough to come back to it days later. On the one hand, everyone is entitled to their own boundaries and enforcing your own boundaries is empowering and health…

Avoidants typically harshly assert distance when their subconscious feelings are coming the closest to being exposed though. They will also often keep people they have genuine feelings for in their or…

There may be some enmeshment/codependency on your part here. I would think that hearing from your family on that day would hold more weight. But you don’t mention them at all. So not sure if they fail…

If I may offer a hint from my own experience,  My fastest manifestation came during the first revision session. I was in very deep relaxation and couldn't feel my body at all, and the scene only las…

Yes. I asked ChatGPT to make a concise summary: Anxious-Preoccupied (AP): Dwells, Replays, Ruminates APs are the most likely to: • Replay conversations over and over • Analyze what went wrong • …

Since this book gets recommended a lot, even in this thread, I am also making my own comment. This is about *Atttached* by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. This goodreads review by a user named Melody d…